Emotionally Focused Therapists in New York, NY

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Happy Apple® - Anxiety, Depression, Couples
LMFT, PhD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10019
Our therapists specialize in individual & couples counseling & the treatment of trauma, anxiety & depression. We use an engaging yet supportive approach to help you reach your goals. Our psychotherapists employ a variety of approaches, including Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical-Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), & EMDR for trauma. We help clients discover the origins of & contributors to unwanted emotions and relational troubles, and develop coping tools & skills for quick relief & change. We hope you'll reach out so we can tell you more about us & our work!
Our therapists specialize in individual & couples counseling & the treatment of trauma, anxiety & depression. We use an engaging yet supportive approach to help you reach your goals. Our psychotherapists employ a variety of approaches, including Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical-Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), & EMDR for trauma. We help clients discover the origins of & contributors to unwanted emotions and relational troubles, and develop coping tools & skills for quick relief & change. We hope you'll reach out so we can tell you more about us & our work!
(646) 960-3345 View (646) 960-3345
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Alice Roberts
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10001
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples and families (EFT and EFFT), Somatic Experiencing, AEDP and Trauma Focused CBT (TF-CBT).
Helping people heal and find their path towards a meaningful life with fulfilling relationships is my calling. In our collaboration, I will honor your strengths, and together we will use them as a tool to find and overcome the impasses that keep you from moving forward. Together we will navigate through your experiences and relationships, heal emotional wounds, & rediscover your authentic self. From that place, it is possible to create the life and connections that you seek, and identify your vision for the future.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples and families (EFT and EFFT), Somatic Experiencing, AEDP and Trauma Focused CBT (TF-CBT).
Helping people heal and find their path towards a meaningful life with fulfilling relationships is my calling. In our collaboration, I will honor your strengths, and together we will use them as a tool to find and overcome the impasses that keep you from moving forward. Together we will navigate through your experiences and relationships, heal emotional wounds, & rediscover your authentic self. From that place, it is possible to create the life and connections that you seek, and identify your vision for the future.
(929) 416-3997 View (929) 416-3997
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Merav Segal
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LLB
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10001
I utilize AEDP and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which are attachment based therapies, along with EMDR, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioral, relational and mindfulness theories and interventions.
My goal is to help you find your inner resources and strengths so that you can heal, grow, thrive and create the best life you envision for yourself. As a therapist I bring empathy, safety and compassion to my sessions with you, as well as an active, no-nonsense approach that cuts through to the real issues.
I utilize AEDP and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which are attachment based therapies, along with EMDR, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioral, relational and mindfulness theories and interventions.
My goal is to help you find your inner resources and strengths so that you can heal, grow, thrive and create the best life you envision for yourself. As a therapist I bring empathy, safety and compassion to my sessions with you, as well as an active, no-nonsense approach that cuts through to the real issues.
(646) 759-0698 View (646) 759-0698
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Kira Cabland Pearson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
New York, NY 10011  (Online Only)
My practice as a psychotherapist prioritizes creating an unconditionally accepting space where you are free to explore your truest self. With postgraduate training in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy), I work with adults, couples, and adolescents using an integrated trauma-informed approach. My clients describe me as warm, real, thoughtful, and engaged.
My practice as a psychotherapist prioritizes creating an unconditionally accepting space where you are free to explore your truest self. With postgraduate training in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy), I work with adults, couples, and adolescents using an integrated trauma-informed approach. My clients describe me as warm, real, thoughtful, and engaged.
(929) 207-1460 View (929) 207-1460
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Andréa Mortensen
Pre-Licensed Professional, MFT-LP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10010
I hold a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy & have received training in Relational, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness techniques and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT).
I believe our unique identities and lived experiences inform our inner landscapes. Difficult emotions you may be feeling are often signals that highlight and parts of ourselves longing for connection, understanding, and attention. Together we will listen to these signals, build a safe haven for exploration, and create space for self-expression, openness, and growth. There’s a deep comfort that develops when we feel safe and supported; and this experience can be healing and transformative. Centering warmth and empathy, I embrace a collaborative, person-centered approach, while utilizing practical tools to best suit your needs.
