Emotionally Focused Therapists in Everett, WA

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Kelli Lovins
Mental Health Counselor License, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98201
I work with teens, young adults, adults, and couples to help them navigate the challenges life throws at them. Whether it's relationships, insecurities, past experiences, work stress, or the challenges of the day-to-day living, I believe you have the strengths within yourself to overcome those challenges. My role in the therapeutic relationship is to help you build those strengths. In my work with couples, I primarily use EFT and attachment based interventions to help partners repair attachment injuries and create a safe and secure bond with one another.
I work with teens, young adults, adults, and couples to help them navigate the challenges life throws at them. Whether it's relationships, insecurities, past experiences, work stress, or the challenges of the day-to-day living, I believe you have the strengths within yourself to overcome those challenges. My role in the therapeutic relationship is to help you build those strengths. In my work with couples, I primarily use EFT and attachment based interventions to help partners repair attachment injuries and create a safe and secure bond with one another.
(425) 610-7221 View (425) 610-7221
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Dr. Maria E Moore
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT, LMHC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98208  (Online Only)
Welcome to Liberty Counseling, where we believe in empowering individuals to achieve emotional freedom and personal growth. I employ an integrative approach, drawing from diverse therapies, including EMDR, IFS, DBT, CBT, Hypnotherapy, family systems, the Gottman Method, and EFT. We are committed to guiding you through your journey towards healing and self-discovery, fostering resilience and harmony in your life and relationships. Take the first step towards a brighter future with Liberty Counseling.
Welcome to Liberty Counseling, where we believe in empowering individuals to achieve emotional freedom and personal growth. I employ an integrative approach, drawing from diverse therapies, including EMDR, IFS, DBT, CBT, Hypnotherapy, family systems, the Gottman Method, and EFT. We are committed to guiding you through your journey towards healing and self-discovery, fostering resilience and harmony in your life and relationships. Take the first step towards a brighter future with Liberty Counseling.
(425) 842-0523 View (425) 842-0523
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Marcia Erickson Bates
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98201
The attachment framework found in Emotionally Focused Therapy undergirds my work.
I am excited to announce our next Hold Me Tight couples workshop: October 5 & 6, 2024! Check under Groups for more information. I enjoy working with individual adults and couples. I meet my clients with warmth and acceptance, and provide a safe, calm, and grounding space that supports them in dealing with issues such as grief and loss, life transitions, anxiety and depression, distance or conflict in relationships, developing personal identity, working through trauma, and parenting issues.
The attachment framework found in Emotionally Focused Therapy undergirds my work.
I am excited to announce our next Hold Me Tight couples workshop: October 5 & 6, 2024! Check under Groups for more information. I enjoy working with individual adults and couples. I meet my clients with warmth and acceptance, and provide a safe, calm, and grounding space that supports them in dealing with issues such as grief and loss, life transitions, anxiety and depression, distance or conflict in relationships, developing personal identity, working through trauma, and parenting issues.
(425) 441-3066 x2 View (425) 441-3066 x2
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Michelle Thorsteinson
Counselor, MS, LMHCA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98201
For couples, I draw upon the evidence based practice of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to support relationship repair and restoration.
I work with individual adults, couples and families. My commitment to my clients is to come alongside you in support of the meaningful work of healing and transformation that you seek. I value the relationship between client and counselor, and believe it is core to the therapeutic process. Therefore, I am committed to an initial session that supports discernment about whether we are a good fit for moving forward in the counseling relationship. If not, then I do not charge for that session and help point you toward others who may better serve you.
For couples, I draw upon the evidence based practice of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to support relationship repair and restoration.
I work with individual adults, couples and families. My commitment to my clients is to come alongside you in support of the meaningful work of healing and transformation that you seek. I value the relationship between client and counselor, and believe it is core to the therapeutic process. Therefore, I am committed to an initial session that supports discernment about whether we are a good fit for moving forward in the counseling relationship. If not, then I do not charge for that session and help point you toward others who may better serve you.
(360) 284-1871 View (360) 284-1871
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Amie Shipley
MSW, LMHC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98201
I specialize in Inner Bonding, Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT), and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and PCIT.
