Gottman Method Therapists in Oakdale, MN
It takes great courage to live an authentic life. Vitality is not something that just happens. It is something we each create on our own, through the deliberate expression of our deepest desires, beliefs, values, and personal expressions. Every time you choose your own direction, you become the owner of your existence. Only then are you truly alive. Unfortunately, sometimes, underlying issues with attachment, trauma, family of origin, and low self-esteem keep people from living fulfilling, authentic, and happy lives.
It takes great courage to live an authentic life. Vitality is not something that just happens. It is something we each create on our own, through the deliberate expression of our deepest desires, beliefs, values, and personal expressions. Every time you choose your own direction, you become the owner of your existence. Only then are you truly alive. Unfortunately, sometimes, underlying issues with attachment, trauma, family of origin, and low self-esteem keep people from living fulfilling, authentic, and happy lives.
Jeff R Hoffman
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, MA, LPCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Oakdale, MN 55128
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor https://www.rumrivercounseling.com/ ***Immediate Openings/Accepting New Clients*** Jeff is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC), and completed his graduate degree program at St. Mary’s University School of Graduate Professional Psychology in Minneapolis, MN. He has 25+ years of working with diverse populations in multiple treatment and therapeutic settings. He has a clinical focus that draws from a variety of therapeutic approaches such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, narrative therapy and solution focused therapy. He has experience working with very diverse pop
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor https://www.rumrivercounseling.com/ ***Immediate Openings/Accepting New Clients*** Jeff is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC), and completed his graduate degree program at St. Mary’s University School of Graduate Professional Psychology in Minneapolis, MN. He has 25+ years of working with diverse populations in multiple treatment and therapeutic settings. He has a clinical focus that draws from a variety of therapeutic approaches such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, narrative therapy and solution focused therapy. He has experience working with very diverse pop
Note: I am only available via telehealth for Minnesota clients, but can see private pay Texas clients in person or via telehealth. Life can be unexpectedly messy. It is full of moments that can feel overwhelming and get in the way of your happiness, health, and well-being. You may have been feeling great in life, when seemingly out of nowhere something feels off or taking the next step in life seems daunting. Regardless of the situation, our attachments, experiences, cognition, and family-of-origin can impact our lives in a variety of ways that can be difficult to handle alone.
Note: I am only available via telehealth for Minnesota clients, but can see private pay Texas clients in person or via telehealth. Life can be unexpectedly messy. It is full of moments that can feel overwhelming and get in the way of your happiness, health, and well-being. You may have been feeling great in life, when seemingly out of nowhere something feels off or taking the next step in life seems daunting. Regardless of the situation, our attachments, experiences, cognition, and family-of-origin can impact our lives in a variety of ways that can be difficult to handle alone.
My approach is collaborative and supportive, using a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy, mindful self-acceptance, dialectical behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and trauma informed therapy practices.
My approach is collaborative and supportive, using a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy, mindful self-acceptance, dialectical behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and trauma informed therapy practices.
Melissa Saari
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, RYT-200
Verified Verified
Oakdale, MN 55128 (Online Only)
Not accepting new clients
Hello! My name is Melissa. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) working under supervision towards LPCC licensure. I believe the therapeutic relationship is critical to feeling safe and supported in counseling work. My style is compassionate, conversational, warm and supportive in sessions. I enjoy utilizing humor as well! As a neurodivergent clinician, I seek to empower neurodivergent persons and come from a strengths-based approach. I am a compassionate LGBTQIA+ Ally and further identify as a gender expansive/non-conforming person. I enjoy working with a variety of relationship structures, including poly/ENM relationships.
Hello! My name is Melissa. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) working under supervision towards LPCC licensure. I believe the therapeutic relationship is critical to feeling safe and supported in counseling work. My style is compassionate, conversational, warm and supportive in sessions. I enjoy utilizing humor as well! As a neurodivergent clinician, I seek to empower neurodivergent persons and come from a strengths-based approach. I am a compassionate LGBTQIA+ Ally and further identify as a gender expansive/non-conforming person. I enjoy working with a variety of relationship structures, including poly/ENM relationships.
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I utilize the tools of self-compassion, mindfulness, ART - Accelerated Resolution Therapy (advanced trained), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method (level 3 practicum trained), and structural family therapy to assist client/s in reaching their goals.
Welcome! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker here to help you feel more connected, confident, and excited about who you are and the relationships around you. I enjoy working with adults and couples and am passionate about helping clients reach their goals. Special areas of interest include trauma, life transitions, relationship conflict, premarital counseling, and couples contemplating separation or divorce. I have found that a genuine and compassionate therapeutic style can assist clients in finding courage within themselves to navigate their life journey with confidence.
I utilize the tools of self-compassion, mindfulness, ART - Accelerated Resolution Therapy (advanced trained), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method (level 3 practicum trained), and structural family therapy to assist client/s in reaching their goals.
