Gottman Method Therapists in Saint Paul, MN
My approach is informed by the Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, and Relational-Cultural Theory.
Relationships have the potential to be great sources of meaning and connection, and yet, sometimes they can be confusing and stressful. I work to support couples and individuals who are caught in cycles of high conflict in their relationships. Together we can name, process, and explore things that may keep you feeling stuck, like systemic barriers, abuse, traumatic experiences, relationship patterns, and self-limiting beliefs. I strive to provide a respectful space for curiosity and expression to help clients strengthen bonds and gain clarity around their relationship norms and expectations.
My approach is informed by the Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, and Relational-Cultural Theory.
Relationships have the potential to be great sources of meaning and connection, and yet, sometimes they can be confusing and stressful. I work to support couples and individuals who are caught in cycles of high conflict in their relationships. Together we can name, process, and explore things that may keep you feeling stuck, like systemic barriers, abuse, traumatic experiences, relationship patterns, and self-limiting beliefs. I strive to provide a respectful space for curiosity and expression to help clients strengthen bonds and gain clarity around their relationship norms and expectations.
I use Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work.
I work with couples who have been feeling stuck in the same patterns, disconnected from each other, and have difficulty communicating. Together, we will work towards creating a more fulfilling and attuned relationship. I also work with individuals who are looking for relief from anxiety, depression, trauma, or are searching for ways to cope with challenging life transitions.
I use Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work.
I work with couples who have been feeling stuck in the same patterns, disconnected from each other, and have difficulty communicating. Together, we will work towards creating a more fulfilling and attuned relationship. I also work with individuals who are looking for relief from anxiety, depression, trauma, or are searching for ways to cope with challenging life transitions.
I am trained in Gottman Method, Hand-in-Hand Parenting, and my approach is rooted in Emotionally Focused and Narrative Therapy.
I specialize in helping couples and families navigate the complexities of their relationship. Weekend and evening availability.
I am trained in Gottman Method, Hand-in-Hand Parenting, and my approach is rooted in Emotionally Focused and Narrative Therapy.
I specialize in helping couples and families navigate the complexities of their relationship. Weekend and evening availability.
I use a variety of approaches in my work, including attachment theory, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, solution focused therapy, and mindfulness.
Currently accepting clients. Do you ever struggle to find a balance between all of the parts of your life? Maybe you focus so much on other people’s needs that it’s hard for you to express your own, or maybe you are noticing that miscommunication and resentment are getting in the way of the connection you long for. I work with people who want to build whole and healthy relationships with themselves AND with the important people in their lives. I will help you develop skills and strategies that will support you in navigating life challenges and transitions in a wholehearted, embodied, and connected way.
I use a variety of approaches in my work, including attachment theory, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, solution focused therapy, and mindfulness.
Currently accepting clients. Do you ever struggle to find a balance between all of the parts of your life? Maybe you focus so much on other people’s needs that it’s hard for you to express your own, or maybe you are noticing that miscommunication and resentment are getting in the way of the connection you long for. I work with people who want to build whole and healthy relationships with themselves AND with the important people in their lives. I will help you develop skills and strategies that will support you in navigating life challenges and transitions in a wholehearted, embodied, and connected way.
Emma also has advanced training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (currently on the certification track) and is passionate about working with couples to increase relationship satisfaction and heal past hurts.
Emma is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker who primarily sees clients who are law enforcement professionals, first responders, veterans and their families. As the wife of a police officer and veteran, clients can expect to be able to work with someone who understands the culture, lifestyle, pressures, and stressors that come with such high-stress, high-stakes careers. Emma also specializes in treating anxiety, and stress management. Emma is trained in the use of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), a highly effective eye-movement therapy created for the treatment of trauma.
Emma also has advanced training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (currently on the certification track) and is passionate about working with couples to increase relationship satisfaction and heal past hurts.
Emma is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker who primarily sees clients who are law enforcement professionals, first responders, veterans and their families. As the wife of a police officer and veteran, clients can expect to be able to work with someone who understands the culture, lifestyle, pressures, and stressors that come with such high-stress, high-stakes careers. Emma also specializes in treating anxiety, and stress management. Emma is trained in the use of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), a highly effective eye-movement therapy created for the treatment of trauma.
