Everybody Marries the Wrong Person

Motivation

Avoiding Conflict is Good for Marriages

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on September 15, 2013

Good news: Avoidance of conflict is not necessarily a maladaptive cop out.

Good news: Avoidance of conflict is not necessarily a maladaptive cop out.

Wisdom

Let's Not Talk About It

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on July 21, 2013

Contrary to conventional wisdom, staying silent can be a good idea.

Contrary to conventional wisdom, staying silent can be a good idea.

Self-Esteem

Boost Your Self-esteem by Being Less Destructive

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on May 24, 2013

It's only human to react destructively, but there's still no excuse for it.

It's only human to react destructively, but there's still no excuse for it.

Confidence

Boost Your Confidence By Saying Less

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on April 6, 2013

Feeling compelled to justify preferences and decisions is common but doing so undermines self-confidence.

Feeling compelled to justify preferences and decisions is common but doing so undermines self-confidence.

Relationships

How Did We End Up Here?

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on January 20, 2013

Your romantic relationship has changed. And not for the better. Learn how to get off the road to disenchantment and onto the road to mature love.

Your romantic relationship has changed. And not for the better. Learn how to get off the road to disenchantment and onto the road to mature love.

Laughter

Tantrum-free Holiday Season - This Is About Adult Tantrums

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on December 2, 2012

Imagine yourself on the other side of the camera: Are you laughing or panicking?

Imagine yourself on the other side of the camera: Are you laughing or panicking?

Relationships

Here Comes Trouble

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on October 14, 2012

You can recognize red flags like an Iowa psychologist did.

You can recognize red flags like an Iowa psychologist did.

Relationships

Angry Christians Miss the Point

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on August 4, 2012

Anti-Christian, anti-traditional family, militant feminist! And not in a good way.

Anti-Christian, anti-traditional family, militant feminist! And not in a good way.

Relationships

Feeling Secure in Relationships

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on July 15, 2012

Comfort and security. Adults seek positive feelings associated with early holding environment.

Comfort and security. Adults seek positive feelings associated with early holding environment.

Career

Forget Compromise

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on June 10, 2012

Forget compromise. Win the next round in the endless power struggle.

Forget compromise. Win the next round in the endless power struggle.

Relationships

Five Reasons Not to Have a "Must Have" List

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on May 13, 2012

A "must have" list poisons reality.

A "must have" list poisons reality.

Relationships

Go Ahead. Demand Uber-compatibility!

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on March 25, 2012

No more negotiation! Do it my way!

No more negotiation! Do it my way!

Authenticity

The Problem With Authenticity

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on February 22, 2012

Placid on the surface. Turbulent underneath. Which is authentic?

Placid on the surface. Turbulent underneath. Which is authentic?

Parenting

Your Spouse Is Behaving Badly...

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on January 7, 2012

Yes, you and your spouse can stop behaving badly!

Yes, you and your spouse can stop behaving badly!

Neuroscience

Runnin' with Your Hair Blowin' Back?

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on October 31, 2011

Intense negative emotions and a sense of urgency often go together.

Intense negative emotions and a sense of urgency often go together.

Humor

Lessons from the Soap Opera with a Sense of Humor

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on October 4, 2011

Forty years of making us laugh and showing us what not to do in relationships.

Forty years of making us laugh and showing us what not to do in relationships.

Self-Control

Does Taking Command of Emotions Make You Heartless and Soulless?

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on September 3, 2011

Negative emotions are part of human nature but emotional self-regulation is key to realizing our higher nature.

Negative emotions are part of human nature but emotional self-regulation is key to realizing our higher nature.

Relationships

The Three Best Reasons to Stop Blaming Your Spouse

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on July 30, 2011

Even when it really is his or her fault, choosing not to blame your spouse offers short-term and long-term benefits.

Even when it really is his or her fault, choosing not to blame your spouse offers short-term and long-term benefits.

Happiness

Are lowered expectations the key to happiness?

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on June 29, 2011

Sometimes, everyone's expectations are exceeded. But rarely.

Sometimes, everyone's expectations are exceeded. But rarely.

Humor

Hey! Let your freak flag fly!

Christine Meinecke Ph.D. on May 30, 2011

Free to be me means free to express my true feelings! Right?

Free to be me means free to express my true feelings! Right?