Welcome! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker here to help you feel more connected, confident, and excited about who you are and the relationships around you. I enjoy working with adults and couples and am passionate about helping clients reach their goals. Special areas of interest include trauma, life transitions, relationship conflict, premarital counseling, and couples contemplating separation or divorce. I have found that a genuine and compassionate therapeutic style can assist clients in finding courage within themselves to navigate their life journey with confidence.
I utilize tools from the Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy, EFT (both "tapping" and Emotionally Focused Therapy), and EMDR.
I like to do relational work with partners and individuals--trying to navigate how to be in relationship with others can be really stressful and feel impossible. Common issues I work with are boundaries, communication, infidelity, maternal mental health, new parenting dynamics, self-esteem, family-of-origin issues, deconstructing and reconstructing faith, tools for a better relationship, and small "t" and big "T" traumas.
I utilize tools from the Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy, EFT (both "tapping" and Emotionally Focused Therapy), and EMDR.
I like to do relational work with partners and individuals--trying to navigate how to be in relationship with others can be really stressful and feel impossible. Common issues I work with are boundaries, communication, infidelity, maternal mental health, new parenting dynamics, self-esteem, family-of-origin issues, deconstructing and reconstructing faith, tools for a better relationship, and small "t" and big "T" traumas.
Using tools like personality typology and the Gottman Method, I’ll help you understand yourself and your partner in deeper ways.
I have immediate availability! Your relationship is stuck and it's wearing you out. You feel like you are going around in circles and the pain and hurt is piling up. You try to communicate but you don’t feel seen or heard. The exhaustion is growing, constantly trying to fix things and getting nowhere. “I didn’t think it you would be this way” you tell yourself. When you met, there was a spark. You felt so attracted to this unique person but now those differences are grating and cause you pain. It’s like you’re speaking different languages, and you just wish your partner could see things your way.
Using tools like personality typology and the Gottman Method, I’ll help you understand yourself and your partner in deeper ways.
I have immediate availability! Your relationship is stuck and it's wearing you out. You feel like you are going around in circles and the pain and hurt is piling up. You try to communicate but you don’t feel seen or heard. The exhaustion is growing, constantly trying to fix things and getting nowhere. “I didn’t think it you would be this way” you tell yourself. When you met, there was a spark. You felt so attracted to this unique person but now those differences are grating and cause you pain. It’s like you’re speaking different languages, and you just wish your partner could see things your way.
Emma Murphy
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LICSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Paul, MN 55106
Emma also has advanced training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (currently on the certification track) and is passionate about working with couples to increase relationship satisfaction and heal past hurts.
Emma is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker who primarily sees clients who are law enforcement professionals, first responders, veterans and their families. As the wife of a police officer and veteran, clients can expect to be able to work with someone who understands the culture, lifestyle, pressures, and stressors that come with such high-stress, high-stakes careers. Emma also specializes in treating anxiety, and stress management. Emma is trained in the use of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), a highly effective eye-movement therapy created for the treatment of trauma.
Emma also has advanced training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (currently on the certification track) and is passionate about working with couples to increase relationship satisfaction and heal past hurts.
Emma is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker who primarily sees clients who are law enforcement professionals, first responders, veterans and their families. As the wife of a police officer and veteran, clients can expect to be able to work with someone who understands the culture, lifestyle, pressures, and stressors that come with such high-stress, high-stakes careers. Emma also specializes in treating anxiety, and stress management. Emma is trained in the use of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), a highly effective eye-movement therapy created for the treatment of trauma.
David Berg, MA, LMFT, LADC
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, LADC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Paul, MN 55101
Online Therapy and Telehealth only. Currently accepting new day clients. My passion is helping people improve their lives, relationships, and find greater fulfillment. I help people help themselves. I've had the pleasure of a career of many years practicing counseling, therapy, coaching, and social work with individuals, couples, groups, and families in multiple settings. I am a Certified Clinically Trained Gottman Method and Emotions Focused Couples Therapist.
Online Therapy and Telehealth only. Currently accepting new day clients. My passion is helping people improve their lives, relationships, and find greater fulfillment. I help people help themselves. I've had the pleasure of a career of many years practicing counseling, therapy, coaching, and social work with individuals, couples, groups, and families in multiple settings. I am a Certified Clinically Trained Gottman Method and Emotions Focused Couples Therapist.
I use Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work.
I work with couples who have been feeling stuck in the same patterns, disconnected from each other, and have difficulty communicating. Together, we will work towards creating a more fulfilling and attuned relationship. I also work with individuals who are looking for relief from anxiety, depression, trauma, or are searching for ways to cope with challenging life transitions.
I use Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work.
