Grief Therapists in Ottawa, KS

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Shianne Cokely
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Ottawa, KS 66067
My greatest passions are supporting clients walking through Life Adjustments, Anxiety, Depression, Trauma/PTSD, Domestic Violence, Postpartum and Grief.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, I earned my Bachelor degree in Interdisciplinary Studies with an emphasis in Education from Emporia State University and my Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Fort Hays State University. I am a Mom, Christian, Mentor, and Lover of the Outdoors. Whether you are seeking support for a better life balance, desire to improve your relationships, or are struggling with challenges in your life - I am here to listen and support you. I believe in the value of a genuine client and counselor relationship and want to walk with you through whatever you may be facing.
My greatest passions are supporting clients walking through Life Adjustments, Anxiety, Depression, Trauma/PTSD, Domestic Violence, Postpartum and Grief.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, I earned my Bachelor degree in Interdisciplinary Studies with an emphasis in Education from Emporia State University and my Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Fort Hays State University. I am a Mom, Christian, Mentor, and Lover of the Outdoors. Whether you are seeking support for a better life balance, desire to improve your relationships, or are struggling with challenges in your life - I am here to listen and support you. I believe in the value of a genuine client and counselor relationship and want to walk with you through whatever you may be facing.
(785) 264-6403 View (785) 264-6403
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Jill L Tomlonson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Ottawa, KS 66067
Navigating our world has become increasingly difficult over recent years and our young people are met with obstacles more challenging than ever before. When our brains are built in unique ways relationships in the home, school, and with our peers and family is even more challenging. I have an extensive history working with families and children of all ages 10-18 years old. Children and teens with special and unique needs such as Autism spectrum disorder, ADHD, childhood grief and loss, and emotional regulation and anxiety are my specialty.
Navigating our world has become increasingly difficult over recent years and our young people are met with obstacles more challenging than ever before. When our brains are built in unique ways relationships in the home, school, and with our peers and family is even more challenging. I have an extensive history working with families and children of all ages 10-18 years old. Children and teens with special and unique needs such as Autism spectrum disorder, ADHD, childhood grief and loss, and emotional regulation and anxiety are my specialty.
(785) 453-3995 View (785) 453-3995
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Discover Hope Counseling and Behavioral Support
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Ottawa, KS 66067
Issues he commonly work with include: trauma, anxiety, depression, behavior problems, ADHD, divorce, parenting struggles, anger, grief/loss, and adjustment issues.
Are you living in Kansas and experiencing symptoms of hopelessness? anxiety? depression? Our organizational mission is to improve access to quality mental health care in the rural Kansas area, particularly Baldwin City/Lawrence/Ottawa/Gardner, and other neighboring towns. We believe, by establishing firmly planted roots within Kansas, partnering with families and local communities and organizations, providing mental health services, and connecting families with educational resources, that the path to hope can be discovered in the midst of a seemingly hopeless circumstance.
Issues he commonly work with include: trauma, anxiety, depression, behavior problems, ADHD, divorce, parenting struggles, anger, grief/loss, and adjustment issues.
Are you living in Kansas and experiencing symptoms of hopelessness? anxiety? depression? Our organizational mission is to improve access to quality mental health care in the rural Kansas area, particularly Baldwin City/Lawrence/Ottawa/Gardner, and other neighboring towns. We believe, by establishing firmly planted roots within Kansas, partnering with families and local communities and organizations, providing mental health services, and connecting families with educational resources, that the path to hope can be discovered in the midst of a seemingly hopeless circumstance.
(785) 322-8755 View (785) 322-8755
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FORTIS
Marriage & Family Therapist, LCMFT, LSCSW, LCPC, LMLP, INTERNS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Ottawa, KS 66067
Serving some of our communities for over 14 years! We accept almost ALL insurance and offer affordable sliding scale options! Our clinicians hold certifications and training in an array of therapeutic modalities, including EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) for trauma, EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), Brainspotting for trauma, DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), IFS (Internal Family Systems), ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Somatic Experiencing, and Play Therapy for Children, ensuring comprehensive care tailored to individual needs.
Serving some of our communities for over 14 years! We accept almost ALL insurance and offer affordable sliding scale options! Our clinicians hold certifications and training in an array of therapeutic modalities, including EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) for trauma, EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), Brainspotting for trauma, DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), IFS (Internal Family Systems), ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Somatic Experiencing, and Play Therapy for Children, ensuring comprehensive care tailored to individual needs.
(913) 565-2131 View (913) 565-2131
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Megan Bowling
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Ottawa, KS 66067
As a Licensed Professional Counselor in Kansas, I enjoy learning and growing with my clients of all ages and backgrounds. C.S Lewis once said, “There are no ordinary people.” I believe there are no ordinary struggles or victories, joy or pain, trauma or coping…It is my goal, as a counselor, to uncover what makes each client unique as they face the ebbs and flows of life. I collaborate with clients to build on strengths, while confronting old thinking that is way too ordinary to support an extraordinary life. For these reasons, I work from a Narrative Therapy perspective.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor in Kansas, I enjoy learning and growing with my clients of all ages and backgrounds. C.S Lewis once said, “There are no ordinary people.” I believe there are no ordinary struggles or victories, joy or pain, trauma or coping…It is my goal, as a counselor, to uncover what makes each client unique as they face the ebbs and flows of life. I collaborate with clients to build on strengths, while confronting old thinking that is way too ordinary to support an extraordinary life. For these reasons, I work from a Narrative Therapy perspective.
