Emotionally Focused Therapists in Asheville, NC
I work with individuals & couples using the principles of mindfulness that include awareness, embodiment (somatic presence), compassion, and care. From this comes a willingness to be more accepting of self and other, to use more skillful discernment with actions that support you and others, and to feel a greater sense of ease, connection, and happiness. I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy that follows a process that helps couples create a trusting and loving relationship. I too am informed by Buddhist teachings and practice that shows a way to relate to self, other, and world that brings happiness and peace in your life.
I work with individuals & couples using the principles of mindfulness that include awareness, embodiment (somatic presence), compassion, and care. From this comes a willingness to be more accepting of self and other, to use more skillful discernment with actions that support you and others, and to feel a greater sense of ease, connection, and happiness. I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy that follows a process that helps couples create a trusting and loving relationship. I too am informed by Buddhist teachings and practice that shows a way to relate to self, other, and world that brings happiness and peace in your life.
Paula Zerfoss, LCSW, Couple Therapy That Works
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
Asheville, NC 28801
EFT is a short term method, about 30-35 sessions.
If you are having the same arguments over and over again, you are not alone. I will be with you every step of the way. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples to interrupt repetitive Cycles where one person reaches out in frustration, causing their partner to withdraw and hide out. Couple Therapy doesn't have to be torture, and there doesn't have to be a "bad guy". I have helped couples with a range of issues from Domestic Abuse to infidelity to communication issues. I even use humor sometimes, but we don't waste a moment! I welcome couples who have been in couple therapy before and have almost given up.
EFT is a short term method, about 30-35 sessions.
If you are having the same arguments over and over again, you are not alone. I will be with you every step of the way. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples to interrupt repetitive Cycles where one person reaches out in frustration, causing their partner to withdraw and hide out. Couple Therapy doesn't have to be torture, and there doesn't have to be a "bad guy". I have helped couples with a range of issues from Domestic Abuse to infidelity to communication issues. I even use humor sometimes, but we don't waste a moment! I welcome couples who have been in couple therapy before and have almost given up.
Some of the modalities I weave into our work include emotional freedom technique ( EFT), internal family systems (IFS), attachment theory, acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), narrative techniques, and mindfulness.
Our inner world is the most precious thing we have. It is honorable to create space and time to for your psycho-spiritual health, not everyone is on a path to growth. What are sessions like? I meet you where you are, with unconditional presence and support. We exist (always) in relationship to others and it’s through our therapeutic relationship that we’ll work to create the change you desire. I value feedback and always want to make sure we are on the same page and continuing towards goals that matter most to you.
Some of the modalities I weave into our work include emotional freedom technique ( EFT), internal family systems (IFS), attachment theory, acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), narrative techniques, and mindfulness.
Our inner world is the most precious thing we have. It is honorable to create space and time to for your psycho-spiritual health, not everyone is on a path to growth. What are sessions like? I meet you where you are, with unconditional presence and support. We exist (always) in relationship to others and it’s through our therapeutic relationship that we’ll work to create the change you desire. I value feedback and always want to make sure we are on the same page and continuing towards goals that matter most to you.
Kristin Gonitzke
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MMFT, LMFTA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28801
I work through a developmental and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) lens to help folks understand how the past has impacted their present day relationships, and to problem solve solutions.
You’ve tried everything to reconnect with your partner, save your relationship, or remind yourself of why you fell in love way back when. You’re feeling resentful, the emotional labor feels one sided, and it feels impossible to find each other through the chaos of work, kids, life. It’s terrifying and overwhelming to be fighting all the time, and you’re confused about how it all fell apart. You want to understand the recurring argument and the missed connections that you're having, and start to rebuild the love that you’re afraid to lose.
I work through a developmental and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) lens to help folks understand how the past has impacted their present day relationships, and to problem solve solutions.
You’ve tried everything to reconnect with your partner, save your relationship, or remind yourself of why you fell in love way back when. You’re feeling resentful, the emotional labor feels one sided, and it feels impossible to find each other through the chaos of work, kids, life. It’s terrifying and overwhelming to be fighting all the time, and you’re confused about how it all fell apart. You want to understand the recurring argument and the missed connections that you're having, and start to rebuild the love that you’re afraid to lose.
