Emotionally Focused Therapists in Scottsdale, AZ
Bonnie Lewis
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy and am continuing to work towards certification for EFT.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy with Heart. I have a passion for empowering people to grow and make changes in their life. My style of therapy is unique because it focuses on working with you to find YOUR answers...whatever they may be. It takes courage to decide to enter therapy and until you feel safe and comfortable, it is challenging to create change. Therefore, I structure the session around mindfulness, emphasizing strengths, and collaborating together on the work.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy and am continuing to work towards certification for EFT.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy with Heart. I have a passion for empowering people to grow and make changes in their life. My style of therapy is unique because it focuses on working with you to find YOUR answers...whatever they may be. It takes courage to decide to enter therapy and until you feel safe and comfortable, it is challenging to create change. Therefore, I structure the session around mindfulness, emphasizing strengths, and collaborating together on the work.
Clare Graff
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, LAMFT, MS MFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
As an Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) and EMDR trained therapist, I utilize attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and body-based approaches with clients.
I believe that life is made to be lived to the fullest and am passionate to work with those who are facing obstacles that make it feel impossible to do so! My passion lies in guiding couples and individuals in working through the "stuck" points in their lives to unlock, more meaningful connections and fulfillment. Whether you're grappling with life transitions, relationship dynamics, trauma, grief, self esteem, or struggles with anxiety and depression, I am dedicated to helping you cultivate a strong sense of self and leveraging it to enrich your life and relationships!
As an Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) and EMDR trained therapist, I utilize attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and body-based approaches with clients.
I believe that life is made to be lived to the fullest and am passionate to work with those who are facing obstacles that make it feel impossible to do so! My passion lies in guiding couples and individuals in working through the "stuck" points in their lives to unlock, more meaningful connections and fulfillment. Whether you're grappling with life transitions, relationship dynamics, trauma, grief, self esteem, or struggles with anxiety and depression, I am dedicated to helping you cultivate a strong sense of self and leveraging it to enrich your life and relationships!
R. Sean Rollinson
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250
I am trained in Cognitive Behavioral, Emotionally Focused, Post Induction, and Gestalt Therapies.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and owner of Enso Counseling, LLC. Enso Counseling is a counseling practice that focuses on helping clients overcome the multitude of obstacles associated with relationships and interpersonal communication, while addressing issues of anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, and childhood relational trauma. I have built my practice working with individuals, couples, and families.
I am trained in Cognitive Behavioral, Emotionally Focused, Post Induction, and Gestalt Therapies.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and owner of Enso Counseling, LLC. Enso Counseling is a counseling practice that focuses on helping clients overcome the multitude of obstacles associated with relationships and interpersonal communication, while addressing issues of anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, and childhood relational trauma. I have built my practice working with individuals, couples, and families.
Additionally, I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, focusing on improving connection.
I am a Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart in Scottsdale, AZ. My goal is to provide a safe, welcoming, and supportive environment for each and every couple, family, or individual I have the privilege of working with. Life can feel overwhelming at times, but I also know how much relief can come with having someone listen to you in a way that genuinely makes you feel heard. I believe that every person deserves to feel seen and understood, and when those needs are met, we can truly feel loved by others. Together, we can work to restore secure connection within your relationships and within yourself.
Additionally, I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, focusing on improving connection.
I am a Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart in Scottsdale, AZ. My goal is to provide a safe, welcoming, and supportive environment for each and every couple, family, or individual I have the privilege of working with. Life can feel overwhelming at times, but I also know how much relief can come with having someone listen to you in a way that genuinely makes you feel heard. I believe that every person deserves to feel seen and understood, and when those needs are met, we can truly feel loved by others. Together, we can work to restore secure connection within your relationships and within yourself.
Scottsdale Family Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT, MA
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85259
I love using Narrative and EFT modalities.
What courage it takes for you to just be here. Welcome. And thank you for taking this step. Life is challenging and my belief is that even with a little help, you can overcome those challenges and function at your best. The past can be your teacher, and time your healer. My belief is that when we stop fighting the past or our present hardships is when we can THRIVE. I will meet you where you are. We can go from there.
