Emotionally Focused Therapists in Brentwood, TN

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Rob Wheeler
Licensed Professional Counselor, MAC, MDiv, LPC, MHSP, (temp)
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
As a client, I was helped in my own journey through Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR.
Have you been wounded? Many wounds occurred through relationships, and it is through relationship where they can be restored. Though not easy, many of those I work with begin to take risks, experience more meaningful relationships, and even a greater sense of joy in life. Real change is possible and I'd love to walk that path with you.
As a client, I was helped in my own journey through Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR.
Have you been wounded? Many wounds occurred through relationships, and it is through relationship where they can be restored. Though not easy, many of those I work with begin to take risks, experience more meaningful relationships, and even a greater sense of joy in life. Real change is possible and I'd love to walk that path with you.
(629) 201-7316 View (629) 201-7316
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Barb Hill
Licensed Professional Counselor, NCC, LPC, MHSP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
I'm Level 1 Gottman trained, a Level 1 Spiritually Integrated Therapist (SIP) and trained in models such as TF-CBT, DBT, Mindfulness, Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT), IFS, and EMDR and experiential interventions.
I'm passionate about partnering with and walking alongside others in their most difficult moments to offer a renewed sense of hope and healing. Research shows the value in a therapeutic relationship where clients feel safe and accepted. I see this relationship as the foundation my clients and I build upon to move towards progress and transformation. My clinical interests include depression, anxiety, grief, addiction, trauma, sexuality, boundaries, spirituality, and life-transitions.
I'm Level 1 Gottman trained, a Level 1 Spiritually Integrated Therapist (SIP) and trained in models such as TF-CBT, DBT, Mindfulness, Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT), IFS, and EMDR and experiential interventions.
I'm passionate about partnering with and walking alongside others in their most difficult moments to offer a renewed sense of hope and healing. Research shows the value in a therapeutic relationship where clients feel safe and accepted. I see this relationship as the foundation my clients and I build upon to move towards progress and transformation. My clinical interests include depression, anxiety, grief, addiction, trauma, sexuality, boundaries, spirituality, and life-transitions.
(615) 282-5675 View (615) 282-5675
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Nina Altier
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I work with you to enhance your emotional awareness and improve your relationships by addressing underlying attachment dynamics and fostering deeper emotional connections.
I specialize in helping individuals struggling with low self-esteem, with a focus on building their confidence and self-worth. I support young adults as they navigate complex relationships and work towards nurturing healthier, more fulfilling connections. For those who have difficulty communicating their emotions and understanding their feelings, my goal is to guide them in developing better emotional awareness and interpersonal skills.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I work with you to enhance your emotional awareness and improve your relationships by addressing underlying attachment dynamics and fostering deeper emotional connections.
I specialize in helping individuals struggling with low self-esteem, with a focus on building their confidence and self-worth. I support young adults as they navigate complex relationships and work towards nurturing healthier, more fulfilling connections. For those who have difficulty communicating their emotions and understanding their feelings, my goal is to guide them in developing better emotional awareness and interpersonal skills.
(629) 276-6741 View (629) 276-6741
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Taylor Eades
Pre-Licensed Professional, LPC, MHSP(T), NCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
To help give you the tools needed, I work as an integrative therapist and incorporate several different therapy modalities such as IFS, CBT, DBT, EFT, Attachment-Focused, and Somatic Focused depending on one's unique needs and personal story.
Starting the therapeutic journey can sometimes feel overwhelming. I am here to hopefully make the process feel as easy as possible and to meet you wherever you are finding yourself. I have experience working with teenagers as young as 15, to adults in their late 70s. My specialties include working with trauma, grief, anxiety, depression, chronic health issues and I have experience working with those who have a TBI. Together we can step towards identifying how your own unique story has impacted you, and work to give you the tools that you need in order to accomplish your goals.
To help give you the tools needed, I work as an integrative therapist and incorporate several different therapy modalities such as IFS, CBT, DBT, EFT, Attachment-Focused, and Somatic Focused depending on one's unique needs and personal story.
