Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists in Seattle, WA
Deana Tolstunov
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, LMFTA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Seattle, WA 98102 (Online Only)
I specialize in providing impactful and collaborative psychotherapy and sex therapy that supports individuals and relationships through gender and sexuality exploration, relationship and life transitions, trauma and grief, deepening intimacy and desire, exploring BDSM/ kink, and processing the shame and stigma that can surround such topics. Therapy is a powerful tool for exploring our deepest desires, dreams, and fears. Wherever you are in your journey to healing, let’s work together to help you create lasting, positive change.
I specialize in providing impactful and collaborative psychotherapy and sex therapy that supports individuals and relationships through gender and sexuality exploration, relationship and life transitions, trauma and grief, deepening intimacy and desire, exploring BDSM/ kink, and processing the shame and stigma that can surround such topics. Therapy is a powerful tool for exploring our deepest desires, dreams, and fears. Wherever you are in your journey to healing, let’s work together to help you create lasting, positive change.
My practice is affirming for LGBTQ+ individuals, CNM clients, kink practitioners, and sex workers, focusing on resilience and personal growth.
Imagining my ideal client, I see someone from queer and sex-positive communities who is motivated to heal and explore their identity from a place of empowerment. They may face challenges related to self-acceptance, relationship dynamics, or past trauma, feeling the weight of societal stigma. Their needs include a safe, affirming space to express themselves and validation of their unique experiences. Their goals are to build self-confidence, deepen connections, and embrace their authentic selves. Ultimately, they seek to thrive in their identities, empowered to navigate life with resilience and joy. I’m here to support their journey
My practice is affirming for LGBTQ+ individuals, CNM clients, kink practitioners, and sex workers, focusing on resilience and personal growth.
Imagining my ideal client, I see someone from queer and sex-positive communities who is motivated to heal and explore their identity from a place of empowerment. They may face challenges related to self-acceptance, relationship dynamics, or past trauma, feeling the weight of societal stigma. Their needs include a safe, affirming space to express themselves and validation of their unique experiences. Their goals are to build self-confidence, deepen connections, and embrace their authentic selves. Ultimately, they seek to thrive in their identities, empowered to navigate life with resilience and joy. I’m here to support their journey
Ellis Graham
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Seattle, WA 98178 (Online Only)
While I work with all populations, I particularly enjoy providing an affirming and inclusive space for those in the queer, neurodivergent, non-monogamy, and kink communities.
As a neurodivergent, queer, non-binary therapist, I understand the importance of a therapist who understands an intersectional experience of life. My practice is dedicated to providing a safe space, particularly for marginalized communities. In addition to neurodivergent and LGBTQIA communities, I also provide a safe space to explore kink, sexuality, and non-monogamy.
While I work with all populations, I particularly enjoy providing an affirming and inclusive space for those in the queer, neurodivergent, non-monogamy, and kink communities.
As a neurodivergent, queer, non-binary therapist, I understand the importance of a therapist who understands an intersectional experience of life. My practice is dedicated to providing a safe space, particularly for marginalized communities. In addition to neurodivergent and LGBTQIA communities, I also provide a safe space to explore kink, sexuality, and non-monogamy.
I am also BIPOC, kink, and CNM affirming.
Many of us feel out of step with others around us. Difficulties with completing tasks and organization lead to struggles and frustration in relationships. Difficulty with social skills and anxiety make it hard to reach out to others for friendship or dating. Some of us feel shame and isolation from ADHD, autism, and other forms of neurodiversity. Our unique hobbies or interests keep us out of step. Shame keeps us from exploring who we are in friendships, dating, and sexually. People often do not see us. We feel alone. This manifests as depression, anxiety, and difficulty regulating our emotions.
I am also BIPOC, kink, and CNM affirming.
Many of us feel out of step with others around us. Difficulties with completing tasks and organization lead to struggles and frustration in relationships. Difficulty with social skills and anxiety make it hard to reach out to others for friendship or dating. Some of us feel shame and isolation from ADHD, autism, and other forms of neurodiversity. Our unique hobbies or interests keep us out of step. Shame keeps us from exploring who we are in friendships, dating, and sexually. People often do not see us. We feel alone. This manifests as depression, anxiety, and difficulty regulating our emotions.