I love using Narrative and EFT modalities.
What courage it takes for you to just be here. Welcome. And thank you for taking this step. Life is challenging and my belief is that even with a little help, you can overcome those challenges and function at your best. The past can be your teacher, and time your healer. My belief is that when we stop fighting the past or our present hardships is when we can THRIVE. I will meet you where you are. We can go from there.
Aubrey Hinton
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85251
Aubrey is a trained EMDR trauma therapist and a trained EFT couples therapist.
Aubrey utilizes a holistic view while embracing each persons unique experiences and individuality. Many of us feel overwhelmed, stuck, stressed, anxious, worried, angry, hopeless, or sad at times. Sometimes we struggle with changes like moving, having a baby, starting school, starting a new job, or losing a loved one (pets included). Some of us have had distressing experiences or something traumatic happen. Or perhaps we are having difficulty in a relationship with family, friends, dating, partner, or spouse. Aubrey works with you to find the most effective techniques and skills to support in facing challenges and finding relief.
Aubrey is a trained EMDR trauma therapist and a trained EFT couples therapist.
Aubrey utilizes a holistic view while embracing each persons unique experiences and individuality. Many of us feel overwhelmed, stuck, stressed, anxious, worried, angry, hopeless, or sad at times. Sometimes we struggle with changes like moving, having a baby, starting school, starting a new job, or losing a loved one (pets included). Some of us have had distressing experiences or something traumatic happen. Or perhaps we are having difficulty in a relationship with family, friends, dating, partner, or spouse. Aubrey works with you to find the most effective techniques and skills to support in facing challenges and finding relief.
Kelly Ontiveros
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor, which allows me to help couples recover from affairs, address losses of intimacy and connection, strengthen attachment, and adjust to life stressors.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I understand the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space for you to find your best self. I specialize in treating issues in marital connection and intimacy, affair recovery, trauma, anxiety, depression, grief and loss. After completing my master's work, I gained extensive training in psychodynamic therapy, which addresses family of origin issues, wounding messages from childhood, and attachment styles expressed in relationships.
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor, which allows me to help couples recover from affairs, address losses of intimacy and connection, strengthen attachment, and adjust to life stressors.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I understand the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space for you to find your best self. I specialize in treating issues in marital connection and intimacy, affair recovery, trauma, anxiety, depression, grief and loss. After completing my master's work, I gained extensive training in psychodynamic therapy, which addresses family of origin issues, wounding messages from childhood, and attachment styles expressed in relationships.
Lindsey Acocella
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250 (Online Only)
My passion is serving couples, families and women. I find I have the most success in supporting women (emphasis on ages 18- 30's), and the unique challenges we face. If you are struggling with negative self talk, difficulty putting yourself first and saying "no" to others, or other difficulties creating anxiety.. I'm here to listen & support. Regarding success in serving couples and families (LGBTQIA+ affirming), I take an emotionally focused approach and ground in communication skills. I will work with you to find the emotional root of the issues you see resurfacing, so cycles are put to an end & you feel at ease.
My passion is serving couples, families and women. I find I have the most success in supporting women (emphasis on ages 18- 30's), and the unique challenges we face. If you are struggling with negative self talk, difficulty putting yourself first and saying "no" to others, or other difficulties creating anxiety.. I'm here to listen & support. Regarding success in serving couples and families (LGBTQIA+ affirming), I take an emotionally focused approach and ground in communication skills. I will work with you to find the emotional root of the issues you see resurfacing, so cycles are put to an end & you feel at ease.
Kristine Marie Hendricks
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85255
I work with individuals, couples, and families using Emotionally Focused Therapy and other modalities.
Welcome - Take a slow deep breath and know the steps you are taking to seek help take incredible courage. I am continually humbled and honored to be invited into the private lives of brave men and women like you seeking help for personal and relationship needs. I work diligently to understand your unique situation while creating a safe place for healing to begin. Personal relationships can bring us to the highest of highs or the the lowest of lows. I whole heartedly believe it is possible to have more joy, peace and love in your life.