David Berg, MA, LMFT, LADC
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, LADC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Paul, MN 55101
Online Therapy and Telehealth only. Currently accepting new day clients. My passion is helping people improve their lives, relationships, and find greater fulfillment. I help people help themselves. I've had the pleasure of a career of many years practicing counseling, therapy, coaching, and social work with individuals, couples, groups, and families in multiple settings. I am a Certified Clinically Trained Gottman Method and Emotions Focused Couples Therapist.
Online Therapy and Telehealth only. Currently accepting new day clients. My passion is helping people improve their lives, relationships, and find greater fulfillment. I help people help themselves. I've had the pleasure of a career of many years practicing counseling, therapy, coaching, and social work with individuals, couples, groups, and families in multiple settings. I am a Certified Clinically Trained Gottman Method and Emotions Focused Couples Therapist.
I utilize the tools of self-compassion, mindfulness, ART - Accelerated Resolution Therapy (advanced trained), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method (level 3 practicum trained), and structural family therapy to assist client/s in reaching their goals.
Welcome! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker here to help you feel more connected, confident, and excited about who you are and the relationships around you. I enjoy working with adults and couples and am passionate about helping clients reach their goals. Special areas of interest include trauma, life transitions, relationship conflict, premarital counseling, and couples contemplating separation or divorce. I have found that a genuine and compassionate therapeutic style can assist clients in finding courage within themselves to navigate their life journey with confidence.
I utilize the tools of self-compassion, mindfulness, ART - Accelerated Resolution Therapy (advanced trained), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method (level 3 practicum trained), and structural family therapy to assist client/s in reaching their goals.
Welcome! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker here to help you feel more connected, confident, and excited about who you are and the relationships around you. I enjoy working with adults and couples and am passionate about helping clients reach their goals. Special areas of interest include trauma, life transitions, relationship conflict, premarital counseling, and couples contemplating separation or divorce. I have found that a genuine and compassionate therapeutic style can assist clients in finding courage within themselves to navigate their life journey with confidence.
Using tools like personality typology and the Gottman Method, I’ll help you understand yourself and your partner in deeper ways.
I have immediate availability! Your relationship is stuck and it's wearing you out. You feel like you are going around in circles and the pain and hurt is piling up. You try to communicate but you don’t feel seen or heard. The exhaustion is growing, constantly trying to fix things and getting nowhere. “I didn’t think it you would be this way” you tell yourself. When you met, there was a spark. You felt so attracted to this unique person but now those differences are grating and cause you pain. It’s like you’re speaking different languages, and you just wish your partner could see things your way.
Using tools like personality typology and the Gottman Method, I’ll help you understand yourself and your partner in deeper ways.
I have immediate availability! Your relationship is stuck and it's wearing you out. You feel like you are going around in circles and the pain and hurt is piling up. You try to communicate but you don’t feel seen or heard. The exhaustion is growing, constantly trying to fix things and getting nowhere. “I didn’t think it you would be this way” you tell yourself. When you met, there was a spark. You felt so attracted to this unique person but now those differences are grating and cause you pain. It’s like you’re speaking different languages, and you just wish your partner could see things your way.
Lindsey Johnson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, RPT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Paul, MN 55124
Waitlist for new clients
Anxious? Depressed? Frustrated/Irritable? Having issues with your partner and not sure how to communicate with them? Having issues with a child/adolescent who is anxious/depressed/angry and you don't feel you know how to help? These are all issues I can help you with. I am a Registered Play Therapist, and have training in Level 1 and Level 2 of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I use Love and Logic Parenting Philosophy to help with parenting issues.
Anxious? Depressed? Frustrated/Irritable? Having issues with your partner and not sure how to communicate with them? Having issues with a child/adolescent who is anxious/depressed/angry and you don't feel you know how to help? These are all issues I can help you with. I am a Registered Play Therapist, and have training in Level 1 and Level 2 of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I use Love and Logic Parenting Philosophy to help with parenting issues.
