Emotionally Focused Therapists in San Diego, CA

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Ian Witter
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the only empirically proven therapeutic model for distressed relationships.
Relationships can be wonderful at the best of times, and downright painful at the worst of times. How well do you understand your reactions in these distressed moments? Your partner's? Do you feel out of control? Do you feel disconnected? These are just two ways that people can respond to relational distress. I can help you to slow down in these moments to help you express yourself in a way that is congruent, and most importantly, in a way that lets you be heard by your partner, family, co-workers, and yourself.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the only empirically proven therapeutic model for distressed relationships.
Relationships can be wonderful at the best of times, and downright painful at the worst of times. How well do you understand your reactions in these distressed moments? Your partner's? Do you feel out of control? Do you feel disconnected? These are just two ways that people can respond to relational distress. I can help you to slow down in these moments to help you express yourself in a way that is congruent, and most importantly, in a way that lets you be heard by your partner, family, co-workers, and yourself.
(619) 319-9749 View (619) 319-9749
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Dana Pasculescu
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MS, AMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
Dana holds a Master's Degree in Counseling from SDSU and has received training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
It can be tough to navigate life's challenges, but you don't have to go through them alone. Dana is a highly experienced Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who has helped clients from diverse backgrounds deal with a wide range of issues. She understands that anxiety, communication problems, conflicts, infidelity, infertility, and life transitions such as grief, divorce, or career change can be overwhelming and impact your emotional health, relationships, and overall well-being.
Dana holds a Master's Degree in Counseling from SDSU and has received training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
It can be tough to navigate life's challenges, but you don't have to go through them alone. Dana is a highly experienced Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who has helped clients from diverse backgrounds deal with a wide range of issues. She understands that anxiety, communication problems, conflicts, infidelity, infertility, and life transitions such as grief, divorce, or career change can be overwhelming and impact your emotional health, relationships, and overall well-being.
(619) 273-0182 View (619) 273-0182
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Susan Bolea
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92101  (Online Only)
The following modalities will be incorporated in our work together: Attachment, Arts Therapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, Solutions-Focused, Gottman, Emotionally Focused, and Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR).
Together we strive to understand the life events, health and relationship issues that have interrupted or sidelined you. I utilize “ah ha” provoking techniques to help you open up to your truth and recognize who you are at the present time. My background in literature, the arts and intuitive studies means that I call on metaphor and expressive arts to advance our therapeutic goals. Together we lay the groundwork for habits which specifically work for you and that will endure for a lifetime, honoring self-compassion and acceptance. My job is to establish security and space for you to relax during our exploration.
The following modalities will be incorporated in our work together: Attachment, Arts Therapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, Solutions-Focused, Gottman, Emotionally Focused, and Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR).
Together we strive to understand the life events, health and relationship issues that have interrupted or sidelined you. I utilize “ah ha” provoking techniques to help you open up to your truth and recognize who you are at the present time. My background in literature, the arts and intuitive studies means that I call on metaphor and expressive arts to advance our therapeutic goals. Together we lay the groundwork for habits which specifically work for you and that will endure for a lifetime, honoring self-compassion and acceptance. My job is to establish security and space for you to relax during our exploration.
(510) 257-9774 View (510) 257-9774
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Jes Vieira
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92122  (Online Only)
I incorporate aspects of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Motivational Interviewing, EMDR, and Person-Centered approaches.
If you’re struggling with PTSD, navigating a major life transition, or exploring your LGBTQ+ identity, I am here to support you. These experiences can leave you feeling overwhelmed, isolated, or uncertain about the future. PTSD might make you feel on edge or stuck in past traumas, while life transitions can create a sense of loss or disorientation. Exploring your LGBTQ+ identity might bring up questions or fears about acceptance and self-understanding. Together, we will work to understand your feelings, build resilience, and create a path towards healing and self-discovery.
I incorporate aspects of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Motivational Interviewing, EMDR, and Person-Centered approaches.
