Borderline Personality (BPD) Therapists in Villanova, PA

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Sara Weand
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, NCC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Villanova, PA 19085  (Online Only)
As a Licensed Professional Counselor & DBT therapist, I specialize in the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder, debilitating anxiety & panic.
Your relationships are falling apart, you’re anxious all of the time, and your life has become an out-of-control mess. You wonder why relationships have to be so hard and cause you so much pain. People just don’t get it. They don’t get that when you’re hurt, your emotions take over and consume you. You’d literally do anything to not feel that way. In fact, when you have, you ended up feeling even worse and pushing those very same people away. You’re so desperate for people’s approval and terrified that if they ever found out what you’re really like, they wouldn’t want you anymore.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor & DBT therapist, I specialize in the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder, debilitating anxiety & panic.
Your relationships are falling apart, you’re anxious all of the time, and your life has become an out-of-control mess. You wonder why relationships have to be so hard and cause you so much pain. People just don’t get it. They don’t get that when you’re hurt, your emotions take over and consume you. You’d literally do anything to not feel that way. In fact, when you have, you ended up feeling even worse and pushing those very same people away. You’re so desperate for people’s approval and terrified that if they ever found out what you’re really like, they wouldn’t want you anymore.
(717) 899-8116 View (717) 899-8116
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Paula Durlofsky
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Villanova, PA 19085
Welcome to my practice! My practice has a focus on psychological issues affecting individuals, couples, and families. I use a combination of psychoanalytic, psychodynamic and dialectical behavioral therapies. Psychoanalytic-psychodynamic therapy strives for personal growth through insight-oriented approaches. Dialectical behavioral therapies examine thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and the relationships and patterns between them. Additionally, I am the Co-Director of the Psychoanalytic-Psychotherapy Certification Program at the Psychoanalytic Center of Philadelphia.
Welcome to my practice! My practice has a focus on psychological issues affecting individuals, couples, and families. I use a combination of psychoanalytic, psychodynamic and dialectical behavioral therapies. Psychoanalytic-psychodynamic therapy strives for personal growth through insight-oriented approaches. Dialectical behavioral therapies examine thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and the relationships and patterns between them. Additionally, I am the Co-Director of the Psychoanalytic-Psychotherapy Certification Program at the Psychoanalytic Center of Philadelphia.
(610) 527-1107 View (610) 527-1107
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Lauren Levy
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, NCC
Verified Verified
Villanova, PA 19085
Are you facing overwhelming emotions or struggling to navigate healthy and stable relationships, especially during your teenage and young adult years, or as a member of the queer and trans community? As a parent, are you tired of feeling like you're walking on eggshells with your child, teen or young adult? Are you unsure if they will ever be ok again or feeling uncertain about how to support them? At Daisy + Co. Therapy, we've got you covered. We specialize in helping kids, teenagers, young adults, and their parents reconnect with themselves, each other, and gain the coping skills they need to reach their full potential, together.
Are you facing overwhelming emotions or struggling to navigate healthy and stable relationships, especially during your teenage and young adult years, or as a member of the queer and trans community? As a parent, are you tired of feeling like you're walking on eggshells with your child, teen or young adult? Are you unsure if they will ever be ok again or feeling uncertain about how to support them? At Daisy + Co. Therapy, we've got you covered. We specialize in helping kids, teenagers, young adults, and their parents reconnect with themselves, each other, and gain the coping skills they need to reach their full potential, together.
(484) 559-6774 View (484) 559-6774
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Complete Mind Care of PA
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
Villanova, PA 19085
My approach to treating is… working off a strength-based philosophy. I look for internal resources and personal strengths that can be pulled from the patient in order to help create empowerment and self-compassion. My approaches are largely emotion centered and relational. I identify individual strengths/areas of resource, challenge disruptive patterns/thought processes, and help replace with skills that acknowledge the rooted pain, while at the same time, encourage stepping outside areas of comfort. I also include sessions for self-exploration, to help clients better understand the whys and how’s of their own internal processes
My approach to treating is… working off a strength-based philosophy. I look for internal resources and personal strengths that can be pulled from the patient in order to help create empowerment and self-compassion. My approaches are largely emotion centered and relational. I identify individual strengths/areas of resource, challenge disruptive patterns/thought processes, and help replace with skills that acknowledge the rooted pain, while at the same time, encourage stepping outside areas of comfort. I also include sessions for self-exploration, to help clients better understand the whys and how’s of their own internal processes
(215) 509-5430 View (215) 509-5430
