Emotionally Focused Therapists in New York, NY
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
Leslie Rose Vellios
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Not Verified Not Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10001
I am a stress management expert who has combined 30 years of clinical mental heath experience with Eft to help clients make dramatic transformations in their lives. If you are stuck knowing that there is a better life for you but can't seem to get there, call me for your free clarity session. I will guide you on how to get from where you are to where you want to be. Start living a life beyond your wildest dreams .
I am a stress management expert who has combined 30 years of clinical mental heath experience with Eft to help clients make dramatic transformations in their lives. If you are stuck knowing that there is a better life for you but can't seem to get there, call me for your free clarity session. I will guide you on how to get from where you are to where you want to be. Start living a life beyond your wildest dreams .
I also work with many couples, and am trained in emotionally focused therapy.
All kinds of things bring people into therapy. Many of my clients are struggling with some kind of relationship issue, whether it’s a stressful workplace dynamic, a conflict with a partner, friends or family, or challenges navigating the dating world. Many also feel stuck in some indescribable way – in their careers, with unhealthy habits or with feeling like they’re somehow not in the driver’s seat. I see myself as a facilitator and a guide. I’ll help you understand all the different parts of yourself, connect you to your inner voice, and learn to recognize the relationship patterns you find yourself repeating.
I also work with many couples, and am trained in emotionally focused therapy.
All kinds of things bring people into therapy. Many of my clients are struggling with some kind of relationship issue, whether it’s a stressful workplace dynamic, a conflict with a partner, friends or family, or challenges navigating the dating world. Many also feel stuck in some indescribable way – in their careers, with unhealthy habits or with feeling like they’re somehow not in the driver’s seat. I see myself as a facilitator and a guide. I’ll help you understand all the different parts of yourself, connect you to your inner voice, and learn to recognize the relationship patterns you find yourself repeating.
Rachel R Pokorney
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10010 (Online Only)
I use the latest in evidence-based treatments, such as Dialectical Behavior Therapist (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy ( EFT), and others to help you achieve your goals.
I am an easy to relate to therapist who has an uncanny ability to balance warmth and validation with being genuine and direct. I will collaborate with you to determine the way of relating, therapeutic style, and specific therapy interventions that make you feel most comfortable and are the most successful. I will use my expert training and education, using a growth oriented approach, to help you recover from depression, manage anxiety, improve your relationships (work, family, friendships, and romantic), and cope with general life stressors.
I use the latest in evidence-based treatments, such as Dialectical Behavior Therapist (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy ( EFT), and others to help you achieve your goals.
I am an easy to relate to therapist who has an uncanny ability to balance warmth and validation with being genuine and direct. I will collaborate with you to determine the way of relating, therapeutic style, and specific therapy interventions that make you feel most comfortable and are the most successful. I will use my expert training and education, using a growth oriented approach, to help you recover from depression, manage anxiety, improve your relationships (work, family, friendships, and romantic), and cope with general life stressors.
I approach both individual and couple therapy from an attachment perspective, using Emotionally Focused Therapy and other evidence-based interventions.
Whether you are struggling in your relationship or dealing with depression and anxiety, I am glad you decided to look for help. I believe that having someone who truly understands your difficulties can fundamentally improve your life. My goal is to help you find your voice and shift your relational dynamics by providing you with a warm and accepting environment and by challenging you to do right by yourself. Together we will dive into the emotional experiences that are part and parcel of being alive and develop a new, self-affirming relationship with yourself that is vital and growth-oriented.
I approach both individual and couple therapy from an attachment perspective, using Emotionally Focused Therapy and other evidence-based interventions.
Whether you are struggling in your relationship or dealing with depression and anxiety, I am glad you decided to look for help. I believe that having someone who truly understands your difficulties can fundamentally improve your life. My goal is to help you find your voice and shift your relational dynamics by providing you with a warm and accepting environment and by challenging you to do right by yourself. Together we will dive into the emotional experiences that are part and parcel of being alive and develop a new, self-affirming relationship with yourself that is vital and growth-oriented.
Shirley Smith
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, PhD
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10001 (Online Only)
I facilitate motivational and personal-growth groups and workshops ( EFT).