I work with individuals, couples, and families using Emotionally Focused Therapy and other modalities.
Welcome - Take a slow deep breath and know the steps you are taking to seek help take incredible courage. I am continually humbled and honored to be invited into the private lives of brave men and women like you seeking help for personal and relationship needs. I work diligently to understand your unique situation while creating a safe place for healing to begin. Personal relationships can bring us to the highest of highs or the the lowest of lows. I whole heartedly believe it is possible to have more joy, peace and love in your life.
Dr. Christine Bielinski
Licensed Professional Counselor, PhD, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
Hello. I welcome the opportunity to work with you. I believe change is always possible. Working together as a team, I am committed to YOU and your success in emerging as a braver, more joyful, and fulfilled person. I want you to THRIVE, not just survive in life. People come to me because they oftentimes feel stuck in their lives. I help them identify where they want to go and help them get there. I choose strategies depending upon your specific needs. I am trained in effective modalities including CBT, DBT, EFT, including Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, EMDR, Mindfulness, Performance Interventions, and Christian Counseling.
Hello. I welcome the opportunity to work with you. I believe change is always possible. Working together as a team, I am committed to YOU and your success in emerging as a braver, more joyful, and fulfilled person. I want you to THRIVE, not just survive in life. People come to me because they oftentimes feel stuck in their lives. I help them identify where they want to go and help them get there. I choose strategies depending upon your specific needs. I am trained in effective modalities including CBT, DBT, EFT, including Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, EMDR, Mindfulness, Performance Interventions, and Christian Counseling.
Naomi Berry
Licensed Professional Counselor, MC, LPC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
I have training in EFT, EMDR, CBT, MBSR and Solution Focused therapy.
I believe we all have the capacity to learn, grow, heal and create long-lasting change. We hold the innate ability to discover and realize our true potential and live an authentic life in line with our deepest values. I view therapy as a shared, supportive, compassionate journey that can help you tune into your authentic self, develop attainable goals and work toward sustainable, meaningful change. By holistically addressing and integrating mind, body and spirit, all kinds of challenges-depression, anxiety, divorce, stress, relationship issues, grief-can be better understood and overcome.
I have training in EFT, EMDR, CBT, MBSR and Solution Focused therapy.
I believe we all have the capacity to learn, grow, heal and create long-lasting change. We hold the innate ability to discover and realize our true potential and live an authentic life in line with our deepest values. I view therapy as a shared, supportive, compassionate journey that can help you tune into your authentic self, develop attainable goals and work toward sustainable, meaningful change. By holistically addressing and integrating mind, body and spirit, all kinds of challenges-depression, anxiety, divorce, stress, relationship issues, grief-can be better understood and overcome.
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Alexa Yassi
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85251
I have advanced training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) and Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy ( EFT), which are evidence-based models that help uncover the root of the issue.
Are you feeling stuck in your dating life or relationships, constantly disappointed, and losing hope? Do you find yourself repeating toxic patterns and longing for a deeper, more fulfilling connection? I specialize in helping individuals and couples transform their relationships, break free from negative cycles and create the love they truly desire. If you’re ready to make a change and build a healthier, more loving relationship, let’s work together to achieve the connected, fulfilling love life you deserve!
I have advanced training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) and Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy ( EFT), which are evidence-based models that help uncover the root of the issue.
Are you feeling stuck in your dating life or relationships, constantly disappointed, and losing hope? Do you find yourself repeating toxic patterns and longing for a deeper, more fulfilling connection? I specialize in helping individuals and couples transform their relationships, break free from negative cycles and create the love they truly desire. If you’re ready to make a change and build a healthier, more loving relationship, let’s work together to achieve the connected, fulfilling love life you deserve!
Grounded in decolonizing mental health, liberation, and feminist psychologies, my practice employs multimodal approaches, including dialectical behavior therapy, cognitive behavior therapy, cognitive processing therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, somatic experiencing, emotionally focused couples therapy, Gottman, family systems, and psychoanalysis.
