Emotionally Focused Therapists in Denver, CO
Transitions are part of life, and yet some feel overwhelming. At such times, you may need a community to walk alongside you. In reaching out, you have taken that first courageous step toward healing. Together we will explore how you might get back on track, or perhaps forge a new path. Through compassionate exploration of your strengths, you may find it is possible to find your footing. I specialize in adults from all walks of life and challenges that any stage may present, such as anxiety, depression, dual diagnoses, life transitions, parenting, relational challenges, somatic, spirituality, trauma-focused, women's issues, and more.
Transitions are part of life, and yet some feel overwhelming. At such times, you may need a community to walk alongside you. In reaching out, you have taken that first courageous step toward healing. Together we will explore how you might get back on track, or perhaps forge a new path. Through compassionate exploration of your strengths, you may find it is possible to find your footing. I specialize in adults from all walks of life and challenges that any stage may present, such as anxiety, depression, dual diagnoses, life transitions, parenting, relational challenges, somatic, spirituality, trauma-focused, women's issues, and more.
Jessie Briegel
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80246
I understand how difficult it can be to find the right therapist who knows how to create a safe and comfortable place for you to open up, be honest and to be curious about the challenges you are facing. As an Emotionally Focused Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist, I help individuals and couples identify the patterns in their lives that lead to all types of disconnection. I know how to help you rebuild the emotional connection that is necessary to safely and effectively explore sex and sexuality in a way that leads to greater joy for you and those you chose to share it with.
I understand how difficult it can be to find the right therapist who knows how to create a safe and comfortable place for you to open up, be honest and to be curious about the challenges you are facing. As an Emotionally Focused Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist, I help individuals and couples identify the patterns in their lives that lead to all types of disconnection. I know how to help you rebuild the emotional connection that is necessary to safely and effectively explore sex and sexuality in a way that leads to greater joy for you and those you chose to share it with.
I’m trained to use cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Emotionally Focused Family Therapy ( EFFT), Multisystemic Therapy (MST), Treatment Parent training (TFC), attachment issues and trauma together, parenting issues, and relationship repair.
Hello, my name is Ana Paula and I am a Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) which focuses on individual issues and behaviors as they come up in family and relationships. I focus on systemic relationships in order to understand how nonfunctional behaviors start and how to replace these with healthy relationships. I focus on individual therapy, while also seeing how these fit into families and relationships. My therapy focuses on managing some more intense issues such as depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, self-harm, attachment issues and how they keep coming up in your daily life, and substance abuse issues.
I’m trained to use cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Emotionally Focused Family Therapy ( EFFT), Multisystemic Therapy (MST), Treatment Parent training (TFC), attachment issues and trauma together, parenting issues, and relationship repair.
Hello, my name is Ana Paula and I am a Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) which focuses on individual issues and behaviors as they come up in family and relationships. I focus on systemic relationships in order to understand how nonfunctional behaviors start and how to replace these with healthy relationships. I focus on individual therapy, while also seeing how these fit into families and relationships. My therapy focuses on managing some more intense issues such as depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, self-harm, attachment issues and how they keep coming up in your daily life, and substance abuse issues.
EFT, IFS, Gottman, various trauma-based models, CBT among others.
I enjoy working with individuals, families, and couples to uncover their limiting beliefs, discover inner strengths and create a vision of how to enhance their relationships. Ideally, clients are eager to learn how to speak their truth and are open to making changes in their lives to improve their situations. Using models of John Gottman, Sue Johnson, NLP, IFS, science-based relationship enhancement techniques, I enjoy helping clients who come to sessions willing to identify the root of their struggles, set goals and create a plan to develop skills to navigate life's ever-changing circumstances. Texas license applied for.
EFT, IFS, Gottman, various trauma-based models, CBT among others.
I enjoy working with individuals, families, and couples to uncover their limiting beliefs, discover inner strengths and create a vision of how to enhance their relationships. Ideally, clients are eager to learn how to speak their truth and are open to making changes in their lives to improve their situations. Using models of John Gottman, Sue Johnson, NLP, IFS, science-based relationship enhancement techniques, I enjoy helping clients who come to sessions willing to identify the root of their struggles, set goals and create a plan to develop skills to navigate life's ever-changing circumstances. Texas license applied for.
