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Relationship Attachment Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Are you securely attached in your relationship?

A securely attached person finds it easy to trust others and is willing to depend on them. But someone who is insecurely attached may spend too much time worrying that a partner will abandon them, and have a hard time in the relationship. Take this test to see how securely attached you are.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how strongly you agree or disagree with the statement.

Strongly Disagree
Strongly Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Strongly Agree
1. I try to work through relationship difficulties.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
2. I like showing my affection.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
3. I am emotionally close in my relationships.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
4. I can express my emotions.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
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5. My partner cares about me.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
6. I have strong relationships.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
7. People say I can come across distant.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
8. I open up to my partner easily.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
9. I am comfortable being alone.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
10. I prefer to be unattached.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
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11. I can express my needs.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
12. I try to keep my emotions and vulnerabilities hidden from others.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
13. People say I prematurely end romantic relationships.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
14. Close relationships don't scare me.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
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15. I often find myself wanting more space in my relationships.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
16. I feel comfortable depending on my partner.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
17. I rarely feel stressed or anxious about the state of my romantic relationships.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
18. I know my partner really loves me.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
19. My partners have told me that I keep my distance emotionally.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
20. I can get nervous when my partner is not available for me.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree

Who Is This Test For?

This test is for anyone who wishes to gauge how secure they feel in their relationships. It is designed for adults and is not intended to be diagnostic.

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How to Get Help

A therapist or counselor can help guide you in improving your relationship security. Seek a mental healthcare professional on the Psychology Today Therapy Directory

Sources

J. Bowlby, M. Ainsworth. The Attachment Styles Test.

Brennan, K., Clark, C., Shaver, P. The Experiences in Close Relationships-Revised Questionnaire (ECR-R). 

D. Griffin, B.K. Bartholomew. The Relationship Scales Questionnaire (RSQ)