I see therapy as an opportunity to work toward growth, self-discovery, and healing. I believe that people come to me not only with where they may be stuck or hurting, but also with incredible strengths and abilities. Through warmth, collaboration, and direct communication I hope to help uncover patterns that are getting in the way of living well. I use an experiential, emotion + body focused approach along with art therapy and practical tools to develop new ways of experiencing and approaching the hard stuff in life.
I specialize in Inner Bonding, Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT), and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and PCIT.
I see therapy as an opportunity to work toward growth, self-discovery, and healing. I believe that people come to me not only with where they may be stuck or hurting, but also with incredible strengths and abilities. Through warmth, collaboration, and direct communication I hope to help uncover patterns that are getting in the way of living well. I use an experiential, emotion + body focused approach along with art therapy and practical tools to develop new ways of experiencing and approaching the hard stuff in life.
(425) 310-4095 View (425) 310-4095
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Lennon Micciulla
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98201  (Online Only)
My therapy practice is rooted in attachment theory and experiential therapy, with advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) and sex therapy interventions.
Do you feel like your partner doesn’t hear you? Do you have the same fight over and over without resolution? Maybe you’re desperate for more emotional and sexual intimacy and don’t know how to get your needs met. Or perhaps you feel alone even when they’re right beside you. Let’s work together to better your communication, resolve conflict, create a stronger, more secure attachment, and learn how to express and receive your emotional and sexual needs. I support all relationship dynamics and structures, especially LGBTQIA+, kink, BDSM, and polyamorous/ENM.
My therapy practice is rooted in attachment theory and experiential therapy, with advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) and sex therapy interventions.
Do you feel like your partner doesn’t hear you? Do you have the same fight over and over without resolution? Maybe you’re desperate for more emotional and sexual intimacy and don’t know how to get your needs met. Or perhaps you feel alone even when they’re right beside you. Let’s work together to better your communication, resolve conflict, create a stronger, more secure attachment, and learn how to express and receive your emotional and sexual needs. I support all relationship dynamics and structures, especially LGBTQIA+, kink, BDSM, and polyamorous/ENM.
(206) 759-2746 View (206) 759-2746
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Ozlem Yalcin
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98204
So, my therapy approaches are narrative, emotionally focused, solution-focused, and mindfulness-based.
Many of us seek therapy at different periods of our lives for different reasons, such as couple and family conflicts, losing loved ones, life transition issues, addiction, sadness, anxiety, and depression. We sometimes may not figure out what we are going through. Unknowns and uncertainties may increase in our lives and become unmanageable, or we are unable to fulfill our search for meaning. Therapy helps us cope with difficult and painful emotions, figure out what we are going through, and name it. Carl Rogers defines growth as any kind of movement toward “self-esteem, flexibility, or respect and compassion for self and others."
So, my therapy approaches are narrative, emotionally focused, solution-focused, and mindfulness-based.
Many of us seek therapy at different periods of our lives for different reasons, such as couple and family conflicts, losing loved ones, life transition issues, addiction, sadness, anxiety, and depression. We sometimes may not figure out what we are going through. Unknowns and uncertainties may increase in our lives and become unmanageable, or we are unable to fulfill our search for meaning. Therapy helps us cope with difficult and painful emotions, figure out what we are going through, and name it. Carl Rogers defines growth as any kind of movement toward “self-esteem, flexibility, or respect and compassion for self and others."
(425) 434-9200 View (425) 434-9200
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Sydney Ardent
Counselor, MA, LMHCA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98208  (Online Only)
I offer trauma-informed, relational psychodynamic therapy with influences from emotionally focused, attachment, mindfulness, and IFS therapies with particular focus on boundary-setting, religious trauma, grief, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflict, exploring gender and sexuality, sexual abuse, family of origin trauma, & experiences of anti-fat bias.
Current Opening at 9am on Tuesdays (PST). - I offer a gentle and direct approach grounded in safety and trust. My goal is to offer space for therapy to be about the client–their story, their experiences, their feelings, and what they want. Whether you know what that is already or are hoping to figure it out along the way, therapy with me will offer a place to have challenging conversations, understand your past, play with what the future might hold, and explore your wants and needs and how to meet them. I am a HAES-informed and body-positive practitioner.
I offer trauma-informed, relational psychodynamic therapy with influences from emotionally focused, attachment, mindfulness, and IFS therapies with particular focus on boundary-setting, religious trauma, grief, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflict, exploring gender and sexuality, sexual abuse, family of origin trauma, & experiences of anti-fat bias.
