Therapists in Cortlandt Manor, NY
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![Photo of Tyisha Gaskin - Footprints to Feel Better, Pre-Licensed Professional](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/b3574a29-4417-467f-9845-0d001d975e2e/1/320x400.png)
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, BPD, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities were confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, BPD, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities were confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
![Photo of Lucien Beckford - Footprints Mental Health Counseling , Pre-Licensed Professional](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/795b6343-c878-44a8-b4a2-2d124a1b58d1/2/320x400.jpeg)
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, BPD, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities were confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, BPD, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities were confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
![Photo of Ashmee Fernandez - Footprints Mental Health Counseling, Pre-Licensed Professional](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/e6ac39fa-7379-41cd-b3e8-0d9ccfcc4128/3/320x400.jpeg)
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, BPD, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities where confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, BPD, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities where confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
![Photo of Danielle Matias, LMHC, Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/54a96a53-f51e-493d-9e11-cad335019e9f/2/320x400.jpeg)
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, borderline, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities were confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
We work with depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders, bereavement, borderline, autism, ADHD, addiction, sexual abuse, DV, medical illnesses, relationship problems, LGTBQ+, adjustment disorders and forensic cases.
Footprints was started by a therapist who realized that often times the services provided to low socio-economic communities is lacking quality care. We noticed these communities were confronted with long wait times, disrespectful admins, and subpar treatment. The one and only purpose was to exploit the community for profit without providing the level of care deserved. Feel Better Therapy began from the inspiration to provide quality mental health care to the poorest of communities and treating the clients of this community the same way a rich patient would be treated in a clinic treating affluent clients.
![Photo of Deirdre Holland - First Step Directory, MSW, LCSW-R, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/44e45075-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/2/320x400.jpeg)
First Step Directory
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
Hicksville, NY 11801
Deirdre built First Step Therapy & Wellness Group from the ground up and has been hands on every step of the way. Her work ethic is indisputable and she is completely invested in creating a cohesive work environment adhering to values such as mutual respect and equality. She believes healthy doses of restraint combined with self discipline are key components to her success both personally and professionally. Deirdre is highly regarded by her peers and is a long-standing staple within the community where she is committed to creating a safe secure environment for her clients and colleagues. Ms. Holland currently maintains an established private practice
Deirdre built First Step Therapy & Wellness Group from the ground up and has been hands on every step of the way. Her work ethic is indisputable and she is completely invested in creating a cohesive work environment adhering to values such as mutual respect and equality. She believes healthy doses of restraint combined with self discipline are key components to her success both personally and professionally. Deirdre is highly regarded by her peers and is a long-standing staple within the community where she is committed to creating a safe secure environment for her clients and colleagues. Ms. Holland currently maintains an established private practice
![Photo of Jamie Downie, LMSW, DBT, CBT, REBT](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/08296c0e-e105-49ed-90e3-74385b33289e/1/320x400.jpeg)
Jamie Downie
Licensed Master Social Work, LMSW, DBT, CBT, REBT
Verified Verified
14 Endorsed
New York, NY 10006
Jamie Downie LMSW, DBT, CBT, REBT is an experienced mental health professional determined to create a welcoming and productive environment to foster growth for people of all ages and walks of life. Are you feeling like you want to make changes in your life, yet are unsure of how to get there? Do you feel down, anxious, or repetitive patterns of behavior are getting in your way? You may be in need of a safe place to process past trauma, support in understanding and changing unhealthy patterns, healthy coping skills, and/or a gentle push toward your goals. Seeking out therapy can be a great and empowering first step to creating change
Jamie Downie LMSW, DBT, CBT, REBT is an experienced mental health professional determined to create a welcoming and productive environment to foster growth for people of all ages and walks of life. Are you feeling like you want to make changes in your life, yet are unsure of how to get there? Do you feel down, anxious, or repetitive patterns of behavior are getting in your way? You may be in need of a safe place to process past trauma, support in understanding and changing unhealthy patterns, healthy coping skills, and/or a gentle push toward your goals. Seeking out therapy can be a great and empowering first step to creating change
![Photo of Helen Schwartz, LCSW, BCD, R, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/50fbbca8-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/3/320x400.jpeg)
Patients that I meet with will receive a full range of psychotherapy services. I provide parenting counseling, relationship counseling, cognitive therapy, group therapy, psychoanalysis, and anger management. Psychotherapy is available for issues including anxiety, depression, substance abuse as well as eating disorders, couples therapy, individual and family therapy. HIV pre and post counseling, postpartum depression, court mandated treatment, phobias/panic attack, autism, Asperger, ADHD/ ADD, and OCD are a few of the presenting issues I specialize in with over 40 years of experience.
