Emotionally Focused Therapists in Spokane, WA

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Hanna Emerson
Pre-Licensed Professional, LMHCA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99201  (Online Only)
I may utilize attachment concepts, EFT, EMDR, IFS, and Gottman methods in session.
Immediate Availability! Relationships can be complicated. My goal is to help you build the skills to unlock more fulfilling connections with those you care about. Our work together will focus on helping you explore thoughts, emotions, patterns, memories, and limiting belief systems that may be impacting your relationships, even your relationship with yourself. Join me for individual, couples/polycules, or family sessions.
I may utilize attachment concepts, EFT, EMDR, IFS, and Gottman methods in session.
Immediate Availability! Relationships can be complicated. My goal is to help you build the skills to unlock more fulfilling connections with those you care about. Our work together will focus on helping you explore thoughts, emotions, patterns, memories, and limiting belief systems that may be impacting your relationships, even your relationship with yourself. Join me for individual, couples/polycules, or family sessions.
(509) 550-7691 View (509) 550-7691
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Tegan Brindley
MA MFC, LMCHA, LMFTA, NCC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99201
I take a person centered, emotionally focused approach helping people thrive in different areas of life.
I am passionate about working with people through a variety of diagnoses and life circumstances. Whether you are going through a difficult transition, overcoming a trauma, coping with anxiety or depression or just want to become more self aware and live into your fullest potential, I am here to help process and give tools for healing and health.
I take a person centered, emotionally focused approach helping people thrive in different areas of life.
I am passionate about working with people through a variety of diagnoses and life circumstances. Whether you are going through a difficult transition, overcoming a trauma, coping with anxiety or depression or just want to become more self aware and live into your fullest potential, I am here to help process and give tools for healing and health.
(509) 401-8622 View (509) 401-8622
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Deyja Marie Kauffman
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99201  (Online Only)
I use techniques from Emotionally Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and Attachment theory.
"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become". Carl Jung
I use techniques from Emotionally Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and Attachment theory.
"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become". Carl Jung
(509) 637-7661 View (509) 637-7661
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Garrett Combs
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMHCA
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99212
My passion is to help individuals and couples identify and treat issues that are causing problems so they can move toward personal freedom and improved relationships. I work specifically with EMDR for individuals and have found it to be an amazing tool in therapy. I have been married to my amazing wife for 13 years and have a daughter who is now two years old. I pull from various theories including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). I am passionate about life, faith, and the family structure.
My passion is to help individuals and couples identify and treat issues that are causing problems so they can move toward personal freedom and improved relationships. I work specifically with EMDR for individuals and have found it to be an amazing tool in therapy. I have been married to my amazing wife for 13 years and have a daughter who is now two years old. I pull from various theories including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). I am passionate about life, faith, and the family structure.
(509) 788-7270 View (509) 788-7270
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Annie Gerut
Counselor, MA, LMHCA, NCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99201
I assist adults, couples, and families, and have received specialized training in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
I approach clients with empathy, valuing each individual's unique experiences. Life challenges can leave us feeling stuck, and I see hope as a catalyst for transformative change. Seeking support is a courageous step toward connection and guidance, not a sign of failure! Whether you, your child, or your family is navigating transitions, anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, everyday stress, relationship distress, or trauma, my goal is to provide a safe and supportive space tailored to your needs and goals. Together, we can explore the roots of your distress and implement tools for healing, personal growth, and self-discovery.
I assist adults, couples, and families, and have received specialized training in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
I approach clients with empathy, valuing each individual's unique experiences. Life challenges can leave us feeling stuck, and I see hope as a catalyst for transformative change. Seeking support is a courageous step toward connection and guidance, not a sign of failure! Whether you, your child, or your family is navigating transitions, anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, everyday stress, relationship distress, or trauma, my goal is to provide a safe and supportive space tailored to your needs and goals. Together, we can explore the roots of your distress and implement tools for healing, personal growth, and self-discovery.
