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Bohemian Love Diaries

How our quest for the L-word impacts our creative spirit

Forgiveness
10 Ways to Apologize Appropriately

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on October 13, 2013

I began to receive a slew of personal, dysfunctional apologies. People from my past started sending me apologies. Many of them were nothing more that passive aggressive confessions disguised as apologies. I realized that given the opportunity to mend things, most of the world just doesn’t know how to apologize. Hurt people tend to hurt people.

I began to receive a slew of personal, dysfunctional apologies. People from my past started sending me apologies. Many of them were nothing more that passive aggressive confessions disguised as apologies. I realized that given the opportunity to mend things, most of the world just doesn’t know how to apologize. Hurt people tend to hurt people.

Mating
Five Awkward First Dates You Probably Want to Avoid

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on August 9, 2013

Five months ago, at the height of my most dysfunctional dating orbit yet, I decided my relationship rocket was in need of repair. I took it into the shop and decided to go on a total dating hiatus. Somehow, along my New York City journey, I’d gotten locked in the equivalent of the Star Wars cantina closet and I couldn’t get out.

Five months ago, at the height of my most dysfunctional dating orbit yet, I decided my relationship rocket was in need of repair. I took it into the shop and decided to go on a total dating hiatus. Somehow, along my New York City journey, I’d gotten locked in the equivalent of the Star Wars cantina closet and I couldn’t get out.

Mating
Top 10 Ways to Breakup Thru Text

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on May 14, 2013

Whereas a typical breakup can take anywhere from 3 hours to 6 months, expect to spend no more than 45 seconds on a text breakup...and it’s much easier (unless you have a limited text message plan). Modern men no longer need to be bogged down with "the talk," icky hurt, vulnerable feelings or resolutions. The millennium was made for the modern man.

Whereas a typical breakup can take anywhere from 3 hours to 6 months, expect to spend no more than 45 seconds on a text breakup...and it’s much easier (unless you have a limited text message plan). Modern men no longer need to be bogged down with "the talk," icky hurt, vulnerable feelings or resolutions. The millennium was made for the modern man.

Forgiveness
An Alternative Guys Guide to Relationship Baggage

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on April 15, 2013

You can’t keep blaming the salesman who sold you your baggage. You either blame your parents or your previous partners for the demise of your current relationship.

You can’t keep blaming the salesman who sold you your baggage. You either blame your parents or your previous partners for the demise of your current relationship.

Mating
Redefining the Law of Attraction and Monogamy

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on March 28, 2013

Having a relationship without some side attraction every once in a while is like dating a garden hose. To think you’ll be with one person for the rest of your life and not develop an attraction with another person is a lie they perpetuate in the text book you receive when you enroll in Falling in Love School at Monogamy University.

Having a relationship without some side attraction every once in a while is like dating a garden hose. To think you’ll be with one person for the rest of your life and not develop an attraction with another person is a lie they perpetuate in the text book you receive when you enroll in Falling in Love School at Monogamy University.

Mating
5 Essential Steps to Taking an Online Dating Sabbatical

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on March 7, 2013

“I don’t go out on dates, I go out on relationships.” Woody Allen says. Well, last week I quit dating so I wouldn’t have to go out on any more relationships and it feels permanent, which means it feels less like a sabbatical and more like an allergy. My friend who is allergic to bread cries every time he eats a sandwich. My recent reaction to dating is similar.

“I don’t go out on dates, I go out on relationships.” Woody Allen says. Well, last week I quit dating so I wouldn’t have to go out on any more relationships and it feels permanent, which means it feels less like a sabbatical and more like an allergy. My friend who is allergic to bread cries every time he eats a sandwich. My recent reaction to dating is similar.

Dreaming
Starting Over with a New Life and New Vision

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on February 28, 2013

As I’ve come to understand the vision board and my creative process, I’ve come to understand how community intrinsically builds change: My biggest and most important ideas have come when I’m in the midst of others - not in isolation. I may paint in my studio, play the piano in my practice room or write alone at my lap top, but my spark always comes from another place.

As I’ve come to understand the vision board and my creative process, I’ve come to understand how community intrinsically builds change: My biggest and most important ideas have come when I’m in the midst of others - not in isolation. I may paint in my studio, play the piano in my practice room or write alone at my lap top, but my spark always comes from another place.

Relationships
Cupids Kick: A Valentine's Day Gift of Self Love

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on February 14, 2013

And that little eleven word email she sent me - a message no bigger than a tweet - well it’s helped me see how I’m no longer stuck in-between with a woman that never really wanted to be with me. After my inner Francisco-Goya-Woody-Allen settled down I actually saw that sometimes things fall apart sometimes so better things can fall together.

And that little eleven word email she sent me - a message no bigger than a tweet - well it’s helped me see how I’m no longer stuck in-between with a woman that never really wanted to be with me. After my inner Francisco-Goya-Woody-Allen settled down I actually saw that sometimes things fall apart sometimes so better things can fall together.