I hold a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy & have received training in Relational, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness techniques and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT).
I believe our unique identities and lived experiences inform our inner landscapes. Difficult emotions you may be feeling are often signals that highlight and parts of ourselves longing for connection, understanding, and attention. Together we will listen to these signals, build a safe haven for exploration, and create space for self-expression, openness, and growth. There’s a deep comfort that develops when we feel safe and supported; and this experience can be healing and transformative. Centering warmth and empathy, I embrace a collaborative, person-centered approach, while utilizing practical tools to best suit your needs.
(332) 900-3094 View (332) 900-3094
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Lauren Simon
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10016
As humans, our greatest strength is our ability to form connections with others. As a therapist, I aim to create authentic relationships with my clients in an open, trustworthy environment. Through trauma-informed practice, I work with my clients to foster fulfilling connections and secure attachments in their personal lives.
As humans, our greatest strength is our ability to form connections with others. As a therapist, I aim to create authentic relationships with my clients in an open, trustworthy environment. Through trauma-informed practice, I work with my clients to foster fulfilling connections and secure attachments in their personal lives.
(332) 237-6137 View (332) 237-6137
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Amy Michelle Rosenthal
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
New York, NY 10038
Sometimes life feels challenging, especially if you feel alone or overwhelmed. The impact of a difficult childhood, complex family dynamics, trauma, a stressful/unsatisfying job or relationship, or the transition to parenting can add additional stressors. Whether your usual coping methods aren't working anymore, or you've noticed repeating patterns that aren't getting you where you'd like to be, we can explore these and any other issues you are facing. Together, we'll improve your ability to articulate your feelings, reflect on your reactions and behaviors, and gain insights that will lead you to a more peaceful and satisfying life.
Sometimes life feels challenging, especially if you feel alone or overwhelmed. The impact of a difficult childhood, complex family dynamics, trauma, a stressful/unsatisfying job or relationship, or the transition to parenting can add additional stressors. Whether your usual coping methods aren't working anymore, or you've noticed repeating patterns that aren't getting you where you'd like to be, we can explore these and any other issues you are facing. Together, we'll improve your ability to articulate your feelings, reflect on your reactions and behaviors, and gain insights that will lead you to a more peaceful and satisfying life.
(929) 254-4207 View (929) 254-4207
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Yaron Schwartzman
Licensed Master Social Worker, MSW
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10011
My approach integrates psychodynamic, narrative, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.
Therapy is a space where we make sense of the world around us, much as humans have been striving to do since we first painted on cave walls. As your therapist, I will help you construct the story of your needs, your wants, your relationships, your hopes, and meaning in your life. I strive to provide a space that is safe and supportive so that you can gain a deeper understanding of yourself, foster self-compassion, and ultimately embark on a journey of personal growth and transformation.
My approach integrates psychodynamic, narrative, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.
Therapy is a space where we make sense of the world around us, much as humans have been striving to do since we first painted on cave walls. As your therapist, I will help you construct the story of your needs, your wants, your relationships, your hopes, and meaning in your life. I strive to provide a space that is safe and supportive so that you can gain a deeper understanding of yourself, foster self-compassion, and ultimately embark on a journey of personal growth and transformation.
(646) 941-8346 View (646) 941-8346
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Amanda Adili
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, SEP, KAP
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
New York, NY 10010
Waitlist for new clients
As a trauma therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, I help humans increase their bodily awareness about who they are, why they do the things they do, and who they would like to become. Having trained in Sex Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, EMDR, Art therapy, and Inner Relationship Focusing, I integrate these approaches in the gestalt. I work with people who experience difficulty accessing, connecting with, and verbalizing their feelings, as well as those with low self-esteem within their relationships. All humans can reach out to me, BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, Sex+, CNM, and Kink folks are welcomed with an open heart.