Kristie Flournoy-Earnshaw
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSWAIC
Verified Verified
Seattle, WA 98104 (Online Only)
I am also LGBTQIA-knowledgeable and I support relationships in all forms (including alternative, non-monogamous, and kink lifestyles).
First and foremost, I want you to know that you are not alone in this journey. If you are here because you are seeking change, I can help! In my practice I work with clients every day to gain new emotional regulation skills, grow deeper connections in their relationships, or just increase the joy in their life. I love helping clients get to know themselves more deeply, to accept and love who they are, and to experience the peace that comes from truly understanding oneself.
I am also LGBTQIA-knowledgeable and I support relationships in all forms (including alternative, non-monogamous, and kink lifestyles).
First and foremost, I want you to know that you are not alone in this journey. If you are here because you are seeking change, I can help! In my practice I work with clients every day to gain new emotional regulation skills, grow deeper connections in their relationships, or just increase the joy in their life. I love helping clients get to know themselves more deeply, to accept and love who they are, and to experience the peace that comes from truly understanding oneself.
Perfectly Queer Counseling
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW
Verified Verified
Seattle, WA 98116 (Online Only)
At Perfectly Queer Counseling, you’ll find LGBTQ+ therapists who understand - even if you feel that no one could possibly know what you’re going through. You are in the driver’s seat of your life and we are here to help you navigate the twists and turns you may face along the way. Your queer journey is beautiful.
At Perfectly Queer Counseling, you’ll find LGBTQ+ therapists who understand - even if you feel that no one could possibly know what you’re going through. You are in the driver’s seat of your life and we are here to help you navigate the twists and turns you may face along the way. Your queer journey is beautiful.
My therapeutic practice is queer-, poly-, and kink-positive; I offer a welcome, accepting space for your whole self and your complex identities.
I am a queer, sex-positive therapist with a passion for helping folks find greater ease, possibility, and liberation in their lives. Life and relationships are not one-size-fits-all; I help my clients to discover their own authentic truth and desires in the realms of sexuality, relationships, identity, work, creativity, spirituality, and more. I support my clients- individuals, couples, and polycules- in finding their own unique joy, fulfillment, and authentic path.
My therapeutic practice is queer-, poly-, and kink-positive; I offer a welcome, accepting space for your whole self and your complex identities.
I am a queer, sex-positive therapist with a passion for helping folks find greater ease, possibility, and liberation in their lives. Life and relationships are not one-size-fits-all; I help my clients to discover their own authentic truth and desires in the realms of sexuality, relationships, identity, work, creativity, spirituality, and more. I support my clients- individuals, couples, and polycules- in finding their own unique joy, fulfillment, and authentic path.
I also incorporate a sex positive lens to my work and am a welcoming advocate for people of all genders, family structures, and orientations.
I believe in the importance of helping individuals seeking to show up authentically in all parts of their lives. Through compassion, non-judgmental guidance, and by challenging patterns where you find yourself stuck, we are able to promote personal growth and change. I work with individuals and couples to better understand their boundaries and how to strengthen their ability to communicate them. My approach to counseling is informed by CBT, ACT, Psychodynamic, and EMDR. EMDR therapy is an effective therapy method that supports healing from trauma, ingrained negative core beliefs, and other distressing life experiences.
I also incorporate a sex positive lens to my work and am a welcoming advocate for people of all genders, family structures, and orientations.
I believe in the importance of helping individuals seeking to show up authentically in all parts of their lives. Through compassion, non-judgmental guidance, and by challenging patterns where you find yourself stuck, we are able to promote personal growth and change. I work with individuals and couples to better understand their boundaries and how to strengthen their ability to communicate them. My approach to counseling is informed by CBT, ACT, Psychodynamic, and EMDR. EMDR therapy is an effective therapy method that supports healing from trauma, ingrained negative core beliefs, and other distressing life experiences.