I have been a psychotherapist for more than 30 years. During my years of practice, my therapeutic approach has evolved into a collaborative and flexible interaction. I make use of psychodynamic as well as contemporary techniques. I do Emotional Freedom Technique ( EFT) groups. My treatment goals are to increase self-awareness, insight, and a sense of wellbeing, and to empower the individual with useful, comfortable strategies to achieve change. I am now located in midtown and Harlem. I now provide Teletherapy through FaceTime, Zoom, Skype, etc.
I facilitate motivational and personal-growth groups and workshops ( EFT).
I have been a psychotherapist for more than 30 years. During my years of practice, my therapeutic approach has evolved into a collaborative and flexible interaction. I make use of psychodynamic as well as contemporary techniques. I do Emotional Freedom Technique ( EFT) groups. My treatment goals are to increase self-awareness, insight, and a sense of wellbeing, and to empower the individual with useful, comfortable strategies to achieve change. I am now located in midtown and Harlem. I now provide Teletherapy through FaceTime, Zoom, Skype, etc.
Dana Galante
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
New York, NY 10016 (Online Only)
We have been helping clients since 2005 to decrease their anxiety and depression symptoms from a relational, emotionally focused approach.
The path to parenthood is often bumpy. Whether you’re planning for a baby, coping with a loss, adjusting to parenthood, or have been trying for a while - you are not alone. We provide evidence-based psychotherapy for all those involved in the parenthood journey - men, women, and couples. Our competent and nurturing therapists will team up with you to create an effective, cohesive plan to address your needs and reduce your stress. We help treat all kinds of family-building challenges, from mild parenting stress and worry, severe perinatal depression and anxiety, traumatic birth experiences, to grieving the loss of a child.
We have been helping clients since 2005 to decrease their anxiety and depression symptoms from a relational, emotionally focused approach.
The path to parenthood is often bumpy. Whether you’re planning for a baby, coping with a loss, adjusting to parenthood, or have been trying for a while - you are not alone. We provide evidence-based psychotherapy for all those involved in the parenthood journey - men, women, and couples. Our competent and nurturing therapists will team up with you to create an effective, cohesive plan to address your needs and reduce your stress. We help treat all kinds of family-building challenges, from mild parenting stress and worry, severe perinatal depression and anxiety, traumatic birth experiences, to grieving the loss of a child.
I am trained in EFT, CBT, DBT, & Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.
Life is worth living when we feel authentic and genuine, and engage in meaningful relationships. Sadness, grief, disappointment, hurt, and loss are all-natural human emotions. Feeling chronically anxious, depressed, inadequate, or unlovable are not. These unrelenting feelings come from an injury (or injuries) that hasn’t healed. Regardless of where your emotional injury comes from, you can learn to regulate your reactions, heal these wounds, take care of yourself, and connect to your sense of meaning and purpose. The more you live in alignment with your values and what is meaningful to you, the better you will feel.
I am trained in EFT, CBT, DBT, & Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.
Life is worth living when we feel authentic and genuine, and engage in meaningful relationships. Sadness, grief, disappointment, hurt, and loss are all-natural human emotions. Feeling chronically anxious, depressed, inadequate, or unlovable are not. These unrelenting feelings come from an injury (or injuries) that hasn’t healed. Regardless of where your emotional injury comes from, you can learn to regulate your reactions, heal these wounds, take care of yourself, and connect to your sense of meaning and purpose. The more you live in alignment with your values and what is meaningful to you, the better you will feel.
My approach is informed by psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioral, relational, emotionally focused therapy ( EFT), and mindfulness practices and interventions.
If you are beginning your search for a therapist, you have already taken a courageous step. You may be at a place where the feelings you are experiencing and the circumstances you are in are creating a lot of distress. You want help, but perhaps are not sure what the therapy process is really all about. Or, you may be familiar with therapy and are looking to start again. I welcome you to start exactly where you are, and I hope that my empathic, non-judgmental, interactive approach helps you to feel that you have taken the right step.
My approach is informed by psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioral, relational, emotionally focused therapy ( EFT), and mindfulness practices and interventions.
