Open Relationships Non-Monogamy Therapists in New York, NY
I specialize in the needs of the people whose identities, expression, practices, desires, or relationships don’t fit neatly into society’s prescribed gender and sexuality boxes: People navigating kink, fetish, gender nonconformity, LGBTQIA+ identity, polyamory, FLRs and CNM/ENM relationships.
I believe therapy begins with the person and what they are seeking from the therapeutic experience. Therapy can be transformational, but the key is what the changes are that you want in your life. We can explore that together and along the way nurture the self-compassion, self-acceptance, and satisfying relationships that let you thrive. My style is collaborative, warm, affirming, and non-pathologizing and my approach draws on relational, psychodynamic, strengths-based, narrative, and behavioral modalities.
I specialize in the needs of the people whose identities, expression, practices, desires, or relationships don’t fit neatly into society’s prescribed gender and sexuality boxes: People navigating kink, fetish, gender nonconformity, LGBTQIA+ identity, polyamory, FLRs and CNM/ENM relationships.
I believe therapy begins with the person and what they are seeking from the therapeutic experience. Therapy can be transformational, but the key is what the changes are that you want in your life. We can explore that together and along the way nurture the self-compassion, self-acceptance, and satisfying relationships that let you thrive. My style is collaborative, warm, affirming, and non-pathologizing and my approach draws on relational, psychodynamic, strengths-based, narrative, and behavioral modalities.
I specialize in working with the LGBTQIA+ community, those with immigration-related concerns, and others who have been sidelined by systems of oppression. I have extensive experience with identity exploration, depression, anxiety, and trauma. My work is sex-positive, kink-affirming, and polyamory friendly. I also specialize in working with white people interested in examining their relationship to whiteness.
I specialize in working with the LGBTQIA+ community, those with immigration-related concerns, and others who have been sidelined by systems of oppression. I have extensive experience with identity exploration, depression, anxiety, and trauma. My work is sex-positive, kink-affirming, and polyamory friendly. I also specialize in working with white people interested in examining their relationship to whiteness.
My clients are adults of all genders and sexual orientation.Sex positive, I am knowledgeable and familiar with LGBTQAI issues as well as non-heteronormative sexuality, including kink, BDSM, polyamory, and fetishes. I have expertise and specialized training in treating alcohol and substance use disorders, sexual compulsivity, PTSD, depression, anxiety, and personality disorders. I utilize a varied range of treatment modalities, including EMDR. I have worked in the field for 15 years and I'm a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. I worked with the Fire Department of New York Counseling Service Unit, where I started the day before 9/11.
My clients are adults of all genders and sexual orientation.Sex positive, I am knowledgeable and familiar with LGBTQAI issues as well as non-heteronormative sexuality, including kink, BDSM, polyamory, and fetishes. I have expertise and specialized training in treating alcohol and substance use disorders, sexual compulsivity, PTSD, depression, anxiety, and personality disorders. I utilize a varied range of treatment modalities, including EMDR. I have worked in the field for 15 years and I'm a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. I worked with the Fire Department of New York Counseling Service Unit, where I started the day before 9/11.
I have expertise in helping those struggling with anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, interpersonal issues, LBGTQIA2S+ issues, gender/identity, polyamory, trauma, life transitions, loneliness, & alcohol/substance abuse.
I’m a Vietnamese, Queer, Buddhist, refugee, cisgender woman with a passion to help others relieve their life stressors, which has been heightened by COVID-19 pandemic, ongoing racism/injustice, transphobia, homophobia, xenophobia, climate change, wars, violence, and unrest in our world. Life stressors can cause a lot of suffering for people by placing strains on their mental and/or physical health, interpersonal relationships, and finances. Let’s work together to create a happier, stronger and more resilient version of you.
I have expertise in helping those struggling with anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, interpersonal issues, LBGTQIA2S+ issues, gender/identity, polyamory, trauma, life transitions, loneliness, & alcohol/substance abuse.