(509) 685-3280 View (509) 685-3280
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Sara Garcia
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99202
I specialize in addressing attachment wounds, trauma & relational conflict using Emotionally Focused Therapy & Lifespan Integration.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed & anxious about the present, stuck or fearful of the future, or lost in grieving the past, you don’t have to navigate these challenges alone. Your grief, pain, sorrows, and disappointments are worthy of care and attention. I am passionate about walking alongside individuals and couples navigating life's challenges & I'm particularly passionate about helping couples experience secure bonding that lasts a lifetime. I absolutely love helping couples understand and transform their emotional responses, creating deeper connections and secure attachments, without either person having to sacrifice who they are.
I specialize in addressing attachment wounds, trauma & relational conflict using Emotionally Focused Therapy & Lifespan Integration.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed & anxious about the present, stuck or fearful of the future, or lost in grieving the past, you don’t have to navigate these challenges alone. Your grief, pain, sorrows, and disappointments are worthy of care and attention. I am passionate about walking alongside individuals and couples navigating life's challenges & I'm particularly passionate about helping couples experience secure bonding that lasts a lifetime. I absolutely love helping couples understand and transform their emotional responses, creating deeper connections and secure attachments, without either person having to sacrifice who they are.
(509) 550-0412 View (509) 550-0412
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Jaeden Roberts Healing Arts
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW, CHT
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99201
Waitlist for new clients
I offer traditional counseling as well as several alternative modalities (EMDR, hypnotherapy, EFT, etc).
Welcome to Jaeden Roberts Counseling & Alternative Therapies. I work with adults and children, providing individual & family sessions, as well as teaching classes. My approach is holistic, and I see my role as helping clients cultivate their natural strengths and capacities for healing, gain skills/tools to address problematic dynamics and stressors, and address and resolve past trauma. I believe wholeheartedly in the connection between body and mind, and I work to ensure that healing takes place at all levels. All services are strictly confidential, of course. Some sessions available online (via Facetime or email), based on your needs/preference.
I offer traditional counseling as well as several alternative modalities (EMDR, hypnotherapy, EFT, etc).
Welcome to Jaeden Roberts Counseling & Alternative Therapies. I work with adults and children, providing individual & family sessions, as well as teaching classes. My approach is holistic, and I see my role as helping clients cultivate their natural strengths and capacities for healing, gain skills/tools to address problematic dynamics and stressors, and address and resolve past trauma. I believe wholeheartedly in the connection between body and mind, and I work to ensure that healing takes place at all levels. All services are strictly confidential, of course. Some sessions available online (via Facetime or email), based on your needs/preference.
(509) 215-2670 View (509) 215-2670
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Kathryn Bradford
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMHCA, LMFTA, NCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99202
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), equipping me to work with a diverse range of clients from teens to couples and families.
Acknowledging our needs with grace and compassion is especially challenging when you or a loved one is experiencing parenting struggles, life transitions, the weight of anxiety or depression, or conflict in relationships. You're searching for a way through, and don't have to do it alone. I believe we're all worthy of being seen, known and deeply understood. My hope is for you to encounter a sense of that during our work together.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), equipping me to work with a diverse range of clients from teens to couples and families.
Acknowledging our needs with grace and compassion is especially challenging when you or a loved one is experiencing parenting struggles, life transitions, the weight of anxiety or depression, or conflict in relationships. You're searching for a way through, and don't have to do it alone. I believe we're all worthy of being seen, known and deeply understood. My hope is for you to encounter a sense of that during our work together.
(509) 285-9632 View (509) 285-9632
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Somer Radvanyi
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99204
I use a client-centered hybrid approach drawing from models/skills such as solution focused, cognitive behavioral therapy, structural therapy, DBT, emotionally focused, and others.
I'm licensed in WA, ID & MT. I'm an AAMFT Supervisor Candidate. Burdens of trauma can impact your love life, work life, friendships, and how you see yourself in the world. Each person is doing the very best they can. Within you are strengths I want to build on. Working together we will come up with strategies tailored to you. I work with military families, couples, adults, teens, and foster youth with various challenges (ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar, social difficulties, etc.) I provide private pay for family/reunification therapy.