Current Opening at 9am on Tuesdays (PST). - I offer a gentle and direct approach grounded in safety and trust. My goal is to offer space for therapy to be about the client–their story, their experiences, their feelings, and what they want. Whether you know what that is already or are hoping to figure it out along the way, therapy with me will offer a place to have challenging conversations, understand your past, play with what the future might hold, and explore your wants and needs and how to meet them. I am a HAES-informed and body-positive practitioner.
(425) 587-8497 View (425) 587-8497
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Alex Rose Therapy PLLC
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98203  (Online Only)
Seeking therapy can be scary, and it can also be the beginning of a meaningful chapter in your life. I hope to support you in exploring your relationships & life experiences to create meaningful change, healing, & growth. My professional experience has allowed me to treat couples/individuals who want to work through trauma, relationship issues/transitions, disordered eating, boundary-setting, anxiety, grief, depression, and life transitions. I have worked with clients from various backgrounds and have extensive experience working with trauma within the first responder/military community & those who struggle with disordered eating.
Seeking therapy can be scary, and it can also be the beginning of a meaningful chapter in your life. I hope to support you in exploring your relationships & life experiences to create meaningful change, healing, & growth. My professional experience has allowed me to treat couples/individuals who want to work through trauma, relationship issues/transitions, disordered eating, boundary-setting, anxiety, grief, depression, and life transitions. I have worked with clients from various backgrounds and have extensive experience working with trauma within the first responder/military community & those who struggle with disordered eating.
(425) 842-2819 View (425) 842-2819
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Tsion Kidane
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98201
Are you feeling frustrated and stuck with things that matter to you? Are you facing life challenges? Do you need support with depression, anxiety or trauma? Are you seeking assistance with parenting and family relationship issues? I might be able to help. I am a multi-cultural and multi-lingual Christian therapist who is trained in Marriage and Family Therapy. My skill set includes therapy techniques such as Life Span integration, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Person-centered therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy and Faith-Based approaches.
Are you feeling frustrated and stuck with things that matter to you? Are you facing life challenges? Do you need support with depression, anxiety or trauma? Are you seeking assistance with parenting and family relationship issues? I might be able to help. I am a multi-cultural and multi-lingual Christian therapist who is trained in Marriage and Family Therapy. My skill set includes therapy techniques such as Life Span integration, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Person-centered therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy and Faith-Based approaches.
(206) 693-4342 View (206) 693-4342
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Basic Steps Mental Health
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, MFT, CDP
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98204
Having issues with generalized anxiety and substance use in the past, I believe that the people who have been there and recovered are the best guides. The formula I use is applying love to hurt. When we find the root cause of Addiction and mood disorders and treat it with compassion, amazing results can be found. I have proven this when I worked at the first Mental Health Urgent Care. I also have extensive experience with trauma, since I am an abuse survivor. I mix and match 10 different therapy approaches in an effort to treat the whole person. Each person is unique and obtains a treatment plan suited to them.
Having issues with generalized anxiety and substance use in the past, I believe that the people who have been there and recovered are the best guides. The formula I use is applying love to hurt. When we find the root cause of Addiction and mood disorders and treat it with compassion, amazing results can be found. I have proven this when I worked at the first Mental Health Urgent Care. I also have extensive experience with trauma, since I am an abuse survivor. I mix and match 10 different therapy approaches in an effort to treat the whole person. Each person is unique and obtains a treatment plan suited to them.
(425) 312-6413 View (425) 312-6413
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Port Gardner Counseling and Services
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW, MSW
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98201
Waitlist for new clients
My clinical focus is children and teens in their families. My work with families is through an attachment lens. With the goal of helping families grow in relationship with each other so that emotions can be experienced in a new, meaningful and healing way. I help caregivers shift their perspective on their child's tantrums, meltdowns, and testing/defiant behaviors to grow the caregiver/child relationship to a secure and safe training ground. The child will learn to trust their emotions and through this practice grow into teens and adults who can set boundaries, trust their gut and take healthy risks as their sense of self grows.