I’m a Vietnamese, Queer, Buddhist, refugee, cisgender woman with a passion to help others relieve their life stressors, which has been heightened by COVID-19 pandemic, ongoing racism/injustice, transphobia, homophobia, xenophobia, climate change, wars, violence, and unrest in our world. Life stressors can cause a lot of suffering for people by placing strains on their mental and/or physical health, interpersonal relationships, and finances. Let’s work together to create a happier, stronger and more resilient version of you.
John Carroll
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, EMDR
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
New York, NY 10001
I am trained in EMDR and work with the LGBTQ+ community, performing artists, and individuals and couples navigating open relationships, polyamory, and other non-traditional sexual expressions in a sex-positive atmosphere.
My goal is to arm you with tools to find a more fulfilling way of living; therapeutic tools that follow you out of my office door and into your life. I have learned firsthand how a strong therapeutic relationship can create an opportunity for transformative change. That is why the alliance between therapist and client is of utmost importance to me. By integrating clinical theory, mindfulness, and yes, even humor, I help clients cultivate insight, self-acceptance, healthy boundaries, increased intimacy, and clarity of direction allowing depression, anxiety, and relationship problems to be relieved.
I am trained in EMDR and work with the LGBTQ+ community, performing artists, and individuals and couples navigating open relationships, polyamory, and other non-traditional sexual expressions in a sex-positive atmosphere.
My goal is to arm you with tools to find a more fulfilling way of living; therapeutic tools that follow you out of my office door and into your life. I have learned firsthand how a strong therapeutic relationship can create an opportunity for transformative change. That is why the alliance between therapist and client is of utmost importance to me. By integrating clinical theory, mindfulness, and yes, even humor, I help clients cultivate insight, self-acceptance, healthy boundaries, increased intimacy, and clarity of direction allowing depression, anxiety, and relationship problems to be relieved.
I focus on issues of trauma, self-esteem, healthy relationships, addiction, anxiety, LGBTQ+-issues, polyamory/non-monogamy, systemic oppression, immigration, and dissociation.
Thank you for visiting my page! I offer a mixture of talk therapy, hypnotherapy, EMDR, and Reiki. I take a holistic approach, see my work as a partnership, and believe that every person has the tools and wisdom within to be happy.
I focus on issues of trauma, self-esteem, healthy relationships, addiction, anxiety, LGBTQ+-issues, polyamory/non-monogamy, systemic oppression, immigration, and dissociation.
Thank you for visiting my page! I offer a mixture of talk therapy, hypnotherapy, EMDR, and Reiki. I take a holistic approach, see my work as a partnership, and believe that every person has the tools and wisdom within to be happy.
Jackson (Jax) (he/him) excels at providing psychotherapy for adults and adolescents, as well as building executive functioning skills and strategies. Due to his academic and professional experience, and his own identity as a gay trans man, Jax enjoys working with members of the queer community. Jax thrives at working with clients who have ADHD, anxiety, OCD and autism (whether formally diagnosed or not). He has extensive knowledge about executive dysfunction and related skill-building. He also specializes in helping his clients navigate issues related to polyamory/non-monogamy.
Jackson (Jax) (he/him) excels at providing psychotherapy for adults and adolescents, as well as building executive functioning skills and strategies. Due to his academic and professional experience, and his own identity as a gay trans man, Jax enjoys working with members of the queer community. Jax thrives at working with clients who have ADHD, anxiety, OCD and autism (whether formally diagnosed or not). He has extensive knowledge about executive dysfunction and related skill-building. He also specializes in helping his clients navigate issues related to polyamory/non-monogamy.
Liam Cudmore
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10013 (Online Only)
I am affirming of queer and TGNC identities, kink, sex work, and polyamory/ENM.
My work is informed by intersectionality and motivated by my personal experience with the communities I serve. As a therapist on his own path of healing, I share what I learn with my clients and celebrate our wins. I’m a bisexual transman who has personal experience with kink and non-monogamy. I’m a loved one of sex workers. I’m an addict in long term recovery. I believe in healing through community, and in practicing radical self disclosure—with boundaries. I provide clinical supervision to a team of LMSW therapists. Outside of session, I enjoy practicing yoga, dreaming up my future animal rescue, and spending time with loved ones.