(785) 572-4029 View (785) 572-4029
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Heidi Whiteaker Duderstadt
Counselor, LCPC, LAC
Verified Verified
Ottawa, KS 66067
Emotional and psychological health is crucial to achieve the quality of life you deserve. Interruptions to our emotional well-being can often feel overwhelming and bring aspects of our lives to a halt. My goal is to create a safe, confidential environment where you can be heard and accepted without judgment. Together, we will identify your goals and use the highest quality interventions to achieve them. I would be honored to work with you.
Emotional and psychological health is crucial to achieve the quality of life you deserve. Interruptions to our emotional well-being can often feel overwhelming and bring aspects of our lives to a halt. My goal is to create a safe, confidential environment where you can be heard and accepted without judgment. Together, we will identify your goals and use the highest quality interventions to achieve them. I would be honored to work with you.
(785) 246-7945 View (785) 246-7945
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Amber Thomas
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Ottawa, KS 66067  (Online Only)
Relationships, parenting and healing from past trauma are all hard. It can feel like just barely keeping our head above water. We want to live healthy and free. It would be my absolute joy to join you in your journey toward healing, clarity and wellness: personally, professionally, and spiritually. Whether living in rural or urban areas in Kansas, I understand our environments play such a significant part in our overall wellbeing, and I bring my experience to serve my clients to my best. We can do really great work together, achieve goals, and without the obstacles of time-consuming travel, as sessions are held via telehealth.
Relationships, parenting and healing from past trauma are all hard. It can feel like just barely keeping our head above water. We want to live healthy and free. It would be my absolute joy to join you in your journey toward healing, clarity and wellness: personally, professionally, and spiritually. Whether living in rural or urban areas in Kansas, I understand our environments play such a significant part in our overall wellbeing, and I bring my experience to serve my clients to my best. We can do really great work together, achieve goals, and without the obstacles of time-consuming travel, as sessions are held via telehealth.
(785) 384-5809 View (785) 384-5809
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Dusti D Powell
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LCMFT, RPT
Verified Verified
Ottawa, KS 66067
Services Offered: Certified EMDR Therapist, Registered Play Therapist and Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist, Somatic Therapist in Training. Welcome! I am dedicated to providing a comprehensive range of solutions tailored to meet your unique needs, ensuring lasting outcomes that exceed expectations. Whether you're seeking support in mental health, career coaching, personal development, or any other area, we're here to assist you every step of the way. I am committed to understanding your individual goals and crafting customized strategies to help you achieve them.
Services Offered: Certified EMDR Therapist, Registered Play Therapist and Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist, Somatic Therapist in Training. Welcome! I am dedicated to providing a comprehensive range of solutions tailored to meet your unique needs, ensuring lasting outcomes that exceed expectations. Whether you're seeking support in mental health, career coaching, personal development, or any other area, we're here to assist you every step of the way. I am committed to understanding your individual goals and crafting customized strategies to help you achieve them.
(913) 565-2131 View (913) 565-2131
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Christy L Edwards
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW, LCAC, KCGC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Ottawa, KS 66067  (Online Only)
My practice is based on a strength's perspective, using a collaborative approach to each session. Using your experiences, discussing tools and new strategies, you will move through your sessions with a sense of growth and change. I will use an eclectic approach to therapy; using solution focused, cognitive behavioral or creative forms of therapy, like journaling. The structure and approach of sessions is determined by your needs. Visit my website for more information.
My practice is based on a strength's perspective, using a collaborative approach to each session. Using your experiences, discussing tools and new strategies, you will move through your sessions with a sense of growth and change. I will use an eclectic approach to therapy; using solution focused, cognitive behavioral or creative forms of therapy, like journaling. The structure and approach of sessions is determined by your needs. Visit my website for more information.
(785) 728-4127 View (785) 728-4127
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Kerry Jossie
Marriage & Family Therapist, LCMFT
Verified Verified
Ottawa, KS 66067
You’ve poured your heart and soul into creating a family, and your heart is breaking. Anger and defiance erupt when you want love and peace. If you are struggling in your family relationships, we can work together to help your family move from surviving to thriving.
You’ve poured your heart and soul into creating a family, and your heart is breaking. Anger and defiance erupt when you want love and peace. If you are struggling in your family relationships, we can work together to help your family move from surviving to thriving.
(913) 712-9566 View (913) 712-9566
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Arena Counseling
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Ottawa, KS 66067
Not accepting new clients
For many years I have focused my work on relationships, trauma, family conflict, marriage, depression, anxiety, grief, anger and sexual identity issues.
My promise to you is that I will listen and genuinely try to understand what you are going through. Because I care about you, I will be respectful, but honest. My mission is to help you search for the answers, skills and strength needed to make changes that will put you in a position to cope with the circumstances of your life. Since many of those dilemmas are often the result of self-defeating thoughts, I use Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Exposure Response Therapy. I am EMDR trained for anxiety and trauma related counseling and healing.
For many years I have focused my work on relationships, trauma, family conflict, marriage, depression, anxiety, grief, anger and sexual identity issues.
My promise to you is that I will listen and genuinely try to understand what you are going through. Because I care about you, I will be respectful, but honest. My mission is to help you search for the answers, skills and strength needed to make changes that will put you in a position to cope with the circumstances of your life. Since many of those dilemmas are often the result of self-defeating thoughts, I use Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Exposure Response Therapy. I am EMDR trained for anxiety and trauma related counseling and healing.
(785) 337-4146 View (785) 337-4146