My clinical approach utilizes the modalities of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, of which I am Level I certified.
I specialize in working with individuals and couples to explore dating, relationship patterns, attachment, and trauma. I'm especially passionate in supporting the queer community. Together, we work to identify and examine recurring patterns with care and curiosity. In individual work, this can look like exploring your early experiences that informed your attachment style and connecting these patterns to the way you show up or abandon yourself today. In relationship therapy, we bring awareness to the dynamic between partners these individual experiences create to deepen connection, enhance vulnerability, and improve communication.
My clinical approach utilizes the modalities of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, of which I am Level I certified.
I specialize in working with individuals and couples to explore dating, relationship patterns, attachment, and trauma. I'm especially passionate in supporting the queer community. Together, we work to identify and examine recurring patterns with care and curiosity. In individual work, this can look like exploring your early experiences that informed your attachment style and connecting these patterns to the way you show up or abandon yourself today. In relationship therapy, we bring awareness to the dynamic between partners these individual experiences create to deepen connection, enhance vulnerability, and improve communication.
City Park Counseling, PLLC
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MA, CDWF
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80218
Do you want something different in your marriage, relationship or work life but just can't figure out how to make it happen? Are you tired of being tired and stressed? I am passionate about helping individuals and couples discover when old ways of coping no longer work and replace them with new, more productive alternatives. I coach my clients to recognize problem patterns, effectively communicate their needs, relieve stress, and improve relationships with the important people in their lives.
Do you want something different in your marriage, relationship or work life but just can't figure out how to make it happen? Are you tired of being tired and stressed? I am passionate about helping individuals and couples discover when old ways of coping no longer work and replace them with new, more productive alternatives. I coach my clients to recognize problem patterns, effectively communicate their needs, relieve stress, and improve relationships with the important people in their lives.
Johanna Hartley
Licensed Professional Counselor Candidate, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80203
I use feminist therapy and a blend of modalities— EFT, SFBT, and Interpersonal Neurobiology—to help clients challenge norms and embrace authenticity.
Feeling weighed down by societal expectations around gender, sexuality, or relationships? You don't have to face this alone. I'm here to help you reclaim your authentic self and strengthen your relationships. I specialize in working with couples, bisexual individuals, and neurodiverse (ADHD) clients. Using feminist therapy and tailored approaches, I'll support you in overcoming barriers and embracing your true self. With training in sex therapy and a master's in sociology, I bring a unique perspective to our work. Ready to live a life true to your values? Reach out today!
I use feminist therapy and a blend of modalities— EFT, SFBT, and Interpersonal Neurobiology—to help clients challenge norms and embrace authenticity.
Feeling weighed down by societal expectations around gender, sexuality, or relationships? You don't have to face this alone. I'm here to help you reclaim your authentic self and strengthen your relationships. I specialize in working with couples, bisexual individuals, and neurodiverse (ADHD) clients. Using feminist therapy and tailored approaches, I'll support you in overcoming barriers and embracing your true self. With training in sex therapy and a master's in sociology, I bring a unique perspective to our work. Ready to live a life true to your values? Reach out today!
Alnora Sights
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80203
Some favorites are: EMDR, attachment-based, polyvagal theory, narrative and mindfulness techniques, bibliotherapy, Emotionally-Focused Therapy ( EFT), The Gottman Method, and the work of Esther Perel.
I specialize in working with both couples and individuals who are dealing with complex trauma, PTSD, and religious trauma, as well as those who are exploring their identity and navigating life transitions, such as relationship ruptures, career changes & grief. I provide therapy to both adults and youth ages 16+. In addition, I specialize in working with Latin/Hispanic and LGBTQIA+ individuals. I am particularly passionate about supporting expats and professionals from Latin American countries as they adjust to a new culture and build a life away from home. I work with couples experiencing trauma, life crises, and major transitions.
Some favorites are: EMDR, attachment-based, polyvagal theory, narrative and mindfulness techniques, bibliotherapy, Emotionally-Focused Therapy ( EFT), The Gottman Method, and the work of Esther Perel.
