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Finding Zen in the City

Honest--and sometimes comical--daily stories of reflection and inspiration.

Relationships
Single and Medicating

Ilana Donna Arazie on December 22, 2011

Many single girls what to know how to finally find Mr. Right and get married later in life. Here are some magical lessons you can pull out of your skinny jeans.

Many single girls what to know how to finally find Mr. Right and get married later in life. Here are some magical lessons you can pull out of your skinny jeans.

Career
America's Top Ten Youth Volunteers

Ilana Donna Arazie on September 13, 2011

When I was in high school I was mainly concerned with bad 80's music and my overly teased hair, which is why I am so impressed the girls and boys named America's Top Ten Youth Volunteers.

When I was in high school I was mainly concerned with bad 80's music and my overly teased hair, which is why I am so impressed the girls and boys named America's Top Ten Youth Volunteers.

Identity
Five Ways to Feel Happy

Ilana Donna Arazie on March 11, 2011

Here are some techniques that keep me focused on happy, calming thoughts. And yes, unicorns, rainbows and cute little black dresses are included.

Here are some techniques that keep me focused on happy, calming thoughts. And yes, unicorns, rainbows and cute little black dresses are included.

Orgasm
Getting Ready to OM

Ilana Donna Arazie on March 11, 2011

Do you really know what your orgasm feels like? OMing or orgasmic meditation is a practice that gets you in touch with your orgasm in a new and different way! 

Do you really know what your orgasm feels like? OMing or orgasmic meditation is a practice that gets you in touch with your orgasm in a new and different way! 

Spirituality
Making Trillions Is Spiritual

Ilana Donna Arazie on March 11, 2011

Business writer and hedge fund manager James Altucher shares some spiritual approaches for making trillions. 

Business writer and hedge fund manager James Altucher shares some spiritual approaches for making trillions. 

Depression
Finding Thinner Peace II

Ilana Donna Arazie on September 10, 2010

I’m standing at the Whole Foods salad bar and I’ve no idea what to eat. A friend who is a holistic health coach showed me where to start.

I’m standing at the Whole Foods salad bar and I’ve no idea what to eat. A friend who is a holistic health coach showed me where to start.

Cognition
The Problem with Thinking

Ilana Donna Arazie on August 6, 2010

Sometimes I feel like the chatter in my head can fill Yankee Stadium. Here is why we all think too much and how to snap out of it! 

Sometimes I feel like the chatter in my head can fill Yankee Stadium. Here is why we all think too much and how to snap out of it! 

Depression
Help for an Astrology Junkie

Ilana Donna Arazie on July 23, 2010

It's no surprise we all want to know our future—the thought of living in the present with the unknown is unsettling. Here's how to deal.

It's no surprise we all want to know our future—the thought of living in the present with the unknown is unsettling. Here's how to deal.

Mating
How to be a Zen Dater

Ilana Donna Arazie on July 15, 2010

Here are 8 ways to to attract real love into your fifth chakra, or any chakra, for that matter!

Here are 8 ways to to attract real love into your fifth chakra, or any chakra, for that matter!

Relationships
How to Find Love and Never be Lonely

Ilana Donna Arazie on July 6, 2010

I used to hate it when I heard people expound on that old adage: you can’t love someone until you learn to love yourself. What exactly does that mean?

I used to hate it when I heard people expound on that old adage: you can’t love someone until you learn to love yourself. What exactly does that mean?

Stress
My Reiki Affair

Ilana Donna Arazie on June 24, 2010

A friend of mine vacationed in Argentina a few years ago and fell in love with a Reiki master named Marcelo. Fast forward five years: They’re married, she’s preggers and Marcelo’s hands were over me. Find out what happened next!

A friend of mine vacationed in Argentina a few years ago and fell in love with a Reiki master named Marcelo. Fast forward five years: They’re married, she’s preggers and Marcelo’s hands were over me. Find out what happened next!

Mindfulness
Discover Slow Sex

Ilana Donna Arazie on June 12, 2010

I don’t understand how I run into the most random people who lead me to even more randomness. The other evening I was at a Jewish singles dinner and before I could eat my baked chicken, the conversation turned to female Orgasms. Here's what I discovered.

I don’t understand how I run into the most random people who lead me to even more randomness. The other evening I was at a Jewish singles dinner and before I could eat my baked chicken, the conversation turned to female Orgasms. Here's what I discovered.

Relationships
Find The Real You

Ilana Donna Arazie on June 6, 2010

Why does it sometimes feel the older we get the less we know about ourselves?

Why does it sometimes feel the older we get the less we know about ourselves?

Depression
Meditation, Not Medication

Ilana Donna Arazie on May 30, 2010

Meditating in New York has cured my anxiety. Here's why and how.

Meditating in New York has cured my anxiety. Here's why and how.

Philosophy
Buddhism 101 with Dave the Monk

Ilana Donna Arazie on May 23, 2010

I was shopping for new meditation spots and recently saw a flyer advertising a new Buddhist temple with daily sessions. The place piqued my interest, so the other day I paid a visit to the temple, which turned out to be inside a brownstone on the Upper West Side. Here's my story about meeting Monk Dave.

I was shopping for new meditation spots and recently saw a flyer advertising a new Buddhist temple with daily sessions. The place piqued my interest, so the other day I paid a visit to the temple, which turned out to be inside a brownstone on the Upper West Side. Here's my story about meeting Monk Dave.

Depression
How to Detach and Chill Out

Ilana Donna Arazie on May 10, 2010

This week I needed a refresher in the law of detachment: putting your intentions out there and having goals, but not controlling or anticipating the results. Basically, I needed to chill out.  

This week I needed a refresher in the law of detachment: putting your intentions out there and having goals, but not controlling or anticipating the results. Basically, I needed to chill out.  

Self-Help
Finding Thinner Peace

Ilana Donna Arazie on May 7, 2010

The vast majority of us are into self-help. Don’t deny it: You and I both know you do a double take when Oprah’s on TV. But who knew self-help could be combined into our workout routines.

The vast majority of us are into self-help. Don’t deny it: You and I both know you do a double take when Oprah’s on TV. But who knew self-help could be combined into our workout routines.