Couples Counseling Therapists in Southwest, Portland, OR
You are not alone. Rather than being an obstacle, our bodies and our sensual nature can be integral to personal and spiritual liberation. My work is grounded, respectful and authentic. In confidential, online sessions, men gain mastery of how to generate, contain and transform sexual energy and cultivate deep presence. Women remember how to heal and reclaim their sexual power and become radiant in their ability to be love. Profound levels of respect and joy emerge within couples. As a result, we learn to relax deeply and access our life potential in a profound and powerful way.
You are not alone. Rather than being an obstacle, our bodies and our sensual nature can be integral to personal and spiritual liberation. My work is grounded, respectful and authentic. In confidential, online sessions, men gain mastery of how to generate, contain and transform sexual energy and cultivate deep presence. Women remember how to heal and reclaim their sexual power and become radiant in their ability to be love. Profound levels of respect and joy emerge within couples. As a result, we learn to relax deeply and access our life potential in a profound and powerful way.
Julie Hassler
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LPCC, LMHC
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97239 (Online Only)
Have ambivalence about possible separation or divorce? Not sure of the best path forward? I am a certified Discernment counselor, providing clarity and confidence to couples about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of their relationship and its possibilities for the future.
Our relationships can provide us feelings of connection and safety, and give our lives meaning and purpose. They can also bring us pain and disappointment. Is your relationship in trouble? I specialize with issues that can result within relationships, from premarital to divorce, as well as blended family concerns. Whether communication issues, unresolvable conflict, infidelity/affair, addiction, abuse or mental health issues have affected your connection and attunement, I can give you the tools to turn things around in the present and the techniques to provide consistent connection in the future.
Have ambivalence about possible separation or divorce? Not sure of the best path forward? I am a certified Discernment counselor, providing clarity and confidence to couples about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of their relationship and its possibilities for the future.
Our relationships can provide us feelings of connection and safety, and give our lives meaning and purpose. They can also bring us pain and disappointment. Is your relationship in trouble? I specialize with issues that can result within relationships, from premarital to divorce, as well as blended family concerns. Whether communication issues, unresolvable conflict, infidelity/affair, addiction, abuse or mental health issues have affected your connection and attunement, I can give you the tools to turn things around in the present and the techniques to provide consistent connection in the future.
Cynthia J Song
Psychologist, PsyD, JD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97239 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I draw from psychoanalytic and attachment theories, paying attention to one's relationship with self/other, early experiences, and the sociopolitical milieu.
Hello, I am a licensed clinical psychologist in MA & OR. Before becoming a psychologist, I worked as a public interest attorney, and as a psychologist, I see the importance of being mindful of social context in the therapy room. I specialize in psychodynamic psychotherapy -an evidence-based treatment- to illuminate how the past and present, external and internal, mutually influence one another. I also integrate tools from other therapy modalities to support the unique needs of each individual.
I draw from psychoanalytic and attachment theories, paying attention to one's relationship with self/other, early experiences, and the sociopolitical milieu.
Hello, I am a licensed clinical psychologist in MA & OR. Before becoming a psychologist, I worked as a public interest attorney, and as a psychologist, I see the importance of being mindful of social context in the therapy room. I specialize in psychodynamic psychotherapy -an evidence-based treatment- to illuminate how the past and present, external and internal, mutually influence one another. I also integrate tools from other therapy modalities to support the unique needs of each individual.
Bailey Huggins
LPC Intern, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97219 (Online Only)
I believe that a counseling relationship that provides safety, trust, and healing can transform an individual’s life. Often, there is the need for a gentle and trained outside perspective in order to see things differently and unlock new possibilities. I seek to provide a safe and empathetic space for each individual I meet with, in order to support the development of strengths, acceptance, and resiliency. Together, we can process old, harmful ways of experiencing the world and create new, edifying patterns which point you in the direction of the life you hope to lead.
I believe that a counseling relationship that provides safety, trust, and healing can transform an individual’s life. Often, there is the need for a gentle and trained outside perspective in order to see things differently and unlock new possibilities. I seek to provide a safe and empathetic space for each individual I meet with, in order to support the development of strengths, acceptance, and resiliency. Together, we can process old, harmful ways of experiencing the world and create new, edifying patterns which point you in the direction of the life you hope to lead.
Skyline Therapy
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, NCC, LPC
Verified Verified
Southwest, Portland, OR 97219
I believe that our relationship with the natural world is an important part of wellness.
