Couples Counseling Therapists in Santa Barbara County, CA
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Mary Dierenfield
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93111
Something unique about my approach is I'm a Depth Psychotherapist who helps women deepen their relationship with their intuition (their knowing).
I specialize in helping women in their 20’s-40's who struggle with: anxiety, depression, and difficulty trusting self. Anxiety might show up as dread, worry, tense body, or unproductive ruminations. You may have a hard time making decisions, feel like an imposter or feel not-good-enough. While I primarily work with women, I also work with couples with pre-pregnancy anxiety, the challenges of becoming new parents, and young family transitions. Together we discover ways to grow bigger than your anxiety so that you can feel more calm, confident, embodied, and connected to yourself.
Something unique about my approach is I'm a Depth Psychotherapist who helps women deepen their relationship with their intuition (their knowing).
I specialize in helping women in their 20’s-40's who struggle with: anxiety, depression, and difficulty trusting self. Anxiety might show up as dread, worry, tense body, or unproductive ruminations. You may have a hard time making decisions, feel like an imposter or feel not-good-enough. While I primarily work with women, I also work with couples with pre-pregnancy anxiety, the challenges of becoming new parents, and young family transitions. Together we discover ways to grow bigger than your anxiety so that you can feel more calm, confident, embodied, and connected to yourself.
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Hi there, I'm Janis Alexa! Congratulations on taking this first step toward becoming a healthier version of yourself and living the best life possible. Life is sometimes tough, and I understand that when trying to cope with anxiety, depression, heartbreak, and relationship struggles, this can feel overwhelming. In this season of life, you don’t have to be alone, and I can help you with those feelings because I am a therapist who has experience in helping others with what you may be facing right now. There is hope, and you can start your new journey for real and lasting change today.
Hi there, I'm Janis Alexa! Congratulations on taking this first step toward becoming a healthier version of yourself and living the best life possible. Life is sometimes tough, and I understand that when trying to cope with anxiety, depression, heartbreak, and relationship struggles, this can feel overwhelming. In this season of life, you don’t have to be alone, and I can help you with those feelings because I am a therapist who has experience in helping others with what you may be facing right now. There is hope, and you can start your new journey for real and lasting change today.
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Teagan Manny
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93108 (Online Only)
Sessions are 100% virtual, anywhere in California. There are times in our life when we can feel burnt out, lost, stuck and could use an objective person to help us through these tough times. Whether you're facing a decline in self-worth, seeking clarity, or simply craving a supportive space; you don't have to navigate it alone. I work with challenges related to anxiety, depression, relationship issues, self-esteem, grief, adult ADHD, and life transitions. I am dedicated to tailoring my approach to meet the specific needs of each client, recognizing the importance of individualized care in promoting lasting change.
Sessions are 100% virtual, anywhere in California. There are times in our life when we can feel burnt out, lost, stuck and could use an objective person to help us through these tough times. Whether you're facing a decline in self-worth, seeking clarity, or simply craving a supportive space; you don't have to navigate it alone. I work with challenges related to anxiety, depression, relationship issues, self-esteem, grief, adult ADHD, and life transitions. I am dedicated to tailoring my approach to meet the specific needs of each client, recognizing the importance of individualized care in promoting lasting change.
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Khaled Jeiroudi
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, AMFT, APCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93101
I work with individuals and couples.
Finding ways to navigate the psychological, spiritual, and existential corridors of our lives is at the core of mental health. If painful, repeating patterns are pervading your life, therapy (with the right therapist) can help break these patterns. Through a process of building a therapeutic relationship tailored to your unique needs, we can gain autonomy and freedom in the face of overwhelming life experiences.
I work with individuals and couples.
Finding ways to navigate the psychological, spiritual, and existential corridors of our lives is at the core of mental health. If painful, repeating patterns are pervading your life, therapy (with the right therapist) can help break these patterns. Through a process of building a therapeutic relationship tailored to your unique needs, we can gain autonomy and freedom in the face of overwhelming life experiences.