Holly Henry
Lic Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate, MA, LCMHCA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28801
As a couples therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, I specialize in guiding partners through the intricate journey of relationship healing.
Whether you're a couple or individual, I offer support to those seeking assistance in addressing relationship wounds, navigating harmful relationship dynamics, and tackling the intricate aspects of complex trauma. I also work with individuals who are grappling with the effects of anxiety, depression, grief, or emotional regulation, healing from religious or spiritual trauma, seeking to cultivate an embodied sense of self, or looking for support in navigating experiences of abuse.
As a couples therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, I specialize in guiding partners through the intricate journey of relationship healing.
Whether you're a couple or individual, I offer support to those seeking assistance in addressing relationship wounds, navigating harmful relationship dynamics, and tackling the intricate aspects of complex trauma. I also work with individuals who are grappling with the effects of anxiety, depression, grief, or emotional regulation, healing from religious or spiritual trauma, seeking to cultivate an embodied sense of self, or looking for support in navigating experiences of abuse.
My clients often overcome trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, and life changes with the support of emotionally focused therapy.
Way to go about taking the first step to start therapy! It's tough to feel any balance. Stressors weigh on you and may even add to your anxiety and depression symptoms. Perhaps you may be struggling and at a loss for what to do and how to do it. I can support you to find the best strategies to tackle these stressors and get back to balance despite the many things we aren't able to change in the world now. I've spent many years working with individuals to navigate their symptoms to work together to make daily life feel more balanced. I have extensive training and experience to treat the whole person with a mindful approach.
My clients often overcome trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, and life changes with the support of emotionally focused therapy.
Way to go about taking the first step to start therapy! It's tough to feel any balance. Stressors weigh on you and may even add to your anxiety and depression symptoms. Perhaps you may be struggling and at a loss for what to do and how to do it. I can support you to find the best strategies to tackle these stressors and get back to balance despite the many things we aren't able to change in the world now. I've spent many years working with individuals to navigate their symptoms to work together to make daily life feel more balanced. I have extensive training and experience to treat the whole person with a mindful approach.
I have clinical training in Polyvagal Interventions, Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Family Systems, Theraplay, DBT, Brainspotting, Mindfulness and additional emotional regulation techniques.
The clients I work with are seeking therapy to navigate difficult life transitions, create repair after impactful life experiences, navigate complex relationships, regain their ability to experience a full range of emotion and have accountability without shame. Often, they are aware and understand what should be helpful to them, but struggle to turn that knowledge into change. We will work together to explore your relationship with yourself, how it developed and how it is impacting your ability to live a fulfilled life.
I have clinical training in Polyvagal Interventions, Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Family Systems, Theraplay, DBT, Brainspotting, Mindfulness and additional emotional regulation techniques.
The clients I work with are seeking therapy to navigate difficult life transitions, create repair after impactful life experiences, navigate complex relationships, regain their ability to experience a full range of emotion and have accountability without shame. Often, they are aware and understand what should be helpful to them, but struggle to turn that knowledge into change. We will work together to explore your relationship with yourself, how it developed and how it is impacting your ability to live a fulfilled life.
Rose Munsey-Kano
Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate, LCMHCA
Verified Verified
Asheville, NC 28803
I'm trauma-informed and attachment-oriented, and often use IFS and EFT interventions.
I specialize in relationship issues, breakups, and trauma processing. I work with adult individuals and couples. Folks who struggle with boundaries, expressing needs, avoidance, anxiety, or managing conflict find our work rewarding. I'm especially passionate about supporting BIPOC, LGBTQ+, and highly sensitive folks. I help clients process distress, foster meaningful connections, and build resiliency. I’m a humanistic, strengths-based therapist, which means I believe that you already have what you need within you to thrive. We'll work together to heal past wounds and uncover the authentic self that lies beneath.
I'm trauma-informed and attachment-oriented, and often use IFS and EFT interventions.
