Infidelity Therapists in Portland, OR
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Dr. Marisol G Westberg
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97205 (Online Only)
I am a board certified sexologist and a licensed couples therapist. I maintain a private practice with a focus on sex therapy in Portland, Oregon. I have been a therapist for 10 years. I am sex-positive and specialize in sex therapy that is inclusive of alternative relationships and erotic minorities. My areas of expertise are intimate relationships, pleasure, infidelity, sexual desire discrepancies, lack of desire, difficulties with orgasm, difficulties with erections and orgasm, pain and discomfort in sex, alternative sexualities and lifestyles, sexual abuse and violence. My approach in therapy is one that is positive, validating, and nurturing.
I am a board certified sexologist and a licensed couples therapist. I maintain a private practice with a focus on sex therapy in Portland, Oregon. I have been a therapist for 10 years. I am sex-positive and specialize in sex therapy that is inclusive of alternative relationships and erotic minorities. My areas of expertise are intimate relationships, pleasure, infidelity, sexual desire discrepancies, lack of desire, difficulties with orgasm, difficulties with erections and orgasm, pain and discomfort in sex, alternative sexualities and lifestyles, sexual abuse and violence. My approach in therapy is one that is positive, validating, and nurturing.
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Relationship Gardening
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LMFT, LPC
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97209
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Couples (any age, race, gender identity) find relief from gridlock arguments, lost connection, or painful broken trust. Walk & Talk or Zoom (CA or OR) w/Shannon Batts, marriage specialist. You want practical how-tos for deeper understanding & validation from your mate, keeping disagreements from getting all wonky, or finding your way through coming out trans? Workshops, retreats, support groups outside. Visit Relationship Gardening website for marriage help gift. Many clients also are health professionals. Black American couples' Resource Redirection available. Need fees reduced? Call or email today!
com (affairs), & Daystar Education.
Couples (any age, race, gender identity) find relief from gridlock arguments, lost connection, or painful broken trust. Walk & Talk or Zoom (CA or OR) w/Shannon Batts, marriage specialist. You want practical how-tos for deeper understanding & validation from your mate, keeping disagreements from getting all wonky, or finding your way through coming out trans? Workshops, retreats, support groups outside. Visit Relationship Gardening website for marriage help gift. Many clients also are health professionals. Black American couples' Resource Redirection available. Need fees reduced? Call or email today!
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Julie Hassler
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LPCC, LMHC
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97239 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
Our relationships can provide us feelings of connection and safety, and give our lives meaning and purpose. They can also bring us pain and disappointment. Is your relationship in trouble? I specialize with issues that can result within relationships, from premarital to divorce, as well as blended family concerns. Whether communication issues, unresolvable conflict, infidelity/affair, addiction, abuse or mental health issues have affected your connection and attunement, I can give you the tools to turn things around in the present and the techniques to provide consistent connection in the future.
Our relationships can provide us feelings of connection and safety, and give our lives meaning and purpose. They can also bring us pain and disappointment. Is your relationship in trouble? I specialize with issues that can result within relationships, from premarital to divorce, as well as blended family concerns. Whether communication issues, unresolvable conflict, infidelity/affair, addiction, abuse or mental health issues have affected your connection and attunement, I can give you the tools to turn things around in the present and the techniques to provide consistent connection in the future.
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Steven P DeLugach
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC, CSAT-S
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97240
Sexual Addictions & Trauma affects everyone in the Family. Betrayal Trauma is a natural response to secrets & lying. It must be treated as primary for the relationship to heal. Many families experience Multiple Generations of Addictions, Abuse & Neglect. Family participation is strongly encouraged but not required. Couples & Families are often in crisis from a lack of support during discovery & disclosure of Sexual Addictions. Full Disclosure is encouraged in a safe, structured process with support. Accountability is the Cornerstone of Restoring Trust & Intimacy for couples & families recovering from Sexual Addictions. Recovery from Sexual Addictions involves restoration of Healthy Sexual Balance.
Sexual Addictions & Trauma affects everyone in the Family. Betrayal Trauma is a natural response to secrets & lying. It must be treated as primary for the relationship to heal. Many families experience Multiple Generations of Addictions, Abuse & Neglect. Family participation is strongly encouraged but not required. Couples & Families are often in crisis from a lack of support during discovery & disclosure of Sexual Addictions. Full Disclosure is encouraged in a safe, structured process with support. Accountability is the Cornerstone of Restoring Trust & Intimacy for couples & families recovering from Sexual Addictions. Recovery from Sexual Addictions involves restoration of Healthy Sexual Balance.