Online Therapists

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Sally J McVey
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW, LCAC, ERYT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Lawrence, KS 66047
I am dedicated to serving adults in various stages of recovery, be it from burnout, childbirth, divorce, career transitions, empty nesting, first-time adulting, chronic pain, addiction, grief, generational family dysfunction, marginalization, or cultural toxicity. Through a supportive and secure environment, we will work together to rediscover your true self and embrace your potential. My approach focuses on fostering self-awareness and growth with compassion and non-judgmental understanding.
I am dedicated to serving adults in various stages of recovery, be it from burnout, childbirth, divorce, career transitions, empty nesting, first-time adulting, chronic pain, addiction, grief, generational family dysfunction, marginalization, or cultural toxicity. Through a supportive and secure environment, we will work together to rediscover your true self and embrace your potential. My approach focuses on fostering self-awareness and growth with compassion and non-judgmental understanding.
(785) 384-4420 View (785) 384-4420
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Adrienne Tietz
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Olathe, KS 66062
I work with a variety of ages and desired treatment goals, and I specialize in life changes/transitions, loss/grief, anxiety, depression, trauma, family and life stressors, and spirituality.
Hi there! If you're new to therapy or if you're already well-versed in the therapy world, I'd love to be a part of your journey. I work primarily with pre-teens, teens, and adults. My therapeutic style is approachable and warm, and I consider it a privilege to be able to support clients at times of crises, challenge, or just growth in general. If you’re looking to work on trauma, current stressors, develop better coping skills, navigate relationships, or find ways to improve your overall mental health, we might be a good fit!
I work with a variety of ages and desired treatment goals, and I specialize in life changes/transitions, loss/grief, anxiety, depression, trauma, family and life stressors, and spirituality.
Hi there! If you're new to therapy or if you're already well-versed in the therapy world, I'd love to be a part of your journey. I work primarily with pre-teens, teens, and adults. My therapeutic style is approachable and warm, and I consider it a privilege to be able to support clients at times of crises, challenge, or just growth in general. If you’re looking to work on trauma, current stressors, develop better coping skills, navigate relationships, or find ways to improve your overall mental health, we might be a good fit!
(913) 361-6320 View (913) 361-6320
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Paul W Anderson - Certified Medicare Counselor
Psychologist, PhD, LP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Overland Park, KS 66210  (Online Only)
Anxiety, depression, loneliness and grief from life stressors can increase tension and conflict in your relationships. You may wonder, "Does marriage counseling or therapy in general work?" "What are the signs a couple should get a counselor?" "Are other issues in our lives being overlooked, such as substance abuse, depression or overwhelming stress?" No single set of answers to these questions works for everyone, but together we will find new ideas and ways to ease your pain and make things better. I don't take sides. What ever the issues are, the process of healing and repair starts by getting some help. I am Medicare certified.
Anxiety, depression, loneliness and grief from life stressors can increase tension and conflict in your relationships. You may wonder, "Does marriage counseling or therapy in general work?" "What are the signs a couple should get a counselor?" "Are other issues in our lives being overlooked, such as substance abuse, depression or overwhelming stress?" No single set of answers to these questions works for everyone, but together we will find new ideas and ways to ease your pain and make things better. I don't take sides. What ever the issues are, the process of healing and repair starts by getting some help. I am Medicare certified.
(913) 318-5241 View (913) 318-5241
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Mavany Duncan
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Manhattan, KS 66503
Mavany is a Licensed Master Social Worker. Before becoming a Therapist, Mavany was a Registered Behavior Technician, working with children living with intellectual disabilities, such as, Autism and/or Down Syndrome. For the past year, Mavany has worked with teens, college-students, and adults in navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, and life-transitions. Mavany’s goal as a therapist is to ensure her clients feel heard and validated while overcoming life’s challenges. She is passionate in teaching her clients sustainable coping strategies to help them live a fulfilling life with healthy relationships.
Mavany is a Licensed Master Social Worker. Before becoming a Therapist, Mavany was a Registered Behavior Technician, working with children living with intellectual disabilities, such as, Autism and/or Down Syndrome. For the past year, Mavany has worked with teens, college-students, and adults in navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, and life-transitions. Mavany’s goal as a therapist is to ensure her clients feel heard and validated while overcoming life’s challenges. She is passionate in teaching her clients sustainable coping strategies to help them live a fulfilling life with healthy relationships.
(785) 465-2112 View (785) 465-2112
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Sarah A. Glavin
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW
Verified Verified
Overland Park, KS 66210