Patients that I meet with will receive a full range of psychotherapy services. I provide parenting counseling, relationship counseling, cognitive therapy, group therapy, psychoanalysis, and anger management. Psychotherapy is available for issues including anxiety, depression, substance abuse as well as eating disorders, couples therapy, individual and family therapy. HIV pre and post counseling, postpartum depression, court mandated treatment, phobias/panic attack, autism, Asperger, ADHD/ ADD, and OCD are a few of the presenting issues I specialize in with over 40 years of experience.
![Photo of Danielle Matias, LMHC, Licensed Professional Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/8be6d254-fa63-405a-a417-984baefc71b1/2/320x400.jpeg)
The goal of my practice is to improve the quality of life of my clients and assist them reach their full potential and personal goals. Specializing in family and couple therapy. I also specialize in depression and anxiety. The ideal client will be dedicated to their own treatment and have a strong desire to feel better. Together with my client we work as a team to achieve the therapeutic goals and make life worth living and enjoying. I have been working in mental health for over a decade and it is my greatest passion in life.
The goal of my practice is to improve the quality of life of my clients and assist them reach their full potential and personal goals. Specializing in family and couple therapy. I also specialize in depression and anxiety. The ideal client will be dedicated to their own treatment and have a strong desire to feel better. Together with my client we work as a team to achieve the therapeutic goals and make life worth living and enjoying. I have been working in mental health for over a decade and it is my greatest passion in life.
![Photo of Peggy (Margaret) Sicari, LCSW, ACSW, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/4027acb2-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/3/320x400.jpeg)
Peggy (Margaret) Sicari
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, ACSW
Verified Verified
Levittown, NY 11756
This stress of the last year was unimageable.. But life has a way of presenting us with unexpected or chronic challenges often leaving us feeling anxious, depressed, lonely, confused and frustrated we can't seem to change it. With over 25 years experience I welcome the opportunity for us to work together to help you successfully work through these feelings and bring your life back to where you want it. I have extensive experience working with addiction, both with individuals suffering from this disease and those family or friends impacted by it; relationship problems, and changes in life circumstances.
This stress of the last year was unimageable.. But life has a way of presenting us with unexpected or chronic challenges often leaving us feeling anxious, depressed, lonely, confused and frustrated we can't seem to change it. With over 25 years experience I welcome the opportunity for us to work together to help you successfully work through these feelings and bring your life back to where you want it. I have extensive experience working with addiction, both with individuals suffering from this disease and those family or friends impacted by it; relationship problems, and changes in life circumstances.
![Photo of Laura Asner, LCSW-R, ACSW, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/3c486eed-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/2/320x400.jpeg)
Laura Asner
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, ACSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bay Shore, NY 11706
Leader in Teletherapy. Feeling Overwhelmed? Looking for someone who can truly understand you? When you meet the right therapist you will know in the first minute. Your concerns are my priority. Call me to discuss your thoughts and feelings without any obligation. I am here for you and with a number of well qualified associates, you will be able to schedule a session asap.
Leader in Teletherapy. Feeling Overwhelmed? Looking for someone who can truly understand you? When you meet the right therapist you will know in the first minute. Your concerns are my priority. Call me to discuss your thoughts and feelings without any obligation. I am here for you and with a number of well qualified associates, you will be able to schedule a session asap.
![Photo of Valerie Paige Kowalski, LMSW, REBT, DBT, CBT](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/954f83ba-c0ea-41e8-8f65-87118edac4b2/1/320x400.jpeg)
Valerie Paige Kowalski
Licensed Master Social Worker, LMSW, REBT, DBT, CBT
Verified Verified
13 Endorsed
New York, NY 10006
People often reach out with a range of concerns, including trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, addiction, eating disorders, career concerns, and the challenges of navigating life transitions. Whatever the specific issue, clients often share a common goal: to gain a deeper understanding of the issues they’re struggling with, to challenge and replace patterns of thought and behavior that are not serving them, and to learn helpful coping skills to manage stressors in healthy and productive ways. Ultimately, my clients frequently aspire to cultivate a life of fulfillment, authenticity, and peace.
People often reach out with a range of concerns, including trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, addiction, eating disorders, career concerns, and the challenges of navigating life transitions. Whatever the specific issue, clients often share a common goal: to gain a deeper understanding of the issues they’re struggling with, to challenge and replace patterns of thought and behavior that are not serving them, and to learn helpful coping skills to manage stressors in healthy and productive ways. Ultimately, my clients frequently aspire to cultivate a life of fulfillment, authenticity, and peace.
![Photo of Arlette Barrow, LCSW-R, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/5af4e20f-a6e3-4d11-a724-d37b089dc950/1/320x400.png)
Arlette Barrow
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11207 (Online Only)
Destigmatizing mental health is one of the biggest challenges we face in todays society. Many individuals are reluctant to seek treatment due to fear of how they may be perceived by their family, friends, and/or any person that plays a significant role in their life. Negative thinking and negative emotions combined with daily stressors is almost certain to lead you down an unhealthy path.
