Emotionally Focused Therapists in Spokane, WA
![Photo of Brandon Loiler, MA, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/51194e3c-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/2/320x400.jpeg)
I integrate techniques from multiple Evidence-Based theories including Emotionally Focused Therapy, The Gottman Method, Reality Therapy, Bowenian Family Therapy, Experiential Family Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Internal Family Systems to help you work through any problem that you might be facing in your life.
You ever get the feeling that trying to find purpose in the middle of all of this chaos is a little too hard?! Well, that is why I do what I do. I work to create an open and comfortable place where clients can work through their struggles to better their lives and heal relationships.The only goal is helping you move forward with fulfillment and joy. My personal worldview comes from following Jesus, but my goal is to be with you as you work through life whatever your background, faith, or life story is. My desire is to walk with people through hard times. We all go through them and sometimes we just need a hand.
I integrate techniques from multiple Evidence-Based theories including Emotionally Focused Therapy, The Gottman Method, Reality Therapy, Bowenian Family Therapy, Experiential Family Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Internal Family Systems to help you work through any problem that you might be facing in your life.
You ever get the feeling that trying to find purpose in the middle of all of this chaos is a little too hard?! Well, that is why I do what I do. I work to create an open and comfortable place where clients can work through their struggles to better their lives and heal relationships.The only goal is helping you move forward with fulfillment and joy. My personal worldview comes from following Jesus, but my goal is to be with you as you work through life whatever your background, faith, or life story is. My desire is to walk with people through hard times. We all go through them and sometimes we just need a hand.
![Photo of Sammy Blatner, MA, LMHCA](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/0feca355-938c-41b1-92da-42dabcc69459/1/320x400.jpeg)
My counseling approach is based in Adlerian, Person-centered, and Emotionally Focused therapies, as well as my Christian faith.
I believe it is possible to experience peace in any of life’s circumstances. One thing that comes between us and this peace, however, is our thoughts - without intentional direction for our thoughts, we tend to fixate on our fears, anxieties, and doubts. When this happens, we turn inward and lose connection with what we believe in and the people around us. As your counselor, I aim to guide you to a deeper understanding and validation of your current experience while empowering you to refocus your attention on what is true and life-giving, reestablishing a calming connection with your values, beliefs, and loved ones.
My counseling approach is based in Adlerian, Person-centered, and Emotionally Focused therapies, as well as my Christian faith.
I believe it is possible to experience peace in any of life’s circumstances. One thing that comes between us and this peace, however, is our thoughts - without intentional direction for our thoughts, we tend to fixate on our fears, anxieties, and doubts. When this happens, we turn inward and lose connection with what we believe in and the people around us. As your counselor, I aim to guide you to a deeper understanding and validation of your current experience while empowering you to refocus your attention on what is true and life-giving, reestablishing a calming connection with your values, beliefs, and loved ones.
![Photo of Michael Chessar - Michael Chessar Counseling Service, MA, LMHC, LMFT, NCC, Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/3cdb93a2-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/7/320x400.jpeg)
Michael Chessar Counseling Service
Counselor, MA, LMHC, LMFT, NCC
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99205
My practice is evidence based emphasizing modalities including; Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Terapy and Psycho-Dynamic therapy specifically tailored to YOUR needs and goals.
You deserve to live a full enriching life. Here you have the opportunity to be heard in a safe confidential setting. Here you can gain confidence, effectiveness and self expression in relationships and area's of life important to you, Don't let anxiety, depression or the past stop you. I enjoy and appreciate working with Individuals, Couples and Families on their journey. I invite you to try a FREE TELEPHONE CONSULTATION.
My practice is evidence based emphasizing modalities including; Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Terapy and Psycho-Dynamic therapy specifically tailored to YOUR needs and goals.
You deserve to live a full enriching life. Here you have the opportunity to be heard in a safe confidential setting. Here you can gain confidence, effectiveness and self expression in relationships and area's of life important to you, Don't let anxiety, depression or the past stop you. I enjoy and appreciate working with Individuals, Couples and Families on their journey. I invite you to try a FREE TELEPHONE CONSULTATION.
![Photo of Kathryn Bradford, MA, LMHCA, LMFTA, NCC, Marriage & Family Therapist Associate](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/6cf70716-9548-4f10-a540-58d4af632471/2/320x400.jpeg)
Kathryn Bradford
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMHCA, LMFTA, NCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99202
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), equipping me to work with a diverse range of clients from teens to couples and families.