I find that a holistic approach to wellness, in which I believe that every person has within themselves the power and capacity to heal, is the most effective approach to therapy. I focus on working with my clients’ strengths and enhancing their positive attributes to overcome life’s obstacles–regardless of whether those obstacles arise from grief/loss, depression, anxiety, stress, or any of the myriad of challenges that we face in our lives.
I find that a holistic approach to wellness, in which I believe that every person has within themselves the power and capacity to heal, is the most effective approach to therapy. I focus on working with my clients’ strengths and enhancing their positive attributes to overcome life’s obstacles–regardless of whether those obstacles arise from grief/loss, depression, anxiety, stress, or any of the myriad of challenges that we face in our lives.
(913) 220-2450 View (913) 220-2450
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Jill Robinson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW, LCSW, CAAPT, RPT-S™, CAS
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Mission, KS 66202
I specialize in treating depression, eating disorders, trauma/PTSD, autism, grief (including loss of a pet), and child/adolescent issues.
Hi! My name is Jill and I am a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) in Missouri, a licensed specialist clinical social worker (LSCSW) in Kansas, and a registered play therapist supervisor (RPT-S). I am also a Certified AutPlay Therapy Provider, a Certified Autism Specialist (CAS), an EMDR certified therapist, and a Certified Animal Assisted Play Therapist (CAAPT). I am passionate about helping individuals meet their goals and enhance their well-being. I work with children, adolescents, and adults. I also provide supervision for social workers (LMSWs) in Kansas and play therapy supervision towards the RPT credential.
I specialize in treating depression, eating disorders, trauma/PTSD, autism, grief (including loss of a pet), and child/adolescent issues.
Hi! My name is Jill and I am a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) in Missouri, a licensed specialist clinical social worker (LSCSW) in Kansas, and a registered play therapist supervisor (RPT-S). I am also a Certified AutPlay Therapy Provider, a Certified Autism Specialist (CAS), an EMDR certified therapist, and a Certified Animal Assisted Play Therapist (CAAPT). I am passionate about helping individuals meet their goals and enhance their well-being. I work with children, adolescents, and adults. I also provide supervision for social workers (LMSWs) in Kansas and play therapy supervision towards the RPT credential.
(816) 407-8759 View (816) 407-8759
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Linda Woofter
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MA
Verified Verified
Overland Park, KS 66210
Is your life overwhelming right now? You may be feeling frustrated, confused, sad, angry, exhausted and/or just "stuck." Contacting a therapist is a courageous step in the path to change. I will support you at the pace that makes sense for you with empathy and compassion and without judgment. My focus areas are trauma and PTSD, anxiety, grief, depression, bipolar disorders, substance use, life transitions, workplace concerns, and other emotional, psychological, and relational concerns (see detailed list on this page).
Is your life overwhelming right now? You may be feeling frustrated, confused, sad, angry, exhausted and/or just "stuck." Contacting a therapist is a courageous step in the path to change. I will support you at the pace that makes sense for you with empathy and compassion and without judgment. My focus areas are trauma and PTSD, anxiety, grief, depression, bipolar disorders, substance use, life transitions, workplace concerns, and other emotional, psychological, and relational concerns (see detailed list on this page).
(913) 347-5593 View (913) 347-5593
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Phelica A Glass
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW, GCCA-C, FAAGC, CSOTP, SPARC
Verified Verified
Topeka, KS 66603
Certified Child and Adolescent Grief Counselor.
Meeting the needs of individuals by empowering their voice, strengthening their individuality while joining them in their personal journey. If you have found yourself searching for your inner voice, seeking a better you, or identifying your place in life... I'm available to partner with you. If your children are in need of a motivator or an encourager who will be available to them, who will advocate for them or who will help them set limits in their behavior...I am available to them.
Certified Child and Adolescent Grief Counselor.
Meeting the needs of individuals by empowering their voice, strengthening their individuality while joining them in their personal journey. If you have found yourself searching for your inner voice, seeking a better you, or identifying your place in life... I'm available to partner with you. If your children are in need of a motivator or an encourager who will be available to them, who will advocate for them or who will help them set limits in their behavior...I am available to them.
(785) 246-7703 View (785) 246-7703
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Kathleen Hunter Levy
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSCSW
Verified Verified
Topeka, KS 66614
I love to help people begin again to get healthy, well and strong. Whether they are coming through a physical or mental illness, divorce, grief or other life transition, being knocked down in any way, requires support to get back up and start again. I am support.
I love to help people begin again to get healthy, well and strong. Whether they are coming through a physical or mental illness, divorce, grief or other life transition, being knocked down in any way, requires support to get back up and start again. I am support.
(785) 392-6549 View (785) 392-6549