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Andrea Serber
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSS, LCSW, QCSW
Verified Verified
Villanova, PA 19085
It is my belief that everyone has suffered from a mood disturbance at one time in their life. What makes for different diagnosis is the intensity of the mood change and the duration. I believe we fuel our mood by our own cognitions and unhealthy habits and coping skills. My style is extremely interactive and direct, insuring results early on in the treatment process. When possible, I try treatment without medications, however there are chemical imbalances which must be treated via a Psychiatrist (for medications) and a psychotherapist for the psychoeducational piece,(talk therapy).I maintain relationships with area psychiatrists.
It is my belief that everyone has suffered from a mood disturbance at one time in their life. What makes for different diagnosis is the intensity of the mood change and the duration. I believe we fuel our mood by our own cognitions and unhealthy habits and coping skills. My style is extremely interactive and direct, insuring results early on in the treatment process. When possible, I try treatment without medications, however there are chemical imbalances which must be treated via a Psychiatrist (for medications) and a psychotherapist for the psychoeducational piece,(talk therapy).I maintain relationships with area psychiatrists.
(484) 546-4538 View (484) 546-4538
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Elana Gotfried
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Villanova, PA 19085
I am a licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in the treatment of trauma, addiction, depression, grief/loss, and emotional dysregulation. When your coping mechanisms are no longer sufficient, and you're feeling overwhelmed, unhappy, anxious, or disconnected, therapy is an opportunity to learn how to increase your ability to manage life's demands, improve your quality of life, and achieve the change you are looking for. Therapy will begin with a conversation about your hopes for our work. Together we will deepen our understanding of your concerns, and establish new ways of feeling and being in the world.
I am a licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in the treatment of trauma, addiction, depression, grief/loss, and emotional dysregulation. When your coping mechanisms are no longer sufficient, and you're feeling overwhelmed, unhappy, anxious, or disconnected, therapy is an opportunity to learn how to increase your ability to manage life's demands, improve your quality of life, and achieve the change you are looking for. Therapy will begin with a conversation about your hopes for our work. Together we will deepen our understanding of your concerns, and establish new ways of feeling and being in the world.
(484) 380-9191 View (484) 380-9191
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Makin Wellness | Online Therapy & Counseling
Licensed Professional Counselor, MSEd, LPC, NCC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Villanova, PA 19085  (Online Only)
We are welcoming new clients now & can help schedule your first session within a few business days with one of our expert providers at Makin Wellness! Do you worry all the time? Is it hard for you to turn your thoughts off? Would you like to enjoy the present moment, but feel like it's impossible because you are so focused on the future or past? So many people live their lives filled with negative thoughts, traumas & depression that eventually affect their work, relationships, and even health. They are unsure of how to let go of their troublesome thoughts or have tried things that made their problems even worse.
We are welcoming new clients now & can help schedule your first session within a few business days with one of our expert providers at Makin Wellness! Do you worry all the time? Is it hard for you to turn your thoughts off? Would you like to enjoy the present moment, but feel like it's impossible because you are so focused on the future or past? So many people live their lives filled with negative thoughts, traumas & depression that eventually affect their work, relationships, and even health. They are unsure of how to let go of their troublesome thoughts or have tried things that made their problems even worse.
(412) 866-2926 View (412) 866-2926
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Brian D Barber
Psychologist, PsyD, LPC, MDiv
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Villanova, PA 19085
You want more and deserve better. For many adults and youngsters, feelings of anxiety and depression leave you feeling like you are just getting by. Meeting in person, talking about your thoughts, feelings, and concerns within a safe therapeutic relationship, we can work together to help you become unstuck and rebuild a life with purpose and meaning. For some, this may include processing painful emotions, grieving losses, navigating difficult relationships, or changing self-defeating patterns. Therapy is hard work and by reading this page, you’ve already shown you’re curious to learn more about yourself and are motivated to change.
You want more and deserve better. For many adults and youngsters, feelings of anxiety and depression leave you feeling like you are just getting by. Meeting in person, talking about your thoughts, feelings, and concerns within a safe therapeutic relationship, we can work together to help you become unstuck and rebuild a life with purpose and meaning. For some, this may include processing painful emotions, grieving losses, navigating difficult relationships, or changing self-defeating patterns. Therapy is hard work and by reading this page, you’ve already shown you’re curious to learn more about yourself and are motivated to change.
(484) 214-2653 View (484) 214-2653
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Marta W Ludwig
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, MA
Verified Verified
Villanova, PA 19085