I specialize in working with both couples and individuals who are dealing with complex trauma, PTSD, and religious trauma, as well as those who are exploring their identity and navigating life transitions, such as relationship ruptures, career changes & grief. I provide therapy to both adults and youth ages 16+. In addition, I specialize in working with Latin/Hispanic and LGBTQIA+ individuals. I am particularly passionate about supporting expats and professionals from Latin American countries as they adjust to a new culture and build a life away from home. I work with couples experiencing trauma, life crises, and major transitions.
I utilize therapeutic approaches including cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), motivational interviewing (MI), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), emotionally focused, strengths based, client centered, mindfulness, dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT).
Hello and welcome! As an LCSW therapist, I am committed to helping you find your path while ensuring you feel safe and supported in the process. My passion is working collaboratively utilizing person-centered and strengths-based approaches to explore the root of the issue and finding relief and clarity in a way that makes sense for you. Whether you are working through trauma, struggling with addiction, in the grieving process or simply needing support with a life transition or challenge, I am here to work with you to achieve your therapy goals.
I utilize therapeutic approaches including cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), motivational interviewing (MI), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), emotionally focused, strengths based, client centered, mindfulness, dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT).
Hello and welcome! As an LCSW therapist, I am committed to helping you find your path while ensuring you feel safe and supported in the process. My passion is working collaboratively utilizing person-centered and strengths-based approaches to explore the root of the issue and finding relief and clarity in a way that makes sense for you. Whether you are working through trauma, struggling with addiction, in the grieving process or simply needing support with a life transition or challenge, I am here to work with you to achieve your therapy goals.
James Nee Hundley
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80205
Waitlist for new clients
My EMDR practice is informed by my training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and EcoTherapy.
With recent neurological and attachment research, we are finding how connected the mind and body really are. We are also finding how important for a person's well-being it is to understand one’s identity and how we each fit in the world. I partner with my clients to develop a felt sense of security within themselves and the world. This felt sense is what will create the necessary resiliency to ensure a person can work through struggles that have been holding them back. Much of my background involves working with the Neuro-Diverse community and the LGBTQIA+ community.
My EMDR practice is informed by my training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and EcoTherapy.
With recent neurological and attachment research, we are finding how connected the mind and body really are. We are also finding how important for a person's well-being it is to understand one’s identity and how we each fit in the world. I partner with my clients to develop a felt sense of security within themselves and the world. This felt sense is what will create the necessary resiliency to ensure a person can work through struggles that have been holding them back. Much of my background involves working with the Neuro-Diverse community and the LGBTQIA+ community.
Lynette Garber
Clinical Social Work Candidate , MSW, LSW, MFT-C
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80203
Additionally, I am trained in and primarily utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) when working with couples.
Welcome to a journey of self-discovery and healing! I am Lynette Garber, a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate. I strive to help individuals navigate the complexities of their mental and emotional well-being. My focus is to incorporate compassion and humor to help build self-awareness, resiliency and freedom from unhealthy patterns and past pains.
Additionally, I am trained in and primarily utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) when working with couples.
Welcome to a journey of self-discovery and healing! I am Lynette Garber, a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate. I strive to help individuals navigate the complexities of their mental and emotional well-being. My focus is to incorporate compassion and humor to help build self-awareness, resiliency and freedom from unhealthy patterns and past pains.
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Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80222 (Online Only)
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) for individuals and couples/relationships.
I work best with clients who are looking inward to illuminate their path forward. I'm passionate about working with couples/relationships to navigate conflict, create connection, build emotional/physical intimacy, heal relationship injuries, decide when to stay together or gracefully separate, and to help new relationships build bonds that will help them thrive. I am also excited to work with individuals by helping them discover themselves and find healing. I believe that our pain and struggles, as well as healing, are often connected to our relationships – with ourselves, our partners and families, and the cultures we live in.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) for individuals and couples/relationships.
I work best with clients who are looking inward to illuminate their path forward. I'm passionate about working with couples/relationships to navigate conflict, create connection, build emotional/physical intimacy, heal relationship injuries, decide when to stay together or gracefully separate, and to help new relationships build bonds that will help them thrive. I am also excited to work with individuals by helping them discover themselves and find healing. I believe that our pain and struggles, as well as healing, are often connected to our relationships – with ourselves, our partners and families, and the cultures we live in.