Starting the therapeutic journey can sometimes feel overwhelming. I am here to hopefully make the process feel as easy as possible and to meet you wherever you are finding yourself. I have experience working with teenagers as young as 15, to adults in their late 70s. My specialties include working with trauma, grief, anxiety, depression, chronic health issues and I have experience working with those who have a TBI. Together we can step towards identifying how your own unique story has impacted you, and work to give you the tools that you need in order to accomplish your goals.
(615) 488-3573 View (615) 488-3573
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Steve Stride
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
My ideal client would be a marital couple that is struggling to work through reoccurring problems in the relationship due to poor communication patterns. They desperately seek strategies to help them resolve issues in the relationship that have surfaced over and over again throughout marriage. I offer them Emotionally Focused Therapy and use enactments to structure interaction patterns. Specifically coaching them on how to stay engaged through eye contact and hand holding during enactments
My ideal client would be a marital couple that is struggling to work through reoccurring problems in the relationship due to poor communication patterns. They desperately seek strategies to help them resolve issues in the relationship that have surfaced over and over again throughout marriage. I offer them Emotionally Focused Therapy and use enactments to structure interaction patterns. Specifically coaching them on how to stay engaged through eye contact and hand holding during enactments
(629) 205-0668 View (629) 205-0668
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Marvin L. Wilkerson Ch. Ci. Cm.nlp
CH, CI, CMNLP
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
I offer cutting-edge techniques and modalities, including Hypnotherapy, energy Psychodynamics, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, EFT, and many others.
Hi, Marvin Wilkerson, Consulting & Medical Hypnotist, Master NLP & Esoteric Psychology. I help clients with mental and physical issues causing conflicts in the body & mind. Beliefs from programming, past experiences, can cause undesirable consequences such as anxieties, depression, psychosomatic disorders, habits, illness along with many other discomforts. I work with pain management, confidence, and self-esteem. Through my work, I help you discover your doctor within, the only true path to healing soul/mind/body. As my slogan attests, “A true healer finds joy in each client’s recovery.”® Don’t you deserve a life-change today?
I offer cutting-edge techniques and modalities, including Hypnotherapy, energy Psychodynamics, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, EFT, and many others.
Hi, Marvin Wilkerson, Consulting & Medical Hypnotist, Master NLP & Esoteric Psychology. I help clients with mental and physical issues causing conflicts in the body & mind. Beliefs from programming, past experiences, can cause undesirable consequences such as anxieties, depression, psychosomatic disorders, habits, illness along with many other discomforts. I work with pain management, confidence, and self-esteem. Through my work, I help you discover your doctor within, the only true path to healing soul/mind/body. As my slogan attests, “A true healer finds joy in each client’s recovery.”® Don’t you deserve a life-change today?
(615) 645-1602 View (615) 645-1602
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Brian D Haworth
Psychologist, PsyD, HSP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
Brian D. Haworth, Psy.D., is a licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 20 years of experience working with teens, couples, and adults who are feeling stuck in their lives. Whether through therapy, psychological assessment, or a mix of the two, Brian is ready to help you achieve greater health and sense of purpose.
Brian D. Haworth, Psy.D., is a licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 20 years of experience working with teens, couples, and adults who are feeling stuck in their lives. Whether through therapy, psychological assessment, or a mix of the two, Brian is ready to help you achieve greater health and sense of purpose.
(615) 861-2222 View (615) 861-2222
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Eric Bottoms
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPCMHSP, EFT, EMDR, CSAT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
EFT, EMDR, Somatic, CSAT, and Attachment theory guide my work.
Do you struggle with sex getting more daily attention than your closest relationships? Maybe a previous infidelity or betrayal continues to plague the relationship? Many of my clients struggle to make sense of emotions, but long to feel safe and connected to friends and family. Despite our best protective strategies, emotional experiences will not be ignored. Over a lifespan, adaptive protective strategies of the past become our prisons. Mal-adaptive in the present, old and helpful strategies of the past form the barriers to trusting safe and connected relationships we all desperately desire.
EFT, EMDR, Somatic, CSAT, and Attachment theory guide my work.
