Emotionally Focused Therapists in Pittsburgh, PA

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Jennifer Tieman
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15234  (Online Only)
My training and experience are multi-faceted with a strong grounding in trauma, attachment and emotionally focused work.
I am a trauma informed clinician who specializes in developmental trauma. I use NARM (neuro-affective relational model) to guide in the rediscovery of lost pieces of the self. My approach is non blaming, strength based and compassionate.
My training and experience are multi-faceted with a strong grounding in trauma, attachment and emotionally focused work.
I am a trauma informed clinician who specializes in developmental trauma. I use NARM (neuro-affective relational model) to guide in the rediscovery of lost pieces of the self. My approach is non blaming, strength based and compassionate.
(412) 564-0600 View (412) 564-0600
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Adrian Turner
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15226
I am trained as an Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT).
Does your relationship have meaningful affection, secure attachment and passionate sex? Is your quest for love elusive or is your "picker" broken? Feeling love starved? Are you ready to make it better? If you have heard yourself ask the question, “What are we doing here,” or, “Will I ever know real love,” I'd love to help you. From poor communication and fights with no resolution, to unmet sexual needs and recovering from narcissistic abuse, I have the skills to help you make life and love more fulfilling. I know that having and making good love can be tough. Don't do this alone. Reach out to me to begin a new love journey!
I am trained as an Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT).
Does your relationship have meaningful affection, secure attachment and passionate sex? Is your quest for love elusive or is your "picker" broken? Feeling love starved? Are you ready to make it better? If you have heard yourself ask the question, “What are we doing here,” or, “Will I ever know real love,” I'd love to help you. From poor communication and fights with no resolution, to unmet sexual needs and recovering from narcissistic abuse, I have the skills to help you make life and love more fulfilling. I know that having and making good love can be tough. Don't do this alone. Reach out to me to begin a new love journey!
(412) 903-3578 View (412) 903-3578
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Tonette Whitted
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MSEd, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Pittsburgh, PA 15206  (Online Only)
I utilize an eclectic approach drawing from structural, solution-focused, emotionally focused and cognitive behavioral therapy.
To my future clients, wow I'm so glad you've crossed my page. I'm not sure what it took to get to this point, but I am sure glad you did. I could give you the long spill of why I think this process is helpful and enlightening, but I won't. What I will tell you is; you are capable, you are strong, you are resilient and going through the psychotherapy process I hope you discover that too! You deserve to be seen, to feel valued and to be heard. Life has a way of knocking the wind out of you and causing you to question your existence. Resilience is one thing we all share; the capability of getting back up and breathe again. Breathe.
I utilize an eclectic approach drawing from structural, solution-focused, emotionally focused and cognitive behavioral therapy.
To my future clients, wow I'm so glad you've crossed my page. I'm not sure what it took to get to this point, but I am sure glad you did. I could give you the long spill of why I think this process is helpful and enlightening, but I won't. What I will tell you is; you are capable, you are strong, you are resilient and going through the psychotherapy process I hope you discover that too! You deserve to be seen, to feel valued and to be heard. Life has a way of knocking the wind out of you and causing you to question your existence. Resilience is one thing we all share; the capability of getting back up and breathe again. Breathe.
(412) 435-9031 View (412) 435-9031
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Courtney Orlowski
MS, NCC, MSEd, CSP
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15221
I am formally trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy & Internal Family Systems, which means faster, more lasting healing.
Are you struggling in a relationship and finding yourself stuck in a negative cycle with someone you love? Do you find that all your good intentions lead you further from connection? The closest relationship is where the biggest hurts happen because this person means so much to us. Often we are stuck in a cycle where there is no good move. We fight for our connection, and things blow up. We tuck away our pain, and we feel further apart. This feels like so much pressure, and often a hopeless place to be.
I am formally trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy & Internal Family Systems, which means faster, more lasting healing.
Are you struggling in a relationship and finding yourself stuck in a negative cycle with someone you love? Do you find that all your good intentions lead you further from connection? The closest relationship is where the biggest hurts happen because this person means so much to us. Often we are stuck in a cycle where there is no good move. We fight for our connection, and things blow up. We tuck away our pain, and we feel further apart. This feels like so much pressure, and often a hopeless place to be.
(412) 206-9275 View (412) 206-9275
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Jessica Everly
Licensed Professional Counselor, PhD, LPC
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15206
Hello, and welcome. I am a counselor who works with individuals and couples ages 17 and up. I treat depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, OCD, grief and loss, life transitions, and relationship distress. My approach is integrative, combining emotionally focused therapy, behavioral therapies, cognitive behavioral therapy, and somatic techniques. I am a LPC and I have a doctorate with over 15 years of experience in the field of psychology. Sessions with me tend to be semi-structured, with us working towards your goals while leaving space for timely stressors that arise. Warmth, support and curiosity are always present in my sessions.