Acknowledging our needs with grace and compassion is especially challenging when you or a loved one is experiencing parenting struggles, life transitions, the weight of anxiety or depression, or conflict in relationships. You're searching for a way through, and don't have to do it alone. I believe we're all worthy of being seen, known and deeply understood. My hope is for you to encounter a sense of that during our work together.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), equipping me to work with a diverse range of clients from teens to couples and families.
Acknowledging our needs with grace and compassion is especially challenging when you or a loved one is experiencing parenting struggles, life transitions, the weight of anxiety or depression, or conflict in relationships. You're searching for a way through, and don't have to do it alone. I believe we're all worthy of being seen, known and deeply understood. My hope is for you to encounter a sense of that during our work together.
![Photo of Richard V Dalke, MS, LMHC, NCC, Licensed Professional Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/9c98577a-c868-4c9d-933a-9533acff4329/2/320x400.png)
Richard V Dalke
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LMHC, NCC
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99208 (Online Only)
The techniques I use are primarily Mindfulness based – meditation, journaling, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques or "Tapping"), Reiki, Guided Imagery and deep breathing exercises.
Rather than provide clients with the answers for their lives, I provide processes and exercises that help my clients find their own answers to what they are seeking. My aim is to help clients learn how to release the thoughts and patterns that block their progress and then provide them with exercises and methods that show them how to become more consistently connected to their Higher Self, in order to enhance their ability to achieve inspired action.
The techniques I use are primarily Mindfulness based – meditation, journaling, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques or "Tapping"), Reiki, Guided Imagery and deep breathing exercises.
Rather than provide clients with the answers for their lives, I provide processes and exercises that help my clients find their own answers to what they are seeking. My aim is to help clients learn how to release the thoughts and patterns that block their progress and then provide them with exercises and methods that show them how to become more consistently connected to their Higher Self, in order to enhance their ability to achieve inspired action.
![Photo of Marilyn L Sears, PhD, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/3f4894d0-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/3/320x400.jpeg)
Marilyn L Sears
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99208
My training is in clinical psychology and attachment-based family therapy, emotionally focused therapy concepts, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
Hello, my name is Marilyn Sears. You may be looking to discover new strategies for coping and succeeding in your life's challenges. If so, I would like to work with you to discuss issues that are important to you. My areas of specialization include working with relationship issues, couples therapy, grief/loss, self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. I may ask questions, clarify feelings, offer reassurance, interpret, and identify themes. Many people feel strengthened and supported in the process of counseling. If you would like to meet with me or have questions, please contact me.
My training is in clinical psychology and attachment-based family therapy, emotionally focused therapy concepts, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
Hello, my name is Marilyn Sears. You may be looking to discover new strategies for coping and succeeding in your life's challenges. If so, I would like to work with you to discuss issues that are important to you. My areas of specialization include working with relationship issues, couples therapy, grief/loss, self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. I may ask questions, clarify feelings, offer reassurance, interpret, and identify themes. Many people feel strengthened and supported in the process of counseling. If you would like to meet with me or have questions, please contact me.
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I rely on multiple therapeutic orientations that include, but are not limited to, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in order to help you meet your goals.
Mental Health is important component to your overall health. There is never a wrong time to seek help. People meet with counselors for therapy for a variety of reasons, whether it is for preventative care, you are currently experiencing negative mental health symptoms, or you have gone through something in the past that you want to have a safe place to talk about. Whatever it may be, I can join with you in your journey in achieving your goals.
I rely on multiple therapeutic orientations that include, but are not limited to, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in order to help you meet your goals.
Mental Health is important component to your overall health. There is never a wrong time to seek help. People meet with counselors for therapy for a variety of reasons, whether it is for preventative care, you are currently experiencing negative mental health symptoms, or you have gone through something in the past that you want to have a safe place to talk about. Whatever it may be, I can join with you in your journey in achieving your goals.