Do you struggle with sex getting more daily attention than your closest relationships? Maybe a previous infidelity or betrayal continues to plague the relationship? Many of my clients struggle to make sense of emotions, but long to feel safe and connected to friends and family. Despite our best protective strategies, emotional experiences will not be ignored. Over a lifespan, adaptive protective strategies of the past become our prisons. Mal-adaptive in the present, old and helpful strategies of the past form the barriers to trusting safe and connected relationships we all desperately desire.
(615) 258-6124 View (615) 258-6124
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Amanda-Jo Serrano Serrano
Licensed Professional Counselor, MEd, LPC, MHSP(T)
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
My approach integrates EFT, EMDR, inner child work, and CBT/Mindfulness techniques to support your healing and growth.
Are you facing relationship challenges, going through a difficult life transition, or feeling trapped in patterns that no longer serve you? Do you long for a life where you feel confident, empowered, and truly thriving in your relationships? If this resonates with you, you're in the right place. I’m Amanda-Jo, a compassionate therapist dedicated to helping individuals like you break free from obstacles and start living the life they deserve. My goal is to guide you toward a future defined not by your past, but by your dreams and potential. Let’s start this journey together
My approach integrates EFT, EMDR, inner child work, and CBT/Mindfulness techniques to support your healing and growth.
Are you facing relationship challenges, going through a difficult life transition, or feeling trapped in patterns that no longer serve you? Do you long for a life where you feel confident, empowered, and truly thriving in your relationships? If this resonates with you, you're in the right place. I’m Amanda-Jo, a compassionate therapist dedicated to helping individuals like you break free from obstacles and start living the life they deserve. My goal is to guide you toward a future defined not by your past, but by your dreams and potential. Let’s start this journey together
(629) 265-1957 View (629) 265-1957
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Katherine Ladshaw
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
I specialize in navigating women’s issues, and work from an attachment-based and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) lens, with a holistic approach, emphasizing integration of mind, body and spirituality.
In therapy, we work together to uncover and understand the impact of your journey on the way you view yourself, the world and your spirituality. We all need space and support to grow into the best version of ourselves and I have found that therapy can offer invaluable tools and insight for that growth. I believe that we have each been given the strength to overcome our stories and live fulfilling lives that reflect our values. I am passionate about working with individuals experiencing anxiety and depression, those navigating addiction, those affected by the addictions of loved ones, and those seeking healing from trauma.
I specialize in navigating women’s issues, and work from an attachment-based and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) lens, with a holistic approach, emphasizing integration of mind, body and spirituality.
In therapy, we work together to uncover and understand the impact of your journey on the way you view yourself, the world and your spirituality. We all need space and support to grow into the best version of ourselves and I have found that therapy can offer invaluable tools and insight for that growth. I believe that we have each been given the strength to overcome our stories and live fulfilling lives that reflect our values. I am passionate about working with individuals experiencing anxiety and depression, those navigating addiction, those affected by the addictions of loved ones, and those seeking healing from trauma.
(629) 258-7840 View (629) 258-7840
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Cameron Presson
Pre-Licensed Professional, MMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
Utilizing a blend of Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Narrative Therapy, and Brainspotting, I work with individual clients ages 13+, as well as couples.
Life does the best it can to squeeze out every ounce of resilience we have in us. What do you do when you’ve come to the end of yourself? We aren’t wired to face the hurt, fear, and loneliness of life alone.
Utilizing a blend of Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Narrative Therapy, and Brainspotting, I work with individual clients ages 13+, as well as couples.
Life does the best it can to squeeze out every ounce of resilience we have in us. What do you do when you’ve come to the end of yourself? We aren’t wired to face the hurt, fear, and loneliness of life alone.
(629) 468-2926 View (629) 468-2926
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Rachel Hyland
Pre-Licensed Professional, LPC, MHSP, NCC, (temp)
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
” I have completed training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) and help individuals address their dysfunctional coping patterns and develop healthier attachments.
Sometimes life doesn’t go the way you wanted it to. The gap between your expectations and your reality can be profoundly disappointing. At the core of it is loss — the loss of a dream, the loss of time, loss of faith, the loss of the version of yourself you had hoped to be. I endeavor to help men and women process their disappointment, losses, and painful experiences and help them restore a sense of hope for their future.