I specialize in relationship issues, breakups, and trauma processing. I work with adult individuals and couples. Folks who struggle with boundaries, expressing needs, avoidance, anxiety, or managing conflict find our work rewarding. I'm especially passionate about supporting BIPOC, LGBTQ+, and highly sensitive folks. I help clients process distress, foster meaningful connections, and build resiliency. I’m a humanistic, strengths-based therapist, which means I believe that you already have what you need within you to thrive. We'll work together to heal past wounds and uncover the authentic self that lies beneath.
David Von Kohorn
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CSAT-S, C-EFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28801
My style is best described as warm, attentive and curious; and as a trauma specialist I use, and/or am certified in, the following models: Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP); Intensive Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP); and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
My primary focus in therapy – with individuals, couples or families – is to support and facilitate my clients in their journey to a deeper understanding and awareness of themselves. This goal is best achieved, I believe, by encouraging self-acceptance and insight, and by forming with each client a safe and nonjudgmental relationship. It is within this alliance that, together, we can explore, understand, and begin to gently dismantle the obstacles and unproductive patterns of coping that, although once useful in dealing with painful life events or childhood relationships, may now be keeping them from enjoying a more fulfilling life.
My style is best described as warm, attentive and curious; and as a trauma specialist I use, and/or am certified in, the following models: Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP); Intensive Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP); and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
My primary focus in therapy – with individuals, couples or families – is to support and facilitate my clients in their journey to a deeper understanding and awareness of themselves. This goal is best achieved, I believe, by encouraging self-acceptance and insight, and by forming with each client a safe and nonjudgmental relationship. It is within this alliance that, together, we can explore, understand, and begin to gently dismantle the obstacles and unproductive patterns of coping that, although once useful in dealing with painful life events or childhood relationships, may now be keeping them from enjoying a more fulfilling life.
I use Imago, EFT, and Family Systems, to help couples get to the root of their problems.
Are you feeling alone, anxious or depressed? Unsatisfied with your career, have chronic pain or illness? Relationship stress, extended family issues? My clients tell me I'm warm, easy to talk to, and down to earth. I use a variety of treatment approaches: psychodynamic and relational, combined with CBT, EFT, and EMDR. EMDR can help almost any problem resolve more quickly because it allows the brain to make changes on a deeper level than just talking. We still talk plenty, before, during and after EMDR. My clients find telehealth to be helpful and convenient. I see established clients in my airbnb when scheduling allows.
I use Imago, EFT, and Family Systems, to help couples get to the root of their problems.
Are you feeling alone, anxious or depressed? Unsatisfied with your career, have chronic pain or illness? Relationship stress, extended family issues? My clients tell me I'm warm, easy to talk to, and down to earth. I use a variety of treatment approaches: psychodynamic and relational, combined with CBT, EFT, and EMDR. EMDR can help almost any problem resolve more quickly because it allows the brain to make changes on a deeper level than just talking. We still talk plenty, before, during and after EMDR. My clients find telehealth to be helpful and convenient. I see established clients in my airbnb when scheduling allows.
Thriveworks Counseling & Psychiatry Asheville
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Verified Verified
Asheville, NC 28801
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
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Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAS
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28803
I am an Emotionally Focused Therapist, the APA gold star treatment for couples, and EMDR for deep body-mind healing.
I offer individual, couples and family Psychotherapy and Life Coaching. I would like to join with you in creating a life that brings you as much joy as possible, and to help you remove the barriers that have blocked your heart from flowing. It is my passion to create a safe space for you to experience deep heart, mind and soul healing. I would like to join together with you to tune in and trust your natural instincts, the wisdom of your organism, to flow into a more free, joyful, fulfilling, authentic, wildly wonderful existence as a human being that you were uniquely born to live.
I am an Emotionally Focused Therapist, the APA gold star treatment for couples, and EMDR for deep body-mind healing.
I offer individual, couples and family Psychotherapy and Life Coaching. I would like to join with you in creating a life that brings you as much joy as possible, and to help you remove the barriers that have blocked your heart from flowing. It is my passion to create a safe space for you to experience deep heart, mind and soul healing. I would like to join together with you to tune in and trust your natural instincts, the wisdom of your organism, to flow into a more free, joyful, fulfilling, authentic, wildly wonderful existence as a human being that you were uniquely born to live.