Identity
The New Narrative: Man vs Storytelling

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on December 31, 2012

While I watch it, I feel like a voyeur, a friend, an audience member, and a Peeping Tom at the same time. I get to feel ashamed and aroused and slightly uncomfortable, which is what the new narrative is all about. Maybe it’s just that my vision has shifted slightly now that I’m a Costco celebrity. Maybe, every stack of boxes will look like a gorgeous corrugated breast now.

While I watch it, I feel like a voyeur, a friend, an audience member, and a Peeping Tom at the same time. I get to feel ashamed and aroused and slightly uncomfortable, which is what the new narrative is all about. Maybe it’s just that my vision has shifted slightly now that I’m a Costco celebrity. Maybe, every stack of boxes will look like a gorgeous corrugated breast now.

Cognition
Break up Rituals for Romantics

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on December 14, 2012

The only good thing that came out of the conversation was finding out that my Venus is in permanent retrograde which is kind of like finding out you’re being cast as Bradley Cooper in the movie "Silver Linings Playbook" every day for the rest of your life. I asked him if there was some kind of spell I could do to fix this. He told me to do a Thunder Blast.

The only good thing that came out of the conversation was finding out that my Venus is in permanent retrograde which is kind of like finding out you’re being cast as Bradley Cooper in the movie "Silver Linings Playbook" every day for the rest of your life. I asked him if there was some kind of spell I could do to fix this. He told me to do a Thunder Blast.

Relationships
Anatomy of a Relationship

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on November 9, 2012

You may know someone who is better at begining and ending relationships then being in relationships. That someone may be a member of your family. That someone may be you. I think every family has one of these people. In my family, I am this person.

You may know someone who is better at begining and ending relationships then being in relationships. That someone may be a member of your family. That someone may be you. I think every family has one of these people. In my family, I am this person.

Career
My Frankenstorm Date with Sandy Warhol

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on November 5, 2012

The idea of having no electricity, no running water, and no internet for a week or more sounded perfect. I’d have all the time in the world to reflect on where I’d gone wrong and more than enough time to write - no distractions - no social media responsibilities - oh, the quiet possibilities. It would be like camping inside with a side of sweet self reflection.

The idea of having no electricity, no running water, and no internet for a week or more sounded perfect. I’d have all the time in the world to reflect on where I’d gone wrong and more than enough time to write - no distractions - no social media responsibilities - oh, the quiet possibilities. It would be like camping inside with a side of sweet self reflection.

Relationships
Breaking up without Breaking Down

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on September 16, 2012

I decided for the 112th time to end things with her. We hugged goodbye. She was in tears. It felt different this time, but I no longer trust that feeling. It felt the same way the other 111 times.

I decided for the 112th time to end things with her. We hugged goodbye. She was in tears. It felt different this time, but I no longer trust that feeling. It felt the same way the other 111 times.

Friends
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Beards

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on July 5, 2012

Zack Galifiankis was funniest in one, John Lennon grew one when he wanted to “Give Peace a Chance,” Willie Nelson has a country one and Abraham Lincoln grew one so he’d look better on five-dollar bills and ads for Presidents’ Day sales.

Zack Galifiankis was funniest in one, John Lennon grew one when he wanted to “Give Peace a Chance,” Willie Nelson has a country one and Abraham Lincoln grew one so he’d look better on five-dollar bills and ads for Presidents’ Day sales.

Fantasies
The 4 Fantasies Men Are Afraid to Talk About

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on May 1, 2012

Across the globe all of us little Boymen share one common testosterone-filled denominator that makes us who we are: We have personal fantasies (yet unfulfilled) that once came late at night in a sheet fort. I’m not talking about those bleep bleep fantasies that you bleep bleep for your bleep. I’m talking about the common denominator fantasies that shape our manhood.

Across the globe all of us little Boymen share one common testosterone-filled denominator that makes us who we are: We have personal fantasies (yet unfulfilled) that once came late at night in a sheet fort. I’m not talking about those bleep bleep fantasies that you bleep bleep for your bleep. I’m talking about the common denominator fantasies that shape our manhood.

Deception
The Good Guy’s Guide to Lying

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on March 26, 2012

According to a Shimer College adjunct faculty member, Dr. Yau (he also holds an MFA in Phrenology) whose team analyzed all 81 students at his school, there are 4 distinct ways to tell if a guy is lying.

According to a Shimer College adjunct faculty member, Dr. Yau (he also holds an MFA in Phrenology) whose team analyzed all 81 students at his school, there are 4 distinct ways to tell if a guy is lying.

Sex
A Guy's Guide to a Sexual Relationship in 6 Disappointing Parts

Slash Coleman M.A.Ed. on March 9, 2012

By dissecting the monumental failure of my marriage, I hope to also cleanse some of my karma when it comes to bombing tests, making horrible first impressions, and saying the dumbest things on job interviews and first dates. It's my hope that by doing this I will ultimately arrive in front of my next potential lifelong partner baggageless and inspire you to do the same.

By dissecting the monumental failure of my marriage, I hope to also cleanse some of my karma when it comes to bombing tests, making horrible first impressions, and saying the dumbest things on job interviews and first dates. It's my hope that by doing this I will ultimately arrive in front of my next potential lifelong partner baggageless and inspire you to do the same.