Destigmatizing mental health is one of the biggest challenges we face in todays society. Many individuals are reluctant to seek treatment due to fear of how they may be perceived by their family, friends, and/or any person that plays a significant role in their life. Negative thinking and negative emotions combined with daily stressors is almost certain to lead you down an unhealthy path.
![Photo of Delsa Fauconier - Affective LCSW Services, LCSW-R, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/7cebb80a-e758-498e-81b9-8ec30e0ae997/2/320x400.jpeg)
Affective LCSW Services
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
Staten Island, NY 10303 (Online Only)
I am a dedicated, licensed clinical social worker with over 28 years of experience. My objective is to help you create solutions to your challenges.
I am a dedicated, licensed clinical social worker with over 28 years of experience. My objective is to help you create solutions to your challenges.
![Photo of At Home Psychedelic Therapy (Instant Insurance Verification), MD, PhD, LCSW, PDOC, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/af09b525-ec84-4781-a855-031d06514e9f/1/320x400.png)
At Home Psychedelic Therapy (Instant Insurance Verification)
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MD, PhD, LCSW, PDOC
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10011
Feya Health is a woman-owned, Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy group practice, featured on MTV and Vice. Our Integrative approach helps clients address their self-destructive patterns by getting to the core and root of their issues. The result is a drastic reduction in the initial presenting symptoms over a short period of time. We offer a comprehensive, integrative & customizable approach to the Ketamine & Oxytocin Therapy Process and specialize in EMDR, PTSD, CPTSD, human optimization and Pharmaceutical Medication withdrawal.
Feya Health is a woman-owned, Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy group practice, featured on MTV and Vice. Our Integrative approach helps clients address their self-destructive patterns by getting to the core and root of their issues. The result is a drastic reduction in the initial presenting symptoms over a short period of time. We offer a comprehensive, integrative & customizable approach to the Ketamine & Oxytocin Therapy Process and specialize in EMDR, PTSD, CPTSD, human optimization and Pharmaceutical Medication withdrawal.
![Photo of Michelle Ilyayev - Michelle Silver Lining Mental Health Counseling , LMHC, Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/9195b828-826a-4d97-b168-9f012db69cf6/2/320x400.jpeg)
Michelle Silver Lining Mental Health Counseling
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flushing, NY 11367
Our clinical areas of expertise include anxiety, depression, martial issues, codependency, self-esteem, women’s issues, substance abuse, harm reduction, grief, and transitional concerns. Through evidenced based approaches, we aim to tailor our treatment approach specific to the needs of each individual. We believe in helping individuals build on their strengths, gain insight, and develop effective coping skills.
Our clinical areas of expertise include anxiety, depression, martial issues, codependency, self-esteem, women’s issues, substance abuse, harm reduction, grief, and transitional concerns. Through evidenced based approaches, we aim to tailor our treatment approach specific to the needs of each individual. We believe in helping individuals build on their strengths, gain insight, and develop effective coping skills.
![Photo of Danielle Luz Matias, LMHC, LPC, Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/995ebc14-5b60-418a-8f65-27acf2bf19d4/2/320x400.jpeg)
The goal of my practice is to improve the quality of life of my clients and assist them reach their full potential and personal goals. Specializing in family and couple therapy. I also specialize in depression and anxiety. The ideal client will be dedicated to their own treatment and have a strong desire to feel better. Together with my client we work as a team to achieve the therapeutic goals and make life worth living and enjoying. I have been working in a mental health for over a decade and it's my greatest passion in life.
The goal of my practice is to improve the quality of life of my clients and assist them reach their full potential and personal goals. Specializing in family and couple therapy. I also specialize in depression and anxiety. The ideal client will be dedicated to their own treatment and have a strong desire to feel better. Together with my client we work as a team to achieve the therapeutic goals and make life worth living and enjoying. I have been working in a mental health for over a decade and it's my greatest passion in life.
![Photo of Danielle Luz Matias, LMHC, LPC, Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/7eaf4feb-e0bd-4120-b73a-d337995bc8a5/2/320x400.jpeg)
The goal of my practice is to improve the quality of life of my clients and assist them reach their full potential and personal goals. Specializing in family and couple therapy. I also specialize in depression and anxiety. The ideal client will be dedicated to their own treatment and have a strong desire to feel better. Together with my client we work as a team to achieve the therapeutic goals and make life worth living and enjoying. I have been working in mental health for over a decade and it's my greatest passion in lifeI work to improve the life of my clients daily and I am very successful at achieving therapeutic goals.
