Randi Gunther Ph.D.

First Date Do’s and Don’ts

Be warm and present and don't keep looking around the room.

Be warm and present and don't keep looking around the room.

10 Things Restless Partners Need to Ask Themselves

3. Am I blaming the relationship for problems elsewhere in my life?

3. Am I blaming the relationship for problems elsewhere in my life?

How to Tell If Talking Behind Someone's Back Is Helpful or Hurtful

Whether people talking behind someone's back are sharing a plot to deceive, or a well-intentioned plan to help, they are excluding the person whose life they are talking about.

Whether people talking behind someone's back are sharing a plot to deceive, or a well-intentioned plan to help, they are excluding the person whose life they are talking about.

The 10 Most Important Dimensions of Any Relationship

Deepening, intrigue, flexibility, and more.

Deepening, intrigue, flexibility, and more.

Am I Too Sensitive or Are You Just Mean?

Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.

Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.

Is “Just for Today” the New Forever?

How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.

How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.

8 Signs of an Ex Who Can't Let Go

7. Childlike, dramatic public and private scenes.

7. Childlike, dramatic public and private scenes.

The Risks of Committing Too Early

If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?

If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?

12 Ways Partners Might Manipulate Each Other

As you become aware of your own helpful manipulations, you might be courageous enough to share them with your partner.

As you become aware of your own helpful manipulations, you might be courageous enough to share them with your partner.

How Couples Can Learn to Love Each Other Again

When couples want to renew their love for each other and ask for my guidance, I help them explore how they lost each other so that they will never allow for those behaviors again.

When couples want to renew their love for each other and ask for my guidance, I help them explore how they lost each other so that they will never allow for those behaviors again.