Rediscovering Love

Relationships

I Love You, But I’m Leaving: When Relationships Cost Too Much

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 8, 2024

When a relationship drains more than it fills, unaddressed feelings, outside interests, and self-sacrifice may lead to a decision to part for the sake of personal fulfillment.

When a relationship drains more than it fills, unaddressed feelings, outside interests, and self-sacrifice may lead to a decision to part for the sake of personal fulfillment.

Therapy

How Do I Know If Therapy Is the Right Choice for Me?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 22, 2024

To determine if therapy is right for you, reflect on your goals, needs, past patterns, and readiness for an open, honest relationship with a therapist to foster personal growth.

To determine if therapy is right for you, reflect on your goals, needs, past patterns, and readiness for an open, honest relationship with a therapist to foster personal growth.

Relationships

4 Most Important Things in Long-Term Intimate Relationships

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 11, 2024

Successful long-term intimate relationships thrive on mutual trust, being each other's go-to person, sharing responsibilities without ego, and offering freedom within commitment.

Successful long-term intimate relationships thrive on mutual trust, being each other's go-to person, sharing responsibilities without ego, and offering freedom within commitment.

Relationships

Weaving the Past Into the Present for a Healthy Relationship

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 27, 2024

When partners in a relationship don’t practice weaving, then they probably don’t realize how important it is to make their communication more successful.

When partners in a relationship don’t practice weaving, then they probably don’t realize how important it is to make their communication more successful.

Relationships

You’re Gone. What Is Keeping Me from Moving On?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 13, 2024

For some people, underlying issues sabotage every relationship they have. Here are 10 of the most common hidden problems.

For some people, underlying issues sabotage every relationship they have. Here are 10 of the most common hidden problems.

Relationships

Is There Any Way I Can Know if Our Love Will Last?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 30, 2024

Are these 13 ways of being happening in your relationship now? Identifying them will give you a glimpse of what is more likely to come.

Are these 13 ways of being happening in your relationship now? Identifying them will give you a glimpse of what is more likely to come.

Relationships

The Most Crucial Skill Sets for Successful Communication

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 14, 2024

The way in which you are interacting with someone can interfere with their ability to listen objectively to what you are saying.

The way in which you are interacting with someone can interfere with their ability to listen objectively to what you are saying.

Confidence

How to Create a Meaningful Interaction on a First Date

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on July 30, 2024

There are many questions you can ask to get to know a person more deeply in a short period of time without violating boundaries.

There are many questions you can ask to get to know a person more deeply in a short period of time without violating boundaries.

Relationships

Can New Love Heal a Past Heartbreak?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on July 16, 2024

There are several crucial steps that you can take to help you resolve your feelings about your past sadness and what you can appropriately ask of a new love.

There are several crucial steps that you can take to help you resolve your feelings about your past sadness and what you can appropriately ask of a new love.

Relationships

The 9 Challenges Couples Are Most Likely to Face

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on June 28, 2024

What may seem like mutual hopes and commitments early on in a relationship may give way to new priorities later.

What may seem like mutual hopes and commitments early on in a relationship may give way to new priorities later.

Relationships

Do I Still Want to Be With You After You Cheated on Me?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on June 13, 2024

You must consider whether you still love your partner enough to commit to healing. It won’t be enough if you don’t love them independent of what else you might lose.

You must consider whether you still love your partner enough to commit to healing. It won’t be enough if you don’t love them independent of what else you might lose.

First Impressions

First Date Do’s and Don’ts

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on May 30, 2024

Be warm and present and don't keep looking around the room.

Be warm and present and don't keep looking around the room.

Self-Control

10 Things Restless Partners Need to Ask Themselves

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on May 14, 2024

3. Am I blaming the relationship for problems elsewhere in my life?

3. Am I blaming the relationship for problems elsewhere in my life?

Deception

How to Tell If Talking Behind Someone's Back Is Helpful or Hurtful

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on April 29, 2024

Whether people talking behind someone's back are sharing a plot to deceive, or a well-intentioned plan to help, they are excluding the person whose life they are talking about.

Whether people talking behind someone's back are sharing a plot to deceive, or a well-intentioned plan to help, they are excluding the person whose life they are talking about.

Relationships

The 10 Most Important Dimensions of Any Relationship

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on April 12, 2024

Deepening, intrigue, flexibility, and more.

Deepening, intrigue, flexibility, and more.

Relationships

Am I Too Sensitive or Are You Just Mean?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 28, 2024

Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.

Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.

Relationships

Is “Just for Today” the New Forever?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 14, 2024

How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.

How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.

Relationships

8 Signs of an Ex Who Can't Let Go

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 28, 2024

7. Childlike, dramatic public and private scenes.

7. Childlike, dramatic public and private scenes.

Relationships

The Risks of Committing Too Early

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 14, 2024

If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?

If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?

Relationships

12 Ways Partners Might Manipulate Each Other

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on January 31, 2024

As you become aware of your own helpful manipulations, you might be courageous enough to share them with your partner.

As you become aware of your own helpful manipulations, you might be courageous enough to share them with your partner.