Debbie J Bassett
Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate, MFTC, EdS, NLC
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80237
Waitlist for new clients
Clients receive a strength-based approach, with a variety of therapeutic methods to meet their unique situation, including EMDR, CBT, ACT, Gottman and EFT.
Are you tired of feeling misunderstood, alone and overwhelmed? Do you feel like you’ve tried everything, only to still struggle? Emotions, trauma and relationship stress can leave us feeling defeated and hopeless. My clients include children and adults overwhelmed by emotions, trauma responses, and/or dealing with relationship wounds (e.g., parenting stressors, infidelity, communication breakdown). We work together so you feel truly heard, seen, and understood. Your goals matter and we take intentional actions so therapy feels productive and meaningful.
Clients receive a strength-based approach, with a variety of therapeutic methods to meet their unique situation, including EMDR, CBT, ACT, Gottman and EFT.
Are you tired of feeling misunderstood, alone and overwhelmed? Do you feel like you’ve tried everything, only to still struggle? Emotions, trauma and relationship stress can leave us feeling defeated and hopeless. My clients include children and adults overwhelmed by emotions, trauma responses, and/or dealing with relationship wounds (e.g., parenting stressors, infidelity, communication breakdown). We work together so you feel truly heard, seen, and understood. Your goals matter and we take intentional actions so therapy feels productive and meaningful.
Using EMDR, EFT, and attachment-based methods, we’ll break through anxiety, trauma, and relational patterns holding you back.
Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected in your relationships? You might be struggling with anxiety, low self-esteem, or trauma that you’ve managed to cope with for years, but you’re ready for something more. You’re highly motivated and committed to creating real change in your life, and you know that this will require hard work. Maybe your relationships are strained—whether with a partner, family member, or even within yourself—and you’re ready to break free from the patterns holding you back. I’ll help you understand and untangle the mental mess in your head and guide you toward the confidence and clarity you deserve.
Using EMDR, EFT, and attachment-based methods, we’ll break through anxiety, trauma, and relational patterns holding you back.
Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected in your relationships? You might be struggling with anxiety, low self-esteem, or trauma that you’ve managed to cope with for years, but you’re ready for something more. You’re highly motivated and committed to creating real change in your life, and you know that this will require hard work. Maybe your relationships are strained—whether with a partner, family member, or even within yourself—and you’re ready to break free from the patterns holding you back. I’ll help you understand and untangle the mental mess in your head and guide you toward the confidence and clarity you deserve.
Shonglee Ho
Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate, LPCC, MFTC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80207
Grounded in empathy, curiosity, and a deep belief in the capacity for change and growth, I am dedicated to supporting individuals, couples, and families build stronger and more fulfilling relationships, heal from attachment wounds, process traumatic experiences, and foster emotional well-being. If you are facing relationship challenges and communication breakdowns, struggling to cope with stress, anxiety, and depression, having difficulty with self-compassion, navigating cultural identity issues, experiencing harm due to systemic injustices, and/or looking to gain a deeper understanding of yourself, I am here to support you.
Grounded in empathy, curiosity, and a deep belief in the capacity for change and growth, I am dedicated to supporting individuals, couples, and families build stronger and more fulfilling relationships, heal from attachment wounds, process traumatic experiences, and foster emotional well-being. If you are facing relationship challenges and communication breakdowns, struggling to cope with stress, anxiety, and depression, having difficulty with self-compassion, navigating cultural identity issues, experiencing harm due to systemic injustices, and/or looking to gain a deeper understanding of yourself, I am here to support you.
Abby Polly-Almanza
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80207 (Online Only)
I am inspired by the healing power of relationships. I specialize in helping women feel more alive and empowered, as well as helping couples reconnect and thrive. Therapy works when you and I build trusting relationship that is a catalyst for change in other relationships. My clients describe me as calm and empathetic, with a sense of humor. When you meet with me, you and I will create a safe environment where you can explore your full self and heal without judgement. With individuals I use EMDR, parts work, and other modalities to help you rebuild. With couples I use EFT, Gottman, and PACT therapies to help you reconnect.