![Photo of Katie Maehl, Pre-Licensed Professional](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/52cf366e-84dd-45cf-bed4-6fec88ed1b21/1/320x400.jpeg)
I have received specific training in suicide prevention and familiarity with Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Hello, my name is Katie Maehl and I am a Clinical Mental Health Counseling intern. I am here to hold a safe space for my clients and their stories, ensuring genuine empathy and understanding. I integrate humanistic and person-centered elements into my counseling approach, valuing the individual's capability to achieve meaning and purpose through unique and creative means. I aspire to help support my clients through their personal growth journey in a manner that resonates authentically with them.
I have received specific training in suicide prevention and familiarity with Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Hello, my name is Katie Maehl and I am a Clinical Mental Health Counseling intern. I am here to hold a safe space for my clients and their stories, ensuring genuine empathy and understanding. I integrate humanistic and person-centered elements into my counseling approach, valuing the individual's capability to achieve meaning and purpose through unique and creative means. I aspire to help support my clients through their personal growth journey in a manner that resonates authentically with them.
![Photo of Melanie Elizabeth Morlan - Melanie Morlan @ Couples Therapy Spokane, LMFT, LMHC, NCC, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/54828ddf-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/3/320x400.jpeg)
Melanie Morlan @ Couples Therapy Spokane
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LMHC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99203
it has taken me years of experience to gain the competency and passion I have today as a Couples Therapy Specialist and chances are, no matter what you are struggling with I can help. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is my life's work, and an effective, research-based protocol for helping couples recover from crisis, develop deeper connections, and learn a fail safe system for navigating relationships. I have committed my professional career to a high level of expertise and the ability to care deeply about my clients needs. I will give you exceptional care and support for your most important relationships.
it has taken me years of experience to gain the competency and passion I have today as a Couples Therapy Specialist and chances are, no matter what you are struggling with I can help. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is my life's work, and an effective, research-based protocol for helping couples recover from crisis, develop deeper connections, and learn a fail safe system for navigating relationships. I have committed my professional career to a high level of expertise and the ability to care deeply about my clients needs. I will give you exceptional care and support for your most important relationships.
![Photo of Janeen Steer, MA, Counselor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/8cf1f907-42e8-411f-a536-dcbdb282b964/1/320x400.jpeg)
I love working with couples to improve relationship satisfaction and mutual understanding through emotionally focused therapy (I accept cash only for couples).
Humans are wired for relationships and desire to be seen, known and loved. I specialize in helping people to slow down and listen to their interior world and discover insights and strategies that will create growth , freedom and deeper connections.
I love working with couples to improve relationship satisfaction and mutual understanding through emotionally focused therapy (I accept cash only for couples).
Humans are wired for relationships and desire to be seen, known and loved. I specialize in helping people to slow down and listen to their interior world and discover insights and strategies that will create growth , freedom and deeper connections.
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I use a client-centered hybrid approach drawing from models/skills such as solution focused, cognitive behavioral therapy, structural therapy, DBT, emotionally focused, and others.
I'm licensed in WA, ID & MT. I'm an AAMFT Supervisor Candidate. Burdens of trauma can impact your love life, work life, friendships, and how you see yourself in the world. Each person is doing the very best they can. Within you are strengths I want to build on. Working together we will come up with strategies tailored to you. I work with military families, couples, adults, teens, and foster youth with various challenges (ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar, social difficulties, etc.) I provide private pay for family/reunification therapy.
I use a client-centered hybrid approach drawing from models/skills such as solution focused, cognitive behavioral therapy, structural therapy, DBT, emotionally focused, and others.
I'm licensed in WA, ID & MT. I'm an AAMFT Supervisor Candidate. Burdens of trauma can impact your love life, work life, friendships, and how you see yourself in the world. Each person is doing the very best they can. Within you are strengths I want to build on. Working together we will come up with strategies tailored to you. I work with military families, couples, adults, teens, and foster youth with various challenges (ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar, social difficulties, etc.) I provide private pay for family/reunification therapy.
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Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99202 (Online Only)
Among these are neuroscience, mindfulness, CBT, DBT, multicultural therapy, EFT, and Gottman's couple's therapy.
Life can be stressful at times! I believe that everyone could use some extra help and support at some point in their lives. You have a safe place to discuss your unique troubles, challenges, and goals with me. Get support in making the changes you desire! Work on achieving your goals and improving your quality of life all around.
Among these are neuroscience, mindfulness, CBT, DBT, multicultural therapy, EFT, and Gottman's couple's therapy.