Hello, and welcome. I am a counselor who works with individuals and couples ages 17 and up. I treat depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, OCD, grief and loss, life transitions, and relationship distress. My approach is integrative, combining emotionally focused therapy, behavioral therapies, cognitive behavioral therapy, and somatic techniques. I am a LPC and I have a doctorate with over 15 years of experience in the field of psychology. Sessions with me tend to be semi-structured, with us working towards your goals while leaving space for timely stressors that arise. Warmth, support and curiosity are always present in my sessions.
(412) 693-6197 View (412) 693-6197
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Jeff Johnson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15222  (Online Only)
I work through a multimodality system including Emotionally Focused therapy, Gottman, CBT, EMDR, Systemic and structural theories.
If you are looking to transform yourself or your relationship and have healthier forms of communication, more intimate and emotional forms of connection and ,overall, improve your sense of self and relationships let your journey begin. With over 20 years of mental health experience and 14 years practicing therapy, I have learned to specialize in relationship/couples therapy and work as well as individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, and other life and circumstantial issues. If you are looking to repair, strengthen, regain connection, improve intimacy, or generally work on your relationships or your mental health I can help.
I work through a multimodality system including Emotionally Focused therapy, Gottman, CBT, EMDR, Systemic and structural theories.
If you are looking to transform yourself or your relationship and have healthier forms of communication, more intimate and emotional forms of connection and ,overall, improve your sense of self and relationships let your journey begin. With over 20 years of mental health experience and 14 years practicing therapy, I have learned to specialize in relationship/couples therapy and work as well as individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, and other life and circumstantial issues. If you are looking to repair, strengthen, regain connection, improve intimacy, or generally work on your relationships or your mental health I can help.
(724) 932-6276 View (724) 932-6276
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Thriveworks Counseling & Psychiatry Pittsburgh
Counselor
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15222
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
(412) 284-5215 View (412) 284-5215
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Marcus Robinson
Pre-Licensed Professional, MSEd, MPhilEd
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Pittsburgh, PA 15232  (Online Only)
I mainly pull from acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), feminist therapy, liberation psychology, internal family systems (IFS), emotion focused therapy (EFT), and dialectic behavior therapy (DBT).
Hi! I’m marcus. I am a pre-licensed counselor who practices on the unceded land of the Lenape people, based in the city of Philadelphia. I am a queer, nonbinary, neurodistinct, Black, African American, Dominican, person. I am a recent graduate of the Counseling and Mental Health Services (M.S.Ed.) and Professional Counseling (M.Phil.Ed.) programs at the University of Pennsylvania; I also hold a BA in Psychology with a minor in Gender, Sexuality, and Women’s Studies from the University of Pennsylvania.
I mainly pull from acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), feminist therapy, liberation psychology, internal family systems (IFS), emotion focused therapy (EFT), and dialectic behavior therapy (DBT).
Hi! I’m marcus. I am a pre-licensed counselor who practices on the unceded land of the Lenape people, based in the city of Philadelphia. I am a queer, nonbinary, neurodistinct, Black, African American, Dominican, person. I am a recent graduate of the Counseling and Mental Health Services (M.S.Ed.) and Professional Counseling (M.Phil.Ed.) programs at the University of Pennsylvania; I also hold a BA in Psychology with a minor in Gender, Sexuality, and Women’s Studies from the University of Pennsylvania.
(412) 819-1478 View (412) 819-1478
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Carli C. King
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Pittsburgh, PA 15235  (Online Only)
My approach to therapy is rooted in empathy and active listening, and draws from a rich tapestry of therapeutic approaches, including narrative therapy, emotion-focused therapy (EFT), and the Gottman Method to tailor my support to your unique needs and aspirations.
Hey, I’m Carli, a licensed therapist who specializes in helping people improve their relationships and mental health. If you're feeling stuck in cycles of conflict or uncertainty, I can help you find meaningful connections with yourself and others.
My approach to therapy is rooted in empathy and active listening, and draws from a rich tapestry of therapeutic approaches, including narrative therapy, emotion-focused therapy (EFT), and the Gottman Method to tailor my support to your unique needs and aspirations.
Hey, I’m Carli, a licensed therapist who specializes in helping people improve their relationships and mental health. If you're feeling stuck in cycles of conflict or uncertainty, I can help you find meaningful connections with yourself and others.
(878) 302-0103 View (878) 302-0103
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Elyse Milliron
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15241
Waitlist for new clients
I'm an EMDR-HAP trained EMDR therapist who utilizes a variety of techniques (mindfulness, EMDR, CBT, EFT tapping, breath work) to help you, starting exactly where you are today, in achieving your goals.