We all deserve to heal, to find meaning in our lives, and to have healthy, fulfilling relationships with ourselves, others, and the world around us. Clients I work with are often in therapy because they are overwhelmed by worry, stress, and sadness. I am honored to join my clients on their path to healing, as they bring courage, insight, and determination to our work together. While my clients may be children, teens, or adults, come from diverse backgrounds, and have different needs and goals, we all seek well-being and connection. I welcome clients of all gender identities, sexual orientations, backgrounds, beliefs, and cultures.
I believe that our relationship with the natural world is an important part of wellness.
We all deserve to heal, to find meaning in our lives, and to have healthy, fulfilling relationships with ourselves, others, and the world around us. Clients I work with are often in therapy because they are overwhelmed by worry, stress, and sadness. I am honored to join my clients on their path to healing, as they bring courage, insight, and determination to our work together. While my clients may be children, teens, or adults, come from diverse backgrounds, and have different needs and goals, we all seek well-being and connection. I welcome clients of all gender identities, sexual orientations, backgrounds, beliefs, and cultures.
Dana Dart-McLean
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97204 (Online Only)
I bring in attachment styles to deepen understanding of building secure relationships, as well as Gottman couples therapy tools .
Anxiety, depression, ADHD, or trauma make it hard to be present in your life. If you feel alternately numb, buzzed, or overwhelmed, I can help. Deepen your understanding of how your body holds stress and anxiety to learn new ways to respond. Addressing trauma and anxiety with body awareness helps to stop negative thoughts or a harsh inner narrative. You will learn tools for processing overwhelming emotions in order to support you to feel grounded. With a foundation of self-trust and self-compassion, you are more effective and open to life. I work with couples and individuals.
I bring in attachment styles to deepen understanding of building secure relationships, as well as Gottman couples therapy tools .
Anxiety, depression, ADHD, or trauma make it hard to be present in your life. If you feel alternately numb, buzzed, or overwhelmed, I can help. Deepen your understanding of how your body holds stress and anxiety to learn new ways to respond. Addressing trauma and anxiety with body awareness helps to stop negative thoughts or a harsh inner narrative. You will learn tools for processing overwhelming emotions in order to support you to feel grounded. With a foundation of self-trust and self-compassion, you are more effective and open to life. I work with couples and individuals.
Kathleen M Girod
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Southwest, Portland, OR 97239 (Online Only)
Therapy can offer hope in the midst of depression, anxiety, trauma, stressful challenges in work, relationships, health, or other arenas of life. It can also help us respond thoughtfully and creatively rather than anxiously or destructively. I am a firm believer in learning to be open towards yourself, your relationships, and life transitions. This is a more powerful motivator than mentally beating yourself up. We'll work together to identify strengths you can use towards making important life changes, and to build coping skills to deal with difficult emotions, trust, relationship issues, and negative thoughts you might have about yourself.
Therapy can offer hope in the midst of depression, anxiety, trauma, stressful challenges in work, relationships, health, or other arenas of life. It can also help us respond thoughtfully and creatively rather than anxiously or destructively. I am a firm believer in learning to be open towards yourself, your relationships, and life transitions. This is a more powerful motivator than mentally beating yourself up. We'll work together to identify strengths you can use towards making important life changes, and to build coping skills to deal with difficult emotions, trust, relationship issues, and negative thoughts you might have about yourself.
Kenneth L Andert
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
Southwest, Portland, OR 97205
These experiences, in conjunction with a well grounded clinical knowledge base, and my own inner work, have enriched my understanding of the nature of mind, related emotions, and their relationship to life and life experiences.
Life and living only exist in the present moment. Our untrained mind often causes us suffering when it dwells on past experiences, or future fears, clouding this moment where living actually occures. Depression, anxiety, our beliefs about our selves and others, all stem from these unnecessary thoughts and their related emotions. Our mind must come to realize that it is the cause of its own unhappiness. Then whatever we experience in life is no longer overwhelming.
I have an appreciation and grounding in western oriented psychodynamics enriched with an eastern psychological and Spiritual perspective. Please visit my website: kennethandert.com
These experiences, in conjunction with a well grounded clinical knowledge base, and my own inner work, have enriched my understanding of the nature of mind, related emotions, and their relationship to life and life experiences.
Life and living only exist in the present moment. Our untrained mind often causes us suffering when it dwells on past experiences, or future fears, clouding this moment where living actually occures. Depression, anxiety, our beliefs about our selves and others, all stem from these unnecessary thoughts and their related emotions. Our mind must come to realize that it is the cause of its own unhappiness. Then whatever we experience in life is no longer overwhelming.
