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Gaslighting
Gaslighting in 2017

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on January 25, 2017

If we are repeatedly lied to in the political arena, there are consequences to our national emotional health.

If we are repeatedly lied to in the political arena, there are consequences to our national emotional health.

Trauma
The Potential for a Future Trauma of Epic Proportions

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on January 14, 2017

Disturbing sex tapes of the president elect could have a devastating impact on young viewers. The unverifiable status of such tapes is not reason to ignore the potential for harm.

Disturbing sex tapes of the president elect could have a devastating impact on young viewers. The unverifiable status of such tapes is not reason to ignore the potential for harm.

Stress
Election Stress Disorder

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on October 22, 2016

Americans are suffering emotionally due to the caustic nature of the election, and our brains offer both the explanation and the solution.

Americans are suffering emotionally due to the caustic nature of the election, and our brains offer both the explanation and the solution.

Trust
Saying Goodbye to Barack and Michelle

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on June 17, 2016

A psychobiological analysis of an excerpt from an interview with Barack and Michelle Obama suggests the secure-functioning nature of their relationship.

A psychobiological analysis of an excerpt from an interview with Barack and Michelle Obama suggests the secure-functioning nature of their relationship.

Marriage
Three Lenses Through Which We View Marriage

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on February 28, 2016

David Brooks has the right idea when it comes to seeing marriage through a moral lens; taken a step further, this can help us create more lasting, secure-functioning relationships.

David Brooks has the right idea when it comes to seeing marriage through a moral lens; taken a step further, this can help us create more lasting, secure-functioning relationships.

Career
To Cuff or to Tether

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on December 2, 2015

Some think of fall and winter as “cuffing season,” but tethering with a partner is much more likely than cuffing to lead to a happy, long-lasting, secure-functioning relationship.

Some think of fall and winter as “cuffing season,” but tethering with a partner is much more likely than cuffing to lead to a happy, long-lasting, secure-functioning relationship.

Mating
The Anxieties of Dating

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on November 5, 2015

Research shows that an insecure attachment style can make people more likely to stalk a date, and suggests how to help young people avoid getting snared in an unproductive cycle.

Research shows that an insecure attachment style can make people more likely to stalk a date, and suggests how to help young people avoid getting snared in an unproductive cycle.

Relationships
The Golden Rule in Love Relationships

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on October 5, 2015

Practicing the Golden Rule can transform a relationship. Couples who treat each other as they would like to be treated create a bedrock of security that will serve them well.

Practicing the Golden Rule can transform a relationship. Couples who treat each other as they would like to be treated create a bedrock of security that will serve them well.

Marriage
Life is Short… and so Could Be Your Marriage

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on September 1, 2015

There is no such thing as “safe” infidelity. Couples who want to stay together need to appreciate the importance of establishing safety and security within their relationship.

There is no such thing as “safe” infidelity. Couples who want to stay together need to appreciate the importance of establishing safety and security within their relationship.

Relationships
How Securely Do You Stand in Your Relationship?

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on August 5, 2015

Research showing that people in physically unstable positions are more likely to feel insecure in their relationships suggests that partners should pay attention to these kinds of influences.

Research showing that people in physically unstable positions are more likely to feel insecure in their relationships suggests that partners should pay attention to these kinds of influences.

Infidelity
Safeguarding Against Infidelity

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on July 1, 2015

Research reporting that financially dependency increases a man’s chances of cheating on his wife may fail to take into account the mitigating factor of secure functioning.

Research reporting that financially dependency increases a man’s chances of cheating on his wife may fail to take into account the mitigating factor of secure functioning.

Relationships
Why a Wife Bonus Won’t Buy You Security

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on June 1, 2015

A new book explores the culture of the wealthy who use wife bonuses. Money aside, this may do more to undermine than to support a successful relationship.

A new book explores the culture of the wealthy who use wife bonuses. Money aside, this may do more to undermine than to support a successful relationship.

Relationships
Healing Corporate Couples

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on May 6, 2015

A corporate couple are two people who put their relationship above all others. A psychobiological approach can help these couples in many of the same ways it helps those in romantic relationships.

A corporate couple are two people who put their relationship above all others. A psychobiological approach can help these couples in many of the same ways it helps those in romantic relationships.

Sex
The Freedom to Enjoy Secure Functioning

Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on April 9, 2015

Psychological principles underlie the current political debate over same-sex unions. Like all couples, same-sex couples have a better chance to thrive in an environment that supports their ability to form a secure-functioning relationship.

Psychological principles underlie the current political debate over same-sex unions. Like all couples, same-sex couples have a better chance to thrive in an environment that supports their ability to form a secure-functioning relationship.