Life can be stressful at times! I believe that everyone could use some extra help and support at some point in their lives. You have a safe place to discuss your unique troubles, challenges, and goals with me. Get support in making the changes you desire! Work on achieving your goals and improving your quality of life all around.
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Jocelyn Ribar
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LMHC, RYT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99203
People are motivated by fulfilling needs, including the deep rooted need for connection. We are all hardwired for connection and love. In each and every one of us lies strength and resilience. We all have moments where we get off track and might need guidance and help. As your counselor, it is my role to help you feel heard and accepted, able to share your story. My goal is to meet you where you are, in your own process. I am here to walk this journey with you and help you discover a deeper awareness of your internal processes.
People are motivated by fulfilling needs, including the deep rooted need for connection. We are all hardwired for connection and love. In each and every one of us lies strength and resilience. We all have moments where we get off track and might need guidance and help. As your counselor, it is my role to help you feel heard and accepted, able to share your story. My goal is to meet you where you are, in your own process. I am here to walk this journey with you and help you discover a deeper awareness of your internal processes.
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Vicky Wesslen
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, LMHC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99204
I have attended all Core Skills for Emotionally Focused Therapy and actively participate in Supervision in English and Spanish to integrate my multicultural lens into Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I am passionate about creating a safe environment for my clients to feel heard and explore new ways to create, repair and maintain lasting bonds. I work with adult individuals, families and couples.
I have attended all Core Skills for Emotionally Focused Therapy and actively participate in Supervision in English and Spanish to integrate my multicultural lens into Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I am passionate about creating a safe environment for my clients to feel heard and explore new ways to create, repair and maintain lasting bonds. I work with adult individuals, families and couples.
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Jaeden Roberts Healing Arts
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW, CHT
Verified Verified
Spokane, WA 99201
Waitlist for new clients
I offer traditional counseling as well as several alternative modalities (EMDR, hypnotherapy, EFT, etc).
Welcome to Jaeden Roberts Counseling & Alternative Therapies. I work with adults and children, providing individual & family sessions, as well as teaching classes. My approach is holistic, and I see my role as helping clients cultivate their natural strengths and capacities for healing, gain skills/tools to address problematic dynamics and stressors, and address and resolve past trauma. I believe wholeheartedly in the connection between body and mind, and I work to ensure that healing takes place at all levels. All services are strictly confidential, of course. Some sessions available online (via Facetime or email), based on your needs/preference.
I offer traditional counseling as well as several alternative modalities (EMDR, hypnotherapy, EFT, etc).
Welcome to Jaeden Roberts Counseling & Alternative Therapies. I work with adults and children, providing individual & family sessions, as well as teaching classes. My approach is holistic, and I see my role as helping clients cultivate their natural strengths and capacities for healing, gain skills/tools to address problematic dynamics and stressors, and address and resolve past trauma. I believe wholeheartedly in the connection between body and mind, and I work to ensure that healing takes place at all levels. All services are strictly confidential, of course. Some sessions available online (via Facetime or email), based on your needs/preference.
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I am a trained EMDR and EFT therapist.
Looking for help and support for yourself or someone you care very much about? Whether you are trying to recover from something difficult, are trying to improve your relationships with others, or improve your mental health, it takes courage to seek help or to make a change. My goal as a therapist is to help others discover their strengths, as well as learn new skills to help overcome life's obstacles. I can assist in building a toolbox of healthy coping skills for successful emotional regulation and help develop insight and awareness needed to grow and find peace.
I am a trained EMDR and EFT therapist.
Looking for help and support for yourself or someone you care very much about? Whether you are trying to recover from something difficult, are trying to improve your relationships with others, or improve your mental health, it takes courage to seek help or to make a change. My goal as a therapist is to help others discover their strengths, as well as learn new skills to help overcome life's obstacles. I can assist in building a toolbox of healthy coping skills for successful emotional regulation and help develop insight and awareness needed to grow and find peace.
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My work is grounded in Attachment Theory, Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), and somatic based approaches to trauma and PTSD.
As a therapist, I am committed to individual and collective healing, operating from the belief that people change in the presence of other people. This is what makes the therapeutic experience so transformative – the relational work of therapy provides a new context where, together with a safe other, you can seek to understand and unlearn old patterns that no longer serve you, while learning to navigate through your inner and outer world with more courage and comfort. I work to create shared experiences based in curiosity and safety, speaking to the parts of you and your story that may feel stuck or alone.