I have a particular expertise in working with individuals within the LGBTQIA2S+ community, and I am deeply committed to providing affirming and respectful care to people of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship dynamics. I understand the importance of cultural competence and sensitivity when working with diverse populations, including those who engage in kink and alternative lifestyles. Whether you are exploring your identity, navigating relationship dynamics, or seeking support for mental health concerns, I offer a non-judgmental and affirming space where you can feel understood and accepted.
I have a particular expertise in working with individuals within the LGBTQIA2S+ community, and I am deeply committed to providing affirming and respectful care to people of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship dynamics. I understand the importance of cultural competence and sensitivity when working with diverse populations, including those who engage in kink and alternative lifestyles. Whether you are exploring your identity, navigating relationship dynamics, or seeking support for mental health concerns, I offer a non-judgmental and affirming space where you can feel understood and accepted.
Madeleine Bloch
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LSWAIC
Verified Verified
Seattle, WA 98103 (Online Only)
My therapy practice will always remain anti-racist, body & sex positive/accepting, and gender affirming.
Hello! Welcome to therapy. I’m Madeleine. If you are seeking therapy, you may be struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, family/relationship issues, or perhaps you just need someone to talk to without fear of being judged. I use a collaborative approach and believe that you are the expert in your own life. We will work together to identify any patterns of behavior that you feel are interfering with your life, discuss the ways your family, environment, and society may be reinforcing these, and develop the skills to alter or cope with these patterns more effectively.
My therapy practice will always remain anti-racist, body & sex positive/accepting, and gender affirming.
Hello! Welcome to therapy. I’m Madeleine. If you are seeking therapy, you may be struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, family/relationship issues, or perhaps you just need someone to talk to without fear of being judged. I use a collaborative approach and believe that you are the expert in your own life. We will work together to identify any patterns of behavior that you feel are interfering with your life, discuss the ways your family, environment, and society may be reinforcing these, and develop the skills to alter or cope with these patterns more effectively.
I offer affirmative, sex-positive support for diverse relationship structures and lifestyles, including polyamory, sex work, and kink identities.
Do you ever worry that you're 'too much' or 'not enough'? Would you be happier if you were different? Those feelings are common, especially for people of marginalized identity. In the therapy space, my goal is to deconstruct narratives about what you're 'supposed' to be and instead, help you love who you are right now. I specialize in supporting individuals as they navigate the complexities of LGBTQ+ identities, trauma, alternative relationship dynamics, and intersectionality.
I offer affirmative, sex-positive support for diverse relationship structures and lifestyles, including polyamory, sex work, and kink identities.
Do you ever worry that you're 'too much' or 'not enough'? Would you be happier if you were different? Those feelings are common, especially for people of marginalized identity. In the therapy space, my goal is to deconstruct narratives about what you're 'supposed' to be and instead, help you love who you are right now. I specialize in supporting individuals as they navigate the complexities of LGBTQ+ identities, trauma, alternative relationship dynamics, and intersectionality.
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Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Seattle, WA 98109 (Online Only)
I am LGBTQIA, kink, & poly friendly.
Are you wishing for better relationships? Feeling anxious, down, lost, or wondering about the meaning of life? Would you like to feel more confident? Hoping to heal after trauma? Going through loss or life transition? We need lots of self-compassion so we can heal and find a better approach to our lives and relationships. I offer a non-judgmental space to be open about your struggles and explore what it means to live in your values. It is through our common humanity that I relate to my clients. I believe the struggles we face also occur in the systems of race, class, gender, sexuality, age, ability, religion, and national identity.
I am LGBTQIA, kink, & poly friendly.
Are you wishing for better relationships? Feeling anxious, down, lost, or wondering about the meaning of life? Would you like to feel more confident? Hoping to heal after trauma? Going through loss or life transition? We need lots of self-compassion so we can heal and find a better approach to our lives and relationships. I offer a non-judgmental space to be open about your struggles and explore what it means to live in your values. It is through our common humanity that I relate to my clients. I believe the struggles we face also occur in the systems of race, class, gender, sexuality, age, ability, religion, and national identity.
I work with people throughout the state of Washington via telehealth. I have experience with people ages 11 and older of all genders and from a range of lifestyles. I enjoy working with people going through life transitions, working through hurdles that have come up and building tools to work towards a better life and their goals for the future. I specialize in working with neurodiverse people, LGBTQ+, kink and poly populations, as well as people living with disabilities and chronic health conditions. I bring my feminist, sex-positive, healthy at every size philosophy to help empower others to work towards living their best life.