If you’re struggling with PTSD, navigating a major life transition, or exploring your LGBTQ+ identity, I am here to support you. These experiences can leave you feeling overwhelmed, isolated, or uncertain about the future. PTSD might make you feel on edge or stuck in past traumas, while life transitions can create a sense of loss or disorientation. Exploring your LGBTQ+ identity might bring up questions or fears about acceptance and self-understanding. Together, we will work to understand your feelings, build resilience, and create a path towards healing and self-discovery.
(858) 533-1487 View (858) 533-1487
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Melissa Love
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92121
My focus is in CBT, EFT, and EXRP for OCD.
Therapy can be a place to heal relationships, develop resilience, and find relief from mental health symptoms. It can be an opportunity to discover hope and move past emotional blocks that have kept you from achieving your goals.
My focus is in CBT, EFT, and EXRP for OCD.
Therapy can be a place to heal relationships, develop resilience, and find relief from mental health symptoms. It can be an opportunity to discover hope and move past emotional blocks that have kept you from achieving your goals.
(858) 533-2758 View (858) 533-2758
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Abigail Jacques
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92101
I implement an integrative approach to therapy through using psychodynamic, emotionally focused, acceptance and commitment therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, creative expression/arts, and trauma informed interventions.
I’m Abigail Jacques, but you can just call me Abby! I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California. Choosing to begin therapy is a vulnerable and brave step, and I can’t wait to walk alongside you in this process. I typically work with adolescents and adults struggling with depression, anxiety, life changes, self-esteem, and balancing the ups and downs of life. I am particularly passionate about helping those who wish to process and heal from trauma. I want my clients to feel like they are being understood and supported, not just assessed and analyzed.
I implement an integrative approach to therapy through using psychodynamic, emotionally focused, acceptance and commitment therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, creative expression/arts, and trauma informed interventions.
I’m Abigail Jacques, but you can just call me Abby! I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California. Choosing to begin therapy is a vulnerable and brave step, and I can’t wait to walk alongside you in this process. I typically work with adolescents and adults struggling with depression, anxiety, life changes, self-esteem, and balancing the ups and downs of life. I am particularly passionate about helping those who wish to process and heal from trauma. I want my clients to feel like they are being understood and supported, not just assessed and analyzed.
(858) 914-0055 View (858) 914-0055
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Monica Whitlock
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92110
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and use this method to help clients re-learn how to protect the connection between them and to relate authentically with each other, even after enduring crises in the relationship.
I specialize in couple and family therapy, and in working with college students. I also work with individuals experiencing professional burnout, depression, anxiety, and life transitions. My style is authentic and practical. I work collaboratively with you to help you gain clarity, perhaps think differently, and ultimately improve your quality of life. I use clinical methods informed by neuroscience that bring about symptom resolution and coherence.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and use this method to help clients re-learn how to protect the connection between them and to relate authentically with each other, even after enduring crises in the relationship.
I specialize in couple and family therapy, and in working with college students. I also work with individuals experiencing professional burnout, depression, anxiety, and life transitions. My style is authentic and practical. I work collaboratively with you to help you gain clarity, perhaps think differently, and ultimately improve your quality of life. I use clinical methods informed by neuroscience that bring about symptom resolution and coherence.
(619) 505-0441 View (619) 505-0441
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Daniel Sharer
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92129
For couples I use the Gottman Method/Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Hi there, I'm Daniel Sharer, LMFT89691. I pride myself on being non-judgmental and client centered. My goal is that a client feels a sense of hope that no matter the issue taking place that things can and will get better. I have experience working with adolescents 13 and older. However, I am comfortable working with adults at all ages.
For couples I use the Gottman Method/Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Hi there, I'm Daniel Sharer, LMFT89691. I pride myself on being non-judgmental and client centered. My goal is that a client feels a sense of hope that no matter the issue taking place that things can and will get better. I have experience working with adolescents 13 and older. However, I am comfortable working with adults at all ages.