As a trauma therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, I help humans increase their bodily awareness about who they are, why they do the things they do, and who they would like to become. Having trained in Sex Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, EMDR, Art therapy, and Inner Relationship Focusing, I integrate these approaches in the gestalt. I work with people who experience difficulty accessing, connecting with, and verbalizing their feelings, as well as those with low self-esteem within their relationships. All humans can reach out to me, BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, Sex+, CNM, and Kink folks are welcomed with an open heart.
(347) 573-9684 View (347) 573-9684
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Michelle Bloom
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10075
Extensive training: Attachment based Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).
I strive to be a therapist who is challenging and direct without being judgmental; is open-minded and encouraging of my clients to explore options in their lives that may be different than my own or others around them. I am someone who doesn't rush to diagnose and pathologize, but rather seeks to understand. I am not invested in the choices my clients make, I am invested in my clients making choices from a place of wholeheartedness. And specifically, I have a keen understanding of the intricacies of intimacy and sexuality within relationship to oneself and community. As long as we "fail forward" together, we are perfectly imperfect
Extensive training: Attachment based Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).
I strive to be a therapist who is challenging and direct without being judgmental; is open-minded and encouraging of my clients to explore options in their lives that may be different than my own or others around them. I am someone who doesn't rush to diagnose and pathologize, but rather seeks to understand. I am not invested in the choices my clients make, I am invested in my clients making choices from a place of wholeheartedness. And specifically, I have a keen understanding of the intricacies of intimacy and sexuality within relationship to oneself and community. As long as we "fail forward" together, we are perfectly imperfect
(646) 760-1971 View (646) 760-1971
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Rashida McCarley
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, EdS
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10001
My approach is warm, empathic and dynamic. My intention is to hold space for self-exploration, safety and a healing container for growth. I subscribe to the philosophy that, “The body is a source of profound wisdom.” I believe a safe space is essential as we create room to explore the complexity of your journey - the curated parts and the beauty of vulnerability.
My approach is warm, empathic and dynamic. My intention is to hold space for self-exploration, safety and a healing container for growth. I subscribe to the philosophy that, “The body is a source of profound wisdom.” I believe a safe space is essential as we create room to explore the complexity of your journey - the curated parts and the beauty of vulnerability.
(646) 970-1367 View (646) 970-1367
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Blaise Prince
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10010  (Online Only)
Blaise uses an integrative approach to support specific goals, and has trained in a number of trauma informed, and focused, treatment modalities, ERP, and EFT.
Blaise Prince believes that therapy is a collaborative process. Her goal is to provide clients with a safe, affirming space to identify and process emotions, thoughts, and behaviors that impact daily life. She specializes in trauma, extreme coping, depression, anxiety, OCD, and family and relationship issues using a range of modalities. She has worked with a variety of populations, and strives to hold an anti-oppressive lens; she is LGBTQIA+ affirming, sex worker allied, and kink and sex positive.
Blaise uses an integrative approach to support specific goals, and has trained in a number of trauma informed, and focused, treatment modalities, ERP, and EFT.
Blaise Prince believes that therapy is a collaborative process. Her goal is to provide clients with a safe, affirming space to identify and process emotions, thoughts, and behaviors that impact daily life. She specializes in trauma, extreme coping, depression, anxiety, OCD, and family and relationship issues using a range of modalities. She has worked with a variety of populations, and strives to hold an anti-oppressive lens; she is LGBTQIA+ affirming, sex worker allied, and kink and sex positive.
(332) 378-5609 View (332) 378-5609
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Nicholas Samstag
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10038
Psychotherapy and psychoanalysis are potentially useful ways to connect more productively with the myriad challenges of what it means to be human. The patients I work best with are curious about how to change their current behavior to reduce psychological difficulties, as well as to address how their prior history has influenced their current situation. I hold a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, and a certificate in psychoanalysis from the William Allison White Institute. In addition, I have also completed advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.