I am best suited for clients who want liberation/transformation as opposed to symptom management. I specialize in deep relational treatment. I help people reach a state of self-love and acceptance. I am a trans-affirming therapist.
I am best suited for clients who want liberation/transformation as opposed to symptom management. I specialize in deep relational treatment. I help people reach a state of self-love and acceptance. I am a trans-affirming therapist.
(610) 379-3049 View (610) 379-3049
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Danielle DiOrio
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Villanova, PA 19085
I am a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT) who believes in personalized and holistic care. My experience includes treating a variety of issues such as: depression, anxiety, behavioral disorders, relational problems, relationship difficulties, bipolar disorder, trauma, psychosis, substance abuse, as well as adjustment to phase of life dynamics, and issues affecting blended families. I specialize in the treatment of adolescents, young adults, individuals and families and have provided clinical direction for several residential and intensive outpatient treatment programs.
I am a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT) who believes in personalized and holistic care. My experience includes treating a variety of issues such as: depression, anxiety, behavioral disorders, relational problems, relationship difficulties, bipolar disorder, trauma, psychosis, substance abuse, as well as adjustment to phase of life dynamics, and issues affecting blended families. I specialize in the treatment of adolescents, young adults, individuals and families and have provided clinical direction for several residential and intensive outpatient treatment programs.
(610) 624-8354 View (610) 624-8354
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Salome Saah, MS.
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Villanova, PA 19085  (Online Only)
Feeling numb and disconnected from your emotions? As a high-responsibility leader and caregiver, you juggle demanding roles and personal duties, often feeling overwhelmed. You need strategies to reconnect with and manage your feelings, to experience joy, fulfillment, and a sense of presence. Imagine feeling emotionally connected and truly present in your life. Our therapy sessions offer the tools and support to help you reach the root cause of the matter and achieve these goals, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life. Reclaim your emotional well-being and start living fully again. Let me help you find your way back to joy.
Feeling numb and disconnected from your emotions? As a high-responsibility leader and caregiver, you juggle demanding roles and personal duties, often feeling overwhelmed. You need strategies to reconnect with and manage your feelings, to experience joy, fulfillment, and a sense of presence. Imagine feeling emotionally connected and truly present in your life. Our therapy sessions offer the tools and support to help you reach the root cause of the matter and achieve these goals, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life. Reclaim your emotional well-being and start living fully again. Let me help you find your way back to joy.
(267) 489-2785 View (267) 489-2785
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Jillian Altomare-Breuninger
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Villanova, PA 19085  (Online Only)
Having a difficult time coping with stressors? Lashing out on people you love most? Losing interest in things you once enjoyed? I am here to help! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, working primarily with children (ages 6-10), adolescents (ages 11-18), and young adults. I received my master's degree in counseling from Arcadia University in 2016, with a concentration in Child and Family Therapy. I work with individuals suffering from anxiety & panic, depression, personality disorders, adjustment disorders, coping difficulties, ADHD, and family issues.
Having a difficult time coping with stressors? Lashing out on people you love most? Losing interest in things you once enjoyed? I am here to help! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, working primarily with children (ages 6-10), adolescents (ages 11-18), and young adults. I received my master's degree in counseling from Arcadia University in 2016, with a concentration in Child and Family Therapy. I work with individuals suffering from anxiety & panic, depression, personality disorders, adjustment disorders, coping difficulties, ADHD, and family issues.
(484) 401-7392 View (484) 401-7392
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Kim Wright
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Villanova, PA 19085  (Online Only)
Feeling isolated/overwhelmed/stuck/misunderstood? I get it! You don't have to feel so alone. My primary focus is on assisting Individuals/Couples grappling with challenges such as anxiety, depression, sexuality issues, relationship dynamics, and more. So, why me? Because I think outside the typical therapy "box." Each session is crafted to cater to YOUR distinct needs, merging classic therapeutic methodologies with elements from life coaching. Sessions rooted in a Sex+Approach. My motto: Empowerment through the Journey of Self-Exploration & Living a Life that’s Authentically Satisfying! Regain mastery of your life's direction!
Feeling isolated/overwhelmed/stuck/misunderstood? I get it! You don't have to feel so alone. My primary focus is on assisting Individuals/Couples grappling with challenges such as anxiety, depression, sexuality issues, relationship dynamics, and more. So, why me? Because I think outside the typical therapy "box." Each session is crafted to cater to YOUR distinct needs, merging classic therapeutic methodologies with elements from life coaching. Sessions rooted in a Sex+Approach. My motto: Empowerment through the Journey of Self-Exploration & Living a Life that’s Authentically Satisfying! Regain mastery of your life's direction!
(267) 341-9858 View (267) 341-9858