If you are beginning your search for a therapist, you have already taken a courageous step. You may be at a place where the feelings you are experiencing and the circumstances you are in are creating a lot of distress. You want help, but perhaps are not sure what the therapy process is really all about. Or, you may be familiar with therapy and are looking to start again. I welcome you to start exactly where you are, and I hope that my empathic, non-judgmental, interactive approach helps you to feel that you have taken the right step.
I am a member of the International Society for Schema Therapy, ICE EFT and ABCT: trained at the Schema Institute, NYC EFT, Beck Institute and American Institute for Cognitive Therapy.
In Person and Telehealth. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an Advanced Schema Therapist, Trainer and Clinical Supervisor with over 18 years of post-graduate experience. I am also trained in Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. I provide therapy in a warm and accepting, yet challenging environment....Life does not have to be an endurance contest. Real, lasting change is possible.
I am a member of the International Society for Schema Therapy, ICE EFT and ABCT: trained at the Schema Institute, NYC EFT, Beck Institute and American Institute for Cognitive Therapy.
In Person and Telehealth. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an Advanced Schema Therapist, Trainer and Clinical Supervisor with over 18 years of post-graduate experience. I am also trained in Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. I provide therapy in a warm and accepting, yet challenging environment....Life does not have to be an endurance contest. Real, lasting change is possible.
Rebecca Hendrix
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
New York, NY 10010
I have an MA Spiritual Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, am a certified Imago therapist with advanced training in EFT.
Are you at a crossroads and need support, guidance and a road map to guide you through a challenging time? Do you want to understand what is keeping you or your marriage/partnership from moving forward and experiencing joy? We all get stuck, require a little extra support and need to learn new tools to better manage the ups and downs of life to be more connected to ourselves and our partners. My style is compassionate and non judgmental. I provide a safe space where healing can occur. I specialize in relationship issues, depression, anxiety, grief/loss and spiritual growth.
I have an MA Spiritual Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, am a certified Imago therapist with advanced training in EFT.
Are you at a crossroads and need support, guidance and a road map to guide you through a challenging time? Do you want to understand what is keeping you or your marriage/partnership from moving forward and experiencing joy? We all get stuck, require a little extra support and need to learn new tools to better manage the ups and downs of life to be more connected to ourselves and our partners. My style is compassionate and non judgmental. I provide a safe space where healing can occur. I specialize in relationship issues, depression, anxiety, grief/loss and spiritual growth.
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New York, NY 10016 (Online Only)
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In the therapy room, I offer relational and emotionally focused therapy, with the objective to help the client bring their authentic selves into the therapeutic alliance and deepen self-awareness.
I believe in fostering a therapeutic alliance based on respect, non-judgment and authentic communication. I hope to develop a thorough understanding of my clients’ life experiences by considering their unique identity and intersectionality. By encouraging introspection and posing questions I hope to support the client in deepening self-awareness. In integrating mindfulness practice to tune into somatic responses and recognize underlying unconscious emotions, I hope my client is able to foster a mind-body connection in their functioning. I am committed to challenging the stigma attached to mental health, and normalizing experiences.
In the therapy room, I offer relational and emotionally focused therapy, with the objective to help the client bring their authentic selves into the therapeutic alliance and deepen self-awareness.
I believe in fostering a therapeutic alliance based on respect, non-judgment and authentic communication. I hope to develop a thorough understanding of my clients’ life experiences by considering their unique identity and intersectionality. By encouraging introspection and posing questions I hope to support the client in deepening self-awareness. In integrating mindfulness practice to tune into somatic responses and recognize underlying unconscious emotions, I hope my client is able to foster a mind-body connection in their functioning. I am committed to challenging the stigma attached to mental health, and normalizing experiences.
Melissa Portan
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW, MEd
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10010
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Narrative Therapy, Attachment Therapy, and mindfulness.
I am a licensed sexologist specializing in sex &relationship therapy with SYNC Psychological Services. I work with couples/individuals on relationships, sex, and sexuality issues. Some focus areas include sexual trauma, infidelity & domestic violence recovery, feeling insecure in relationships/low self-esteem, sexual exploration (gender identity, Kink/BDSM), sexual performance issues (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low arousal, difficulty reaching orgasm), childhood trauma, anxiety, depression. I also have extensive experience working with individuals with ADHD & Autism.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Narrative Therapy, Attachment Therapy, and mindfulness.