I use a client-centered hybrid approach drawing from models/skills such as solution focused, cognitive behavioral therapy, structural therapy, DBT, emotionally focused, and others.
I'm licensed in WA, ID & MT. I'm an AAMFT Supervisor Candidate. Burdens of trauma can impact your love life, work life, friendships, and how you see yourself in the world. Each person is doing the very best they can. Within you are strengths I want to build on. Working together we will come up with strategies tailored to you. I work with military families, couples, adults, teens, and foster youth with various challenges (ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar, social difficulties, etc.) I provide private pay for family/reunification therapy.
(509) 992-8276 View (509) 992-8276
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Justin Tillery
Counselor, MA, LMHC, LMFT
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99202
Waitlist for new clients
Having completed training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, I specialize in helping couples identify and overcome their pattern of disconnection by cultivating a secure emotional bond.
Do you feel disconnected? Do you feel a wall between you and a loved one? Do you feel like you are going around and around in circles but never moving forward? When clients come to see me they often feel hurt, numb, confused, frustrated, lost, or alone. I help clients identify the negative patterns they get caught in, connect with themselves and those they care about most, and support them in finding new solutions to old problems.
Having completed training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, I specialize in helping couples identify and overcome their pattern of disconnection by cultivating a secure emotional bond.
Do you feel disconnected? Do you feel a wall between you and a loved one? Do you feel like you are going around and around in circles but never moving forward? When clients come to see me they often feel hurt, numb, confused, frustrated, lost, or alone. I help clients identify the negative patterns they get caught in, connect with themselves and those they care about most, and support them in finding new solutions to old problems.
(509) 397-7636 View (509) 397-7636
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Shawn Adame
Counselor, MA, LMHC, MHP, NCC
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99202
I rely on multiple therapeutic orientations that include, but are not limited to, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in order to help you meet your goals.
Mental Health is important component to your overall health. There is never a wrong time to seek help. People meet with counselors for therapy for a variety of reasons, whether it is for preventative care, you are currently experiencing negative mental health symptoms, or you have gone through something in the past that you want to have a safe place to talk about. Whatever it may be, I can join with you in your journey in achieving your goals.
I rely on multiple therapeutic orientations that include, but are not limited to, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in order to help you meet your goals.
Mental Health is important component to your overall health. There is never a wrong time to seek help. People meet with counselors for therapy for a variety of reasons, whether it is for preventative care, you are currently experiencing negative mental health symptoms, or you have gone through something in the past that you want to have a safe place to talk about. Whatever it may be, I can join with you in your journey in achieving your goals.
(509) 519-4548 View (509) 519-4548
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Yvonne Wilhelm
Counselor, MS, LMHC, MAC
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99201
I am a trained EMDR and EFT therapist.
Looking for help and support for yourself or someone you care very much about? Whether you are trying to recover from something difficult, are trying to improve your relationships with others, or improve your mental health, it takes courage to seek help or to make a change. My goal as a therapist is to help others discover their strengths, as well as learn new skills to help overcome life's obstacles. I can assist in building a toolbox of healthy coping skills for successful emotional regulation and help develop insight and awareness needed to grow and find peace.
I am a trained EMDR and EFT therapist.
Looking for help and support for yourself or someone you care very much about? Whether you are trying to recover from something difficult, are trying to improve your relationships with others, or improve your mental health, it takes courage to seek help or to make a change. My goal as a therapist is to help others discover their strengths, as well as learn new skills to help overcome life's obstacles. I can assist in building a toolbox of healthy coping skills for successful emotional regulation and help develop insight and awareness needed to grow and find peace.
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Rachel Allison
Counselor, LMHCA
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99208
Rachel earned her masters degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. Through the combination of her life experience and education Rachel seeks to provide support and empowerment to her clients to improve their connection between mind, body and spirit. She is passionate about helping her clients develop a positive sense of self-worth and purpose within a safe and accepting therapeutic environment. Rachel integrates therapeutic techniques from multiple theories including Cognitive behavioral therapy, Strength based therapy, Emotionally focused therapy and Internal Family systems.