Clients who work best with me tend to yearn awakening and change. I welcome the challenge to help clients connect with higher versions of themselves. Trauma, difficult emotions, relationships and the stress of life often lead to feeling stuck, feeling out of control of yourself, your emotions and reactions. My goal is to show you that there is a better way. A way to live with intention and purpose, guided by the best version of you! (Please note I do not have evening or weekend availability and my office is located in the South Hills of Pittsburgh- I will ask you to complete a brief phone consult to ensure I am a good fit)
I'm an EMDR-HAP trained EMDR therapist who utilizes a variety of techniques (mindfulness, EMDR, CBT, EFT tapping, breath work) to help you, starting exactly where you are today, in achieving your goals.
Clients who work best with me tend to yearn awakening and change. I welcome the challenge to help clients connect with higher versions of themselves. Trauma, difficult emotions, relationships and the stress of life often lead to feeling stuck, feeling out of control of yourself, your emotions and reactions. My goal is to show you that there is a better way. A way to live with intention and purpose, guided by the best version of you! (Please note I do not have evening or weekend availability and my office is located in the South Hills of Pittsburgh- I will ask you to complete a brief phone consult to ensure I am a good fit)
(412) 838-3534 View (412) 838-3534
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Dr. Samantha Marino
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15237
I have been most helpful with clients who have clear goals or specific issues they want to address. I can work with you in a brief, specific and time-limited ways to help faciliate problem-solving and behavioral changes as needed. I can also work with you long-term to address chronic or longer standing issues of past trauma, family conflict, or issues with self and identity. Most importantly, I work collaboratively to help you meet your own needs by matching the treatment modality and plan with your stated needs and learning/attachment style. I am direct and honest, but always with permission and gentleness. I respect and value all.
I have been most helpful with clients who have clear goals or specific issues they want to address. I can work with you in a brief, specific and time-limited ways to help faciliate problem-solving and behavioral changes as needed. I can also work with you long-term to address chronic or longer standing issues of past trauma, family conflict, or issues with self and identity. Most importantly, I work collaboratively to help you meet your own needs by matching the treatment modality and plan with your stated needs and learning/attachment style. I am direct and honest, but always with permission and gentleness. I respect and value all.
(412) 899-2191 View (412) 899-2191
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Thriveworks Counseling & Psychiatry Pittsburgh
Counselor
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15232
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
(412) 455-8994 View (412) 455-8994
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Margot Groenfeldt
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15226
I utilize EFT, structural family therapy, CBT, and strengths and mindfulness based approaches.
Welcome! My name is Margot Groenfeldt. I am an LCSW and owner and founder of Yellow Rose Counseling. I enjoy working with couples, individuals, and families and I believe that the path to greater happiness and improved mental health is best discovered by focusing on your relationships. Whether they take the form of romantic partnerships, friendships, or your relationship to yourself, I believe that exploring the relationships that define your life will lead to improved well-being, and I am excited to accompany you on this journey.
I utilize EFT, structural family therapy, CBT, and strengths and mindfulness based approaches.
Welcome! My name is Margot Groenfeldt. I am an LCSW and owner and founder of Yellow Rose Counseling. I enjoy working with couples, individuals, and families and I believe that the path to greater happiness and improved mental health is best discovered by focusing on your relationships. Whether they take the form of romantic partnerships, friendships, or your relationship to yourself, I believe that exploring the relationships that define your life will lead to improved well-being, and I am excited to accompany you on this journey.
(412) 946-0820 View (412) 946-0820
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Rebecca Golden-Trist
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPC
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15213
For couples therapy I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
I believe in creating a safe environment where individuals are able to learn, grow, and change. I view my clients not only through the framework of their individual concerns but also in the context of greater social influences.
For couples therapy I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
I believe in creating a safe environment where individuals are able to learn, grow, and change. I view my clients not only through the framework of their individual concerns but also in the context of greater social influences.
(724) 308-9248 View (724) 308-9248
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Beatrice Desir
DO
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15122  (Online Only)
Desir's practice focuses on medication management, supportive or emotionally focused therapy in 30-minute follow-up visits.
Dr. Desir is a Board-Certified Psychiatrist who completed her undergraduate training at The University of Scranton followed by medical school at the New York Institute of Technology College of Osteopathic Medicine. She completed her psychiatry residency at Nassau University Medical Center where she served as the Administrative Chief Resident in her final year. Dr. Desir has been in practice for 4 years and has provided patients with compassionate psychiatric care. She is experienced in treating various psychiatric illnesses including mood disorders, anxiety disorders, OCD, PTSD, and ADHD.
Desir's practice focuses on medication management, supportive or emotionally focused therapy in 30-minute follow-up visits.