I am affirming of queer and TGNC identities, kink, sex work, and polyamory/ENM.
My work is informed by intersectionality and motivated by my personal experience with the communities I serve. As a therapist on his own path of healing, I share what I learn with my clients and celebrate our wins. I’m a bisexual transman who has personal experience with kink and non-monogamy. I’m a loved one of sex workers. I’m an addict in long term recovery. I believe in healing through community, and in practicing radical self disclosure—with boundaries. I provide clinical supervision to a team of LMSW therapists. Outside of session, I enjoy practicing yoga, dreaming up my future animal rescue, and spending time with loved ones.
I specialize in working with folks with stigmatized behaviors and identities, or who are otherwise mistreated and ignored in traditional mental health settings. My therapeutic approach is, above all else, strengths-based and person-centered. You are the expert in your own experience and what you need. If you're learning to safely unmask your neurodivergent self, exploring your gender identity or sexuality, examining your substance use, or navigating non-traditional relationship structures like ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, or queerplatonic dynamics, I'd love to work with you!
I specialize in working with folks with stigmatized behaviors and identities, or who are otherwise mistreated and ignored in traditional mental health settings. My therapeutic approach is, above all else, strengths-based and person-centered. You are the expert in your own experience and what you need. If you're learning to safely unmask your neurodivergent self, exploring your gender identity or sexuality, examining your substance use, or navigating non-traditional relationship structures like ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, or queerplatonic dynamics, I'd love to work with you!
I have particular expertise in working with depression, anxiety, disordered eating, polyamory/non-monogamy, LGBTQIA+ folks, and assisting parents in helping a child explore gender identity.
In my practice, I place a strong emphasis on the therapeutic relationship, creating a safe and supportive environment. I believe that humans are inherently social creatures, and that our sense of self is shaped by our interactions with others. With warmth and curiosity, we will explore your feelings, your relationships, your past, and what's happening in the here and now. My work is based on relational psychodynamic psychotherapy, but incorporates IFS, DBT, and CBT.
I have particular expertise in working with depression, anxiety, disordered eating, polyamory/non-monogamy, LGBTQIA+ folks, and assisting parents in helping a child explore gender identity.
In my practice, I place a strong emphasis on the therapeutic relationship, creating a safe and supportive environment. I believe that humans are inherently social creatures, and that our sense of self is shaped by our interactions with others. With warmth and curiosity, we will explore your feelings, your relationships, your past, and what's happening in the here and now. My work is based on relational psychodynamic psychotherapy, but incorporates IFS, DBT, and CBT.
Cheyenne Taylor
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10128 (Online Only)
If you are hoping to address and explore your own personal growth relating to BDSM/Kink dynamics, consensual non monogamy & polyamory, sexual identity/orientation, gender identity, communication, avoidance or anxiety around sex/sexuality/ and relationships, please feel free to reach out to me via email.
I am an alternative-lifestyle-affirming clinical psychotherapist, who strongly believes in the power of collaboration, affirmation, and supportive exploration, to help the people I work with achieve their goals. My work is not limited to, but includes people and communities associated with non-monogamy/polyamory, BDSM/kink/fetish, LGBTQ/TGNC, & sex work. My goal is to help you explore, understand, integrate, and feel safe as you discover your most authentic self. Once we learn to understand the driving processes behind our thoughts, behaviors, and patterns, we are better able to envision a path forward.
If you are hoping to address and explore your own personal growth relating to BDSM/Kink dynamics, consensual non monogamy & polyamory, sexual identity/orientation, gender identity, communication, avoidance or anxiety around sex/sexuality/ and relationships, please feel free to reach out to me via email.
I am an alternative-lifestyle-affirming clinical psychotherapist, who strongly believes in the power of collaboration, affirmation, and supportive exploration, to help the people I work with achieve their goals. My work is not limited to, but includes people and communities associated with non-monogamy/polyamory, BDSM/kink/fetish, LGBTQ/TGNC, & sex work. My goal is to help you explore, understand, integrate, and feel safe as you discover your most authentic self. Once we learn to understand the driving processes behind our thoughts, behaviors, and patterns, we are better able to envision a path forward.