My work is grounded in Attachment Theory, Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), and somatic based approaches to trauma and PTSD.
As a therapist, I am committed to individual and collective healing, operating from the belief that people change in the presence of other people. This is what makes the therapeutic experience so transformative – the relational work of therapy provides a new context where, together with a safe other, you can seek to understand and unlearn old patterns that no longer serve you, while learning to navigate through your inner and outer world with more courage and comfort. I work to create shared experiences based in curiosity and safety, speaking to the parts of you and your story that may feel stuck or alone.
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I use aspects of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT and EFIT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) to walk alongside you as we explore patterns of reactions, what you believe about yourself, and how you experience other people.
The seasons of life can feel impossible to navigate alone. Sometimes it’s a lost feeling of disconnection from ourselves. Other times maybe it’s the grief of losing someone we love. Or perhaps it’s a relationship that fuels anxiety or distress. Whatever the reason, counseling is a space for us to explore and discover the tools you need to connect, heal, and grow in new ways. My framework in our work together is grounded in attachment science and the belief that connection to self and other is a basic tenant of human wellness. While leaning in can be terrifying, I'll be there every step of the way.
I use aspects of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT and EFIT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) to walk alongside you as we explore patterns of reactions, what you believe about yourself, and how you experience other people.
The seasons of life can feel impossible to navigate alone. Sometimes it’s a lost feeling of disconnection from ourselves. Other times maybe it’s the grief of losing someone we love. Or perhaps it’s a relationship that fuels anxiety or distress. Whatever the reason, counseling is a space for us to explore and discover the tools you need to connect, heal, and grow in new ways. My framework in our work together is grounded in attachment science and the belief that connection to self and other is a basic tenant of human wellness. While leaning in can be terrifying, I'll be there every step of the way.
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With couples I use EFT.
We cannot remove painful memories but I believe that we can decrease the control they have over our lives and come to a place where the pain is not as intense. I believe struggles come from avoidance. When we avoid things like negative emotions or traumatic times in our lives they won't go away, instead, they grow and fester until at some point, they become overwhelming, uncontrollable, or show up in other areas of our lives. The more they grow, the more uncomfortable or scary they are to address, so we avoid them even more until it becomes an unending and ever-growing cycle.
With couples I use EFT.
We cannot remove painful memories but I believe that we can decrease the control they have over our lives and come to a place where the pain is not as intense. I believe struggles come from avoidance. When we avoid things like negative emotions or traumatic times in our lives they won't go away, instead, they grow and fester until at some point, they become overwhelming, uncontrollable, or show up in other areas of our lives. The more they grow, the more uncomfortable or scary they are to address, so we avoid them even more until it becomes an unending and ever-growing cycle.
![Photo of Kimberly Castelo, MS, LMFT-S, CST-S, CEFCT-S, CEFIT-S, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/44d02e47-c586-4968-b0dd-8210ee8606ac/1/320x400.jpeg)
Kimberly Castelo
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT-S, CST-S, CEFCT-S, CEFIT-S
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Spokane, WA 99201 (Online Only)
I am an AAMFT Supervisor, Certified EFT Couples Therapist and Supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.
For therapy to be effective, it needs to be real, honest, compassionate, and focused on the client's goals. That is what you will find with me. Over the years, I have found a common thread among my clients: they long to feel safe, loved, and accepted by those around them. When those feelings are not met, life can seem overwhelming and depressing. Finding connections, learning skills, overcoming traumas, dealing with grief, helping your marriage thrive -- these can be great stepping stones in living life to the fullest. Together, we can find ways to achieve this goal.
I am an AAMFT Supervisor, Certified EFT Couples Therapist and Supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.
For therapy to be effective, it needs to be real, honest, compassionate, and focused on the client's goals. That is what you will find with me. Over the years, I have found a common thread among my clients: they long to feel safe, loved, and accepted by those around them. When those feelings are not met, life can seem overwhelming and depressing. Finding connections, learning skills, overcoming traumas, dealing with grief, helping your marriage thrive -- these can be great stepping stones in living life to the fullest. Together, we can find ways to achieve this goal.
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.