I work with couples who have been feeling stuck in the same patterns, disconnected from each other, and have difficulty communicating. Together, we will work towards creating a more fulfilling and attuned relationship. I also work with individuals who are looking for relief from anxiety, depression, trauma, or are searching for ways to cope with challenging life transitions.
I have a particular interest in religious trauma, and I have special training in Brainspotting, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and Psychological First Aid.
Now accepting new clients! I specialize in individuals and couples to address depression, anxiety, trauma, and parenting issues.
I have a particular interest in religious trauma, and I have special training in Brainspotting, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and Psychological First Aid.
Now accepting new clients! I specialize in individuals and couples to address depression, anxiety, trauma, and parenting issues.
Serendipity Counseling Services, LLC
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LICSW, PMH-C
Verified Verified
Woodbury, MN 55125
Are you expecting a baby and feeling anxious? Are you a new parent feeling overwhelmed by the huge adjustments? Are you finding it hard to cope with your current situation? Transitioning into parenthood is an enormous adjustment that affects everything around us. Research shows that accessing support early on can help you to explore, process and resolve your concerns, and confidently cope with in your new role so that you can enjoy all the beauty that parenthood has to offer.
Are you expecting a baby and feeling anxious? Are you a new parent feeling overwhelmed by the huge adjustments? Are you finding it hard to cope with your current situation? Transitioning into parenthood is an enormous adjustment that affects everything around us. Research shows that accessing support early on can help you to explore, process and resolve your concerns, and confidently cope with in your new role so that you can enjoy all the beauty that parenthood has to offer.
Luke Campbell
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Woodbury, MN 55125 (Online Only)
How is your relationship with stress? Have you reached the point where stress is no longer just a thought, but has evolved into a physical state of discomfort and overall exhaustion? Stress comes to us when we are required to adjust to the competing demands and challenges present in our relationships, families, work, parenting, finances, and health. We all experience stress to varying degrees, and, if left unchecked, we be left feeling restless, overwhelmed, frustrated, and unsure about the future.
How is your relationship with stress? Have you reached the point where stress is no longer just a thought, but has evolved into a physical state of discomfort and overall exhaustion? Stress comes to us when we are required to adjust to the competing demands and challenges present in our relationships, families, work, parenting, finances, and health. We all experience stress to varying degrees, and, if left unchecked, we be left feeling restless, overwhelmed, frustrated, and unsure about the future.
Couples & Family Therapy Center, LLC
Marriage & Family Therapist
Verified Verified
Stillwater, MN 55082
Stress is building and you're becoming overwhelmed, you're feeling on the edge of burnout. It's getting hard to face the day, and when you do get through it, you're so exhausted you have nothing left to give. Trust us...life doesn't have to be like this. Maybe you're worried about your kids, you see them struggling and anxious and you don't know how to help. Or your relationship is strained and you try to connect, but it's just not working. You're worried about your family, and your future. We are here to help. We know with some support, you can feel better, get back on track, and enjoy your life and relationships again.
Stress is building and you're becoming overwhelmed, you're feeling on the edge of burnout. It's getting hard to face the day, and when you do get through it, you're so exhausted you have nothing left to give. Trust us...life doesn't have to be like this. Maybe you're worried about your kids, you see them struggling and anxious and you don't know how to help. Or your relationship is strained and you try to connect, but it's just not working. You're worried about your family, and your future. We are here to help. We know with some support, you can feel better, get back on track, and enjoy your life and relationships again.
Twin Cities Mental Health&Couples Faten Khoury
Marriage & Family Therapist, Post, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Roseville, MN 55113
For support in managing difficulties in your personal & professional lives caused by unresolved traumas or conflict, therapy can help. I work with individuals, couples, & families to help collaboratively tackle the challenges they are facing, through creating a new insight & forming an action, solution plan. Additionally, I practice EMDR therapy, AEDP, Brainspotting and Neurofeedback and find it powerful in healing a range of psychological concerns including depression, anxiety, shame and trauma and areas where clients experience "being stuck". My practice is based on years of well-established evidence-based effective treatments.
For support in managing difficulties in your personal & professional lives caused by unresolved traumas or conflict, therapy can help. I work with individuals, couples, & families to help collaboratively tackle the challenges they are facing, through creating a new insight & forming an action, solution plan. Additionally, I practice EMDR therapy, AEDP, Brainspotting and Neurofeedback and find it powerful in healing a range of psychological concerns including depression, anxiety, shame and trauma and areas where clients experience "being stuck". My practice is based on years of well-established evidence-based effective treatments.
I have several years of experience working with adolescents and their families. I enjoy guiding clients to explore their family values, communication, behavior patterns, emotions and changing needs of individual family members. I am Brain Spotting (Level 1) certified and integrate Somatic Experiencing into my sessions.
I have several years of experience working with adolescents and their families. I enjoy guiding clients to explore their family values, communication, behavior patterns, emotions and changing needs of individual family members. I am Brain Spotting (Level 1) certified and integrate Somatic Experiencing into my sessions.