(858) 463-4898 View (858) 463-4898
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Beauty for Ashes Transformation Center
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
Our team of therapists specialize in attachment based treatments using the proven methods of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Treatments, and Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) for the treatment of trauma.
Beauty for Ashes Transformation center is dedicated to helping individuals and families heal. Our team specializes in helping couples, adults, families in conflict, children, and adolescents heal from depression, anxiety, grief, and trauma. We also specialize in women's issues and in helping couples reduce conflict, and find intimacy and connection. We offer faith-based counseling to those who prefer to have faith be a part of their therapeutic journey.
Our team of therapists specialize in attachment based treatments using the proven methods of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Treatments, and Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) for the treatment of trauma.
Beauty for Ashes Transformation center is dedicated to helping individuals and families heal. Our team specializes in helping couples, adults, families in conflict, children, and adolescents heal from depression, anxiety, grief, and trauma. We also specialize in women's issues and in helping couples reduce conflict, and find intimacy and connection. We offer faith-based counseling to those who prefer to have faith be a part of their therapeutic journey.
(858) 567-0547 View (858) 567-0547
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Marc Sherman
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
Marc has received training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Do you want someone to hear you...really listen to you? Someone who meets you on your life journey and provides an empathetic environment with understanding and free from judgement?
Marc has received training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Do you want someone to hear you...really listen to you? Someone who meets you on your life journey and provides an empathetic environment with understanding and free from judgement?
(619) 452-1898 View (619) 452-1898
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Hiedi Chan
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108  (Online Only)
I use attachment based theory and clinically proven emotionally focused therapy in my practice.
Being an immigrant, a child of an immigrant, a world traveler or an international student has left you feeling disconnected and like you don't belong. You feel alone even though you are among people, busy with school, work and life. You are not alone. Many of us, who uprooted ourselves by choice of our own or someone else, experience these feelings. These feelings are normal. You're human. The isolation and lack of belonging are exhausting and you long to feel better about your life and future.
I use attachment based theory and clinically proven emotionally focused therapy in my practice.
Being an immigrant, a child of an immigrant, a world traveler or an international student has left you feeling disconnected and like you don't belong. You feel alone even though you are among people, busy with school, work and life. You are not alone. Many of us, who uprooted ourselves by choice of our own or someone else, experience these feelings. These feelings are normal. You're human. The isolation and lack of belonging are exhausting and you long to feel better about your life and future.
(858) 943-2556 View (858) 943-2556
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Joseph H. Segal
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92131
I have extensive training in emotionally focused couples therapy.
My name is Joseph Segal and I have a Master of Arts in couple and family therapy and am currently working on a doctorate in psychology from Alliant International University. I work with individuals, couples and families on various mental health and relational issues.I specialize in working with couples who have been in distress and who have been caught in a negative pattern of interaction. I specialize in high conflict relational counseling and have significant experience with military and veteran couples in addition to men's issues regarding sex, addiction, and anger.
I have extensive training in emotionally focused couples therapy.
My name is Joseph Segal and I have a Master of Arts in couple and family therapy and am currently working on a doctorate in psychology from Alliant International University. I work with individuals, couples and families on various mental health and relational issues.I specialize in working with couples who have been in distress and who have been caught in a negative pattern of interaction. I specialize in high conflict relational counseling and have significant experience with military and veteran couples in addition to men's issues regarding sex, addiction, and anger.
(760) 813-3588 View (760) 813-3588
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Kim Lewis
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92131
Kimberly specializes in working with couples, families and individuals, utilizing attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Today and in the world around us it’s easy to go numb to our own reality and just get by. But the reality is that for most of us we want our lives to be meaningful, to make a difference and to know that we matter. For us to achieve at least one of these things, we must first face ourselves, sit in that uncomfortable place and be willing to accept help.