Via psychotherapy and assessment, I support individuals, couples, families, and organizations through the changing seasons of life. Intersectional identity shifts, intergenerational trauma, faith transitions, pregnancy/postpartum, sexual trauma, systemic oppression, multicultural couples (polyamory affirming), and families navigating members "coming out" or "letting in" with diverse political or spiritual views are a few specialty areas. Particular attunement is provided to BIPOC, LGBTQ+, and neurodiverse/autistic communities. My goal is to help communities live in alignment with their values.
Grounded in decolonizing mental health, liberation, and feminist psychologies, my practice employs multimodal approaches, including dialectical behavior therapy, cognitive behavior therapy, cognitive processing therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, somatic experiencing, emotionally focused couples therapy, Gottman, family systems, and psychoanalysis.
Via psychotherapy and assessment, I support individuals, couples, families, and organizations through the changing seasons of life. Intersectional identity shifts, intergenerational trauma, faith transitions, pregnancy/postpartum, sexual trauma, systemic oppression, multicultural couples (polyamory affirming), and families navigating members "coming out" or "letting in" with diverse political or spiritual views are a few specialty areas. Particular attunement is provided to BIPOC, LGBTQ+, and neurodiverse/autistic communities. My goal is to help communities live in alignment with their values.
Rebecca Nelson Sex And Relationship Therapist
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, LAMFT
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
My therapeutic process is integrative and collaborative involving Emotionally Focused Therapy, The Gottman Method, and Internal Family Systems.
I am passionate about working with couples and individuals around relationship concerns, intimacy, desire discrepancies/low desire, trauma, infidelity, anxiety, and sexual health & pleasure. I help couples and individuals increase insight and understanding of how their mind, body, and attachment styles influence their quality of life and relationships.
My therapeutic process is integrative and collaborative involving Emotionally Focused Therapy, The Gottman Method, and Internal Family Systems.
I am passionate about working with couples and individuals around relationship concerns, intimacy, desire discrepancies/low desire, trauma, infidelity, anxiety, and sexual health & pleasure. I help couples and individuals increase insight and understanding of how their mind, body, and attachment styles influence their quality of life and relationships.
Ella Pretzlaff
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MAS-MFT, LAMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
I'm trained in EFT, EMDR, and Prepare-Enrich for premarital counseling.
When we are our most stuck, lost, or alone, is when profound change can happen. This coming home to yourself might mean building anew, or it might mean re-aligning with your true self. If you’ve been feeling anxious or out of control, know that relief is possible. Today, you can find the courage to step closer to the life you know you want to live. I can help. I will start by asking you what you want and what you want to change. It's ok to need gentle guidance to uncover these answers. Through our conversations, I hope to empower you to soften your inner critic, feel more grounded + connected with yourself, and live with more peace.
I'm trained in EFT, EMDR, and Prepare-Enrich for premarital counseling.
When we are our most stuck, lost, or alone, is when profound change can happen. This coming home to yourself might mean building anew, or it might mean re-aligning with your true self. If you’ve been feeling anxious or out of control, know that relief is possible. Today, you can find the courage to step closer to the life you know you want to live. I can help. I will start by asking you what you want and what you want to change. It's ok to need gentle guidance to uncover these answers. Through our conversations, I hope to empower you to soften your inner critic, feel more grounded + connected with yourself, and live with more peace.
I am trained in and use the trauma-informed therapy of Brainspotting (BSP), EMDR, Attachment Theory, and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
Life's journey is filled with twists and turns, but you don't have to face it alone. As a dedicated therapist with a Master's in Clinical Psychology and specialized training in Marriage and Family Therapy, my goal is to provide a warm and inviting space where you can find the support and guidance you need to thrive. My approach to therapy is rooted in warmth, authenticity, kindness, and open-mindedness. Whether you seek to gain insight into your past, develop emotional regulation skills, or navigate current challenges, I am here to empower you to lead a healthy, balanced life and define your own happiness.
I am trained in and use the trauma-informed therapy of Brainspotting (BSP), EMDR, Attachment Theory, and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT).