I have an appreciation and grounding in western oriented psychodynamics enriched with an eastern psychological and Spiritual perspective. Please visit my website: kennethandert.com
MindTree Holistic Counseling & Wellness Center LLC
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LCSW, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97221
MindTree offers individual therapy for adults, child/teen therapy, family therapy, play therapy, trauma psychotherapy, marriage & couples counseling, gender affirming care, Grief & Loss.
At MindTree we treat the person as a whole, by integrating the healing of mind and Body. Our team of holistic practitioners provide a collaborative health care model and create a personalized Holistic Wellness plan for adults, younger children, teens, elderly adults, couples and families. We believe in the philosophy that mind and body do not operate separately, rather interdependently. All of the Holistic Counseling techniques that MindTree offers are evidence-based, peer reviewed, and represent current best practices in the field.
MindTree offers individual therapy for adults, child/teen therapy, family therapy, play therapy, trauma psychotherapy, marriage & couples counseling, gender affirming care, Grief & Loss.
At MindTree we treat the person as a whole, by integrating the healing of mind and Body. Our team of holistic practitioners provide a collaborative health care model and create a personalized Holistic Wellness plan for adults, younger children, teens, elderly adults, couples and families. We believe in the philosophy that mind and body do not operate separately, rather interdependently. All of the Holistic Counseling techniques that MindTree offers are evidence-based, peer reviewed, and represent current best practices in the field.
My areas of specialty are working with adults, either as individuals or in couples, who are seeking clarity and understanding in their lives, either in new situations, in their relationships, or in patterns that seem to come up in spite of best efforts. My clients are curious and motivated people who are used to solving problems and find themselves in search of greater understanding and new ways of being. I work with compassion, humor, and support my client's in their own unique vision for their lives and how they define meaning and satisfaction.
My areas of specialty are working with adults, either as individuals or in couples, who are seeking clarity and understanding in their lives, either in new situations, in their relationships, or in patterns that seem to come up in spite of best efforts. My clients are curious and motivated people who are used to solving problems and find themselves in search of greater understanding and new ways of being. I work with compassion, humor, and support my client's in their own unique vision for their lives and how they define meaning and satisfaction.
Becca E Jones
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, LMHC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97239
But I know that healing can happen in the context of this relationship and I would love the chance to connect with you, hear more about what you're facing, and see if I could help you find a path forward.
Holding space for people to experience connection and support as they grow, heal, or transition is what I love about this work. Whether it is a couple/ relationship stuck in a pattern or longing for deeper connection, or an individual ready to make sense of things or move forward toward something new
But I know that healing can happen in the context of this relationship and I would love the chance to connect with you, hear more about what you're facing, and see if I could help you find a path forward.
Holding space for people to experience connection and support as they grow, heal, or transition is what I love about this work. Whether it is a couple/ relationship stuck in a pattern or longing for deeper connection, or an individual ready to make sense of things or move forward toward something new
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Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97219
Attachment disorders may surface as relationship instability, clinginess, relationship avoidance, jealousy, anxiety, depression, aggression, and/or a generally high level of reactivity.
Have you been through a difficult experience? I specialize in emotional and relational disorders arising from trauma, sexual abuse, attachment disruptions, and less-than-optimal early childhood experiences. These types of experiences can create life-long distress and difficulty with relationships. Finding the right therapist is an important first step in healing from trauma. My orientation integrates modern neuroscience with relational psychotherapy. In addition to traditional methods, I utilize expressive approaches such as sandtray, play therapy, psychodrama, movement, and art therapy in my practice. I will tailor your sessions to meet your unique needs and ways of expressing yourself.
Attachment disorders may surface as relationship instability, clinginess, relationship avoidance, jealousy, anxiety, depression, aggression, and/or a generally high level of reactivity.
Have you been through a difficult experience? I specialize in emotional and relational disorders arising from trauma, sexual abuse, attachment disruptions, and less-than-optimal early childhood experiences. These types of experiences can create life-long distress and difficulty with relationships. Finding the right therapist is an important first step in healing from trauma. My orientation integrates modern neuroscience with relational psychotherapy. In addition to traditional methods, I utilize expressive approaches such as sandtray, play therapy, psychodrama, movement, and art therapy in my practice. I will tailor your sessions to meet your unique needs and ways of expressing yourself.
