Couples Counseling Therapists in Shoreview, MN

Sheila Conlin
Psychologist, MA, LP, LMFT
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
I find that it is most helpful to speak on the phone initially when sorting out whether you would be comfortable working with me and to see whether I can be helpful with the issues that you are facing. I have worked as a psychologist and marriage and family therapist for over twenty years. I have experience with a wide range of diagnoses including depression and anxiety. My caseload includes adults, adolescents and children. I see families and couples who are struggling with relationships, mental health problems and adjustment to life's developmental challenges.
I find that it is most helpful to speak on the phone initially when sorting out whether you would be comfortable working with me and to see whether I can be helpful with the issues that you are facing. I have worked as a psychologist and marriage and family therapist for over twenty years. I have experience with a wide range of diagnoses including depression and anxiety. My caseload includes adults, adolescents and children. I see families and couples who are struggling with relationships, mental health problems and adjustment to life's developmental challenges.
(651) 674-3819 View (651) 674-3819
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Jenn John
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
Entering into (or even the thought of entering into) a therapeutic process takes a lot of ambition and courage. The therapy process is not an easy one, but it can be a highly successful and rewarding one when it lessens your suffering, reduces troubling symptoms, and increases your ability to cope with the stressors of life. These are all outcomes that are best achieved within a nurturing and supportive relationship with a helping professional. It would be my honor to support you in your quest towards health.
Entering into (or even the thought of entering into) a therapeutic process takes a lot of ambition and courage. The therapy process is not an easy one, but it can be a highly successful and rewarding one when it lessens your suffering, reduces troubling symptoms, and increases your ability to cope with the stressors of life. These are all outcomes that are best achieved within a nurturing and supportive relationship with a helping professional. It would be my honor to support you in your quest towards health.
(651) 421-0815 View (651) 421-0815
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Seth Dahle
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, MS, LPCC, LADC
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
A family counseling and coaching program built to support families who are struggling with substance use disorders, mental health, and relationship challenges.
We believe that too often families are excluded from the care of substance use and mental health issues. Our approach is rooted in the understanding that substance use disorders, mental health challenges, and family dynamics are interconnected. Our team combines compassionate care with evidence-based practices to deliver an effective, individualized approach. Whether addressing substance use, mental health, or family relationship concerns, we utilize methods such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, family systems therapy, and motivational interviewing in our approach. We do not take insurance and are private pay only, at this time.
A family counseling and coaching program built to support families who are struggling with substance use disorders, mental health, and relationship challenges.
We believe that too often families are excluded from the care of substance use and mental health issues. Our approach is rooted in the understanding that substance use disorders, mental health challenges, and family dynamics are interconnected. Our team combines compassionate care with evidence-based practices to deliver an effective, individualized approach. Whether addressing substance use, mental health, or family relationship concerns, we utilize methods such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, family systems therapy, and motivational interviewing in our approach. We do not take insurance and are private pay only, at this time.
(651) 661-4838 View (651) 661-4838
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Sharon Stein McNamara Ed.D. Psychology Inc.
Psychologist, EdD, LP
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
In my clinical practice, I work with individuals, couples and families to reduce thinking and behavioral patterns that cause difficulty and distress.
You can make the change you want. And I can help. I can assist you in transforming negative and destructive thoughts and behavior into more helpful and compassionate responses. I start with assessing your particular patterns that are self-defeating to what you would like to change in your life. Then I design a program to help you change these behaviors and cope with your existing situation. This mindfulness-based therapy emphasizes working together to help you with depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders, and chronic or emotional pain; resolve relationship issues; or recover from trauma and grief.
In my clinical practice, I work with individuals, couples and families to reduce thinking and behavioral patterns that cause difficulty and distress.
You can make the change you want. And I can help. I can assist you in transforming negative and destructive thoughts and behavior into more helpful and compassionate responses. I start with assessing your particular patterns that are self-defeating to what you would like to change in your life. Then I design a program to help you change these behaviors and cope with your existing situation. This mindfulness-based therapy emphasizes working together to help you with depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders, and chronic or emotional pain; resolve relationship issues; or recover from trauma and grief.