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Aoife Einri
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, MSW, LCSW, LICSW, CST
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97201 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I’m a certified sex therapist with extensive training in infidelity, narcissistic abuse, and antagonistic relational stress. I'm passionate about helping my clients discover their authentic selves. So many of us carry around so much guilt and shame about who we are and what we need to thrive. We spend our lives trying to convince the world that we’re worthy. This makes it impossible to trust our intuition, honor our desires, and show up fully in our relationships!
I’m a certified sex therapist with extensive training in infidelity, narcissistic abuse, and antagonistic relational stress. I'm passionate about helping my clients discover their authentic selves. So many of us carry around so much guilt and shame about who we are and what we need to thrive. We spend our lives trying to convince the world that we’re worthy. This makes it impossible to trust our intuition, honor our desires, and show up fully in our relationships!
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Joleena is Certified in the Treatment of Sexual Addiction, is a Certified Betrayal Trauma Coach, a Certified Clinical Trauma and Addiction Specialist, and a Certified Functional Medicine and Trauma Specialist, with a Masters of Psychology in Grief Counseling. She specializes in helping couples working through betrayal and addiction of all kinds. She also works with clients that are struggling with anxiety, addictive behaviors, depression, PTSD, emotional abuse, mental abuse and trauma of various kinds. Her passion is to provide a safe space for her clients and to walk hand-in-hand with them, guiding them through the healing process.
Joleena is Certified in the Treatment of Sexual Addiction, is a Certified Betrayal Trauma Coach, a Certified Clinical Trauma and Addiction Specialist, and a Certified Functional Medicine and Trauma Specialist, with a Masters of Psychology in Grief Counseling. She specializes in helping couples working through betrayal and addiction of all kinds. She also works with clients that are struggling with anxiety, addictive behaviors, depression, PTSD, emotional abuse, mental abuse and trauma of various kinds. Her passion is to provide a safe space for her clients and to walk hand-in-hand with them, guiding them through the healing process.
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In relationship work, I use PACT, to help navigate struggles with communication, sex and intimacy, big life transitions, and infidelity, moving you towards a secure functioning relationship. My goal is to help you become experts in reading each other's road maps. In individual work, I address sexual trauma, low self esteem, self criticism, depression and anxiety. Using mindfulness, we will bring awareness to patterns that prevent you from reaching your goals and creating supportive, meaningful relationships. By making slight shifts in old habits, you will begin to see your inner and outer world unfold.
In relationship work, I use PACT, to help navigate struggles with communication, sex and intimacy, big life transitions, and infidelity, moving you towards a secure functioning relationship. My goal is to help you become experts in reading each other's road maps. In individual work, I address sexual trauma, low self esteem, self criticism, depression and anxiety. Using mindfulness, we will bring awareness to patterns that prevent you from reaching your goals and creating supportive, meaningful relationships. By making slight shifts in old habits, you will begin to see your inner and outer world unfold.
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Does your romantic relationship need a life line? I'll help you and your partner create lasting change in your relationship. We'll work through the rupture of disconnection, infidelity, parenting, physical intimacy and sex and get to the connection you desire. I work with individual clients on tackling the unmanageable, in their relationships with others and self. We'll explore what's kept you stuck for so long and uncover deep meaning and happiness in your relationships and in your personal story.
Does your romantic relationship need a life line? I'll help you and your partner create lasting change in your relationship. We'll work through the rupture of disconnection, infidelity, parenting, physical intimacy and sex and get to the connection you desire. I work with individual clients on tackling the unmanageable, in their relationships with others and self. We'll explore what's kept you stuck for so long and uncover deep meaning and happiness in your relationships and in your personal story.
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Rinny Newell
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97209 (Online Only)
Hi, I'm Rinny (she/they)! I am currently working with couples and non-traditional relationships on a wide range of issues including improving healthy communication, sex therapy, intimacy discrepancies, infidelity, identity exploration, systemic racism and marginalization, trauma, abuse, grief, gender affirming services, and polyamory/ENM. From my perspective, identity work is heavily relational, therefore, I bring this approach into my work as I seek to better understand who you are and who you hope to become within and outside of your relationships.