Katherine Jansen-Byrkit
Licensed Professional Counselor, MPH, LPC
Verified Verified
Southwest, Portland, OR 97239
I offer psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families in a warm, caring setting in beautiful NW Portland.
My style in working with clients is positive and direct. I believe wholeheartedly in the possibility of change, and that the deepest, most powerful change starts on the inside. As our core beliefs, patterns and awareness shifts, life on the outside begins to reflect those internal changes, resulting in greater satisfaction and meaning. My approach involves working in partnership with clients, using the counseling relationship as a catalist on the journey to healing and growth, both individually and in relationships.
I offer psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families in a warm, caring setting in beautiful NW Portland.
My style in working with clients is positive and direct. I believe wholeheartedly in the possibility of change, and that the deepest, most powerful change starts on the inside. As our core beliefs, patterns and awareness shifts, life on the outside begins to reflect those internal changes, resulting in greater satisfaction and meaning. My approach involves working in partnership with clients, using the counseling relationship as a catalist on the journey to healing and growth, both individually and in relationships.
Elizabeth C Gentzkow
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LMHC, NCC
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97239 (Online Only)
You’re ready to break free from the struggle with anxiety and uncertainty. A life free from panic, anxiety, and overwhelming feelings is possible with the right therapy. I offer evidence-based therapy for individuals, couples, and high-achieving professionals who want to create lasting solutions for the daily impacts of anxiety, ADHD, stress, and life demands. Fear, anxiety, and overwhelming feelings have been in control for too long- it's time to make a change. You can achieve more, develop deeper connections, and lead a life with meaning without struggling to control it all. You deserve a better way of living.
You’re ready to break free from the struggle with anxiety and uncertainty. A life free from panic, anxiety, and overwhelming feelings is possible with the right therapy. I offer evidence-based therapy for individuals, couples, and high-achieving professionals who want to create lasting solutions for the daily impacts of anxiety, ADHD, stress, and life demands. Fear, anxiety, and overwhelming feelings have been in control for too long- it's time to make a change. You can achieve more, develop deeper connections, and lead a life with meaning without struggling to control it all. You deserve a better way of living.
Angie Tanyi Counseling
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MPH, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97219
It's important you feel that your therapist is a "good fit" as the therapeutic relationship depends on feeling safe.
Are you struggling to live the life you want? Do you keep finding yourself in the same place without knowing how to change? Current situations & events can trigger old pain & trauma which can be confusing & negatively impact relationships. They can also lead to creating misguided stories that you tell yourself & that keep you anxious or in fight/flight states. We sometimes need help untangling & making sense of our experiences &/or trauma in life in order to thrive. Through non-judgmental warmth, compassion & self-reflection, we re-wire old thoughts and behaviors and help you live a more authentic life.
It's important you feel that your therapist is a "good fit" as the therapeutic relationship depends on feeling safe.
Are you struggling to live the life you want? Do you keep finding yourself in the same place without knowing how to change? Current situations & events can trigger old pain & trauma which can be confusing & negatively impact relationships. They can also lead to creating misguided stories that you tell yourself & that keep you anxious or in fight/flight states. We sometimes need help untangling & making sense of our experiences &/or trauma in life in order to thrive. Through non-judgmental warmth, compassion & self-reflection, we re-wire old thoughts and behaviors and help you live a more authentic life.
Jessica Klein
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
Southwest, Portland, OR 97219
I treat couples who are having difficulty communicating, are in conflict, and need tools to re-connect.
Current In-Person Availability. I am an interactive therapist who will work to find unique tools and solutions for you. I specialize in couples therapy and adult individual therapy. I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an approach that helps couples increase closeness and heal through understanding each together, increasing empathy and interrupting destructive cycles. I also specialize in trauma and use EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), somatic psychotherapy, polyvagal theory, and mindfulness tools to help clients stabilize their systems, process trauma and heal.
I treat couples who are having difficulty communicating, are in conflict, and need tools to re-connect.
Current In-Person Availability. I am an interactive therapist who will work to find unique tools and solutions for you. I specialize in couples therapy and adult individual therapy. I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an approach that helps couples increase closeness and heal through understanding each together, increasing empathy and interrupting destructive cycles. I also specialize in trauma and use EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), somatic psychotherapy, polyvagal theory, and mindfulness tools to help clients stabilize their systems, process trauma and heal.