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Rebecca Land
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10001 (Online Only)
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While I believe people are multidimensional and more than a particular label, I have developed expertise in anxiety, depression, addiction/recovery, ADHD/LD, relationships (including polyamory), sexuality, identity, stigma, parenting concerns, conflicts between business partners, trauma and resilience, divorce/blended families, and creativity/work goals.
My goal is to foster a sense of safety for clients to speak openly about who they are and how they feel. I am interested in the way our lives and relationships are touched by our past experiences, our fears, and our desires. I provide individual psychotherapy, couple’s, and solution focused treatment. My style is direct, warm, and (dare I say) funny. I draw from clinical training in psychodynamic psychotherapy and family systems theory.
While I believe people are multidimensional and more than a particular label, I have developed expertise in anxiety, depression, addiction/recovery, ADHD/LD, relationships (including polyamory), sexuality, identity, stigma, parenting concerns, conflicts between business partners, trauma and resilience, divorce/blended families, and creativity/work goals.
My goal is to foster a sense of safety for clients to speak openly about who they are and how they feel. I am interested in the way our lives and relationships are touched by our past experiences, our fears, and our desires. I provide individual psychotherapy, couple’s, and solution focused treatment. My style is direct, warm, and (dare I say) funny. I draw from clinical training in psychodynamic psychotherapy and family systems theory.
Kevyn Rodriguez
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10016 (Online Only)
Also, as part of my practice I support couples and individuals with relationship issues, kinks and polyamory.
I am a Licensed Social Worker (LMSW) specializing in individual therapy for adults and adolescents. I use client-centered, strengths-based approach to promote client’s determination. I consider clients experiences in my practice to get to know them and develop an understanding between the multiple layers of complexities in the clients life such as spirituality, race, culture, sexual/gender identity, and family background. I believe that my role is to create a safe space where a client feels comfortable and supported while addressing sensitive and difficult issues.
Also, as part of my practice I support couples and individuals with relationship issues, kinks and polyamory.
I am a Licensed Social Worker (LMSW) specializing in individual therapy for adults and adolescents. I use client-centered, strengths-based approach to promote client’s determination. I consider clients experiences in my practice to get to know them and develop an understanding between the multiple layers of complexities in the clients life such as spirituality, race, culture, sexual/gender identity, and family background. I believe that my role is to create a safe space where a client feels comfortable and supported while addressing sensitive and difficult issues.
I am an EMDR-trained Mental Health Counselor accepting individuals and couples for therapy. I strive to make therapy an affirming, anti-oppressive space by addressing the harmful effects of systemic oppression and exploring what healing means for each individual. I’m experienced with helping people navigate complex trauma, immigrant family dynamics, grief and loss, disordered eating and body image issues, work-related burnout, gender and sexuality exploration, polyamory, and neurodivergence. I am especially committed to supporting those who are part of marginalized communities and love working with other queer Asian Americans.
I am an EMDR-trained Mental Health Counselor accepting individuals and couples for therapy. I strive to make therapy an affirming, anti-oppressive space by addressing the harmful effects of systemic oppression and exploring what healing means for each individual. I’m experienced with helping people navigate complex trauma, immigrant family dynamics, grief and loss, disordered eating and body image issues, work-related burnout, gender and sexuality exploration, polyamory, and neurodivergence. I am especially committed to supporting those who are part of marginalized communities and love working with other queer Asian Americans.
QuIPP: The Queer Identities Psychology Partnership
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10011
At QuIPP we intend to create a "brave space" to explore gender, ethnicity, class, sexuality, kinks, polyamory, neuro-diversity and how we can, in light of our intersecting identities and personal histories, lead meaningful and connected lives.
At QuIPP, we are queer, non-binary, depth-oriented, feminist, and trauma-informed. Our therapeutic approaches include CBT, DBT, and psychodynamic and we seek to explore the deep impacts of others (familial, peer, and social) on the minds and spirits of our clients. Our clinical areas of expertise include: gender & sexuality, trauma, transition related support, and poly/kinky & sex positivity. Given that trauma and emotional pain often originate within relationships, we take a relational (and deeply compassionate) approach to therapy.