Hi, I'm Rinny (she/they)! I am currently working with couples and non-traditional relationships on a wide range of issues including improving healthy communication, sex therapy, intimacy discrepancies, infidelity, identity exploration, systemic racism and marginalization, trauma, abuse, grief, gender affirming services, and polyamory/ENM. From my perspective, identity work is heavily relational, therefore, I bring this approach into my work as I seek to better understand who you are and who you hope to become within and outside of your relationships.
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The Couples Clinic of Portland
Licensed Professional Counselor
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97209
As experts in couples therapy, we help couples learn to communicate, break negative patterns, heal betrayal, build intimacy, and create greater love and health in their relationships.
At The Couples Clinic of Portland, helping people is our passion. We get great satisfaction in helping people improve their lives and relationships. We know from personal experience how restorative and empowering good counseling can be. We are here to collaboratively help you work through whatever you are struggling with, and find your true, empowered self. We also know how difficult it is to find a therapist who has advanced training in couples counseling. As we are dedicated to keeping abreast of the most cutting edge techniques, you are certain to find help here for yourself and for your relationship.
As experts in couples therapy, we help couples learn to communicate, break negative patterns, heal betrayal, build intimacy, and create greater love and health in their relationships.
At The Couples Clinic of Portland, helping people is our passion. We get great satisfaction in helping people improve their lives and relationships. We know from personal experience how restorative and empowering good counseling can be. We are here to collaboratively help you work through whatever you are struggling with, and find your true, empowered self. We also know how difficult it is to find a therapist who has advanced training in couples counseling. As we are dedicated to keeping abreast of the most cutting edge techniques, you are certain to find help here for yourself and for your relationship.
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Meeting with a couples therapist is a big step, but a good one for improving communication, rebuilding trust and intimacy, or recovering from an infidelity.
I have been counseling individuals and couples for over 25 years, providing therapy for: rebuilding trust and intimacy, anger management, conflict resolution and recovery work around sex or porn addiction.
Meeting with a couples therapist is a big step, but a good one for improving communication, rebuilding trust and intimacy, or recovering from an infidelity.
I have been counseling individuals and couples for over 25 years, providing therapy for: rebuilding trust and intimacy, anger management, conflict resolution and recovery work around sex or porn addiction.
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Jeff Hernandez
Pre-Licensed Professional, CRC, SRC, IAC
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97210 (Online Only)
Our purpose is to help people live free from sexual addiction, heal from trauma and experience the joy of real intimacy. It takes work to make these dreams happen. It takes having a plan. That is what we provide. A proven plan and way out. We work with addicts and their spouses to get sober and heal from this disease. Whether it's pornography or other forms of infidelity we can help.
Our purpose is to help people live free from sexual addiction, heal from trauma and experience the joy of real intimacy. It takes work to make these dreams happen. It takes having a plan. That is what we provide. A proven plan and way out. We work with addicts and their spouses to get sober and heal from this disease. Whether it's pornography or other forms of infidelity we can help.
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I enjoy working with clients who feel that their minds have become unmanageable. This experience often arises from a belief that inner conflict and complexity is a problem to be solved rather than a state of affairs to be understood and befriended. Sometimes this unmanageability shows up as anxiety, where the mind dreads bad outcomes and wont allow you to enjoy your life. Other times as depression, where the mind is mired in hopelessness, despair, or resentment. Addictions of various sorts can also arise from this state of affairs, whereby we try to distract or quiet our minds through destructive patterns of behavior.
I enjoy working with clients who feel that their minds have become unmanageable. This experience often arises from a belief that inner conflict and complexity is a problem to be solved rather than a state of affairs to be understood and befriended. Sometimes this unmanageability shows up as anxiety, where the mind dreads bad outcomes and wont allow you to enjoy your life. Other times as depression, where the mind is mired in hopelessness, despair, or resentment. Addictions of various sorts can also arise from this state of affairs, whereby we try to distract or quiet our minds through destructive patterns of behavior.
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Welcome. I approach therapy as a collaborative and respectful process to help individuals, couples, and families learn new, adaptive ways to relieve emotional distress from anxiety or depression, illness, loss, grief, and trauma, therefore, becoming much more empowered and successful in their lives. In couples therapy, partners learn to manage and repair conflict, improve sexual intimacy, recover from betrayal, and enhance trust and friendship. Family therapy creates healthy patterns, routines, and behaviors to improve and heal maladaptive family dynamics and learn respectful and loving ways to communicate more successfully.