Amy Datla
Marriage & Family Therapist, LCMHCS, LMHC, LMFT, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28804 (Online Only)
I am an experienced psychotherapist who provides therapy to individuals, couples & families in North Carolina and Florida with a variety of struggles. I am a Social Justice Oriented & LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapist & practice anti-racist principles. I specialize working with clients struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, addiction & relationship distress. My services encourage increased personal happiness & health & emotional connection. I believe that as people become more accepting of themselves, & more aware of their thoughts, emotions & actions, they are more capable of making decisions which lead to happiness & fulfillment.
I am an experienced psychotherapist who provides therapy to individuals, couples & families in North Carolina and Florida with a variety of struggles. I am a Social Justice Oriented & LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapist & practice anti-racist principles. I specialize working with clients struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, addiction & relationship distress. My services encourage increased personal happiness & health & emotional connection. I believe that as people become more accepting of themselves, & more aware of their thoughts, emotions & actions, they are more capable of making decisions which lead to happiness & fulfillment.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the gold standard of couples therapy with the highest success rate in research—90% of couples improve significantly!.
•••Immediate Openings Available••• You promise yourself you won’t get into the same fight again, but then you inevitably do. It just happens so fast, and now the two of you are going in familiar circles. Maybe one of you gets walled off and seems to just…disappear. Or maybe one of you starts to fight harder, increasing the emotional intensity just to get through. There was once so much love here, but it’s hard to feel it when you’re caught up in a vicious cycle. These experiences can be downright excruciating, and counseling can help you navigate.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the gold standard of couples therapy with the highest success rate in research—90% of couples improve significantly!.
•••Immediate Openings Available••• You promise yourself you won’t get into the same fight again, but then you inevitably do. It just happens so fast, and now the two of you are going in familiar circles. Maybe one of you gets walled off and seems to just…disappear. Or maybe one of you starts to fight harder, increasing the emotional intensity just to get through. There was once so much love here, but it’s hard to feel it when you’re caught up in a vicious cycle. These experiences can be downright excruciating, and counseling can help you navigate.
Christopher M Mayer
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CBA
Verified Verified
Asheville, NC 28805
I offer low-fee counseling for people looking to heal their pain and transforms their lives. People who come to me find a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment where they are free to work through difficulties with someone capable of really listening, holding space, and who sees them and the struggles they are living with. It is my passion to help guide people through the courageous process of healing the past and moving forward into greater health and well-being. I offer sessions both in-person and through telemedicine.
I offer low-fee counseling for people looking to heal their pain and transforms their lives. People who come to me find a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment where they are free to work through difficulties with someone capable of really listening, holding space, and who sees them and the struggles they are living with. It is my passion to help guide people through the courageous process of healing the past and moving forward into greater health and well-being. I offer sessions both in-person and through telemedicine.
Crystal Nero
Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, LCMHC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28806
Through experiential techniques, EFT and ritual I will be your guide in your healing.
Welcome! I specialize in relational therapy as well as working with individuals providing deep understanding of attachment through experiential practices. Being human can be hard and messy most days and being in relationships can sometimes feel impossible. You may have tried therapy in the past, and are now looking for something deeper and want to know WHY you and your relationships are struggling. If you are asking these deeper questions, I would love to guide you in this exploration.
Through experiential techniques, EFT and ritual I will be your guide in your healing.
Welcome! I specialize in relational therapy as well as working with individuals providing deep understanding of attachment through experiential practices. Being human can be hard and messy most days and being in relationships can sometimes feel impossible. You may have tried therapy in the past, and are now looking for something deeper and want to know WHY you and your relationships are struggling. If you are asking these deeper questions, I would love to guide you in this exploration.
Jen Perrine
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MS, LMFTA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28801
EFT creates a safe environment to talk about the hard things and begin to risk again so that you can move towards a freer, more grounded way of being.