” I have completed training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) and help individuals address their dysfunctional coping patterns and develop healthier attachments.
Sometimes life doesn’t go the way you wanted it to. The gap between your expectations and your reality can be profoundly disappointing. At the core of it is loss — the loss of a dream, the loss of time, loss of faith, the loss of the version of yourself you had hoped to be. I endeavor to help men and women process their disappointment, losses, and painful experiences and help them restore a sense of hope for their future.
(629) 276-5139 View (629) 276-5139
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Sara M Root
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
I have completed an Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy which I use with couples and individuals.
I AM ONLY ACCEPTING INDIVIDUAL CLIENTS AT THIS TIME! I accept AETNA and CIGNA/EVERNORTH. I have a unique ability to understand different perspectives, which is valuable in working with couples or individuals. I see people through the lens of attachment. One of my strengths is connecting with people, with humor and kindness. My areas of interest are: couples in conflict, anxiety/depression, life transitions and feeling stuck. I offer both in-person and telehealth sessions. I want to help you be better! In a world where norms are changing, I aim to be curious and open to all couples/individuals. Please click on the website link!
I have completed an Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy which I use with couples and individuals.
I AM ONLY ACCEPTING INDIVIDUAL CLIENTS AT THIS TIME! I accept AETNA and CIGNA/EVERNORTH. I have a unique ability to understand different perspectives, which is valuable in working with couples or individuals. I see people through the lens of attachment. One of my strengths is connecting with people, with humor and kindness. My areas of interest are: couples in conflict, anxiety/depression, life transitions and feeling stuck. I offer both in-person and telehealth sessions. I want to help you be better! In a world where norms are changing, I aim to be curious and open to all couples/individuals. Please click on the website link!
(615) 323-5724 View (615) 323-5724
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Joe McNulty
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
I have received extensive training in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy to help couples develop intimate connection, communicate effectively, and live passionately together.
Informed by attachment theory and IFS, I incorporate effective counseling models to work with couples, families, and individuals. My passion is to help people recover their hearts so they can be who they are made to be and do what they are made to do.
I have received extensive training in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy to help couples develop intimate connection, communicate effectively, and live passionately together.
Informed by attachment theory and IFS, I incorporate effective counseling models to work with couples, families, and individuals. My passion is to help people recover their hearts so they can be who they are made to be and do what they are made to do.
(615) 645-2177 View (615) 645-2177
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Taylor Borck Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapist, MMFT
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
With specialized training in AS and individuals with ADHD, I utilize several modalities including an attachment-based approach in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT and EFIT), Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), CBT, Narrative, and Experiential therapies.
I work with neurodivergent teens and adults (Autism and ADHD) as well was a wide range of clients who have experienced trauma, issues in their family dynamic, communication, peer groups, self-esteem, and relationships. I am most passionate about working with individuals as they explore the deep parts of themselves and uncover new insights. Many of my clients work to improve relationships, gain tools and strategies for day to day struggles, and explore, process, and find healing from past traumas and old wounds.
With specialized training in AS and individuals with ADHD, I utilize several modalities including an attachment-based approach in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT and EFIT), Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), CBT, Narrative, and Experiential therapies.
I work with neurodivergent teens and adults (Autism and ADHD) as well was a wide range of clients who have experienced trauma, issues in their family dynamic, communication, peer groups, self-esteem, and relationships. I am most passionate about working with individuals as they explore the deep parts of themselves and uncover new insights. Many of my clients work to improve relationships, gain tools and strategies for day to day struggles, and explore, process, and find healing from past traumas and old wounds.
(629) 217-0765 View (629) 217-0765
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Hopesmith Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
I use attachment-based experiential therapy for couples and individuals and am trained in Emotional Focused Therapy ( EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Is your life or relationship stuck? Are you ready to make a change? Is there a better version of yourself out there someplace that you l eft behind or maybe that you have never even met before? If you are ready to make a change or just ready to make sense of your story then lets work together!
I use attachment-based experiential therapy for couples and individuals and am trained in Emotional Focused Therapy ( EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Is your life or relationship stuck? Are you ready to make a change? Is there a better version of yourself out there someplace that you l eft behind or maybe that you have never even met before? If you are ready to make a change or just ready to make sense of your story then lets work together!