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Dawn Amey
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, BCBA
Verified Verified
Bryn Mawr, PA 19010
I enjoy working w/ individuals (&/or their loved ones) whom identify as emotionally sensitive, define own self worth by external factors, &/or relate to symptoms associated Borderline Personality Disorder.
My practice focuses on helping preteens, teens, and young adults and/or their families feel better via individual and group treatment. Seeking help and accepting guidance can be the first steps toward creating the life you want and deserve.
I enjoy working w/ individuals (&/or their loved ones) whom identify as emotionally sensitive, define own self worth by external factors, &/or relate to symptoms associated Borderline Personality Disorder.
My practice focuses on helping preteens, teens, and young adults and/or their families feel better via individual and group treatment. Seeking help and accepting guidance can be the first steps toward creating the life you want and deserve.
(302) 360-8086 View (302) 360-8086
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Amanda Viner
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bryn Mawr, PA 19010  (Online Only)
Do you want to live a more meaningful and fulfilling life? Are you struggling with depression, anxiety, emotion regulation, or relationship issues and are not sure where to turn? Whether you have suffered long-term with mental health issues or are looking for support to help you through a particularly difficult time, I am here to help. I work with adults across the lifespan. My specialities include anxiety/OCD, mood disorders, chronic illness, relationship issues, borderline personality disorder, and healing from narcissistic abuse. Given my training experience, I also have a niche area of working with medical professionals.
Do you want to live a more meaningful and fulfilling life? Are you struggling with depression, anxiety, emotion regulation, or relationship issues and are not sure where to turn? Whether you have suffered long-term with mental health issues or are looking for support to help you through a particularly difficult time, I am here to help. I work with adults across the lifespan. My specialities include anxiety/OCD, mood disorders, chronic illness, relationship issues, borderline personality disorder, and healing from narcissistic abuse. Given my training experience, I also have a niche area of working with medical professionals.
(610) 600-6825 View (610) 600-6825
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Meg Costa
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Wayne, PA 19087
My clinical experience includes trauma, depression, anxiety, OCD, grief/loss, existential concerns, BPD, and mood disorders.
My approach to therapy is client-centered, humanistic, integrative, narrative, and trauma-informed. Together, we can work to uncover and retell the narratives of your life. We will in no way dismiss the hardships you have faced, rather, we can honor these experiences through thoughtful reflection. Through this process, we can also collaborate to cultivate more balance, purpose, passion, and growth in your life. I also strive to always acknowledge how systemic oppression can affect my clients lives. Therapy is absolutely a space where one should feel comfortable processing the impact of oppression.
My clinical experience includes trauma, depression, anxiety, OCD, grief/loss, existential concerns, BPD, and mood disorders.
My approach to therapy is client-centered, humanistic, integrative, narrative, and trauma-informed. Together, we can work to uncover and retell the narratives of your life. We will in no way dismiss the hardships you have faced, rather, we can honor these experiences through thoughtful reflection. Through this process, we can also collaborate to cultivate more balance, purpose, passion, and growth in your life. I also strive to always acknowledge how systemic oppression can affect my clients lives. Therapy is absolutely a space where one should feel comfortable processing the impact of oppression.
(267) 863-4956 View (267) 863-4956
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Antonietta Delli Carpini
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, RDT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Wayne, PA 19087
I specialize in Trauma treatment for adults, children, adolescents, couples and families. Trauma affects all areas of one's life in pervasive and sometimes unexpected ways. I enjoy helping people identify how past events continue to play a part in current patterns, and to work on new and healthy ways of responding to stressors. Other specializations include treating victims of childhood sexual abuse, Dissociative Identity Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. I enjoy working with LGBTQIA+ individuals, children, adolescents, and couples, and working with families to better understand and support their LGBTQIA+ loved ones.
I specialize in Trauma treatment for adults, children, adolescents, couples and families. Trauma affects all areas of one's life in pervasive and sometimes unexpected ways. I enjoy helping people identify how past events continue to play a part in current patterns, and to work on new and healthy ways of responding to stressors. Other specializations include treating victims of childhood sexual abuse, Dissociative Identity Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. I enjoy working with LGBTQIA+ individuals, children, adolescents, and couples, and working with families to better understand and support their LGBTQIA+ loved ones.
(267) 399-4740 View (267) 399-4740
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Carroll-Ratliff Counseling Services
Licensed Professional Counselor, EdS, LPC, NCC, ACS
Verified Verified
Wayne, PA 19087
Hello, I'm Hattie. I am a Licensed Counselor and founder of Carroll-Ratliff Counseling services. This is a small practice with trained therapists. We see diverse populations of all ages. We use an out of the box approach and believe that positive change is possible for everyone. We are focused on supporting you in your journey of creating a happier life & healthy habits. Some common areas of our practice are: depression, anxiety, Autism, ADHD, trauma, BPD, children's issues, and parenting/family issues. We use evidence based practices such as mindfulness, CBT, ACT, social skills, parent training, & executive functioning skills
Hello, I'm Hattie. I am a Licensed Counselor and founder of Carroll-Ratliff Counseling services. This is a small practice with trained therapists. We see diverse populations of all ages. We use an out of the box approach and believe that positive change is possible for everyone. We are focused on supporting you in your journey of creating a happier life & healthy habits. Some common areas of our practice are: depression, anxiety, Autism, ADHD, trauma, BPD, children's issues, and parenting/family issues. We use evidence based practices such as mindfulness, CBT, ACT, social skills, parent training, & executive functioning skills
(484) 669-8548 View (484) 669-8548
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Shawn Beckowski
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bryn Mawr, PA 19010
Change can be really, really hard. We can get so stuck in routines and behaviors that prove to be ineffective for us, yet it can be hard to recognize on our own. Therapy is useful in that it allows us to look inward while considering what change is necessary to have a more purposeful, satisfying life.
Change can be really, really hard. We can get so stuck in routines and behaviors that prove to be ineffective for us, yet it can be hard to recognize on our own. Therapy is useful in that it allows us to look inward while considering what change is necessary to have a more purposeful, satisfying life.
(610) 983-8957 View (610) 983-8957
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Amanda Dalton
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bryn Mawr, PA 19010
Do you find yourself struggling to regulate your emotions, communicate effectively, and express yourself assertively? Have you experienced a traumatic event that left you feeling hopeless, angry, disconnected, and isolated? Do you worry or ruminate to the point where you find it difficult to be present in your life?
Do you find yourself struggling to regulate your emotions, communicate effectively, and express yourself assertively? Have you experienced a traumatic event that left you feeling hopeless, angry, disconnected, and isolated? Do you worry or ruminate to the point where you find it difficult to be present in your life?
(215) 883-8131 View (215) 883-8131

