Couples Counseling Therapists in Windsor, CA

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Rebecca Sweeney
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT, APCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
My primary specialties are attachment-based therapy, which addresses how the interpersonal skills we learned as children are contributing to our current situations, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which highlights the unmet needs that tend to cause rifts and helps to reestablish the emotional connection in partner relationships.
Starting therapy is a big step - trusting a complete stranger with your vulnerabilities, hopes, and anxieties is no small ask. With that in mind, I aim to meet my clients where they're at in order to effect change in a sustainable way. I work with couples and individuals to unpack the origins of their behavioral and cognitive patterns and understand how those are impacting their current relationships and daily lives.
My primary specialties are attachment-based therapy, which addresses how the interpersonal skills we learned as children are contributing to our current situations, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which highlights the unmet needs that tend to cause rifts and helps to reestablish the emotional connection in partner relationships.
Starting therapy is a big step - trusting a complete stranger with your vulnerabilities, hopes, and anxieties is no small ask. With that in mind, I aim to meet my clients where they're at in order to effect change in a sustainable way. I work with couples and individuals to unpack the origins of their behavioral and cognitive patterns and understand how those are impacting their current relationships and daily lives.
(707) 723-8679 View (707) 723-8679
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Del R Phoenix-Wilcox
Pre-Licensed Professional, ACSW
Verified Verified
Windsor, CA 95492
If life stress, major transitions, identity questions, disability issues, past trauma, or relationship struggles are a focus of your life right now, therapy can help you find the balance you desire in your life.
My name is Del and I use They/Them pronouns. I am an Associate Clinical Social Worker and Gender Diversity Educator. I provide a non-judgemental space to explore non-traditional sexuality and identity. I specialize in LGBTQQIA2+ issues, Trauma Recovery, and Living with Disabilities. Whether you are in a major life transition or struggling with identity issues, past trauma, or emotional upheaval, therapy can be useful in clarifying your goals and shaping your future. You are the author of your story and you have the ultimate say in what you want and how you want to achieve it.
If life stress, major transitions, identity questions, disability issues, past trauma, or relationship struggles are a focus of your life right now, therapy can help you find the balance you desire in your life.
My name is Del and I use They/Them pronouns. I am an Associate Clinical Social Worker and Gender Diversity Educator. I provide a non-judgemental space to explore non-traditional sexuality and identity. I specialize in LGBTQQIA2+ issues, Trauma Recovery, and Living with Disabilities. Whether you are in a major life transition or struggling with identity issues, past trauma, or emotional upheaval, therapy can be useful in clarifying your goals and shaping your future. You are the author of your story and you have the ultimate say in what you want and how you want to achieve it.
(707) 635-2520 View (707) 635-2520
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Dobbs Psychology, Inc.
Psychologist, PsyD, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492  (Online Only)
My specialties include trauma, relationship issues and self-esteem issues.
For me, it is vital that you feel heard and supported all times, without judgment. Together, we will strategize how to best cope with daily stressors effectively and easily. I can help you leave the past behind through self-forgiveness and by creating a much more positive present, and thus, future. Often, we talk to ourselves in very negative ways and this determines our reactions and limitations, as well as our worldview. I will help you radically improve your self-esteem and take on each day's challenges feeling strong and at peace with yourself. I also specialize in trauma. My way of treating it is effective and painless.
My specialties include trauma, relationship issues and self-esteem issues.
For me, it is vital that you feel heard and supported all times, without judgment. Together, we will strategize how to best cope with daily stressors effectively and easily. I can help you leave the past behind through self-forgiveness and by creating a much more positive present, and thus, future. Often, we talk to ourselves in very negative ways and this determines our reactions and limitations, as well as our worldview. I will help you radically improve your self-esteem and take on each day's challenges feeling strong and at peace with yourself. I also specialize in trauma. My way of treating it is effective and painless.