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Derrick Selb
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93105
How often do you feel trapped in your life, stuck in patterns or habits that aren't doing you any good, or that you are not reaching your potential? We all have things that keep us from living the life that we want to lead - sometimes we need help getting through or around those obstacles, and sometimes we need help tearing them down entirely. I have been working in the mental health field since 2003, and in that time I have worked with a broad range of individuals, couples, families, and children to help improve their lives.
How often do you feel trapped in your life, stuck in patterns or habits that aren't doing you any good, or that you are not reaching your potential? We all have things that keep us from living the life that we want to lead - sometimes we need help getting through or around those obstacles, and sometimes we need help tearing them down entirely. I have been working in the mental health field since 2003, and in that time I have worked with a broad range of individuals, couples, families, and children to help improve their lives.
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Julie Newell
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93105 (Online Only)
I treat issues of anxiety, various mood disorders, changes in relationship/marital status, strength building in couples, various phase of life transitions, parenting challenges, family/blended-family dynamics, adolescents struggling with anxiety, panic attacks, social isolation/bullying, behavioral issues, anger management, issues of identity & self esteem.
I believe the therapeutic process is a collaborative way to discover healthy coping mechanisms, reduce stress, and increase personal happiness and well-being. Confidentiality, respect, and compassion are inherent to my process. I have over a decade of experience treating adolescents, adult individuals, couples & families. By integrating various therapeutic approaches such as Strength’s-Based Strategic, Solution-Focused & Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, I am able to provide well-rounded, evidence-based support to promote positive change.
I treat issues of anxiety, various mood disorders, changes in relationship/marital status, strength building in couples, various phase of life transitions, parenting challenges, family/blended-family dynamics, adolescents struggling with anxiety, panic attacks, social isolation/bullying, behavioral issues, anger management, issues of identity & self esteem.
I believe the therapeutic process is a collaborative way to discover healthy coping mechanisms, reduce stress, and increase personal happiness and well-being. Confidentiality, respect, and compassion are inherent to my process. I have over a decade of experience treating adolescents, adult individuals, couples & families. By integrating various therapeutic approaches such as Strength’s-Based Strategic, Solution-Focused & Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, I am able to provide well-rounded, evidence-based support to promote positive change.
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Are you and your partner fighting more? Do you feel distant and disconnected, lonely and truly concerned about the state of your partnership? Has infidelity got you feeling angry, depressed or anxious and is this getting in the way of your daily life, depriving you of any joy and happiness? It's time to reach out and get some professional help because trying to figure out these kinds of difficulties can be a daunting task when undertaken alone or when trying to clear out the cobwebs that make resolving partnership issues feel insurmountable. Get the help you need...now!
Are you and your partner fighting more? Do you feel distant and disconnected, lonely and truly concerned about the state of your partnership? Has infidelity got you feeling angry, depressed or anxious and is this getting in the way of your daily life, depriving you of any joy and happiness? It's time to reach out and get some professional help because trying to figure out these kinds of difficulties can be a daunting task when undertaken alone or when trying to clear out the cobwebs that make resolving partnership issues feel insurmountable. Get the help you need...now!
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Katrina A Pesl
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93111
Realizing there are times that are too overwhelming to handle on your own is scary. My approach to psychotherapy is to create a warm, nonjudgmental, and safe environment that supports adolescents, families and adults as they learn to navigate through difficult life circumstances. I encompass a gentle yet direct approach with my clients, and ensure every unique individual diversity is honored and respected. I draw upon therapeutic modalities that help the individual re-establish a relationship with their lost inner strengths and open new perspectives that foster more self love and compassion.
Realizing there are times that are too overwhelming to handle on your own is scary. My approach to psychotherapy is to create a warm, nonjudgmental, and safe environment that supports adolescents, families and adults as they learn to navigate through difficult life circumstances. I encompass a gentle yet direct approach with my clients, and ensure every unique individual diversity is honored and respected. I draw upon therapeutic modalities that help the individual re-establish a relationship with their lost inner strengths and open new perspectives that foster more self love and compassion.