Psychotherapy and psychoanalysis are potentially useful ways to connect more productively with the myriad challenges of what it means to be human. The patients I work best with are curious about how to change their current behavior to reduce psychological difficulties, as well as to address how their prior history has influenced their current situation. I hold a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, and a certificate in psychoanalysis from the William Allison White Institute. In addition, I have also completed advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.
(646) 386-2292 View (646) 386-2292
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Pamela Kosmowski
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CASAC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10019  (Online Only)
I most commonly see individuals who struggle with anxiety and depression and couples seeking to deepen their connection, improve communication, reduce conflict, and work through past wounds. My approach is an eclectic one, most heavily drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). Therapy with me is engaging, supportive, and outcome-oriented, aiming to assist clients in boosting interpersonal skills, coping mechanisms, and self-worth.
I most commonly see individuals who struggle with anxiety and depression and couples seeking to deepen their connection, improve communication, reduce conflict, and work through past wounds. My approach is an eclectic one, most heavily drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). Therapy with me is engaging, supportive, and outcome-oriented, aiming to assist clients in boosting interpersonal skills, coping mechanisms, and self-worth.
(585) 669-3796 View (585) 669-3796
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Samantha Robin Kanelstein
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10014  (Online Only)
When working with couples, I utilize the Gottman Method and EFT to help couples break patterns that cause harm to the relationship.
Understanding that changes are needed in order to live the life you want does not always equate feeling ready to do so, or knowing where to start. If you are feeling as if your emotional bandwidth is compromised by internal conflict or outside stressors, it may be difficult to allow yourself to try something new. As a relational therapist, I cultivate the connection and safety that are needed to help my clients to feel more willing to challenge themselves and their beliefs in the interest of personal growth.
When working with couples, I utilize the Gottman Method and EFT to help couples break patterns that cause harm to the relationship.
Understanding that changes are needed in order to live the life you want does not always equate feeling ready to do so, or knowing where to start. If you are feeling as if your emotional bandwidth is compromised by internal conflict or outside stressors, it may be difficult to allow yourself to try something new. As a relational therapist, I cultivate the connection and safety that are needed to help my clients to feel more willing to challenge themselves and their beliefs in the interest of personal growth.
(929) 203-3712 View (929) 203-3712
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Mark J Evans
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10018
Not accepting new clients
My aim is to assist you in achieving personal and professional goals, by helping you to identify and address challenges, internal and external, that prevent you from connecting to and expressing your truest, most authentic self. Together we will focus on your unique history and attributes, and within this context, old patterns and present issues can unfold, be gently challenged, and brought into balance. Although I have received training in various treatment approaches (EMDR, EFT, CBT, IPT, Schema Therapy, etc.), I will attempt to integrate the best elements of each approach, tailoring the therapy to your individual needs.
My aim is to assist you in achieving personal and professional goals, by helping you to identify and address challenges, internal and external, that prevent you from connecting to and expressing your truest, most authentic self. Together we will focus on your unique history and attributes, and within this context, old patterns and present issues can unfold, be gently challenged, and brought into balance. Although I have received training in various treatment approaches (EMDR, EFT, CBT, IPT, Schema Therapy, etc.), I will attempt to integrate the best elements of each approach, tailoring the therapy to your individual needs.
(212) 840-8458 View (212) 840-8458
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Kelbe Beck
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10013  (Online Only)
I rely on relational work to accomplish these goals, my practice also draws from CBT, Mindfulness, EFT and other reflective tools for inner self awareness.
I work with adults of all ages struggling with depression, anxiety and life transitions. As a queer woman, I understand the existing barriers around access to mental health support in queer and trans communities; I have worked with many queer and trans clients surrounding issues of trauma, identity development, self-exploration and more. Having had training in couples therapy, I also specialize in work with couples and relationships focusing on intimacy, communication and conflict management.
I rely on relational work to accomplish these goals, my practice also draws from CBT, Mindfulness, EFT and other reflective tools for inner self awareness.
