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Spirituality
When Is Sex Spiritual?

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on November 24, 2014

Everywhere I go these days people are struggling with questions about the right use of their erotic energy and how this energy can express in ways that are at once personally satisfying, supporting sustainable relating, and serving spiritual evolution.

Everywhere I go these days people are struggling with questions about the right use of their erotic energy and how this energy can express in ways that are at once personally satisfying, supporting sustainable relating, and serving spiritual evolution.

Sex
Why Sex Is Sacred

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on August 29, 2014

We make sex sacred when we honor the body, bond more deeply, or achieve higher consciousness as a result of lovemaking.

We make sex sacred when we honor the body, bond more deeply, or achieve higher consciousness as a result of lovemaking.

Sex
5 Myths About Men's Sexuality

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on July 9, 2014

When socialization and cultural expectations are stripped away, men and women may want more of the same things in bed than we ever imagined possible.

When socialization and cultural expectations are stripped away, men and women may want more of the same things in bed than we ever imagined possible.

Sex
Why Sex and Spirit Belong Together

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on June 5, 2014

One of the unfortunate side effects of the hijacked sexual revolution of the 1970s is that women have been shamed, ridiculed and aggressively persuaded that their desire to link love and sex is unliberated, old-fashioned, and inconvenient.

One of the unfortunate side effects of the hijacked sexual revolution of the 1970s is that women have been shamed, ridiculed and aggressively persuaded that their desire to link love and sex is unliberated, old-fashioned, and inconvenient.

Sex
Why We Need Orgasms

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on March 5, 2014

Sex is an opportunity to push our physical, emotional, and energetic reset buttons, much as sleep and dreams allow us reset our mental activity.

Sex is an opportunity to push our physical, emotional, and energetic reset buttons, much as sleep and dreams allow us reset our mental activity.

Orgasm
Why Do Women Fake Orgasm?

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on February 17, 2014

Women of all ages are feeling more empowered to discover who they are sexually. They are less afraid that saying “yes” means they’ll no longer be able to say “no.”

Women of all ages are feeling more empowered to discover who they are sexually. They are less afraid that saying “yes” means they’ll no longer be able to say “no.”

Sex
Welcome to the Sisterhood of Crones

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on January 23, 2014

At the same time elder women's sexuality can be deeper, freer, more authentic and multi-dimensional than ever and her capacity for intimacy and love is generally much greater than in her youth.

At the same time elder women's sexuality can be deeper, freer, more authentic and multi-dimensional than ever and her capacity for intimacy and love is generally much greater than in her youth.

Gender
Polyamory, Sex Roles, and the Gender Trap

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on September 3, 2013

In coaching people on how to get beyond the dysfunctional gender programming which is destroying their relationships, I find that questioning the model of two genders can be a good start.

In coaching people on how to get beyond the dysfunctional gender programming which is destroying their relationships, I find that questioning the model of two genders can be a good start.

Relationships
Couple Privilege and the Ecology of Intimate Relationships

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on July 18, 2013

Modern Western culture has idolized romantic love within a life long monogamous, heterosexual marriage for many generations. Even though this form of relationship is more mythical than real, and even though our legal systems are beginning to reflect variations on this theme, the template of the couple continues to endure.

Modern Western culture has idolized romantic love within a life long monogamous, heterosexual marriage for many generations. Even though this form of relationship is more mythical than real, and even though our legal systems are beginning to reflect variations on this theme, the template of the couple continues to endure.

Marriage
A Message in a Bottle

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on March 25, 2013

More love, more sex, more pleasure may in fact be what’s needed for marriage to survive and the evolution of patriarchal culture to continue. And pleasure alone cannot substitute for consciousness, more sex does not automatically result in more awareness, and propping up the status quo is not what I had in mind at all.

More love, more sex, more pleasure may in fact be what’s needed for marriage to survive and the evolution of patriarchal culture to continue. And pleasure alone cannot substitute for consciousness, more sex does not automatically result in more awareness, and propping up the status quo is not what I had in mind at all.

Polyamory
Five Ways Polyamory Can Fail

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on January 27, 2013

Happy polyamorous relationships exist, but polyamory is definitely not a recipe for guaranteed happiness any more than monogamy is. Here are a few useful pointers to speed up your learning curve.

Happy polyamorous relationships exist, but polyamory is definitely not a recipe for guaranteed happiness any more than monogamy is. Here are a few useful pointers to speed up your learning curve.

Embarrassment
Celebrating Our Erotic Capital

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on November 5, 2012

Men are getting a higher return on their erotic capital than women because men have no compunctions about fully utilizing what they’ve got while women allow shame and embarrassment to interfere with fully reaping the benefits of this valuable resource. This is even more so for older women.

Men are getting a higher return on their erotic capital than women because men have no compunctions about fully utilizing what they’ve got while women allow shame and embarrassment to interfere with fully reaping the benefits of this valuable resource. This is even more so for older women.

Sex
What Ever Happened to the Sexual Revolution?

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on August 15, 2012

My take is that the Sexual Revolution has gone awry but its downfall stems from a lack of moral, ethical, and ecological grounding, and also from not going far enough to alter our way of life.

My take is that the Sexual Revolution has gone awry but its downfall stems from a lack of moral, ethical, and ecological grounding, and also from not going far enough to alter our way of life.

Polyamory
Polyamory: Married and Dating

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on July 20, 2012

Showtime's new reality series, Polyamory: Married and Dating is a far better portrayal of polyamory than I feared and not as good as I had hoped, judging from the first episode, which aired July 12.

Showtime's new reality series, Polyamory: Married and Dating is a far better portrayal of polyamory than I feared and not as good as I had hoped, judging from the first episode, which aired July 12.

Marriage
Inner Marriage

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on June 26, 2012

Are you paying lip service to the disconcerting truth that in order to find lasting happiness with a partner, you must first create a harmonious relationship with the Beloved within? For generations, spiritual inclinations have been misguidedly channeled into a quest for romantic love and sexual thrills. Trouble is, this kind of happiness has a short shelf life.

Are you paying lip service to the disconcerting truth that in order to find lasting happiness with a partner, you must first create a harmonious relationship with the Beloved within? For generations, spiritual inclinations have been misguidedly channeled into a quest for romantic love and sexual thrills. Trouble is, this kind of happiness has a short shelf life.

Marriage
Group Marriage and the Future of the Family

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on March 23, 2012

With the traditional nuclear family well on its way to extinction, we are faced with a question of critical importance: who will mind the children?

With the traditional nuclear family well on its way to extinction, we are faced with a question of critical importance: who will mind the children?

Jealousy
Polyamory without Tears

Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on November 1, 2011

Early on, I realized that in order to really understand what jealousy is, how it operates, and to what end, I would have to examine my own inner process. If you too want to understand jealousy, I invite you to do the same. The next time the opportunity arises, instead of pushing it away, welcome the chance to investigate the nature of jealousy.

Early on, I realized that in order to really understand what jealousy is, how it operates, and to what end, I would have to examine my own inner process. If you too want to understand jealousy, I invite you to do the same. The next time the opportunity arises, instead of pushing it away, welcome the chance to investigate the nature of jealousy.

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