Kimberly specializes in working with couples, families and individuals, utilizing attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Today and in the world around us it’s easy to go numb to our own reality and just get by. But the reality is that for most of us we want our lives to be meaningful, to make a difference and to know that we matter. For us to achieve at least one of these things, we must first face ourselves, sit in that uncomfortable place and be willing to accept help.
(619) 345-6935 View (619) 345-6935
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Amanda Sorourbakhsh @ Grow Through Life Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
Hello! I treat individuals of all ages and families facing a range of challenges. My training has allowed me to support the resilience of individuals, couples, youth, and families, particularly those identifying as BIPOC and LGBTQ. I strive to create a therapeutic environment that is inclusive and empowering. I have experience with treating personal distress, depression, anxiety, identity, and relationships. I am energized by the hope of supporting you in addressing your unique lived experiences and helping create growth from difficulties.
Hello! I treat individuals of all ages and families facing a range of challenges. My training has allowed me to support the resilience of individuals, couples, youth, and families, particularly those identifying as BIPOC and LGBTQ. I strive to create a therapeutic environment that is inclusive and empowering. I have experience with treating personal distress, depression, anxiety, identity, and relationships. I am energized by the hope of supporting you in addressing your unique lived experiences and helping create growth from difficulties.
(858) 428-2756 View (858) 428-2756
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Eunice A Palacios Ramírez
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
I have advanced training in an evidence based model called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this model helps couples understand how they react to each other and helps them communicate from vulnerability rather than from reactivity.
I specialize in working with couples who are in conflict, who are in emotional pain and need help. I work with couples who are considering divorce but are not sure about separating. I help couples who keep having the same argument over and over and who get angry with each other often. I also have experience with couples where there has been infidelity and are in crisis. I also work with couples who want to prepare themselves for big transitions such as having kids, moving together, etc. I work with heterosexual couples and also have worked with many queer couples and interracial couples.
I have advanced training in an evidence based model called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this model helps couples understand how they react to each other and helps them communicate from vulnerability rather than from reactivity.
I specialize in working with couples who are in conflict, who are in emotional pain and need help. I work with couples who are considering divorce but are not sure about separating. I help couples who keep having the same argument over and over and who get angry with each other often. I also have experience with couples where there has been infidelity and are in crisis. I also work with couples who want to prepare themselves for big transitions such as having kids, moving together, etc. I work with heterosexual couples and also have worked with many queer couples and interracial couples.
(361) 209-7344 View (361) 209-7344
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Karly Worth
Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, APCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92127
I draw from methodologies such as The Gottman Method and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
Hello, I'm Karly. I specialize in working with motivated couples and adults aiming to foster deeper connections with themselves and their partners. I take pride in my nonjudgemental and inclusive approach, and have experience working with diverse identities and across cultural backgrounds. I also work one-on-one with adults dealing with anxiety, depression, life transitions, and relationship issues. I believe in customizing my approach for each client, adapting it based on their individual needs, preferences, and desired outcomes. I approach clients with compassion and warmth, while also challenging them when necessary.
I draw from methodologies such as The Gottman Method and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
Hello, I'm Karly. I specialize in working with motivated couples and adults aiming to foster deeper connections with themselves and their partners. I take pride in my nonjudgemental and inclusive approach, and have experience working with diverse identities and across cultural backgrounds. I also work one-on-one with adults dealing with anxiety, depression, life transitions, and relationship issues. I believe in customizing my approach for each client, adapting it based on their individual needs, preferences, and desired outcomes. I approach clients with compassion and warmth, while also challenging them when necessary.
(858) 477-3404 View (858) 477-3404
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Jen Zajac
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, MFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
I use the Emotionally Focused Therapy Model (based in attachment theory), which I find helps my clients to organize and understand reoccurring conflicts, and provides concrete tools for implementing positive change.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who focuses on underlying relationship issues to help my clients experience a deeper sense of connection. If you have struggled with issues of trust, infidelity, constant fighting, family issues, low self-esteem, or feelings of disconnection, my style of therapy can help you discuss the themes that fuel the arguments and stand in-between connection. In a typical session, we can "map out" negative communication patterns and implement tools for some immediate relief so that you don't need to be in therapy long term.