My clinical focus is children and teens in their families. My work with families is through an attachment lens. With the goal of helping families grow in relationship with each other so that emotions can be experienced in a new, meaningful and healing way. I help caregivers shift their perspective on their child's tantrums, meltdowns, and testing/defiant behaviors to grow the caregiver/child relationship to a secure and safe training ground. The child will learn to trust their emotions and through this practice grow into teens and adults who can set boundaries, trust their gut and take healthy risks as their sense of self grows.
(425) 470-4047 View (425) 470-4047
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Alona Wellness Center
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW, CCTP II, CDMDTP, LMHCA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98201
Hi! At Alona Wellness Center, we recognize the value, strength, and resilience of all those we serve. We honor differences in individuals, communities, cultures, and populations. We offer a safe space to process cultural and racial trauma, as well as micro-aggressions. We also have providers from the LGBTQTS+ community, as well as LGBTQTS+ allied providers.
Hi! At Alona Wellness Center, we recognize the value, strength, and resilience of all those we serve. We honor differences in individuals, communities, cultures, and populations. We offer a safe space to process cultural and racial trauma, as well as micro-aggressions. We also have providers from the LGBTQTS+ community, as well as LGBTQTS+ allied providers.
(425) 414-3137 View (425) 414-3137
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Cthulhu Counseling & Wellness, PLLC
Counselor, MA, LMHC, MHP, ATR, C-DBT
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98201
Waitlist for new clients
Compassionate care in less than compassionate times calls for those who seek healing to step forward through fear and enter bravely into their path of wellness. I walk with clients in a completely different way than "traditional therapy," while still maintaining the spirit of the profession. I am able to navigate a wide myriad of issues with people from all backgrounds, religions and identities. I continue to work in an Indigenous community setting where I have spent my entire career humbly experiencing the impact of all l serve.
Compassionate care in less than compassionate times calls for those who seek healing to step forward through fear and enter bravely into their path of wellness. I walk with clients in a completely different way than "traditional therapy," while still maintaining the spirit of the profession. I am able to navigate a wide myriad of issues with people from all backgrounds, religions and identities. I continue to work in an Indigenous community setting where I have spent my entire career humbly experiencing the impact of all l serve.
(425) 414-7812 View (425) 414-7812
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Traverse Therapy Services
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW, SUDP
Verified Verified
Everett, WA 98204
We are accepting new clients. My name is David Woldtvedt. Much of my clinical experience has involved working with adults, teens, and their families impacted by addiction, co-occurring mental health issues, anxiety, mood disorders, and adverse childhood experiences. As a practitioner I aim to build a relationship with each of my clients that involves the foundational elements of trust and meeting individuals where they are at. I utilize therapeutic skills in sessions that are solution-focused and healing-centered.
We are accepting new clients. My name is David Woldtvedt. Much of my clinical experience has involved working with adults, teens, and their families impacted by addiction, co-occurring mental health issues, anxiety, mood disorders, and adverse childhood experiences. As a practitioner I aim to build a relationship with each of my clients that involves the foundational elements of trust and meeting individuals where they are at. I utilize therapeutic skills in sessions that are solution-focused and healing-centered.
(425) 569-0634 View (425) 569-0634
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Anthony Shipman
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98203  (Online Only)
I am often described as warm, open, and that I provide a safe place to explore complex or difficult emotions. I enjoy working with people who are struggling to find the motivation or tools needed to make the changes they hope to see in their lives. I am here to help you learn how to listen to, respond to, and advocate for your values and emotions. I have a passion for working with caregivers, people wanting to develop self-compassion, or integrating their nature-based sptituality into therapy. You deserve to build a life that is fulfilling and beautiful. As your counselor, I want to support you in embracing your favorite self!
I am often described as warm, open, and that I provide a safe place to explore complex or difficult emotions. I enjoy working with people who are struggling to find the motivation or tools needed to make the changes they hope to see in their lives. I am here to help you learn how to listen to, respond to, and advocate for your values and emotions. I have a passion for working with caregivers, people wanting to develop self-compassion, or integrating their nature-based sptituality into therapy. You deserve to build a life that is fulfilling and beautiful. As your counselor, I want to support you in embracing your favorite self!