Rachel earned her masters degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. Through the combination of her life experience and education Rachel seeks to provide support and empowerment to her clients to improve their connection between mind, body and spirit. She is passionate about helping her clients develop a positive sense of self-worth and purpose within a safe and accepting therapeutic environment. Rachel integrates therapeutic techniques from multiple theories including Cognitive behavioral therapy, Strength based therapy, Emotionally focused therapy and Internal Family systems.
(509) 519-2194 View (509) 519-2194
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Kimberly Castelo
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT-S, CST-S, CEFCT-S, CEFIT-S
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99201  (Online Only)
I am an AAMFT Supervisor, Certified EFT Couples Therapist and Supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.
For therapy to be effective, it needs to be real, honest, compassionate, and focused on the client's goals. That is what you will find with me. Over the years, I have found a common thread among my clients: they long to feel safe, loved, and accepted by those around them. When those feelings are not met, life can seem overwhelming and depressing. Finding connections, learning skills, overcoming traumas, dealing with grief, helping your marriage thrive -- these can be great stepping stones in living life to the fullest. Together, we can find ways to achieve this goal.
I am an AAMFT Supervisor, Certified EFT Couples Therapist and Supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.
For therapy to be effective, it needs to be real, honest, compassionate, and focused on the client's goals. That is what you will find with me. Over the years, I have found a common thread among my clients: they long to feel safe, loved, and accepted by those around them. When those feelings are not met, life can seem overwhelming and depressing. Finding connections, learning skills, overcoming traumas, dealing with grief, helping your marriage thrive -- these can be great stepping stones in living life to the fullest. Together, we can find ways to achieve this goal.
(206) 429-6253 View (206) 429-6253
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Kristin Rawlins
Counselor, MA, LMHC, NCC
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99202
I have training in Emotionally Focused therapy, the Gottman method and Circle of Security Parenting.
As human beings, we want healthy and happy relationships. These are vital to our emotional and mental well-being. We want to be our honest, authentic selves and trust that others will be there for us. However, despite our best efforts, things can get in the way. Our emotions, our past, anxiety and depression all affect how we interact with people we care about. Counseling allows for you to sit with someone who has no judgement toward you and your circumstances. I am simply here to help.
I have training in Emotionally Focused therapy, the Gottman method and Circle of Security Parenting.
As human beings, we want healthy and happy relationships. These are vital to our emotional and mental well-being. We want to be our honest, authentic selves and trust that others will be there for us. However, despite our best efforts, things can get in the way. Our emotions, our past, anxiety and depression all affect how we interact with people we care about. Counseling allows for you to sit with someone who has no judgement toward you and your circumstances. I am simply here to help.
(509) 818-0312 View (509) 818-0312
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Bill Frye
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99201
I am a clinical fellow with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy and trained in Gottman therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
Are you frustrated and feeling hopeless in your relationships? Do you argue with your partner without solving or even understanding what the problem really is? I specialize in working with couples who are struggling to connect. If you are desperate for communication and building trust, counseling can make a big difference. Whether you are looking for an individual, couples, or a family therapist I can be helpful as you discover new answers to the frustrations that have become exhausting. Let me help you focus your energy on actually solving problems, being understood, and feeling peace in your life.
I am a clinical fellow with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy and trained in Gottman therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
Are you frustrated and feeling hopeless in your relationships? Do you argue with your partner without solving or even understanding what the problem really is? I specialize in working with couples who are struggling to connect. If you are desperate for communication and building trust, counseling can make a big difference. Whether you are looking for an individual, couples, or a family therapist I can be helpful as you discover new answers to the frustrations that have become exhausting. Let me help you focus your energy on actually solving problems, being understood, and feeling peace in your life.
(509) 588-0810 View (509) 588-0810
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Katrina Bishop
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99202
With couples I use EFT.
We cannot remove painful memories but I believe that we can decrease the control they have over our lives and come to a place where the pain is not as intense. I believe struggles come from avoidance. When we avoid things like negative emotions or traumatic times in our lives they won't go away, instead, they grow and fester until at some point, they become overwhelming, uncontrollable, or show up in other areas of our lives. The more they grow, the more uncomfortable or scary they are to address, so we avoid them even more until it becomes an unending and ever-growing cycle.