At QuIPP we intend to create a "brave space" to explore gender, ethnicity, class, sexuality, kinks, polyamory, neuro-diversity and how we can, in light of our intersecting identities and personal histories, lead meaningful and connected lives.
At QuIPP, we are queer, non-binary, depth-oriented, feminist, and trauma-informed. Our therapeutic approaches include CBT, DBT, and psychodynamic and we seek to explore the deep impacts of others (familial, peer, and social) on the minds and spirits of our clients. Our clinical areas of expertise include: gender & sexuality, trauma, transition related support, and poly/kinky & sex positivity. Given that trauma and emotional pain often originate within relationships, we take a relational (and deeply compassionate) approach to therapy.
I have extensive experience with the LGBTQIA communities, gender affirmation, relationship issues including non-monogamy, polyamory, and phase of life issues.
I am a psychotherapist passionate about providing individualized care to adolescents, adults, and couples. I believe therapy should feel safe and be a space where you can explore thoughts, feelings, and behaviors without judgment. I specialize in working with individuals dealing with depression, anxiety, trauma/PTSD, and concerns relating to race/ethnicity/intersectionality.
I have extensive experience with the LGBTQIA communities, gender affirmation, relationship issues including non-monogamy, polyamory, and phase of life issues.
I am a psychotherapist passionate about providing individualized care to adolescents, adults, and couples. I believe therapy should feel safe and be a space where you can explore thoughts, feelings, and behaviors without judgment. I specialize in working with individuals dealing with depression, anxiety, trauma/PTSD, and concerns relating to race/ethnicity/intersectionality.
Hali Riley
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10017 (Online Only)
I recognize diversity in sexuality as much more than LGBTQ as I practice polyamory-affirmative psychotherapy, kink awareness, and sex positivity without unnecessarily making these identities the focus of treatment.
With humble beginnings as a Conflict Mediator during elementary school recess, I have over 25 years of experience helping people. My approach is warm and enthusiastic providing room for laughter and jokes as well as tears and vulnerability. While holding safe boundaries for my clients, I believe in the power of transparency and being my genuine self in my work with people. I am affirming and open-minded, while encouraging you to try new ideas or behaviors that support your healing.
I recognize diversity in sexuality as much more than LGBTQ as I practice polyamory-affirmative psychotherapy, kink awareness, and sex positivity without unnecessarily making these identities the focus of treatment.
With humble beginnings as a Conflict Mediator during elementary school recess, I have over 25 years of experience helping people. My approach is warm and enthusiastic providing room for laughter and jokes as well as tears and vulnerability. While holding safe boundaries for my clients, I believe in the power of transparency and being my genuine self in my work with people. I am affirming and open-minded, while encouraging you to try new ideas or behaviors that support your healing.
Alex Kissilenko
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10019 (Online Only)
My work is driven by my values and a commitment to authenticity, integrity, and liberation, including racial justice, queer and trans liberation, body neutrality/positivity, sex positivity, kink, BDSM, sex work, polyamory/ENM, and reproductive justice.
As a clinician, my practice is rooted in behavioral, psychodynamic, existential, and experiential approaches. I have extensive clinical experience working with the LGBTQIA+ community and people of diverse backgrounds who are grappling with identity or relationship issues of many kinds. My style is warm, inquisitive, empathic, and versatile to fit my clients’ unique needs. My strengths lie in synthesizing complex problems and breaking them down into smaller tangible steps. I use psychodrama— a tool for bringing therapy into action, with spontaneity, creativity, and humor.
My work is driven by my values and a commitment to authenticity, integrity, and liberation, including racial justice, queer and trans liberation, body neutrality/positivity, sex positivity, kink, BDSM, sex work, polyamory/ENM, and reproductive justice.