(651) 760-5181 View (651) 760-5181
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Rachael Ann Gusaas
Marriage & Family Therapist, MDiv, LMFT
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126  (Online Only)
I offer couples, individual, group and pre-marriage counseling.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Ordained Minister with over 20 years of combined experience as a Pastor and Therapist working with individuals, couples and families as they navigate life's challenges. I work with couples, adults, and teens dealing with complex grief, life transitions, caretaker fatigue, boundaries, trauma and abuse, and spiritual issues. I employ a holistic approach and systemic perspective to therapy, believing people are made up of many parts – body, mind and spirit, existing in complex relationship systems. I am a member of AAMFT and MAMFT.
I offer couples, individual, group and pre-marriage counseling.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Ordained Minister with over 20 years of combined experience as a Pastor and Therapist working with individuals, couples and families as they navigate life's challenges. I work with couples, adults, and teens dealing with complex grief, life transitions, caretaker fatigue, boundaries, trauma and abuse, and spiritual issues. I employ a holistic approach and systemic perspective to therapy, believing people are made up of many parts – body, mind and spirit, existing in complex relationship systems. I am a member of AAMFT and MAMFT.
(651) 400-9345 View (651) 400-9345
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Ania Scanlan
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
Do you need a space of your own to heal the emotional wounds that seem to pop up at the most unfortunate times? Life can be stressful, and unhealed emotional hurt can make us doubt ourselves and feel lonely in our valued relationships. I help women heal the deep stuff that sometimes is difficult to name. The stuff that comes up as a feeling in your body, a warning of sorts. I also help couples improve their connection, communication, and life together as a couple.
Do you need a space of your own to heal the emotional wounds that seem to pop up at the most unfortunate times? Life can be stressful, and unhealed emotional hurt can make us doubt ourselves and feel lonely in our valued relationships. I help women heal the deep stuff that sometimes is difficult to name. The stuff that comes up as a feeling in your body, a warning of sorts. I also help couples improve their connection, communication, and life together as a couple.
(612) 261-0886 View (612) 261-0886
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Lucy Neale
Pre-Licensed Professional, MPS, LADC
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
It can be difficult to take the first step toward change. Maybe you're dealing with a challenging life transition or have dealt with ongoing anxiety, low self esteem, substance abuse or relationship difficulties. If you are unsure where to begin, you are in the right place. As a therapist, I strive to provide a non-judgmental, welcoming, and safe space where clients can feel accepted and supported.
It can be difficult to take the first step toward change. Maybe you're dealing with a challenging life transition or have dealt with ongoing anxiety, low self esteem, substance abuse or relationship difficulties. If you are unsure where to begin, you are in the right place. As a therapist, I strive to provide a non-judgmental, welcoming, and safe space where clients can feel accepted and supported.
(651) 422-5144 View (651) 422-5144
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Janet Yeats
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126  (Online Only)
I work with individuals, couples and families to help them process their trauma and loss.
Trauma and loss are a common part of every person’s life. We suffer beyond the experience of a specific trauma and loss, and our lives are impacted by that suffering. In the face of trauma and loss, our culture often sends the message that we should “just move on and get over it.” I would rather honor what has been lost and allow for grief to be felt. Only when we have truly processed our trauma and loss can we move into our lives holding the grief in healthy ways.
I work with individuals, couples and families to help them process their trauma and loss.
Trauma and loss are a common part of every person’s life. We suffer beyond the experience of a specific trauma and loss, and our lives are impacted by that suffering. In the face of trauma and loss, our culture often sends the message that we should “just move on and get over it.” I would rather honor what has been lost and allow for grief to be felt. Only when we have truly processed our trauma and loss can we move into our lives holding the grief in healthy ways.
(651) 615-3911 View (651) 615-3911
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Biancardi Counseling & Consulting Services, Inc.
Psychologist, MA, LP
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
When working with couples, I love all things Gottman related, as this is scientifically rigorous and immensely practical.
One of things I enjoy about my work as a psychologist, is the privilege of engaging in substantive discussion each day. I am passionate about my work and engaging clients in the process of transformation. I have been described as warm, friendly, and inviting. I typically work with professionals struggling with anxiety and depression. I do a lot of work with men surrounding issues pertaining to men's health and spiritual formation. I also work with couples/marriages and derive great satisfaction in helping people develop greater relational health.