I am a licensed sexologist specializing in sex &relationship therapy with SYNC Psychological Services. I work with couples/individuals on relationships, sex, and sexuality issues. Some focus areas include sexual trauma, infidelity & domestic violence recovery, feeling insecure in relationships/low self-esteem, sexual exploration (gender identity, Kink/BDSM), sexual performance issues (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low arousal, difficulty reaching orgasm), childhood trauma, anxiety, depression. I also have extensive experience working with individuals with ADHD & Autism.
Michael W Preston
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPC
Not Verified Not Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10001 (Online Only)
As an Emotionally Focused Therapist, I help couples and Family members master the art of identifying and stopping the negative pattern that keeps their relationship feeling stuck, and build new and meaningful ways for them to create a deep and lasting connection, a secure bond.
We have all developed strategies to manage the threat of disconnection in our most important relationships. Often these strategies are to shut down and walk away or continue pursuing our partner. When these strategies meet, they create a pattern the keeps their relationship feeling stuck in repetitive arguments. We can work together to help you understand more about the particular pattern in your relationship, OR you can get started now with my couples course where I take you and your partner into greater understanding of one another at www.thesecurecouple.com
As an Emotionally Focused Therapist, I help couples and Family members master the art of identifying and stopping the negative pattern that keeps their relationship feeling stuck, and build new and meaningful ways for them to create a deep and lasting connection, a secure bond.
We have all developed strategies to manage the threat of disconnection in our most important relationships. Often these strategies are to shut down and walk away or continue pursuing our partner. When these strategies meet, they create a pattern the keeps their relationship feeling stuck in repetitive arguments. We can work together to help you understand more about the particular pattern in your relationship, OR you can get started now with my couples course where I take you and your partner into greater understanding of one another at www.thesecurecouple.com
My approach is warm, accepting, grounded in experiential, emotionally focused therapy models, and includes comprehensive relational and individual assessments and progress tracking.
I work with couples navigating relationship transitions and intimacy issues. If you find it difficult to achieve a sense of connection and fulfillment, please reach out. I help people who feel stuck in a cycle of conflict and distance, and/or experience the impact of past traumas, betrayals, and injuries in their current relationship. I am currently completing my doctorate with research focus on adult attachment and non-traditional relationship structures (consensual non-monogamy/open relationships/polyamory).
My approach is warm, accepting, grounded in experiential, emotionally focused therapy models, and includes comprehensive relational and individual assessments and progress tracking.
I work with couples navigating relationship transitions and intimacy issues. If you find it difficult to achieve a sense of connection and fulfillment, please reach out. I help people who feel stuck in a cycle of conflict and distance, and/or experience the impact of past traumas, betrayals, and injuries in their current relationship. I am currently completing my doctorate with research focus on adult attachment and non-traditional relationship structures (consensual non-monogamy/open relationships/polyamory).
Diana Fosha in AEDP which dovetails perfectly with EFT for individuals and couples.
My passion, training & expertise is directly focused on helping people create engaging, deeply satisfying relationships. I'm both a Certified Emotionally Focused ( EFT) Couples Therapist and Supervisor as well as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. If you are in a relationship fraught with conflict or that is emotionally-barren & unrewarding, or experiencing sexual problems, or perhaps you are single and looking to create a fulfilling relationship, we can schedule a phone or video conf. consult at no charge to discuss your situation further -- visit my website www.fulfilledcouples.com to learn more about my philosophy and training.
Diana Fosha in AEDP which dovetails perfectly with EFT for individuals and couples.