I work with people throughout the state of Washington via telehealth. I have experience with people ages 11 and older of all genders and from a range of lifestyles. I enjoy working with people going through life transitions, working through hurdles that have come up and building tools to work towards a better life and their goals for the future. I specialize in working with neurodiverse people, LGBTQ+, kink and poly populations, as well as people living with disabilities and chronic health conditions. I bring my feminist, sex-positive, healthy at every size philosophy to help empower others to work towards living their best life.
I am kink informed and I also specialize in working with polyamorous and non-monogamous folks.
Hi I’m Julie! I provide mental health counseling, art therapy, and sex therapy to individual adults and adolescents. I am available for therapy online and in person. I integrate a number of different therapeutic styles and modalities, depending on what best fits with the client and their goals for therapy. I am interested in holistic care and intersectionality. Some modalities I use include, Art Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Sex Therapy, Existential Therapy, Jungian, Polyvagal Theory, Mindfulness, as well as some somatic approaches.
I am kink informed and I also specialize in working with polyamorous and non-monogamous folks.
Hi I’m Julie! I provide mental health counseling, art therapy, and sex therapy to individual adults and adolescents. I am available for therapy online and in person. I integrate a number of different therapeutic styles and modalities, depending on what best fits with the client and their goals for therapy. I am interested in holistic care and intersectionality. Some modalities I use include, Art Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Sex Therapy, Existential Therapy, Jungian, Polyvagal Theory, Mindfulness, as well as some somatic approaches.
Being human is challenging. Am I enough? Too much? Feelings of anxiety and inadequacy can interfere with one’s ability to connect with the self and others. Personal growth requires integration of the mind, body, and soul. Understanding past wounds, exploring difficult emotions and identifying behavioral patterns are steps to creating more fulfilling relationships and providing relief from pain and hurt in one’s life. With empathy, acceptance, and openness, I aim to be a guide along your path toward self-discovery, authenticity, and belonging. *I am an LGBTQIA+ Kink/Poly Ally, I believe in social justice and racial equity.
Being human is challenging. Am I enough? Too much? Feelings of anxiety and inadequacy can interfere with one’s ability to connect with the self and others. Personal growth requires integration of the mind, body, and soul. Understanding past wounds, exploring difficult emotions and identifying behavioral patterns are steps to creating more fulfilling relationships and providing relief from pain and hurt in one’s life. With empathy, acceptance, and openness, I aim to be a guide along your path toward self-discovery, authenticity, and belonging. *I am an LGBTQIA+ Kink/Poly Ally, I believe in social justice and racial equity.
Brittany Ater
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MEd, MACFT, LMFTA
Verified Verified
Seattle, WA 98109
I consider it a privilege to support others in strengthening their sense of self, relationship(s), and sexuality using a compassionate and trauma-informed lens. As a queer-, kink-, and non-monogamous-affirming therapist, I love supporting clients who are seeking deeper understanding and acceptance of their sexuality, desires, and identity. If you are longing for reconnection or repair in your relationship(s), processing grief around a changing body, relationship or identity, healing from trauma, or looking for support navigating a life transition, I invite you to reach out so we can find a path forward.
I consider it a privilege to support others in strengthening their sense of self, relationship(s), and sexuality using a compassionate and trauma-informed lens. As a queer-, kink-, and non-monogamous-affirming therapist, I love supporting clients who are seeking deeper understanding and acceptance of their sexuality, desires, and identity. If you are longing for reconnection or repair in your relationship(s), processing grief around a changing body, relationship or identity, healing from trauma, or looking for support navigating a life transition, I invite you to reach out so we can find a path forward.
Oasis Sex Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Seattle, WA 98103
Waitlist for new clients
Hi, I'm Brenda! I am a sex therapist and support adults with trauma, shame, pain, difficulty with orgasm, concerns with erection and ejaculation, and kink support. I also work with partnered folx to improve relationship dynamics and can address sexual concerns like desire discrepancy and communication challenges. I am especially passionate about collaborating with BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ folks.