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Seleste Consuelo Bowers
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, DHA, LCSW
Verified Verified
Buellton, CA 93427 (Online Only)
Life isn't always how we plan it to be. If you are experiencing distress, emotional discomfort or sadness over experiences or relationships, therapy can help. As a trained and licensed therapist, I will partner with you to support healing and insight. s.
Life isn't always how we plan it to be. If you are experiencing distress, emotional discomfort or sadness over experiences or relationships, therapy can help. As a trained and licensed therapist, I will partner with you to support healing and insight. s.
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My counseling style is compassionate, reflective, and rooted in radical self acceptance. My focus is on helping you accept the parts of yourself that are hard to tolerate and be at peace with. I have been a psychotherapist for 13 years and I am licensed in the state of California. I have worked with people from various backgrounds that grapple with differing issues, such as, depression, anxiety, PTSD, chronic pain/illness, childhood abuse and trauma, relationship issues, parenting problems, grief, domestic violence and life transitions.
My counseling style is compassionate, reflective, and rooted in radical self acceptance. My focus is on helping you accept the parts of yourself that are hard to tolerate and be at peace with. I have been a psychotherapist for 13 years and I am licensed in the state of California. I have worked with people from various backgrounds that grapple with differing issues, such as, depression, anxiety, PTSD, chronic pain/illness, childhood abuse and trauma, relationship issues, parenting problems, grief, domestic violence and life transitions.
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I specialize in treating: Depression; BiPolar Disorder; Dissociation; Psychosis; Marital Conflict; Infidelity/Affairs; Divorce Recovery; Relationship Problems; Men's Issues; Life Transitions; Senior Issues; Anxiety; Career Stress; Cancer; and Business Coaching.
-- I Provide Telephone Therapy & Videoconference Sessions -- I work best with motivated adults who are committed to working on clearly identified psychological and relationship problems. My clients have tried to solve issues on their own but eventually recognize a need for professional assistance. They realize that therapists have no magical quick cures and that treatment takes courage, persistence and risk-taking. My clients learn that seeking help is a strength, not a weakness. They develop trust in the therapeutic relationship and make lasting gains. I honor each one.
I specialize in treating: Depression; BiPolar Disorder; Dissociation; Psychosis; Marital Conflict; Infidelity/Affairs; Divorce Recovery; Relationship Problems; Men's Issues; Life Transitions; Senior Issues; Anxiety; Career Stress; Cancer; and Business Coaching.
-- I Provide Telephone Therapy & Videoconference Sessions -- I work best with motivated adults who are committed to working on clearly identified psychological and relationship problems. My clients have tried to solve issues on their own but eventually recognize a need for professional assistance. They realize that therapists have no magical quick cures and that treatment takes courage, persistence and risk-taking. My clients learn that seeking help is a strength, not a weakness. They develop trust in the therapeutic relationship and make lasting gains. I honor each one.
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Cara Behan
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93101
As a therapist, my goal is to help you live a happier and more fulfilling life. It can be difficult to know if you are on the right path, have healthy relationships, and are satisfied with your life's direction. How do you feel about where you are headed? I can support your self discovery in a compassionate and understanding way. I work towards identifying one's strengths and empowering clients struggling with anxiety, depression, substance abuse, relationship problems and life transitions. I specialize in working with young women, new moms and couples navigating the transition to motherhood and parenthood.
As a therapist, my goal is to help you live a happier and more fulfilling life. It can be difficult to know if you are on the right path, have healthy relationships, and are satisfied with your life's direction. How do you feel about where you are headed? I can support your self discovery in a compassionate and understanding way. I work towards identifying one's strengths and empowering clients struggling with anxiety, depression, substance abuse, relationship problems and life transitions. I specialize in working with young women, new moms and couples navigating the transition to motherhood and parenthood.