(615) 685-6710 View (615) 685-6710
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Barbara Wyer
Marriage & Family Therapist, MMFT, LMFT, EMDR
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37027
I'm an EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist, and have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
It’s a privilege to be invited into your life. Realizing it takes courage to reach out and schedule a first appointment, I'm committed to creating a soft place for you to land each time we meet, a place where you feel seen through a lens of non-judgment and compassion, a place where hope lives. And if life has gotten too messy for you to believe any longer, then let me hold hope for you until you can.
I'm an EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist, and have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
It’s a privilege to be invited into your life. Realizing it takes courage to reach out and schedule a first appointment, I'm committed to creating a soft place for you to land each time we meet, a place where you feel seen through a lens of non-judgment and compassion, a place where hope lives. And if life has gotten too messy for you to believe any longer, then let me hold hope for you until you can.
(615) 789-8058 View (615) 789-8058
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Karin Bronleewe
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
With a foundation of Emotionally Focused Therapy, I love to work with couples (dating, premarital and married) as well as individual women toward a deeper level of safe connection with self and others.
Longing for a safe, secure connection in your most important relationships? Feeling discouraged or stuck in unsatisfying patterns? Struggling with stress or anxiety in your life? Bring whatever you are facing and we can work toward wholeness and healing together.
With a foundation of Emotionally Focused Therapy, I love to work with couples (dating, premarital and married) as well as individual women toward a deeper level of safe connection with self and others.
Longing for a safe, secure connection in your most important relationships? Feeling discouraged or stuck in unsatisfying patterns? Struggling with stress or anxiety in your life? Bring whatever you are facing and we can work toward wholeness and healing together.
(629) 302-2051 View (629) 302-2051
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C. Keith Tenpenny
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA, MDiv
Verified Verified
Brentwood, TN 37027
Waitlist for new clients
Other trainings include EMDR, PREPARE/ENRICH, EFT ( Emotionally Focused Therapy), Experiential, Internal Family Systems, and Psychodrama.
"I need something to change" is a great place to start. Counseling can be a place to facilitate this change. You may find that you are speaking one language while your spouse is speaking another. You can learn how to have a common language and corrective experiences that draw you closer together instead of further apart. Many of your wounds occurred in relationships, thus it is in relationships where they can be restored. I have served individuals and couples in a helping profession for nearly 30 years. You can find practical solutions as well as deep soul and relational change. Though not easy, real change is possible.
Other trainings include EMDR, PREPARE/ENRICH, EFT ( Emotionally Focused Therapy), Experiential, Internal Family Systems, and Psychodrama.
"I need something to change" is a great place to start. Counseling can be a place to facilitate this change. You may find that you are speaking one language while your spouse is speaking another. You can learn how to have a common language and corrective experiences that draw you closer together instead of further apart. Many of your wounds occurred in relationships, thus it is in relationships where they can be restored. I have served individuals and couples in a helping profession for nearly 30 years. You can find practical solutions as well as deep soul and relational change. Though not easy, real change is possible.
(615) 257-2284 View (615) 257-2284
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Andy Smith
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Brentwood, TN 37024
I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist who helps struggling creative professionals find hope.
You feel tired, overwhelmed and you wish you could shake that feeling of dread that keeps following you around. Your passions feel distant and hidden from you. You feel like everyone else has it figured out better than you and you keep catching yourself beating yourself up over it. It feels like nothing you do is good enough and you are constantly trying to keep up. You thought it would be different by now and you feel like it's your fault. You find yourself trying to numb the pain but deep down you know it's not helping. Something has to change.
I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist who helps struggling creative professionals find hope.
You feel tired, overwhelmed and you wish you could shake that feeling of dread that keeps following you around. Your passions feel distant and hidden from you. You feel like everyone else has it figured out better than you and you keep catching yourself beating yourself up over it. It feels like nothing you do is good enough and you are constantly trying to keep up. You thought it would be different by now and you feel like it's your fault. You find yourself trying to numb the pain but deep down you know it's not helping. Something has to change.
(615) 488-4320 View (615) 488-4320
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.