Life's journey is filled with twists and turns, but you don't have to face it alone. As a dedicated therapist with a Master's in Clinical Psychology and specialized training in Marriage and Family Therapy, my goal is to provide a warm and inviting space where you can find the support and guidance you need to thrive. My approach to therapy is rooted in warmth, authenticity, kindness, and open-mindedness. Whether you seek to gain insight into your past, develop emotional regulation skills, or navigate current challenges, I am here to empower you to lead a healthy, balanced life and define your own happiness.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Prepare-Enrich for premarital couples.
I provide a safe, non-judgmental space for individuals, families, and couples to strengthen their relationships with others and themselves. I take a collaborative approach with you to understand your experience and guide you toward personal growth, emotional awareness, and healthy relationships. I have 10 years experience working with individuals who struggle with mental health and families who have children that require special care including autism, mental, and physical disabilities.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Prepare-Enrich for premarital couples.
I provide a safe, non-judgmental space for individuals, families, and couples to strengthen their relationships with others and themselves. I take a collaborative approach with you to understand your experience and guide you toward personal growth, emotional awareness, and healthy relationships. I have 10 years experience working with individuals who struggle with mental health and families who have children that require special care including autism, mental, and physical disabilities.
Pam Solem-Weser
Licensed Professional Counselor, MC, LPC, PLLC
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
I have extensive training in highly effective therapies: Internal Family Systems and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
If you are struggling and feeling alone, I will be an understanding, warm place for you to explore your painful life issues. In our work together, you will gain a deeper understanding of the problematic patterns and beliefs that are interfering with your life and relationships. I will help you transform these issues and patterns and move forward in your life with greater confidence and ease.
I have extensive training in highly effective therapies: Internal Family Systems and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
If you are struggling and feeling alone, I will be an understanding, warm place for you to explore your painful life issues. In our work together, you will gain a deeper understanding of the problematic patterns and beliefs that are interfering with your life and relationships. I will help you transform these issues and patterns and move forward in your life with greater confidence and ease.
Sofia Softas-Nall
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, MA, NCC, LPC-S, LPC
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85255 (Online Only)
Sofia has training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR-II) Trauma Therapy, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Existential Therapy, and Mindfulness.
Sofia has 12 years of experience in the field of psychology and 7 years of experience in counseling. Sofia Softas-Nall is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Arizona and a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC). She is a Board Certified Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S) on the Arizona Board of Behavioral Health Examiners (AZBBHE) Registry. Sofia specializes in working with life transitions, LGBTQIA+ concerns, anxiety, depression, chronic health conditions, multicultural counseling, athletes/sports psychology, pain, trauma, and PTSD. She has experience counseling adults, teens, groups, couples, and families.
Sofia has training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR-II) Trauma Therapy, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Existential Therapy, and Mindfulness.
Sofia has 12 years of experience in the field of psychology and 7 years of experience in counseling. Sofia Softas-Nall is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Arizona and a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC). She is a Board Certified Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S) on the Arizona Board of Behavioral Health Examiners (AZBBHE) Registry. Sofia specializes in working with life transitions, LGBTQIA+ concerns, anxiety, depression, chronic health conditions, multicultural counseling, athletes/sports psychology, pain, trauma, and PTSD. She has experience counseling adults, teens, groups, couples, and families.
The decision to begin therapy is the first step towards healing and oftentimes a difficult one to make. I am here to help couples, families, and individuals find their own path towards healing and connection. I understand how different stressors can impact relationships at different stages of life and aim to provide effective strategies to help you navigate through them. I am passionate about working with couples and utilize Gottman and EFT. Together we can work together to create open and honest communication.
The decision to begin therapy is the first step towards healing and oftentimes a difficult one to make. I am here to help couples, families, and individuals find their own path towards healing and connection. I understand how different stressors can impact relationships at different stages of life and aim to provide effective strategies to help you navigate through them. I am passionate about working with couples and utilize Gottman and EFT. Together we can work together to create open and honest communication.
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.