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Borderline Personality (BPD) Therapists

What is the most successful approach to treating borderline personality disorder?

Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is considered the gold standard of treatment for borderline personality disorder. An evidence-based treatment, it addresses the extreme emotional reactivity, the relationship difficulties, and the acts of self-harm that create so much distress for BPD patients. DBT is a comprehensive program that includes both regular individual psychotherapy sessions and weekly group sessions of skills training.

What happens in treatment of borderline personality disorder?

Treatment typically consists of weekly individual therapy sessions that last an hour and group skill-focused instructional sessions that may last up to two hours. Patients are typically given homework “assignments” in which they are asked to practice in their daily life the skills they acquire in therapy. Patients also keep a diary tracking their emotions and impulses as a way to know which situations are most problematic and to help them gain control over their own behavior. Difficult situations and feelings are typically reviewed in therapy sessions and more constructive solutions found.

What kinds of problems does BPD treatment help with?

DBT was initially developed to dampen the self-destructive impulses of chronically suicidal patients. It is now the treatment of choice for borderline personality disorder, a serious condition marked by extreme emotional reactivity, relationship instability, and self-injurious behaviors. Treatment of BPD helps patients tolerate the flux of emotions without acting on them, often with a specific focus on tolerating negative emotions. DBT addresses the core problems of BPD—fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, and impulsivity.

What is the goal of treatment in borderline personality disorder?

The goal of treatment for borderline personality disorder (BPD) is to relieve the extreme emotional distress that patients experience—to curb their emotional reactivity, to minimize their inclination to self-harm, and to reduce their impulsivity. Toward these ends, patients are not only taught an array of new coping skills and techniques for emotional regulation, they are given opportunities to practice them. Another major goal of treatment is interpersonal effectiveness; patients learn and problem-solve ways to effectively communicate in relationships, especially how to ask for what they need as a way to minimize hurt feelings.