Dr. Desir is a Board-Certified Psychiatrist who completed her undergraduate training at The University of Scranton followed by medical school at the New York Institute of Technology College of Osteopathic Medicine. She completed her psychiatry residency at Nassau University Medical Center where she served as the Administrative Chief Resident in her final year. Dr. Desir has been in practice for 4 years and has provided patients with compassionate psychiatric care. She is experienced in treating various psychiatric illnesses including mood disorders, anxiety disorders, OCD, PTSD, and ADHD.
(267) 361-2038 View (267) 361-2038
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Kate Byrd
Pre-Licensed Professional, MS, LAPC, NCC
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15282  (Online Only)
As an insight-oriented clinician, I often utilize techniques from time-limited psychodynamic therapy (TLDP), emotion-focused therapy (EFT), and attachment theory.
I would be a good fit for clients who hope to experience growth or healing through human connection. My empathetic nature and understanding of the challenges faced during emerging adulthood make me a valuable resource for college-aged students. I have a special interest in helping those struggling with self-esteem issues, anxiety, and/or depression symptoms.
As an insight-oriented clinician, I often utilize techniques from time-limited psychodynamic therapy (TLDP), emotion-focused therapy (EFT), and attachment theory.
I would be a good fit for clients who hope to experience growth or healing through human connection. My empathetic nature and understanding of the challenges faced during emerging adulthood make me a valuable resource for college-aged students. I have a special interest in helping those struggling with self-esteem issues, anxiety, and/or depression symptoms.
(724) 248-1628 View (724) 248-1628
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Linda Dukess
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15238
Waitlist for new clients
Do you feel that no matter how much you understand yourself you still struggle to change and to heal? Do you feel like you're not able to be your best self in your relationships or with your work? Do you always put yourself last and find it challenging to meet your own needs for self care? Do you need a safe place to heal from trauma? Please know that you are not alone
Do you feel that no matter how much you understand yourself you still struggle to change and to heal? Do you feel like you're not able to be your best self in your relationships or with your work? Do you always put yourself last and find it challenging to meet your own needs for self care? Do you need a safe place to heal from trauma? Please know that you are not alone
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G Hoffer
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, CCTP-II
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Pittsburgh, PA 15220
Waitlist for new clients
I view therapy as an opportunity to better understand yourself as a whole along with addressing concerns in your life. When we take time to explore how we act, think, and feel we are able to access new parts of ourselves and new perspectives on life. The process of therapy can be powerful. I can offer this opportunity for you to explore yourself & possible changes in a safe, supportive, non-judgmental, & welcoming environment. I take a collaborative approach to therapy, which means YOU are the expert and we work together to offer you healing. I am happy to provide letters for gender affirming surgeries for Trans/GNC folx.
I view therapy as an opportunity to better understand yourself as a whole along with addressing concerns in your life. When we take time to explore how we act, think, and feel we are able to access new parts of ourselves and new perspectives on life. The process of therapy can be powerful. I can offer this opportunity for you to explore yourself & possible changes in a safe, supportive, non-judgmental, & welcoming environment. I take a collaborative approach to therapy, which means YOU are the expert and we work together to offer you healing. I am happy to provide letters for gender affirming surgeries for Trans/GNC folx.
(412) 339-1787 x4 View (412) 339-1787 x4
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Sydney Williams-Coxon
Licensed Professional Counselor, MSEd, LPC, NCC, CAADC
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15232
Are you ready to: Make a change? Make a decision? Find a solution? Explore who you are? Explore what you want? Or maybe all of the above? Let me help you enhance your power. It can be difficult to seek therapy, yet it can be empowering once you’ve begun.
Are you ready to: Make a change? Make a decision? Find a solution? Explore who you are? Explore what you want? Or maybe all of the above? Let me help you enhance your power. It can be difficult to seek therapy, yet it can be empowering once you’ve begun.
(412) 284-5275 View (412) 284-5275
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Gail Ludwig Vogler
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, ACSW, MSN
Verified Verified
Pittsburgh, PA 15243
Are you struggling and frustrated with life problems and traditional help is not working? I offer an organic blending of traditional eastern healing practices with western psychotherapy. This work helps you deepen your connection to the answers which are already within you. I just help you "see" them, and assist you in bridging a connection between the healthy self and those parts of you that are struggling to be healthy. I call these dissonant parts. These dissonant parts can create disorder and dysfunction. We work as partners on a path towards unity, health and well-being.
Are you struggling and frustrated with life problems and traditional help is not working? I offer an organic blending of traditional eastern healing practices with western psychotherapy. This work helps you deepen your connection to the answers which are already within you. I just help you "see" them, and assist you in bridging a connection between the healthy self and those parts of you that are struggling to be healthy. I call these dissonant parts. These dissonant parts can create disorder and dysfunction. We work as partners on a path towards unity, health and well-being.
(412) 528-4081 View (412) 528-4081
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.