All relationships hold the capacity for both sacred joy and deep pain. We tend to get stuck in cycles that threaten to derail our connection with the ones who matter most. We lose sight of one another in the daily grind and can’t seem to find our way back to a partner or maybe even to ourselves. That feeling of safety and respect slips away, and you get stuck in negative emotions that steal the love you once held for your partner. You reach out and feel rejected. You take space but feel lonely. You are not the only one. Like you, I’ve experienced negative relationship cycles in my 15-year marriage.
EFT creates a safe environment to talk about the hard things and begin to risk again so that you can move towards a freer, more grounded way of being.
All relationships hold the capacity for both sacred joy and deep pain. We tend to get stuck in cycles that threaten to derail our connection with the ones who matter most. We lose sight of one another in the daily grind and can’t seem to find our way back to a partner or maybe even to ourselves. That feeling of safety and respect slips away, and you get stuck in negative emotions that steal the love you once held for your partner. You reach out and feel rejected. You take space but feel lonely. You are not the only one. Like you, I’ve experienced negative relationship cycles in my 15-year marriage.
I have training in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), Mindfulness, and expressive arts.
Are you changing jobs and don't know what you want to do? Maybe you're an "empty-nest" parent, newly divorced, or recently retired and wondering, "Now what?" Maybe you are all or none of the above, but find yourself in the midst of change. My area of interest is life transitions. I support clients from diverse backgrounds and ages as they identify new tools that support their growth through various life changes. These transitions can lead us to question our values, identities, and the meanings we make for ourselves, and can impact our sense of self throughout our lives, for children, and young-, mid-life, and older adults.
I have training in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), Mindfulness, and expressive arts.
Are you changing jobs and don't know what you want to do? Maybe you're an "empty-nest" parent, newly divorced, or recently retired and wondering, "Now what?" Maybe you are all or none of the above, but find yourself in the midst of change. My area of interest is life transitions. I support clients from diverse backgrounds and ages as they identify new tools that support their growth through various life changes. These transitions can lead us to question our values, identities, and the meanings we make for ourselves, and can impact our sense of self throughout our lives, for children, and young-, mid-life, and older adults.
Melina Bridges
Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, LCMHC
Verified Verified
Asheville, NC 28801
Additionally I incorporate the use of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR), Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), ECO/Nature therapy, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
I offer expressive and emotionally based therapies to children (ages 6 and older) a warm and nurturing environment which provides a safe space to do any healing they might need to do to move forward, to feel better about who they are, or share what might have happened in their lives that makes their heart ache. I help teens and young adults navigate the turbulence of hormones, and school work, friendships and home life, college and relationships, and all the other activities and significant events happening, while trying to discover who they are and what makes them feel most alive.
Additionally I incorporate the use of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR), Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), ECO/Nature therapy, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
I offer expressive and emotionally based therapies to children (ages 6 and older) a warm and nurturing environment which provides a safe space to do any healing they might need to do to move forward, to feel better about who they are, or share what might have happened in their lives that makes their heart ache. I help teens and young adults navigate the turbulence of hormones, and school work, friendships and home life, college and relationships, and all the other activities and significant events happening, while trying to discover who they are and what makes them feel most alive.
Kambra Meyer
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LCMHC, LCAS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Asheville, NC 28801
I'm also trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and the Emotional Freedom Technique ( EFT).
Even the most self-aware humans can experience periods of confusion, stuckness, and destabilization, and oftentimes suffering has unconscious roots. I've dedicated my training and education as a helping professional to learn how to unlock messages from the unconscious to promote healing and well-being. I also strive to arm my clients with concrete tools to use independently, long after our work together is completed. I have many years of experience helping people heal, blending a variety of nontraditional and expressive therapeutic approaches with evidence-based interventions to meet the individual needs of the people I serve.
I'm also trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and the Emotional Freedom Technique ( EFT).
Even the most self-aware humans can experience periods of confusion, stuckness, and destabilization, and oftentimes suffering has unconscious roots. I've dedicated my training and education as a helping professional to learn how to unlock messages from the unconscious to promote healing and well-being. I also strive to arm my clients with concrete tools to use independently, long after our work together is completed. I have many years of experience helping people heal, blending a variety of nontraditional and expressive therapeutic approaches with evidence-based interventions to meet the individual needs of the people I serve.
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.