I work with adults of all ages struggling with depression, anxiety and life transitions. As a queer woman, I understand the existing barriers around access to mental health support in queer and trans communities; I have worked with many queer and trans clients surrounding issues of trauma, identity development, self-exploration and more. Having had training in couples therapy, I also specialize in work with couples and relationships focusing on intimacy, communication and conflict management.
(929) 556-2595 View (929) 556-2595
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Sari Kutch
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
New York, NY 10022  (Online Only)
Using techniques from EFT, EMDR, FLASH, IFS, and Polyvagal Theory, I'll guide you to form a deeper understanding and self-partnership with your emotions.
You're trapped in a relentless cycle that stops you from engaging with the world. Unseen threats keep you tense. Some days, a fog of uncertainty, persistent buzzing, and internal chatter overwhelm you. On others, feelings of detachment render you invisible, even among loved ones, even to yourself. Confusion, self-doubt, and worthlessness weave narratives about yourself and the world that are hard to shake. Beneath is a yearning for clarity, connection, confidence, calm, and safety, likely the reason you are here. This emotional seesaw, a reaction to stress, leads to states often mislabeled as anxiety, depression, PTSD, or addiction.
Using techniques from EFT, EMDR, FLASH, IFS, and Polyvagal Theory, I'll guide you to form a deeper understanding and self-partnership with your emotions.
You're trapped in a relentless cycle that stops you from engaging with the world. Unseen threats keep you tense. Some days, a fog of uncertainty, persistent buzzing, and internal chatter overwhelm you. On others, feelings of detachment render you invisible, even among loved ones, even to yourself. Confusion, self-doubt, and worthlessness weave narratives about yourself and the world that are hard to shake. Beneath is a yearning for clarity, connection, confidence, calm, and safety, likely the reason you are here. This emotional seesaw, a reaction to stress, leads to states often mislabeled as anxiety, depression, PTSD, or addiction.
(929) 209-7323 View (929) 209-7323
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Kathleen Maher
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10001
I have continued to hone my professional skills via a host post-graduate training programs and certifications, including: Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), EMDR, The Center for Complicated Grief and The New York Peace Foundation.
Seeking help from a therapist can be hard. Maybe something is not working and you realize you can't fix it alone. Maybe you are seeking therapy to gain insight into your behavior, strengthen your relationships or help understand your emotions. Whatever the reason, you have decided that you don’t want to struggle with it alone.
I have continued to hone my professional skills via a host post-graduate training programs and certifications, including: Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), EMDR, The Center for Complicated Grief and The New York Peace Foundation.
Seeking help from a therapist can be hard. Maybe something is not working and you realize you can't fix it alone. Maybe you are seeking therapy to gain insight into your behavior, strengthen your relationships or help understand your emotions. Whatever the reason, you have decided that you don’t want to struggle with it alone.
(332) 262-6959 View (332) 262-6959
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Jane Gilman, LCSW-R
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
New York, NY 10038
As an integrative psychotherapist who incorporates a range of psychodynamic and mind/body modalities and techniques, I work with individuals and couples. My passion to provide the best treatment I can is informed by ongoing learning and integration of the latest research. Following 4 years of relational psychoanalytic training, I started years of intensive study of trauma, EMDR, mindfulness, and Somatic Psychotherapy. Additionally, I have a speciality in couples counseling and trained in the Gottman Method and Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. I consider myself an EFT therapist.
As an integrative psychotherapist who incorporates a range of psychodynamic and mind/body modalities and techniques, I work with individuals and couples. My passion to provide the best treatment I can is informed by ongoing learning and integration of the latest research. Following 4 years of relational psychoanalytic training, I started years of intensive study of trauma, EMDR, mindfulness, and Somatic Psychotherapy. Additionally, I have a speciality in couples counseling and trained in the Gottman Method and Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. I consider myself an EFT therapist.
(646) 832-4862 View (646) 832-4862
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.