Dr. Marisol G Westberg
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
Southwest, Portland, OR 97205 (Online Only)
I am a board certified sexologist and a licensed couples therapist. I maintain a private practice with a focus on sex therapy in Portland, Oregon. I have been a therapist for 10 years. I am sex-positive and specialize in sex therapy that is inclusive of alternative relationships and erotic minorities. My areas of expertise are intimate relationships, pleasure, infidelity, sexual desire discrepancies, lack of desire, difficulties with orgasm, difficulties with erections and orgasm, pain and discomfort in sex, alternative sexualities and lifestyles, sexual abuse and violence. My approach in therapy is one that is positive, validating, and nurturing.
I am a board certified sexologist and a licensed couples therapist. I maintain a private practice with a focus on sex therapy in Portland, Oregon. I have been a therapist for 10 years. I am sex-positive and specialize in sex therapy that is inclusive of alternative relationships and erotic minorities. My areas of expertise are intimate relationships, pleasure, infidelity, sexual desire discrepancies, lack of desire, difficulties with orgasm, difficulties with erections and orgasm, pain and discomfort in sex, alternative sexualities and lifestyles, sexual abuse and violence. My approach in therapy is one that is positive, validating, and nurturing.
Alexandra Saperstein
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LMFT, LLC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Southwest, Portland, OR 97205
By the time couples come to my door, they often are trying their 3rd or 4th therapist.
I work with couples in crisis and individuals facing depression, life transitions, and/or other life challenges. I understand that finding a therapist can feel daunting so I offer an initial, free twenty minute phone consultation. This can help you decide if I may be a good fit for you at this time. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Relational Life Method Therapist, and an Advanced Trained Gottman Counselor, we'll work side by side to move from gridlock or pain towards more genuine connection and joy. I have helped hundreds of clients in the past decade. I look forward to connecting!
By the time couples come to my door, they often are trying their 3rd or 4th therapist.
I work with couples in crisis and individuals facing depression, life transitions, and/or other life challenges. I understand that finding a therapist can feel daunting so I offer an initial, free twenty minute phone consultation. This can help you decide if I may be a good fit for you at this time. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Relational Life Method Therapist, and an Advanced Trained Gottman Counselor, we'll work side by side to move from gridlock or pain towards more genuine connection and joy. I have helped hundreds of clients in the past decade. I look forward to connecting!
I believe that growth and healing happen when you are seen, supported, and cared for no matter how you feel or what is happening in your life. I love listening to you and helping you hear your own wisdom about the challenges you’re facing. I can help you develop confidence in your ability to ride the waves of emotion that can be overwhelming. It is beautiful and painful to be a human and I want you to know you’re not alone. I use a strength-based approach, helping you re-write stories about yourself and your relationships. I work with adults, couples, and families with kids 8 and older.
I believe that growth and healing happen when you are seen, supported, and cared for no matter how you feel or what is happening in your life. I love listening to you and helping you hear your own wisdom about the challenges you’re facing. I can help you develop confidence in your ability to ride the waves of emotion that can be overwhelming. It is beautiful and painful to be a human and I want you to know you’re not alone. I use a strength-based approach, helping you re-write stories about yourself and your relationships. I work with adults, couples, and families with kids 8 and older.
Rachel Arias
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MS
Verified Verified
Southwest, Portland, OR 97205
I work with individuals, couples, and families.
My focus as a therapist is cultivating an environment of acceptance and warmth so that my clients may feel empowered to engage in self-exploration and develop additional ways of coping. I facilitate self-exploration aimed towards increasing client's sense of joy, creativity, self-forgiveness, perspective, confidence, warmth, compassion, and desire to heal. I have experience providing therapy for clients experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety, infertility, and mental health issues in pregnancy. I also have experience with generalized anxiety, depression, stressful life transitions, grief, trauma, and relationship issues.
I work with individuals, couples, and families.
My focus as a therapist is cultivating an environment of acceptance and warmth so that my clients may feel empowered to engage in self-exploration and develop additional ways of coping. I facilitate self-exploration aimed towards increasing client's sense of joy, creativity, self-forgiveness, perspective, confidence, warmth, compassion, and desire to heal. I have experience providing therapy for clients experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety, infertility, and mental health issues in pregnancy. I also have experience with generalized anxiety, depression, stressful life transitions, grief, trauma, and relationship issues.
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Couples Counseling Therapists
Does couples counseling work?
Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.
When should a couple seek counseling?
Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.
How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?
The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.
How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?
The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.