I use the Emotionally Focused Therapy Model (based in attachment theory), which I find helps my clients to organize and understand reoccurring conflicts, and provides concrete tools for implementing positive change.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who focuses on underlying relationship issues to help my clients experience a deeper sense of connection. If you have struggled with issues of trust, infidelity, constant fighting, family issues, low self-esteem, or feelings of disconnection, my style of therapy can help you discuss the themes that fuel the arguments and stand in-between connection. In a typical session, we can "map out" negative communication patterns and implement tools for some immediate relief so that you don't need to be in therapy long term.
(408) 791-1646 View (408) 791-1646
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Alan Camardo
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92103
For Couples: struggling with communication problems? recurring conflicts? disconnection? issues or trust issues? I utilize Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, a treatment approach proven to be the most effective in helping couples learn to communicate better, settle disagreements with greater ease, rebuild trust, and strengthen their relationship bond.
I am here to support you in taking the steps that lead to growth and positive change. My approach is compassionate, curious, direct, and warm. For Individuals: In our sessions, we will explore and build insight into behavior patterns that leave you feeling stuck or dissatisfied. We will collaborate to help you gain relief from symptoms of stress, anxiety, depression, and other concerns. I will work with you to discover the path(s) that will lead you to a more fulfilling life. I have specialized experience working with relationship and substance use issues.
For Couples: struggling with communication problems? recurring conflicts? disconnection? issues or trust issues? I utilize Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, a treatment approach proven to be the most effective in helping couples learn to communicate better, settle disagreements with greater ease, rebuild trust, and strengthen their relationship bond.
I am here to support you in taking the steps that lead to growth and positive change. My approach is compassionate, curious, direct, and warm. For Individuals: In our sessions, we will explore and build insight into behavior patterns that leave you feeling stuck or dissatisfied. We will collaborate to help you gain relief from symptoms of stress, anxiety, depression, and other concerns. I will work with you to discover the path(s) that will lead you to a more fulfilling life. I have specialized experience working with relationship and substance use issues.
(619) 329-9089 View (619) 329-9089
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Elizabeth Cowell
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92123  (Online Only)
Do you find youself saying, "No one understands me" or "I feel alone" or "No one loves me". These are negative cognitions that have developed over time either through trauma or attachment injuries. These cognitions hold you back from being the best version of yourself. With patience and persistence, I can help you lessen these negative cognitions and experience a more fulfilling life with your loved ones. I do this by using Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy, and EMDR.
Do you find youself saying, "No one understands me" or "I feel alone" or "No one loves me". These are negative cognitions that have developed over time either through trauma or attachment injuries. These cognitions hold you back from being the best version of yourself. With patience and persistence, I can help you lessen these negative cognitions and experience a more fulfilling life with your loved ones. I do this by using Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy, and EMDR.
(858) 330-3943 View (858) 330-3943
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Dr. Tri Nguyen
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
Waitlist for new clients
I use a combination of Gottman Method, EFT, solution-focused and CBT models.
People go to therapy for various reasons and there may be no "right time" to start. I realized the first step of reaching out for help can be intimidating and I strive to make that process as simple and transparent as possible. My practice is centered on the idea that behavioral change is possible and constant. With a combination of social support, personal agency and opportunities, people can flourish to their full potential. It would be my honor to be a part of your journey toward healing and growth.
I use a combination of Gottman Method, EFT, solution-focused and CBT models.
People go to therapy for various reasons and there may be no "right time" to start. I realized the first step of reaching out for help can be intimidating and I strive to make that process as simple and transparent as possible. My practice is centered on the idea that behavioral change is possible and constant. With a combination of social support, personal agency and opportunities, people can flourish to their full potential. It would be my honor to be a part of your journey toward healing and growth.
(619) 292-0435 View (619) 292-0435
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.