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A new approach to living well

Motivation
Goal Setting Is Not the Problem

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on April 6, 2024

The only way to succeed in life is to set a goal. We’re designed to have goals. Even avoiding goals is a goal! We are designed as goal achieving creatures. Goals are us.

The only way to succeed in life is to set a goal. We’re designed to have goals. Even avoiding goals is a goal! We are designed as goal achieving creatures. Goals are us.

Self-Talk
Your Inner Critic Is You

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on February 7, 2024

Your inner critic is you. You berate yourself for a reason. Finding the reason will help you make sense of the harassment you’re firing at yourself.

Your inner critic is you. You berate yourself for a reason. Finding the reason will help you make sense of the harassment you’re firing at yourself.

Social Life
Being a Better Person

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on December 7, 2023

A Personal Perspective: Rather than considering what a person deserves, would it be more helpful to consider what is needed to make our place fair and equitable?

A Personal Perspective: Rather than considering what a person deserves, would it be more helpful to consider what is needed to make our place fair and equitable?

Social Life
Our Differences Are Killing Us

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on November 17, 2023

Personal Perspective: Strife in the world today is about the differences in how we wish to organize ourselves and our environment.

Personal Perspective: Strife in the world today is about the differences in how we wish to organize ourselves and our environment.

Self-Help
You Are the Answer

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on October 2, 2023

No one else can solve your problems. Self-help really is self-help. Even if you haven't found the answer yet, only you know the you you are now and the you you have in mind to be.

No one else can solve your problems. Self-help really is self-help. Even if you haven't found the answer yet, only you know the you you are now and the you you have in mind to be.

Environment
Actually, We’re Pretty Darn Good at Sustainability

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on July 3, 2023

We actually don't need to get better at sustainability. We're already really good at sustaining that which is important to us. It's what we sustain that's the problem.

We actually don't need to get better at sustainability. We're already really good at sustaining that which is important to us. It's what we sustain that's the problem.

Teamwork
You Are a Collaboration

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on February 1, 2023

Inequity is a feature of our global landscape only because those who could change the situation do not desire to do so.

Inequity is a feature of our global landscape only because those who could change the situation do not desire to do so.

Attention
Do You Have Trouble Letting Go?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on December 3, 2022

When there is no reason to hold on to something, it can slip away and have no more direct or visible impact on our lives.

When there is no reason to hold on to something, it can slip away and have no more direct or visible impact on our lives.

Sleep
The Click of Life

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on November 18, 2022

The click is the heralding of fresh perspectives and the announcing of new insights.

The click is the heralding of fresh perspectives and the announcing of new insights.