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Over years in private practice I have worked with individuals, couples, and families for a range of issues including depression, anxiety, interpersonal, career, and life transitions.
When choosing a therapist, experience matters. As a seasoned psychotherapist, scholar, and consultant with substantial training, I know there is no set formula for you and your situation. My holistic approach includes attention to your unique circumstance and goals including emotional, spiritual, and psychological health from a mind, body, spirit, perspective. There is no substitute for working with a professional who is fully attentive and present to what you are bringing to the experience, whom you can trust in helping you meet your goals and enhance your life quality.
Over years in private practice I have worked with individuals, couples, and families for a range of issues including depression, anxiety, interpersonal, career, and life transitions.
When choosing a therapist, experience matters. As a seasoned psychotherapist, scholar, and consultant with substantial training, I know there is no set formula for you and your situation. My holistic approach includes attention to your unique circumstance and goals including emotional, spiritual, and psychological health from a mind, body, spirit, perspective. There is no substitute for working with a professional who is fully attentive and present to what you are bringing to the experience, whom you can trust in helping you meet your goals and enhance your life quality.
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I have been a psychotherapist in Santa Barbara, CA since 1974. My style is varied, incorporating Gestalt therapy, active listening, inner child work, assertiveness training, and guided imagery. Licensed since 1980 as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I enjoy working with couples, regarding issues of healthy sexuality, intimacy, and communication. Individual women and men,working on their sexual self esteem, are some of my favorite clients. For over fifteen years, I have also been leading groups for Adults Molested as Children, as well as their partners. Focus on breath and body is integral to my way of working in session.
I have been a psychotherapist in Santa Barbara, CA since 1974. My style is varied, incorporating Gestalt therapy, active listening, inner child work, assertiveness training, and guided imagery. Licensed since 1980 as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I enjoy working with couples, regarding issues of healthy sexuality, intimacy, and communication. Individual women and men,working on their sexual self esteem, are some of my favorite clients. For over fifteen years, I have also been leading groups for Adults Molested as Children, as well as their partners. Focus on breath and body is integral to my way of working in session.
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Communication is often the major issue in couples counseling.
There are crisis moments in everyone's life when we feel overwhelmed and lack solutions to problems. Together we search for answers to questions that may appear overwhelming, enabling you to feel positive in the face of life transitions. Toni has a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology. She recently relinquished her license, however continues using skills expanded over time. Together you will solve concerns such as anxiety, stress, depression, addictions, and anger management. Toni employs a practical approach focusing on empathy and mutual respect. Her method focuses on cognitive behavioral therapy, humanism, and mindfulness.
Communication is often the major issue in couples counseling.
There are crisis moments in everyone's life when we feel overwhelmed and lack solutions to problems. Together we search for answers to questions that may appear overwhelming, enabling you to feel positive in the face of life transitions. Toni has a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology. She recently relinquished her license, however continues using skills expanded over time. Together you will solve concerns such as anxiety, stress, depression, addictions, and anger management. Toni employs a practical approach focusing on empathy and mutual respect. Her method focuses on cognitive behavioral therapy, humanism, and mindfulness.
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I specialize in treating couples - my approach is focused on teaching better communication skills and building intimacy.
Are you feeling anxious, irritable or sad? Are you having difficulty in your relationships at home or at work? You don't have to go through this alone. We can often struggle in a life situation or circumstance and just feel stuck. What I know is that it is almost always possible to feel better and gain clearer insights into what makes us happy and what gets in our way. My approach in therapy is both humanistic and psychodynamic, with the core principles of mindfulness and self-compassion at the heart of my practice.
I specialize in treating couples - my approach is focused on teaching better communication skills and building intimacy.