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Grief Therapists

How long does therapy take for grief?

There is no exact timeline for grief counseling. Some people may start to feel better after just a few sessions, while others may take months or longer to feel relief. Some specific approaches, including some types of CBT, may involve a set number of sessions, or therapy may be open-ended until the patient determines they are ready to wrap up. Just as there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no right or wrong way to seek therapy for grief.

When should you seek therapy for grief?

Many people mistakenly believe that their grief needs to be debilitating or all-encompassing to warrant therapy. This is not the case. While people who experience severe, prolonged grief—particularly those who are considering self-harm or engaging in unhealthy substance use—are especially likely to benefit from therapy, so too are people whose grief is less intense but still interfering with well-being or daily functioning. In practice, almost anyone struggling to process a loss could benefit from grief counseling.

Can grief be managed without therapy?

Oftentimes, yes. Grief is a near-universal part of being human, and many find that their grief, while profound, does not stop them from participating in day-to-day life and steadily eases over time without outside help. For others, however, the harsh pain of early grief persists for months or years or leaves them unable to function. This group is especially likely to benefit from seeing a therapist, who can guide them through their grief and help them reconnect with the world.

What happens if grief is left untreated?

Because grief does not in itself necessitate therapy, untreated grief will often resolve on its own. However, for some people—particularly those who would qualify for a diagnosis of prolonged grief disorder—untreated grief can be a source of seemingly endless pain or lead them to withdraw from the world. In such cases, treatment can be indispensable, as it can help an individual adapt to the loss and start living again.