Welcome. I approach therapy as a collaborative and respectful process to help individuals, couples, and families learn new, adaptive ways to relieve emotional distress from anxiety or depression, illness, loss, grief, and trauma, therefore, becoming much more empowered and successful in their lives. In couples therapy, partners learn to manage and repair conflict, improve sexual intimacy, recover from betrayal, and enhance trust and friendship. Family therapy creates healthy patterns, routines, and behaviors to improve and heal maladaptive family dynamics and learn respectful and loving ways to communicate more successfully.
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Tony Aucoin
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCDC, CDWF-C
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97201 (Online Only)
Betrayal, shame, sexuality, mistrust, pain and loneliness affect our lives on all levels.
Reaching out for help can be terrifying especially when we're hurting. Throughout the past decade I've worked with University of Houston's Graduate College of Social Work, Menninger Clinic, The Council on Recovery and Montrose Center. I have specific interest in working with men and couples who are looking to deepen intimacy within themselves and in their relationships. As an educator and clinical supervisor, I offer guidance to students as they establish and fine-tune their love for this work. I commit myself to co-creating a therapeutic environment where safety and growth are of top priority. We are in this together.
Betrayal, shame, sexuality, mistrust, pain and loneliness affect our lives on all levels.
Reaching out for help can be terrifying especially when we're hurting. Throughout the past decade I've worked with University of Houston's Graduate College of Social Work, Menninger Clinic, The Council on Recovery and Montrose Center. I have specific interest in working with men and couples who are looking to deepen intimacy within themselves and in their relationships. As an educator and clinical supervisor, I offer guidance to students as they establish and fine-tune their love for this work. I commit myself to co-creating a therapeutic environment where safety and growth are of top priority. We are in this together.
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Renee Cascino
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern, MFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97209 (Online Only)
Hi there, I’m Renee (she/her), and I’m excited to work with you! Relationship transitions such as divorce/separation, ethical non monogamy, and infidelity can leave you and your partner(s) with mixed feelings and confusion. It is my intention to create a space that affirms and supports your many identities as well as the complexity of your many experiences. I enjoy working with LGBTQIA+ folks, those interested in learning more about their own sexuality, desire, and non-traditional family configurations. I work from an anti-racist, health at every size, sex, and kink/BDSM positive approach.
Hi there, I’m Renee (she/her), and I’m excited to work with you! Relationship transitions such as divorce/separation, ethical non monogamy, and infidelity can leave you and your partner(s) with mixed feelings and confusion. It is my intention to create a space that affirms and supports your many identities as well as the complexity of your many experiences. I enjoy working with LGBTQIA+ folks, those interested in learning more about their own sexuality, desire, and non-traditional family configurations. I work from an anti-racist, health at every size, sex, and kink/BDSM positive approach.
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Julia Perretta
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97206 (Online Only)
I specialize in providing emotion focused therapy for couples who are interested in working on issues related to communication, trust, infidelity, connection, and intimacy. I also work with individuals who are looking to heal their relationship with food, body image, stress, anxiety, substance use, depression, and manage responses to complex trauma. I welcome folx of all types, including LGBTQI and poly/ENM identifying individuals and couples. People who work with me enjoy integrating mindfulness and humor into the therapeutic tableau.
I specialize in providing emotion focused therapy for couples who are interested in working on issues related to communication, trust, infidelity, connection, and intimacy. I also work with individuals who are looking to heal their relationship with food, body image, stress, anxiety, substance use, depression, and manage responses to complex trauma. I welcome folx of all types, including LGBTQI and poly/ENM identifying individuals and couples. People who work with me enjoy integrating mindfulness and humor into the therapeutic tableau.
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Rachel Raphael
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC, MFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97214 (Online Only)
I am particularly knowledgeable about relationship stress due to infidelity, conflicting communication styles, lack of intimacy, attachment style differences, separation/divorce and adult family strife.
Accepting New Clients! I am passionate about supporting individuals, couples and adult families in their quest for clarity and healing. We will work together to identify and achieve key counseling goals to transform your life and relationships. I strive to bring a warm and open atmosphere that encourages compassion and collaboration. Areas of expertise include healthy communication skills to manage anger and decrease conflict, rebuilding trust, creating sexual intimacy, dating, cultivating healthy romantic relationships and managing parenting challenges. All are welcome: LGTBQ clients, nontraditional couples and adult families.