When working with couples, I love all things Gottman related, as this is scientifically rigorous and immensely practical.
One of things I enjoy about my work as a psychologist, is the privilege of engaging in substantive discussion each day. I am passionate about my work and engaging clients in the process of transformation. I have been described as warm, friendly, and inviting. I typically work with professionals struggling with anxiety and depression. I do a lot of work with men surrounding issues pertaining to men's health and spiritual formation. I also work with couples/marriages and derive great satisfaction in helping people develop greater relational health.
(763) 600-8265 View (763) 600-8265
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Charles Richmond
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
My specialty areas include parenting, couples, adult individuals and adolescents. I help parents to see the mind behind their child's behaviors and empower them to parent through positive connection while maintaining structure. With couples I focus on fostering greater attunement and communication while also empowering each individual to bring the best part of themselves and advocate for what they desire in the relationship. I work with individuals experiencing anxiety, depressed mood, low self-esteem, relationships concerns, life transitions, exploring spirituality and family of origin issues. I also see adolescents experiencing the struggles common to that stage of life.
My specialty areas include parenting, couples, adult individuals and adolescents. I help parents to see the mind behind their child's behaviors and empower them to parent through positive connection while maintaining structure. With couples I focus on fostering greater attunement and communication while also empowering each individual to bring the best part of themselves and advocate for what they desire in the relationship. I work with individuals experiencing anxiety, depressed mood, low self-esteem, relationships concerns, life transitions, exploring spirituality and family of origin issues. I also see adolescents experiencing the struggles common to that stage of life.
(612) 260-5605 View (612) 260-5605
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Jordan Lindh, Psy.D. LP
Psychologist, PsyD, LP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
I currently work with individuals and couples.
Life is a journey with many surprises and unknowns. I believe we all do the best we can to navigate this journey, but sometimes we get stuck along the way. In my work with individuals and couples, I hope to accompany you on this journey, while promoting new ways of being and relating over time. Previous relationships and experiences greatly impact the way we see the world and how we currently relate to others. Our work together will include increasing awareness around how these factors might be impacting your life today, while exploring new and adaptive ways of relating to self and others.
I currently work with individuals and couples.
Life is a journey with many surprises and unknowns. I believe we all do the best we can to navigate this journey, but sometimes we get stuck along the way. In my work with individuals and couples, I hope to accompany you on this journey, while promoting new ways of being and relating over time. Previous relationships and experiences greatly impact the way we see the world and how we currently relate to others. Our work together will include increasing awareness around how these factors might be impacting your life today, while exploring new and adaptive ways of relating to self and others.
(651) 395-7415 View (651) 395-7415
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Kris Anderson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
I believe that peace on earth starts with peace in the home. I'm able to help adults, couples, and families find this peace by using healthy communication techniques, recognize their emotions and heal from past pain. This helps clients foster deeper connections in their relationships and within themselves. I work with couples needing support with communication, conflict resolution and gaining trust. I help parents establish loving limits with their children to help them learn while also maintaining connection. I can help clients cope with anxiety, depression, trauma, and postpartum.
I believe that peace on earth starts with peace in the home. I'm able to help adults, couples, and families find this peace by using healthy communication techniques, recognize their emotions and heal from past pain. This helps clients foster deeper connections in their relationships and within themselves. I work with couples needing support with communication, conflict resolution and gaining trust. I help parents establish loving limits with their children to help them learn while also maintaining connection. I can help clients cope with anxiety, depression, trauma, and postpartum.
(651) 967-7892 View (651) 967-7892
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Michael M Thomas
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
It can be a hard struggle between admitting you have pain and wanting to lash out against your partner.
Whether you've got general marital stress, are dealing with infidelity, high conflict, sense of despair, or have something external creating marital stress, I'm here to help. My role is to help put the pieces back together. Even if your partner won't join you.
It can be a hard struggle between admitting you have pain and wanting to lash out against your partner.
Whether you've got general marital stress, are dealing with infidelity, high conflict, sense of despair, or have something external creating marital stress, I'm here to help. My role is to help put the pieces back together. Even if your partner won't join you.