(425) 600-2384 View (425) 600-2384
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Anywhere Wellness Desirae Dorsey, ARNP Counseling
PMH-NP, ARNP, BC FNP, CS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98204  (Online Only)
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you having problems at work, home or with others? Are you struggling with drinking, substance use, stress eating, or just taking basic care of yourself? I am here to help, by offering safe, trusting, affirmative, warm, non-judgmental counseling. Life has its challenges and as a Board-Certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner I believe mutual respect, trust, empathy, authenticity and compassion are the foundation successful practice. These allow concerns to be worked through together in a safe/private space! Mental health medication and weight loss help along with counseling offered too!
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you having problems at work, home or with others? Are you struggling with drinking, substance use, stress eating, or just taking basic care of yourself? I am here to help, by offering safe, trusting, affirmative, warm, non-judgmental counseling. Life has its challenges and as a Board-Certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner I believe mutual respect, trust, empathy, authenticity and compassion are the foundation successful practice. These allow concerns to be worked through together in a safe/private space! Mental health medication and weight loss help along with counseling offered too!
(360) 818-7426 View (360) 818-7426
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Dean Nakanishi Pinnacle Emdr
Counselor, MA, LMHCA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98208  (Online Only)
Life is not what you want it to be, you’re trying to make sense of it, your past won’t leave you alone, you’re asking yourself “Is this God’s plan for my life?”, “Now what?”, “Is this all there is?” If you feel stuck, discouraged, anxious, frustrated, or confused about your relationships, health, career, goals, faith, or purpose know that you are not alone. We have all been in this place at some point. We will sort through the puzzle pieces that have been dumped out. We can then look at the image on the box together and start putting them in place to make sense of the messy pile and begin revealing an unexpectedly beautiful picture.
Life is not what you want it to be, you’re trying to make sense of it, your past won’t leave you alone, you’re asking yourself “Is this God’s plan for my life?”, “Now what?”, “Is this all there is?” If you feel stuck, discouraged, anxious, frustrated, or confused about your relationships, health, career, goals, faith, or purpose know that you are not alone. We have all been in this place at some point. We will sort through the puzzle pieces that have been dumped out. We can then look at the image on the box together and start putting them in place to make sense of the messy pile and begin revealing an unexpectedly beautiful picture.
(425) 537-7260 View (425) 537-7260
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Stop Digging for Rainbows Life Coaching, LLC
MACP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98208  (Online Only)
Do you wonder if your relationship is/was healthy? Are you still reeling from what you experienced? Are you questioning what serves you and your highest self? Are you ruminating and stuck in analysis paralysis? Struggling to move forward? Struggling to trust others, and, trust yourself? Do you experience flashbacks and anger? Even rage? Are you trying to make sense of it all? Do you find yourself stuck in pain and shame? Do you want to know how to protect yourself from manipulation tactics and illogical arguments meant to gain control over you? Co-parenting or FOO difficulties? Do you need a transformative, healing experience?
Do you wonder if your relationship is/was healthy? Are you still reeling from what you experienced? Are you questioning what serves you and your highest self? Are you ruminating and stuck in analysis paralysis? Struggling to move forward? Struggling to trust others, and, trust yourself? Do you experience flashbacks and anger? Even rage? Are you trying to make sense of it all? Do you find yourself stuck in pain and shame? Do you want to know how to protect yourself from manipulation tactics and illogical arguments meant to gain control over you? Co-parenting or FOO difficulties? Do you need a transformative, healing experience?
(425) 264-8649 View (425) 264-8649
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Lisa Boyl-Davis
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LICSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Everett, WA 98208
I'm thinking you are one of those brave, motivated sorts. Yes, you. Brave for refusing to ignore the pain it takes to get through the day. Strong for wanting change enough to work for it. Motivated in the way you're seeking help. I provide therapy for the motivated - because taking action heals! Over the past 28 years, I've provided mental health interventions to people in crisis, the first 20 years in an Emergency Room working as a Psychiatric Social Worker, and now heading into the eighth year as a trauma and couples therapist. Change is real - and what therapy is all about.
I'm thinking you are one of those brave, motivated sorts. Yes, you. Brave for refusing to ignore the pain it takes to get through the day. Strong for wanting change enough to work for it. Motivated in the way you're seeking help. I provide therapy for the motivated - because taking action heals! Over the past 28 years, I've provided mental health interventions to people in crisis, the first 20 years in an Emergency Room working as a Psychiatric Social Worker, and now heading into the eighth year as a trauma and couples therapist. Change is real - and what therapy is all about.
(425) 296-1199 View (425) 296-1199
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.