Beth Lanis
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LADC, LPCC
Verified Verified
Saint Paul, MN 55114 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I believe trust and safety are the 2 most important things in therapy. I strive to create this with a warm and non-judgmental presence, humor when appropriate, and listening to truly understand you. To help you make the changes you want in your life, I use a compassionate yet direct approach, helping you to challenge your thought processes and behaviors. I specialize in trauma and addictions, though work with a variety of other issues you may struggle with like having a new baby, relationship and trust issues, divorce, anxiety, depression, poor self-esteem, impulsivity or concentration issues.
I believe trust and safety are the 2 most important things in therapy. I strive to create this with a warm and non-judgmental presence, humor when appropriate, and listening to truly understand you. To help you make the changes you want in your life, I use a compassionate yet direct approach, helping you to challenge your thought processes and behaviors. I specialize in trauma and addictions, though work with a variety of other issues you may struggle with like having a new baby, relationship and trust issues, divorce, anxiety, depression, poor self-esteem, impulsivity or concentration issues.
Cisco Cole
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Saint Paul, MN 55116 (Online Only)
Cisco Cole (He/Him, They/Them), a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, received his master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and PhD Candidate. Cisco offers individual, couples, and group therapy, and enjoys working with teens and adults. He specializes in boys and men’s issues including Anger Management, Destructive Masculinity, and Deconstruction of Religious Trauma. He also works with clients exhibiting Depression, Anxiety, Trauma, and various Personality Disorders. He employs several different modalities as a psychotherapist as well as other various styles in helping each client achieve their therapeutic goals.
Cisco Cole (He/Him, They/Them), a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, received his master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and PhD Candidate. Cisco offers individual, couples, and group therapy, and enjoys working with teens and adults. He specializes in boys and men’s issues including Anger Management, Destructive Masculinity, and Deconstruction of Religious Trauma. He also works with clients exhibiting Depression, Anxiety, Trauma, and various Personality Disorders. He employs several different modalities as a psychotherapist as well as other various styles in helping each client achieve their therapeutic goals.
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Hello. I have always desired to understand feelings, behavior and the human mind; always been driven toward solving the questions that start with why. I would deem it a privilege to take the time with someone to answer how they can move forward from their situation and how they can deal with whatever hand life has dealt them, as well as being able to diagnose any conditions before initiating treatment. My hope for all clients is to get them to a place where therapy is a choice or no longer needing therapy to achieve their goals in life. Book with me now by clicking on my website.
Hello. I have always desired to understand feelings, behavior and the human mind; always been driven toward solving the questions that start with why. I would deem it a privilege to take the time with someone to answer how they can move forward from their situation and how they can deal with whatever hand life has dealt them, as well as being able to diagnose any conditions before initiating treatment. My hope for all clients is to get them to a place where therapy is a choice or no longer needing therapy to achieve their goals in life. Book with me now by clicking on my website.
Feeling overwhelmed? Inadequate? Undone? Exhausted trying to juggle everything perfectly all of the time? Disappointed with relationships? Ready to consider what keeps you from changes you want? Wondering if life could be better if things were "tweaked" a little? You are not alone! You matter. Your story matters. Help also matters because we weren't meant to "go it alone". All of us need help along the way. And the client-therapist relationship matters: it's important that you are comfortable and find a safe place where your story---your thoughts, perspectives, hopes, and dreams---can be heard, valued, and repurposed for your next chapter.
Feeling overwhelmed? Inadequate? Undone? Exhausted trying to juggle everything perfectly all of the time? Disappointed with relationships? Ready to consider what keeps you from changes you want? Wondering if life could be better if things were "tweaked" a little? You are not alone! You matter. Your story matters. Help also matters because we weren't meant to "go it alone". All of us need help along the way. And the client-therapist relationship matters: it's important that you are comfortable and find a safe place where your story---your thoughts, perspectives, hopes, and dreams---can be heard, valued, and repurposed for your next chapter.