(612) 223-6438 View (612) 223-6438
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Nancy J Dorman
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
Feeling overwhelmed? Inadequate? Undone? Exhausted trying to juggle everything perfectly all of the time? Disappointed with relationships? Ready to consider what keeps you from changes you want? Wondering if life could be better if things were "tweaked" a little? You are not alone! You matter. Your story matters. Help also matters because we weren't meant to "go it alone". All of us need help along the way. And the client-therapist relationship matters: it's important that you are comfortable and find a safe place where your story---your thoughts, perspectives, hopes, and dreams---can be heard, valued, and repurposed for your next chapter.
Feeling overwhelmed? Inadequate? Undone? Exhausted trying to juggle everything perfectly all of the time? Disappointed with relationships? Ready to consider what keeps you from changes you want? Wondering if life could be better if things were "tweaked" a little? You are not alone! You matter. Your story matters. Help also matters because we weren't meant to "go it alone". All of us need help along the way. And the client-therapist relationship matters: it's important that you are comfortable and find a safe place where your story---your thoughts, perspectives, hopes, and dreams---can be heard, valued, and repurposed for your next chapter.
(651) 321-5816 View (651) 321-5816
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Beth Marolt
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
I provide therapy services to individuals, couples and families.
The headlines read : These are the worst of times (Styx,1981). At times our situations can be overwhelming and truly feel like the worst of times. Life can be painful and difficult and sometimes feels out of control. I help clients deal with a variety of “worst of times” including marital conflict, medical crisis or chronic illness, parenting issues, a difficult child/teen, anger, depression/anxiety, etc. I will help you to solve these and other issues, and work together to make lasting changes.
I provide therapy services to individuals, couples and families.
The headlines read : These are the worst of times (Styx,1981). At times our situations can be overwhelming and truly feel like the worst of times. Life can be painful and difficult and sometimes feels out of control. I help clients deal with a variety of “worst of times” including marital conflict, medical crisis or chronic illness, parenting issues, a difficult child/teen, anger, depression/anxiety, etc. I will help you to solve these and other issues, and work together to make lasting changes.
(651) 538-6960 View (651) 538-6960
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Rachel Larson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
Starting the process of feeling satisfied and connected in your relationship is a phone call away.
You try to talk about something important to you and somehow it becomes a fight. How can this person you love and built your life with feel like such a stranger sometimes? Does it have to be this hard? To others, it seems like you have the perfect life and relationship. They’d be surprised to know the truth. When one or both of your buttons are pushed, things go off the rails. You know you love each other deeply and both want a solid and healthy relationship – but when these conflicts happen, you feel so disconnected and hopeless that you question whether you’ll ever be able to truly resolve things and find a deep connection again.
Starting the process of feeling satisfied and connected in your relationship is a phone call away.
You try to talk about something important to you and somehow it becomes a fight. How can this person you love and built your life with feel like such a stranger sometimes? Does it have to be this hard? To others, it seems like you have the perfect life and relationship. They’d be surprised to know the truth. When one or both of your buttons are pushed, things go off the rails. You know you love each other deeply and both want a solid and healthy relationship – but when these conflicts happen, you feel so disconnected and hopeless that you question whether you’ll ever be able to truly resolve things and find a deep connection again.
(763) 600-7411 View (763) 600-7411
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Nic Howe
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPCC, LMHC
Verified Verified
10 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
Additionally, I am trained in Lifespan Integration (Level 2) for addressing trauma and PTSD and a Gottman Level 1 certified couples therapist.
I believe in the inherent glory, beauty, and strength within each individual. While this may sound idealistic, it's undeniable that our lives often encompass brokenness, pain, darkness, and shame, which can obscure our true essence. My mission is to guide you through understanding your personal narrative or "mythos" that has sculpted your identity. This involves exploring your self-perception, spiritual beliefs, and interactions with the world. I am committed to journeying with you through the depths of pain and darkness to uncover the profound truth of our existence - that we are intimately known and cherished by God.
Additionally, I am trained in Lifespan Integration (Level 2) for addressing trauma and PTSD and a Gottman Level 1 certified couples therapist.
I believe in the inherent glory, beauty, and strength within each individual. While this may sound idealistic, it's undeniable that our lives often encompass brokenness, pain, darkness, and shame, which can obscure our true essence. My mission is to guide you through understanding your personal narrative or "mythos" that has sculpted your identity. This involves exploring your self-perception, spiritual beliefs, and interactions with the world. I am committed to journeying with you through the depths of pain and darkness to uncover the profound truth of our existence - that we are intimately known and cherished by God.