Hi, I'm Brenda! I am a sex therapist and support adults with trauma, shame, pain, difficulty with orgasm, concerns with erection and ejaculation, and kink support. I also work with partnered folx to improve relationship dynamics and can address sexual concerns like desire discrepancy and communication challenges. I am especially passionate about collaborating with BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ folks.
Ian Thomas Pocock
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Seattle, WA 98122 (Online Only)
You may have heard a saying that depression arises from living in the past, anxiety from living in the future, and the antidote for both is living in the present. Many of us push away the present moment with distractions, automatic behaviors, over-committing, substance use, and screen-time. Other times when we slow down enough to be present, we might not like the person we find ourselves to be - out of alignment with our environment or acting in ways that don’t match our values. However you are trying to get "un-stuck" or find a more authentic self, it helps to have a guide who can help you find footing.
You may have heard a saying that depression arises from living in the past, anxiety from living in the future, and the antidote for both is living in the present. Many of us push away the present moment with distractions, automatic behaviors, over-committing, substance use, and screen-time. Other times when we slow down enough to be present, we might not like the person we find ourselves to be - out of alignment with our environment or acting in ways that don’t match our values. However you are trying to get "un-stuck" or find a more authentic self, it helps to have a guide who can help you find footing.
Sarah Lynne Poole
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, BA, MSW, LICSW, CST
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Seattle, WA 98109
I am a Certified Sex and Couples Therapist and Kink Affirming Professional.
Do you struggle with sexuality, body-image, trauma, disordered eating, anxiety, depression, or self-harm? Are you and your partner(s) challenged with desire discrepancy, communication, emotional intimacy, or connection? Do you want to explore pleasure, empowerment and liberation? Regardless of what you want to work on in therapy, my style is collaborative, trauma-informed and strengths-based. In our sessions, you’ll find a judgment-free zone where authenticity and vulnerability are celebrated.
I am a Certified Sex and Couples Therapist and Kink Affirming Professional.
Do you struggle with sexuality, body-image, trauma, disordered eating, anxiety, depression, or self-harm? Are you and your partner(s) challenged with desire discrepancy, communication, emotional intimacy, or connection? Do you want to explore pleasure, empowerment and liberation? Regardless of what you want to work on in therapy, my style is collaborative, trauma-informed and strengths-based. In our sessions, you’ll find a judgment-free zone where authenticity and vulnerability are celebrated.
I’m kink-positive and poly-affirming; I have extensive experience with nontraditional college students, mood disorders, adults who grew up as “gifted and talented” kids, and clients identifying all over, across, and beyond gender and sexuality spectrums! I also fiercely believe in the therapeutic importance of video games, fanfic, D&D, pets, and pop culture.
I’m a systems-savvy, person-centered, radically affirming provider who excels at the intersection where clinical mental health disorders meet cultural and identity issues. I love to explore gender, sexuality, socioeconomic status, race, and everything else that makes you, YOU! I form deep therapy relationships with clients, and love to collaborate on a transparent, personal level. When I challenge you to grow, you’ll know I come from an earnest base of compassion, commitment, and care... I want to help individuals to feel fun, outrageous, and free, and to develop key understandings into their own psychology, preferences, and needs.
I’m kink-positive and poly-affirming; I have extensive experience with nontraditional college students, mood disorders, adults who grew up as “gifted and talented” kids, and clients identifying all over, across, and beyond gender and sexuality spectrums! I also fiercely believe in the therapeutic importance of video games, fanfic, D&D, pets, and pop culture.
I’m a systems-savvy, person-centered, radically affirming provider who excels at the intersection where clinical mental health disorders meet cultural and identity issues. I love to explore gender, sexuality, socioeconomic status, race, and everything else that makes you, YOU! I form deep therapy relationships with clients, and love to collaborate on a transparent, personal level. When I challenge you to grow, you’ll know I come from an earnest base of compassion, commitment, and care... I want to help individuals to feel fun, outrageous, and free, and to develop key understandings into their own psychology, preferences, and needs.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialized knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organizations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognize a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognize a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.