The goal of my practice is to improve the quality of life of my clients and assist them reach their full potential and personal goals. Specializing in family and couple therapy. I also specialize in depression and anxiety. The ideal client will be dedicated to their own treatment and have a strong desire to feel better. Together with my client we work as a team to achieve the therapeutic goals and make life worth living and enjoying. I have been working in mental health for over a decade and it's my greatest passion in lifeI work to improve the life of my clients daily and I am very successful at achieving therapeutic goals.
![Photo of At Home Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy (Instant Insurance Verification ), PhD, LCSW, MA, CPC, MD, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/14529509-70a6-4089-b87d-96c88c33bc38/1/320x400.png)
At Home Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy (Instant Insurance Verification )
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LCSW, MA, CPC, MD
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10016
The Feya Health Psychotherapists are all trained in cutting edge & depth oriented modalities that speed up the process of healing & integration in clients compared to traditional talk therapy. We have been featured in the media as an expert therapists including on MTV & Vice. Our Integrative approach helps clients address their self-destructive patterns by getting to the core and root of their issues. The result is a drastic reduction in the initial presenting symptoms. An immersive process for clients who are looking for more sustainable shifts compared to traditional talk therapy.
The Feya Health Psychotherapists are all trained in cutting edge & depth oriented modalities that speed up the process of healing & integration in clients compared to traditional talk therapy. We have been featured in the media as an expert therapists including on MTV & Vice. Our Integrative approach helps clients address their self-destructive patterns by getting to the core and root of their issues. The result is a drastic reduction in the initial presenting symptoms. An immersive process for clients who are looking for more sustainable shifts compared to traditional talk therapy.
![Photo of Dr. Lana Grinev, LCSW-R, M-CASAC, SAP/SAE, CPHQ, CCM/DSW, Clinical Social Work/Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/a4bd2cc9-c717-44cc-81df-776ccaa5aa56/5/320x400.jpeg)
Dr. Lana Grinev
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, M-CASAC, SAP/SAE, CPHQ, CCM/DSW
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11234 (Online Only)
I have to agree that finding the precise therapist can be quite challenging! Hopefully I can make your search less hectic if given the opportunity. I provide an unbiased, trusting environment necessary to explore vulnerabilities which foster healing. I have success working with clients of various ages from diverse backgrounds. I have received advanced training in Eating Disorders and Substance Abuse, and I am also well-versed in cognitive, behavioral, mindfulness, and psychodynamic approaches. I combine techniques from different therapeutic modalities to help my clients reach their goals to success and overall self-fulfillment.
I have to agree that finding the precise therapist can be quite challenging! Hopefully I can make your search less hectic if given the opportunity. I provide an unbiased, trusting environment necessary to explore vulnerabilities which foster healing. I have success working with clients of various ages from diverse backgrounds. I have received advanced training in Eating Disorders and Substance Abuse, and I am also well-versed in cognitive, behavioral, mindfulness, and psychodynamic approaches. I combine techniques from different therapeutic modalities to help my clients reach their goals to success and overall self-fulfillment.
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Borderline Personality (BPD) Therapists
What is the most successful approach to treating borderline personality disorder?
Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is considered the gold standard of treatment for borderline personality disorder. An evidence-based treatment, it addresses the extreme emotional reactivity, the relationship difficulties, and the acts of self-harm that create so much distress for BPD patients. DBT is a comprehensive program that includes both regular individual psychotherapy sessions and weekly group sessions of skills training.
What happens in treatment of borderline personality disorder?
Treatment typically consists of weekly individual therapy sessions that last an hour and group skill-focused instructional sessions that may last up to two hours. Patients are typically given homework “assignments” in which they are asked to practice in their daily life the skills they acquire in therapy. Patients also keep a diary tracking their emotions and impulses as a way to know which situations are most problematic and to help them gain control over their own behavior. Difficult situations and feelings are typically reviewed in therapy sessions and more constructive solutions found.
What kinds of problems does BPD treatment help with?
DBT was initially developed to dampen the self-destructive impulses of chronically suicidal patients. It is now the treatment of choice for borderline personality disorder, a serious condition marked by extreme emotional reactivity, relationship instability, and self-injurious behaviors. Treatment of BPD helps patients tolerate the flux of emotions without acting on them, often with a specific focus on tolerating negative emotions. DBT addresses the core problems of BPD—fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, and impulsivity.
What is the goal of treatment in borderline personality disorder?
The goal of treatment for borderline personality disorder (BPD) is to relieve the extreme emotional distress that patients experience—to curb their emotional reactivity, to minimize their inclination to self-harm, and to reduce their impulsivity. Toward these ends, patients are not only taught an array of new coping skills and techniques for emotional regulation, they are given opportunities to practice them. Another major goal of treatment is interpersonal effectiveness; patients learn and problem-solve ways to effectively communicate in relationships, especially how to ask for what they need as a way to minimize hurt feelings.