As a clinician, my practice is rooted in behavioral, psychodynamic, existential, and experiential approaches. I have extensive clinical experience working with the LGBTQIA+ community and people of diverse backgrounds who are grappling with identity or relationship issues of many kinds. My style is warm, inquisitive, empathic, and versatile to fit my clients’ unique needs. My strengths lie in synthesizing complex problems and breaking them down into smaller tangible steps. I use psychodrama— a tool for bringing therapy into action, with spontaneity, creativity, and humor.
Kirti has worked with BIPOC and sexually/gender diverse individuals navigating trauma, self-esteem/identity issues, relationship/family conflict, depression/anxiety, polyamory, and culture-specific challenges.
Kirti strives to create a space that is driven by curiosity, compassion, and humor. She recognizes how our experience of existing within unjust systems can take a toll on us. As such, her approach is anti-oppressive, trauma-informed and integrates modalities like psychodynamic, feminist-multicultural, person-centered, CBT and narrative therapy.
Kirti has worked with BIPOC and sexually/gender diverse individuals navigating trauma, self-esteem/identity issues, relationship/family conflict, depression/anxiety, polyamory, and culture-specific challenges.
Kirti strives to create a space that is driven by curiosity, compassion, and humor. She recognizes how our experience of existing within unjust systems can take a toll on us. As such, her approach is anti-oppressive, trauma-informed and integrates modalities like psychodynamic, feminist-multicultural, person-centered, CBT and narrative therapy.
I am an open kink aware & ethical non-monogamy (polyamory/swinging/etc) friendly therapist.
Hi, if you are looking for a open minded, warm, & hard working therapist then I might be just the fit for you. I'm an English & Spanish speaking clinical social worker who works with adults, young adults and some teens. My practice focuses primarily on healing anxiety, depression, & trauma throughout life. I'm interested in taking an integrative approach to therapy by combining clients needs with traditional Western psychology such as: talk therapy, play therapy, art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), & nature therapy with ancient Eastern traditions such as meditation & Tibetan Buddhism.
I am an open kink aware & ethical non-monogamy (polyamory/swinging/etc) friendly therapist.
Hi, if you are looking for a open minded, warm, & hard working therapist then I might be just the fit for you. I'm an English & Spanish speaking clinical social worker who works with adults, young adults and some teens. My practice focuses primarily on healing anxiety, depression, & trauma throughout life. I'm interested in taking an integrative approach to therapy by combining clients needs with traditional Western psychology such as: talk therapy, play therapy, art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), & nature therapy with ancient Eastern traditions such as meditation & Tibetan Buddhism.
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Open Relationships Non-Monogamy Therapists
Why might an individual want to see a therapist specializing in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
A client seeking help with an open or consensually non-monogamous relationship will prefer to talk with a professional whom they can count on to be nonjudgmental. Talking with a supportive therapist may on its own help relieve some of the stigma and challenges partners face. That said, the most important factor in the success of any type of therapy is the ability of the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond. For this reason, an individual or couple could find success with a therapist who does not specialize in non-monogamous relationships but with whom they can build trust.
When should open or consensually non-monogamous partners seek counseling?
Like other couples, polyamorous partners typically seek counseling when they face relationship challenges they can’t solve themselves. In non-monogamous relationships, this could include breaches of trust, including infidelity; unclear rules or violations of boundaries; jealousy of outside partners; the stress of juggling the needs of multiple partners; or the effect of high partner turnover on children. Like those of other couples, polyamorous bonds can be threatened by increasingly frequent arguments, poor or dysfunctional communication, diminished emotional or physical intimacy, or the feeling that something is wrong, even if they don’t know what it is.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
No, but individuals seeking help with non-monogamous relationships would most likely consult a licensed professional with specific training in couples counseling or couples therapy. Couples counseling and couples therapy both involve teaching concrete strategies to navigate conflict in relationships. A good therapist can engage both partners as they explain these approaches but can also work with a single partner.
How long does therapy for consensually non-monogamous couples typically last?
Couples therapy for any type of couple, tends to be relatively time-limited, lasting around 12 weeks on average. A good therapist will tailor sessions to the individual partners’ emotions and sometimes their past, along with patterns found to be repeating in the relationship. In many cases, clients should expect their therapist to assign “homework” between weekly sessions.