(612) 662-6089 View (612) 662-6089
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Danielle Rae Wilson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
​LIfe can bring many seasons, just like the weather, and some of those seasons can be difficult to navigate on your own whether its relationship difficulties, trauma, family hardships, and events that cause distress and pain.
I have been working in mental health for the past ten years and specialize in work with adults and adolescents that have experienced significant trauma, anxiety, depression, family issues, grief and loss, marital issues and suicidal ideation. I have been trained in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy, Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT), and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). I also use mindfulness, deep breathing, and art therapy techniques throughout my practice and try to tailor my therapy approach to meet the individual where they are at and what they find most helpful.
​LIfe can bring many seasons, just like the weather, and some of those seasons can be difficult to navigate on your own whether its relationship difficulties, trauma, family hardships, and events that cause distress and pain.
I have been working in mental health for the past ten years and specialize in work with adults and adolescents that have experienced significant trauma, anxiety, depression, family issues, grief and loss, marital issues and suicidal ideation. I have been trained in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy, Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT), and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). I also use mindfulness, deep breathing, and art therapy techniques throughout my practice and try to tailor my therapy approach to meet the individual where they are at and what they find most helpful.
(651) 362-2285 View (651) 362-2285
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Kaelyn Folstad
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPCC
Verified Verified
Shoreview, MN 55126
Kaelyn is currently serving clients seeking individual, couples and/or family therapy in-office at Wildflower Wellness located in Circle Pines, MN or virtually through HIPAA compliant telehealth services.
Kaelyn Folstad is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor specializing in maternal mental health & wellness, family planning & parenting topics, gender and/or sexuality related issues, & other general mental health challenges. Kaelyn enjoys working with teens, young adults, couples & families utilizing an eclectic combination of interventions to best meet client needs. She is Nationally Certified through Postpartum Support International (PSI) as a pregnancy/perinatal/postpartum mental health provider.
Kaelyn is currently serving clients seeking individual, couples and/or family therapy in-office at Wildflower Wellness located in Circle Pines, MN or virtually through HIPAA compliant telehealth services.
Kaelyn Folstad is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor specializing in maternal mental health & wellness, family planning & parenting topics, gender and/or sexuality related issues, & other general mental health challenges. Kaelyn enjoys working with teens, young adults, couples & families utilizing an eclectic combination of interventions to best meet client needs. She is Nationally Certified through Postpartum Support International (PSI) as a pregnancy/perinatal/postpartum mental health provider.
(651) 383-1685 View (651) 383-1685
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Jordan Kirsch
Drug & Alcohol Counselor, MS, LADC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Shoreview, MN 55126
I have an 11 year work history as a licensed alcohol and drug counselor (LADC), working with individuals, couples and families who are struggling with trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety and more.
Struggling with mental health concerns, relationship issues or substance use/addiction? Whether you are seeking therapy for yourself, your family or a coupled partnership, I use a person centered approach and empathetic understanding walking with you through the difficulty. An important aspect in my approach to change is motivational interviewing, exploring what your desired life might look like if things were different. Together we set goals and develop strategies to get you there.
I have an 11 year work history as a licensed alcohol and drug counselor (LADC), working with individuals, couples and families who are struggling with trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety and more.
Struggling with mental health concerns, relationship issues or substance use/addiction? Whether you are seeking therapy for yourself, your family or a coupled partnership, I use a person centered approach and empathetic understanding walking with you through the difficulty. An important aspect in my approach to change is motivational interviewing, exploring what your desired life might look like if things were different. Together we set goals and develop strategies to get you there.
(651) 424-1749 View (651) 424-1749
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Couples Counseling Therapists

Does couples counseling work?

Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.

When should a couple seek counseling?

Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.

How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?

The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.

How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?

The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.