Darcy Stivland (Current Openings)
Licensed Professional Counselor, LICSW, MSW, MA, ICF
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Stillwater, MN 55082
Welcome! Do you have anxious feelings ... stressed? Do you want more than a venting session? Practical tools & skills? Let's go. I am both an experienced clinical psychotherapist and certified physician & leadership coach. The majority of my clients are healthcare providers, first responders, pilots, professors, and leaders. My top niche is supporting those who care for, develop, and lead others. If that's not you, you're welcome too! Common client challenges relate to anxiety, depression, career stress, trauma, relationships, wellness, and gaining clarity of personal priorities. Growing: Currently hiring licensed therapists.
Welcome! Do you have anxious feelings ... stressed? Do you want more than a venting session? Practical tools & skills? Let's go. I am both an experienced clinical psychotherapist and certified physician & leadership coach. The majority of my clients are healthcare providers, first responders, pilots, professors, and leaders. My top niche is supporting those who care for, develop, and lead others. If that's not you, you're welcome too! Common client challenges relate to anxiety, depression, career stress, trauma, relationships, wellness, and gaining clarity of personal priorities. Growing: Currently hiring licensed therapists.
Michael Proebstle
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, MA, LPCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Woodbury, MN 55125
Confused, worried, hurting, sad, broken trust, feeling lost? Not feeling okay? Find HOPE here for your life and struggles with anger, depression, anxiety, relationship problems, or other problems we all face from time to time. Hope, peace, and healing in the midst of your pain can be found through a compassionate experience in therapy. Working on my own hurts including loss and attachment issues, I know that there is hope for peace, recovery and healing despite deep wounds from the past. I love watching people's lives transition from hurt to hope. Regardless of your struggles, abundant peace is awaiting you.
Confused, worried, hurting, sad, broken trust, feeling lost? Not feeling okay? Find HOPE here for your life and struggles with anger, depression, anxiety, relationship problems, or other problems we all face from time to time. Hope, peace, and healing in the midst of your pain can be found through a compassionate experience in therapy. Working on my own hurts including loss and attachment issues, I know that there is hope for peace, recovery and healing despite deep wounds from the past. I love watching people's lives transition from hurt to hope. Regardless of your struggles, abundant peace is awaiting you.
Jill M. Ellingson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Woodbury, MN 55125
It takes a lot of courage to come to counseling and work through life's challenges. My first priority in working with you is to build a genuine and safe relationship that encourages sharing, connection and authenticity. My combined education and background in corporate leadership and counseling psychology results in a therapeutic atmosphere that is affirming and encouraging but also holds you accountable for the changes you wish to see in your life. I look forward to walking alongside of you on this journey, encouraging you, helping you re-discover your strengths and having some fun along the way!
It takes a lot of courage to come to counseling and work through life's challenges. My first priority in working with you is to build a genuine and safe relationship that encourages sharing, connection and authenticity. My combined education and background in corporate leadership and counseling psychology results in a therapeutic atmosphere that is affirming and encouraging but also holds you accountable for the changes you wish to see in your life. I look forward to walking alongside of you on this journey, encouraging you, helping you re-discover your strengths and having some fun along the way!
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Gottman Method Therapists
How does the Gottman method work?
One of the core doctrines of the Gottman method is that negative emotions hurt relationships about five times more than positive emotions help them. Thus, couples require five times more positive interactions than negative interactions with each other. The therapist will guide clients on how to improve communication and understanding of each other to manage conflict and have their emotional needs met. The therapist will also advise couples on how to repair relations with each other when conflict arises, and therefore avoid lasting damage.
Is the Gottman method evidence-based?
Yes, this method is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy. The method is based on more than 40 years of research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the psychologists who developed the method. The Gottmans analyzed decades of data to draw conclusions about what types of interactions are likely to lead to specific results, and which interventions are most likely to lead to success. Studies have found that this approach leads to improvements in relationship satisfaction, intimacy, communication skills, and a lower rate of divorce.
How long does the Gottman method take?
The duration of treatment depends on the specific challenges clients face. Sessions are typically 60 to 90 minutes long, and an average course of treatment is around 10 sessions. In some cases, such as for couples dealing with a critical problem, the therapist will suggest an intensive course of treatment, with daily sessions over the first two to four days. Treatment is complete when the couple is satisfied and has met the goals they’ve set, and when the therapist believes they have the skills to continue on their own.
Is the Gottman method effective?
Through the Gottman method, couples can achieve changes that are real and sustainable. This treatment has been used for more than 40 years; the method is supported by empirical research, including randomized controlled trials that have demonstrated effectiveness in improving relationship outcomes for couples. Like any talk therapy, success or failure depends in large part on how committed the clients are to making positive changes and working toward results.