Are you seeking individual (teen and adult), couple/partnership, or family therapy? With warmth, humor and “real talk,” I will support you in navigating personal and inter-personal challenges, and creating an authentic life that's in integrity with your values. My approach with clients is informal and collaborative - you are the expert on your life! So, let's work together to create the life you want. FYI: I currently only have new client availability with a clinic that accepts private pay, FSA/HSA cards, or out-of-network insurance coverage. I cannot accept traditional insurance.
Are you seeking individual (teen and adult), couple/partnership, or family therapy? With warmth, humor and “real talk,” I will support you in navigating personal and inter-personal challenges, and creating an authentic life that's in integrity with your values. My approach with clients is informal and collaborative - you are the expert on your life! So, let's work together to create the life you want. FYI: I currently only have new client availability with a clinic that accepts private pay, FSA/HSA cards, or out-of-network insurance coverage. I cannot accept traditional insurance.
I am passionate about meeting people right where they are emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Many clients who felt anxious about beginning therapy have expressed how quickly they felt comfortable with me. I consider it a great privilege to work with individuals and families during formative years of growth and transition. My goal is to provide a safe environment that is both supportive and challenging.
I am passionate about meeting people right where they are emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Many clients who felt anxious about beginning therapy have expressed how quickly they felt comfortable with me. I consider it a great privilege to work with individuals and families during formative years of growth and transition. My goal is to provide a safe environment that is both supportive and challenging.
Are you and your partner(s) fighting? or drifting apart? Does your mind race and keep you from sleeping, concentrating or enjoying hobbies? Do you feel so "blah" it is hard to manage your daily responsibilities? Maybe you are wandering in the fog of grief and loss, or feel overwhelmed by the demands of a big life transition. Perhaps you are struggling to care for children or aging parents. Or you might be seeking to more fully embrace your LGBTQIA+ identity or find a supportive community. Maybe you are just looking for a fresh perspective as you consider how to create a more satisfying way of life.
Are you and your partner(s) fighting? or drifting apart? Does your mind race and keep you from sleeping, concentrating or enjoying hobbies? Do you feel so "blah" it is hard to manage your daily responsibilities? Maybe you are wandering in the fog of grief and loss, or feel overwhelmed by the demands of a big life transition. Perhaps you are struggling to care for children or aging parents. Or you might be seeking to more fully embrace your LGBTQIA+ identity or find a supportive community. Maybe you are just looking for a fresh perspective as you consider how to create a more satisfying way of life.
Usually, the thing that brings us to therapy has us feeling stuck. We might feel paralyzed with indecision as parts of our internal selves compete with one another for attention. We might experience recurring conflict with people we care about. We might feel that our identity - our internal self-knowing - is somehow being prevented from fully expressing itself because of messages we receive from family or society. Most often, the reason we seek therapy is some combination of the above, and as a result of our “stuckness” we may feel sadness, despair, anxiety, anger, or an unnerving lack of feeling altogether.
Usually, the thing that brings us to therapy has us feeling stuck. We might feel paralyzed with indecision as parts of our internal selves compete with one another for attention. We might experience recurring conflict with people we care about. We might feel that our identity - our internal self-knowing - is somehow being prevented from fully expressing itself because of messages we receive from family or society. Most often, the reason we seek therapy is some combination of the above, and as a result of our “stuckness” we may feel sadness, despair, anxiety, anger, or an unnerving lack of feeling altogether.
Patty Ostberg-Speiker
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Saint Paul, MN 55114
Current afternoon openings. I specialize in helping individuals and couples feel better to improve their relationships. Past hurts and experiences can cloud decision making in the present and relating to each other. Especially when it comes to stressors of daily responsibilities like marriage and parenting. Let’s work together using evidence-based techniques to stop your negative thoughts so you can make more positive mindset decisions. Triggers feel awful and there are proven remedies to help stop them. Together through therapy we can eliminate negative thoughts and memories that prevent you from being the best version of yourself.