I am inspired by the healing power of relationships. I specialize in helping women feel more alive and empowered, as well as helping couples reconnect and thrive. Therapy works when you and I build trusting relationship that is a catalyst for change in other relationships. My clients describe me as calm and empathetic, with a sense of humor. When you meet with me, you and I will create a safe environment where you can explore your full self and heal without judgement. With individuals I use EMDR, parts work, and other modalities to help you rebuild. With couples I use EFT, Gottman, and PACT therapies to help you reconnect.
My approach is based in narrative and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Hey there, I'm Elena, a queer, sex-positive therapist specializing in working with LGBTQIA+ and non-monogamous clients. At Arcana Counseling, I welcome adolescent and adult individuals and relationship configurations of all kinds. Whether you're facing mental health or relationship issues, moving through a difficult life transition, seeking coping or communication skills, or continuing on your journey of self-discovery, you don't have to do it alone. Wherever you are on your path, I will meet you there and support you every step of the way as we work collaboratively toward your goals.
My approach is based in narrative and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Hey there, I'm Elena, a queer, sex-positive therapist specializing in working with LGBTQIA+ and non-monogamous clients. At Arcana Counseling, I welcome adolescent and adult individuals and relationship configurations of all kinds. Whether you're facing mental health or relationship issues, moving through a difficult life transition, seeking coping or communication skills, or continuing on your journey of self-discovery, you don't have to do it alone. Wherever you are on your path, I will meet you there and support you every step of the way as we work collaboratively toward your goals.
Marie B. (Krueger) Cobb
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80211
I specialize in relationship distress and offer couples counseling with Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
I support individuals and couples in deepening their connection to both themselves and those that matter the most during times of transition and change. When life becomes uncertain, we often experience new or returning feelings of anxiety, depression, general malaise and even grief. Relationship with technology may come up as we explore what works and what gets in the way of getting needs met. Sessions will be insightful and challenging, as steps are taken to make change.
I specialize in relationship distress and offer couples counseling with Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
I support individuals and couples in deepening their connection to both themselves and those that matter the most during times of transition and change. When life becomes uncertain, we often experience new or returning feelings of anxiety, depression, general malaise and even grief. Relationship with technology may come up as we explore what works and what gets in the way of getting needs met. Sessions will be insightful and challenging, as steps are taken to make change.
Marler Counseling LLC
Licensed Professional Counselor, MSEE, MA, LPC, CEFT
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80218
EFT helps couples work together as a team to identify this cycle and de-escalate it thereby restoring safety.
I specialize in couples counseling utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy. I love to help couples restore love and trust to their relationship no matter what the hurt is that has caused discord in the relationship. I also love to help couples that have a good relationship, deepen their emotional bond and become each other's best friend and soul mate.
EFT helps couples work together as a team to identify this cycle and de-escalate it thereby restoring safety.
I specialize in couples counseling utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy. I love to help couples restore love and trust to their relationship no matter what the hurt is that has caused discord in the relationship. I also love to help couples that have a good relationship, deepen their emotional bond and become each other's best friend and soul mate.
Courtney Redman
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80203 (Online Only)
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) to support individuals, couples, and families through relationship challenges, anxiety, and emotional growth.
I work with individuals and couples who want to create stronger, more meaningful relationships and navigate the challenges of anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and life transitions. My ideal clients are those looking to explore deeper emotional connections and communication in a supportive, non-judgmental space. Whether it’s resolving relationship struggles or addressing personal challenges, we’ll work together to foster growth, resilience, and clarity. Through Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), I’ll help you uncover the patterns driving your emotions and guide you toward lasting change.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) to support individuals, couples, and families through relationship challenges, anxiety, and emotional growth.
I work with individuals and couples who want to create stronger, more meaningful relationships and navigate the challenges of anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and life transitions. My ideal clients are those looking to explore deeper emotional connections and communication in a supportive, non-judgmental space. Whether it’s resolving relationship struggles or addressing personal challenges, we’ll work together to foster growth, resilience, and clarity. Through Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), I’ll help you uncover the patterns driving your emotions and guide you toward lasting change.
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.