My passion, training & expertise is directly focused on helping people create engaging, deeply satisfying relationships. I'm both a Certified Emotionally Focused ( EFT) Couples Therapist and Supervisor as well as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. If you are in a relationship fraught with conflict or that is emotionally-barren & unrewarding, or experiencing sexual problems, or perhaps you are single and looking to create a fulfilling relationship, we can schedule a phone or video conf. consult at no charge to discuss your situation further -- visit my website www.fulfilledcouples.com to learn more about my philosophy and training.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and am trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
My therapeutic focus is on helping people being challenged by stress, anxiety, traumatic events, loss or grief, relationship issues, sexual difficulties, career problems, addictions and compulsions, and who are seeking to find and develop creativity and meaning in their lives. I work with a diverse range of individuals and couples and have a particular expertise in working with people in transitions. I am trained in the use of cognitive behavioral therapy techniques for the treatment of PTSD, anxiety and stress. I understand the many issues in dealing with international and cross-cultural relationships.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and am trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
My therapeutic focus is on helping people being challenged by stress, anxiety, traumatic events, loss or grief, relationship issues, sexual difficulties, career problems, addictions and compulsions, and who are seeking to find and develop creativity and meaning in their lives. I work with a diverse range of individuals and couples and have a particular expertise in working with people in transitions. I am trained in the use of cognitive behavioral therapy techniques for the treatment of PTSD, anxiety and stress. I understand the many issues in dealing with international and cross-cultural relationships.
Sarah Segal McCaslin
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MDiv, MS
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
New York, NY 10038
I provide therapy to individuals, couples, and families, both virtually and in-person. Many of my clients come to therapy to address self-identity and purpose, family relationships (couples, parents, adult siblings), spiritual/religious questions, struggles with self-esteem, acute and chronic grief, sexuality/gender identity issues, and a desire to find a life that is meaningful and in alignment with their values. Articulating a coherent narrative for one's life is a task of deepest import, and therapy, I believe, is a uniquely relevant space to pursue that quest.
I provide therapy to individuals, couples, and families, both virtually and in-person. Many of my clients come to therapy to address self-identity and purpose, family relationships (couples, parents, adult siblings), spiritual/religious questions, struggles with self-esteem, acute and chronic grief, sexuality/gender identity issues, and a desire to find a life that is meaningful and in alignment with their values. Articulating a coherent narrative for one's life is a task of deepest import, and therapy, I believe, is a uniquely relevant space to pursue that quest.
Raymond Rodriguez
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, Rev
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10016
I am certified in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and have received advanced training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Family Systems, and psychodynamic Psychotherapy.
The path to healing can be arduous and difficult for many and may seem impossible and unattainable for others. I have been fortunate and honored to work with hundreds of individuals, couples, and families on their journey of healing. I am committed to helping every person that comes to therapy to be their support at every step of their journey. Together we create goals, learn skills, and move through blocks that will help you grow from your struggles, heal from your pain, and move forward to where you want to be in your life.
I am certified in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and have received advanced training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Family Systems, and psychodynamic Psychotherapy.
The path to healing can be arduous and difficult for many and may seem impossible and unattainable for others. I have been fortunate and honored to work with hundreds of individuals, couples, and families on their journey of healing. I am committed to helping every person that comes to therapy to be their support at every step of their journey. Together we create goals, learn skills, and move through blocks that will help you grow from your struggles, heal from your pain, and move forward to where you want to be in your life.
I specialize in working with couples utilizing Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy ( EFT) and with adults, in individual therapy, using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor specializing in couples therapy, individual therapy and executive coaching in New York City and Westchester. I believe that everyone has the potential to live a fulfilling life, but sometimes we need help to get there. I am here to offer guidance and support and will cultivate a safe and non-judgemental space while utilizing a directive approach to help you achieve your goals . Whether you are struggling with relationship issues, navigating challenges in your career, adjusting to significant life transitions or just looking to improve your overall well-being, I am here to help.
I specialize in working with couples utilizing Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy ( EFT) and with adults, in individual therapy, using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor specializing in couples therapy, individual therapy and executive coaching in New York City and Westchester. I believe that everyone has the potential to live a fulfilling life, but sometimes we need help to get there. I am here to offer guidance and support and will cultivate a safe and non-judgemental space while utilizing a directive approach to help you achieve your goals . Whether you are struggling with relationship issues, navigating challenges in your career, adjusting to significant life transitions or just looking to improve your overall well-being, I am here to help.
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Emotionally Focused Therapists
Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.