I am particularly knowledgeable about relationship stress due to infidelity, conflicting communication styles, lack of intimacy, attachment style differences, separation/divorce and adult family strife.
Accepting New Clients! I am passionate about supporting individuals, couples and adult families in their quest for clarity and healing. We will work together to identify and achieve key counseling goals to transform your life and relationships. I strive to bring a warm and open atmosphere that encourages compassion and collaboration. Areas of expertise include healthy communication skills to manage anger and decrease conflict, rebuilding trust, creating sexual intimacy, dating, cultivating healthy romantic relationships and managing parenting challenges. All are welcome: LGTBQ clients, nontraditional couples and adult families.
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I also provide counseling for couples/partners struggling with communication problems, difficulties with trust or intimacy, infidelity, relationship transitions, or negotiating relationship boundaries/agreements.
With over 20 years of experience in the mental health field, I have found psychotherapy to be a powerful means to create lasting and meaningful change in lives. I consider myself to be an interactive, collaborative, and relational therapist and specialize in the treatment of individuals and couples. I am accepting new clients using telemedicine at this time. I am now in two offices, seeing Clients in Oregon and Colorado.
I also provide counseling for couples/partners struggling with communication problems, difficulties with trust or intimacy, infidelity, relationship transitions, or negotiating relationship boundaries/agreements.
With over 20 years of experience in the mental health field, I have found psychotherapy to be a powerful means to create lasting and meaningful change in lives. I consider myself to be an interactive, collaborative, and relational therapist and specialize in the treatment of individuals and couples. I am accepting new clients using telemedicine at this time. I am now in two offices, seeing Clients in Oregon and Colorado.
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Paisley Jen Burrell
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97229 (Online Only)
Whether it's addressing miscommunications, navigating conflict constructively, or resolving past hurts, including the aftermath of infidelity, I can provide experienced guidance.
Do you feel like you've tried everything? You love each other so much and want to figure this out, but you seem to just go around in circles. There are things you need to talk about in your relationship, but you aren't sure how to bring them up without defensiveness or more hurt feelings. When this happens, you start to feel so frustrated because you just don't know what to do. You're afraid that if you don't learn how to communicate differently, you will feel even further apart or the worst case scenario, end up leaving each other. This would be such a loss because when times are good they are great. You could really use some help.
Whether it's addressing miscommunications, navigating conflict constructively, or resolving past hurts, including the aftermath of infidelity, I can provide experienced guidance.
Do you feel like you've tried everything? You love each other so much and want to figure this out, but you seem to just go around in circles. There are things you need to talk about in your relationship, but you aren't sure how to bring them up without defensiveness or more hurt feelings. When this happens, you start to feel so frustrated because you just don't know what to do. You're afraid that if you don't learn how to communicate differently, you will feel even further apart or the worst case scenario, end up leaving each other. This would be such a loss because when times are good they are great. You could really use some help.
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Infidelity Therapists
How does therapy for infidelity work?
A skilled infidelity therapist will provide a safe space for clients to communicate their feelings and concerns. The goal is to be completely honest about what led to the cheating and how it has affected the entire family to prevent it from recurring in the future. The therapist will help the clients work on rebuilding mutual trust and respect and developing better communication and conflict-resolution skills. If the goal is to remain a couple, clients will learn the “danger signs” for their specific relationship, and they will make a renewed commitment to be faithful.
How long does therapy for infidelity take?
Recovery from infidelity can take time, and it can vary from person to person. Generally, a therapist will want to see the clients at least once a week for around six months. Then the sessions can be arranged as needed, depending on the clients’ individual needs. While therapy may end or shift to an as-needed basis, it can take up to two years or more for some clients to fully recover from infidelity.
How does therapy help the partner who was cheated on?
When a client discovers their partner’s infidelity, their trust in the relationship and in the life they had together may be shattered. They often experience mental health symptoms, such as anxiety, depression, grief, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They don’t always want to stay in the relationship; they may feel ambivalent or may even want to leave. Therapy gives these clients a safe and healthy way to communicate all of their complicated emotions and concerns.
How does therapy help the partner who committed infidelity?
Infidelity often occurs when one or both partners’ emotional needs are not being met in the relationship. Therapy can help this client understand why they cheated and figure out how to address those unmet needs without resorting to infidelity in the future. This can lessen (but not entirely eliminate) the risk of repeated infidelity. Clients who cheat may also feel intense guilt about deceiving their partners, a sentiment that they can work through in therapy.