With couples I use EFT.
We cannot remove painful memories but I believe that we can decrease the control they have over our lives and come to a place where the pain is not as intense. I believe struggles come from avoidance. When we avoid things like negative emotions or traumatic times in our lives they won't go away, instead, they grow and fester until at some point, they become overwhelming, uncontrollable, or show up in other areas of our lives. The more they grow, the more uncomfortable or scary they are to address, so we avoid them even more until it becomes an unending and ever-growing cycle.
(509) 401-8402 View (509) 401-8402
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Carson A Oliver
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFTA, LMHCA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99202
I specialize in working with couples and families and I utilize evidence-based practices such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Military service member I hold a deep passion for working with active duty, veteran, and first responder populations. It is my goal to create a safe and comfortable space for you to explore what is holding you back from connection with yourself, your loved ones, and the world around you. As your therapist I may ask you to step outside your comfort zone, sit with uncomfortable emotions, and practice skills. The beauty of the therapeutic relationship is that you are not alone in the serious or fun parts of growth. You will see my personality in our work together, and I hope I get to see yours!
I specialize in working with couples and families and I utilize evidence-based practices such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Military service member I hold a deep passion for working with active duty, veteran, and first responder populations. It is my goal to create a safe and comfortable space for you to explore what is holding you back from connection with yourself, your loved ones, and the world around you. As your therapist I may ask you to step outside your comfort zone, sit with uncomfortable emotions, and practice skills. The beauty of the therapeutic relationship is that you are not alone in the serious or fun parts of growth. You will see my personality in our work together, and I hope I get to see yours!
(509) 955-7169 View (509) 955-7169
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Richard V Dalke
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LMHC, NCC
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99208  (Online Only)
Through the use of EFT (Tapping) and other Mindfulness modalities, I provide processes and exercises that help my clients reduce stress, regulate their emotions and work through the emotional pain from triggering memories. My aim is to help clients release the thoughts and patterns that block their progress in order to enhance their ability to achieve the life they desire. I have helped clients work through grief, phobias, cravings, emotional pain, limiting beliefs as well as childhood memories that were still impacting their lives in the present. My clients leave the session feeling more grounded, centered, mindful, and at peace.
Through the use of EFT (Tapping) and other Mindfulness modalities, I provide processes and exercises that help my clients reduce stress, regulate their emotions and work through the emotional pain from triggering memories. My aim is to help clients release the thoughts and patterns that block their progress in order to enhance their ability to achieve the life they desire. I have helped clients work through grief, phobias, cravings, emotional pain, limiting beliefs as well as childhood memories that were still impacting their lives in the present. My clients leave the session feeling more grounded, centered, mindful, and at peace.
(509) 519-1505 View (509) 519-1505
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Joel Wadsworth
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, LMFTA
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99203
For couples, I specialize in Gottman Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, helping improve communication, deepen emotional connections, and resolve conflicts.
Whatever emotions you are feeling right now as you are looking for therapists, know that you have already done the hard part, and that healing follows you down this path. If you are someone who wants to explore their inner world and enhance their relationships, if you’re facing challenges, hardships, or emotional pain, I share a compassionate, non-judgmental space where you can be fully heard and supported. Together, we can work towards finding clarity, nurturing your relationships, and creating a life that feels genuine and fulfilling. If you’re ready for meaningful growth and healing, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
For couples, I specialize in Gottman Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, helping improve communication, deepen emotional connections, and resolve conflicts.
Whatever emotions you are feeling right now as you are looking for therapists, know that you have already done the hard part, and that healing follows you down this path. If you are someone who wants to explore their inner world and enhance their relationships, if you’re facing challenges, hardships, or emotional pain, I share a compassionate, non-judgmental space where you can be fully heard and supported. Together, we can work towards finding clarity, nurturing your relationships, and creating a life that feels genuine and fulfilling. If you’re ready for meaningful growth and healing, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
(509) 300-4646 View (509) 300-4646
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.