Current afternoon openings. I specialize in helping individuals and couples feel better to improve their relationships. Past hurts and experiences can cloud decision making in the present and relating to each other. Especially when it comes to stressors of daily responsibilities like marriage and parenting. Let’s work together using evidence-based techniques to stop your negative thoughts so you can make more positive mindset decisions. Triggers feel awful and there are proven remedies to help stop them. Together through therapy we can eliminate negative thoughts and memories that prevent you from being the best version of yourself.
Shauna K Zotalis
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Saint Paul, MN 55114
You are considering divorce and fear how it will affect your children. Or you're divorced and met someone and want to blend your families, but are worried about the difficulties that blending brings. These family transitions are full of significant challenges such as grief over the breakup of the family, confusion over stepparent roles and responsibilities, hostile co-parenting relationships, jealousy of ex-spouses or stepchildren, and more. You want happy and healthy relationships with partners, exes, children, and stepchildren. You hope for a sense of "we-ness" as a new family unit and crave peace and balance in the future.
You are considering divorce and fear how it will affect your children. Or you're divorced and met someone and want to blend your families, but are worried about the difficulties that blending brings. These family transitions are full of significant challenges such as grief over the breakup of the family, confusion over stepparent roles and responsibilities, hostile co-parenting relationships, jealousy of ex-spouses or stepchildren, and more. You want happy and healthy relationships with partners, exes, children, and stepchildren. You hope for a sense of "we-ness" as a new family unit and crave peace and balance in the future.
Eva J. W. Morrison
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSSW, LICSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Paul, MN 55114
Currently Accepting Clients - - Do you want to get unstuck from trauma responses and unhelpful patterns? Are you looking to set better boundaries? Would you like to feel a sense of ease in your relationships? Do you seek calmness and acceptance within yourself? I see you. Together we will use somatic (body-based) techniques, trauma-informed modalities, and deep compassion to identify where these patterns come from, and focus on building skills to bring you closer to safety and connection. Whether you have been in therapy for decades or if this will be your first session, I look forward to working alongside you.
Currently Accepting Clients - - Do you want to get unstuck from trauma responses and unhelpful patterns? Are you looking to set better boundaries? Would you like to feel a sense of ease in your relationships? Do you seek calmness and acceptance within yourself? I see you. Together we will use somatic (body-based) techniques, trauma-informed modalities, and deep compassion to identify where these patterns come from, and focus on building skills to bring you closer to safety and connection. Whether you have been in therapy for decades or if this will be your first session, I look forward to working alongside you.
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Gottman Method Therapists
How does the Gottman method work?
One of the core doctrines of the Gottman method is that negative emotions hurt relationships about five times more than positive emotions help them. Thus, couples require five times more positive interactions than negative interactions with each other. The therapist will guide clients on how to improve communication and understanding of each other to manage conflict and have their emotional needs met. The therapist will also advise couples on how to repair relations with each other when conflict arises, and therefore avoid lasting damage.
Is the Gottman method evidence-based?
Yes, this method is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy. The method is based on more than 40 years of research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the psychologists who developed the method. The Gottmans analyzed decades of data to draw conclusions about what types of interactions are likely to lead to specific results, and which interventions are most likely to lead to success. Studies have found that this approach leads to improvements in relationship satisfaction, intimacy, communication skills, and a lower rate of divorce.
How long does the Gottman method take?
The duration of treatment depends on the specific challenges clients face. Sessions are typically 60 to 90 minutes long, and an average course of treatment is around 10 sessions. In some cases, such as for couples dealing with a critical problem, the therapist will suggest an intensive course of treatment, with daily sessions over the first two to four days. Treatment is complete when the couple is satisfied and has met the goals they’ve set, and when the therapist believes they have the skills to continue on their own.
Is the Gottman method effective?
Through the Gottman method, couples can achieve changes that are real and sustainable. This treatment has been used for more than 40 years; the method is supported by empirical research, including randomized controlled trials that have demonstrated effectiveness in improving relationship outcomes for couples. Like any talk therapy, success or failure depends in large part on how committed the clients are to making positive changes and working toward results.