Are you feeling anxious, irritable or sad? Are you having difficulty in your relationships at home or at work? You don't have to go through this alone. We can often struggle in a life situation or circumstance and just feel stuck. What I know is that it is almost always possible to feel better and gain clearer insights into what makes us happy and what gets in our way. My approach in therapy is both humanistic and psychodynamic, with the core principles of mindfulness and self-compassion at the heart of my practice.
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Juliette Raynaud
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93105
I work with adolescents (12-17), young adults (18-25), and families facing anxiety, depression, trauma, substance use, and relationship challenges. We can feel motivated to take those first steps toward healing but struggle to maintain progress. Trauma and challenging life events can leave our inner resources and authenticity untouched, discouraging our growth. 'I'm aware of my patterns and habits, what's next? Are there actual skills that can help me with this?'. Together, we'll answer this question and build a treatment plan that matches your unique vision for change.
I work with adolescents (12-17), young adults (18-25), and families facing anxiety, depression, trauma, substance use, and relationship challenges. We can feel motivated to take those first steps toward healing but struggle to maintain progress. Trauma and challenging life events can leave our inner resources and authenticity untouched, discouraging our growth. 'I'm aware of my patterns and habits, what's next? Are there actual skills that can help me with this?'. Together, we'll answer this question and build a treatment plan that matches your unique vision for change.
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Life isn’t always for the faint of heart. It can feel frustrating, overwhelming and lonely. In my practice I strive to create a safe space where you can unwind and share who you are and what you are struggling with all while feeling heard, accepted and valued. My clients include those experiencing trauma, anxiety, depression, codependency, destructive relationship patterns, challenging life transitions and gender issues. I use a variety of therapeutic modalities including psychodynamic therapy, mindfulness, EMDR, depth psychotherapy including working with dreams, active imagination and art.
Life isn’t always for the faint of heart. It can feel frustrating, overwhelming and lonely. In my practice I strive to create a safe space where you can unwind and share who you are and what you are struggling with all while feeling heard, accepted and valued. My clients include those experiencing trauma, anxiety, depression, codependency, destructive relationship patterns, challenging life transitions and gender issues. I use a variety of therapeutic modalities including psychodynamic therapy, mindfulness, EMDR, depth psychotherapy including working with dreams, active imagination and art.
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ADHD often begins with an assessment to accurately identify it's characteristics as well as any co-occurring conditions, such as depression, anxiety or relationship difficulties.
Are you tired of failing to follow through on your promises? ADHD is my area of specialty when working with children, teens, college students and adults. Making significant change begins with identifying and understanding your choices. My work is helping you and/or your student select good choices and stay with these choices. Quality of life is honoring these choices in yourself and in others. I welcome your call.
ADHD often begins with an assessment to accurately identify it's characteristics as well as any co-occurring conditions, such as depression, anxiety or relationship difficulties.
Are you tired of failing to follow through on your promises? ADHD is my area of specialty when working with children, teens, college students and adults. Making significant change begins with identifying and understanding your choices. My work is helping you and/or your student select good choices and stay with these choices. Quality of life is honoring these choices in yourself and in others. I welcome your call.
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Gaining greater understanding of motivations/intentions and awareness of one's relationship with self and others can provide a more fulfilling life experience.
Therapy can be the catalyst that allows you to move past overwhelming feelings of discouragement, distraction, frustration, boredom, heartbreak, inner conflicts, self-alienation and uncertainty while also moving you in the direction of greater clarity, confidence, inner peace, life satisfaction and personal evolution. What is Personal Evolution?
Gaining greater understanding of motivations/intentions and awareness of one's relationship with self and others can provide a more fulfilling life experience.
Therapy can be the catalyst that allows you to move past overwhelming feelings of discouragement, distraction, frustration, boredom, heartbreak, inner conflicts, self-alienation and uncertainty while also moving you in the direction of greater clarity, confidence, inner peace, life satisfaction and personal evolution. What is Personal Evolution?
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Couples Counseling Therapists
Does couples counseling work?
Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.
When should a couple seek counseling?
Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.
How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?
The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.
How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?
The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.