Pride and Joy

Play

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on September 24, 2012

In this week’s post, I would like to share some thoughts on an important aspect of children’s emotional development and a source of distress in many parent-child relationships - winning and losing at games.

Anxiety

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on September 5, 2012

Advice about one of the most frequent problems presented to me in over 30 years of clinical practice.

Empathy

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on June 25, 2012

Have we created a culture of indulgence that is harmful to our society and to our children? Has our concern with children's feelings gone too far?

Teamwork

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on May 28, 2012

Embarrassment

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on May 14, 2012

Discussions of children’s motivations and behavior too often overlook the importance of feelings of pride and shame. A child’s need to feel proud, and to avoid feelings of shame, is a fundamental motivation, and remains fundamental, throughout her life.

Motivation

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on April 30, 2012

Motivation begins with interest. Where there is interest, there is curiosity and a desire to learn, to know more.

Motivation

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on April 23, 2012

When you understand your child’s lack of motivation as a problem of demoralization, you will be able to look for the real causes of her lack of enthusiasm and effort.

Growth Mindset

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on April 2, 2012

It has become common in recent years for parents to be warned about the dangers of praise. We are told that frequent praise, although intended to bolster a child’s self-confidence and self-esteem, may instead create increased anxiety and ultimately undermine her initiative and confidence.

Teamwork

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on March 17, 2012

When parents are often angry and critical of their children, children, in turn, become angry and argumentative, stubborn and defiant. Argument begets argument. When we argue frequently with our children, children become good at arguing.

Relationships

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on March 8, 2012

As parents, we are, unwittingly, too critical of our children.

Anger

Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on February 24, 2012

Parents often ask, "Why does he continue to act this way—to tease or hit his sister, to refuse to do his homework or clean up his room, to lie when we know that he is lying and he knows that he will be punished?"