(707) 309-6991 View (707) 309-6991
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Asish Purushan
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, RP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in the state of California as well as a Registered Psychotherapist (RP) with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario, Canada. I hold a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology (M.Ed.) from OISE, University of Toronto, Canada. Clients come to see me for help with anxiety, stress, depression, self-esteem, grief, loss, isolation, trauma, family & relationship issues, loneliness, sexual orientation worries, gender identity concerns, LGBT counselling, addiction issues, etc. Services are offered in English, Hindi,Malayalam or Tamil.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in the state of California as well as a Registered Psychotherapist (RP) with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario, Canada. I hold a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology (M.Ed.) from OISE, University of Toronto, Canada. Clients come to see me for help with anxiety, stress, depression, self-esteem, grief, loss, isolation, trauma, family & relationship issues, loneliness, sexual orientation worries, gender identity concerns, LGBT counselling, addiction issues, etc. Services are offered in English, Hindi,Malayalam or Tamil.
(707) 520-6503 View (707) 520-6503
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Chaela Stewart
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
I am a Level 2 PACT Clinician with Stan Tatkin, author of "Wired for Love" in his Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.
Hi I’m Chaela, owner of Connecting Couples Therapy. I work with couples and individuals in various degrees of relationship distress and I help them develop a more secure attachment style. I love helping clients find real ways of connecting more deeply and authentically in order to live a more fulfilling and satisfying life. During times of stress, unmet needs can bring out the worst in a person. I help couples to recognize the root of relational insecurity and to develop security both internally and interpersonally. I also work with couples on the brink of or in the process of divorce to create secure coparenting practices.
I am a Level 2 PACT Clinician with Stan Tatkin, author of "Wired for Love" in his Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.
Hi I’m Chaela, owner of Connecting Couples Therapy. I work with couples and individuals in various degrees of relationship distress and I help them develop a more secure attachment style. I love helping clients find real ways of connecting more deeply and authentically in order to live a more fulfilling and satisfying life. During times of stress, unmet needs can bring out the worst in a person. I help couples to recognize the root of relational insecurity and to develop security both internally and interpersonally. I also work with couples on the brink of or in the process of divorce to create secure coparenting practices.
(415) 742-2814 View (415) 742-2814
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Susan Greene
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492  (Online Only)
My practice currently focuses primarily on helping couples and individuals who seek support and guidance with relationship issues as well as identifying and treating any symptoms of anxiety or depression that commonly go along with challenging relationship dynamics or other life stressors.
Neuroscience is showing us what we have known instinctually forever; that it is through nurturing relationships that healing and human growth occurs. If we have been wounded in relationship or have unresolved trauma from the past, our fear and reactivity can prevent us from seeking and maintaining nurturing and safe connections with self and others. I am a licensed therapist in CA and WI and work online with residents of those two states only. My practice is fee for service only.
My practice currently focuses primarily on helping couples and individuals who seek support and guidance with relationship issues as well as identifying and treating any symptoms of anxiety or depression that commonly go along with challenging relationship dynamics or other life stressors.
Neuroscience is showing us what we have known instinctually forever; that it is through nurturing relationships that healing and human growth occurs. If we have been wounded in relationship or have unresolved trauma from the past, our fear and reactivity can prevent us from seeking and maintaining nurturing and safe connections with self and others. I am a licensed therapist in CA and WI and work online with residents of those two states only. My practice is fee for service only.
(707) 677-6043 View (707) 677-6043
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Christine Lewis
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
Windsor, CA 95492
I would love to support you in actualizing your goals, whether that be in individual or couples therapy.
I support couples and individuals seeking to make a change in their life. I hold value in the belief that everyone has their own internal strength to solve their issues and that sometimes it takes a different perspective to help guide you towards taking those steps to improving your quality of life. I work with a variety of conflicts that come up in relationships from infidelity to premarital counseling.
I would love to support you in actualizing your goals, whether that be in individual or couples therapy.
I support couples and individuals seeking to make a change in their life. I hold value in the belief that everyone has their own internal strength to solve their issues and that sometimes it takes a different perspective to help guide you towards taking those steps to improving your quality of life. I work with a variety of conflicts that come up in relationships from infidelity to premarital counseling.
(707) 470-7215 View (707) 470-7215
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Diana Northness
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MS
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
I have worked in a variety of populations including toddlers and children, adolescents, adults, couples, and parents in their efforts to reclaim their joy, peace, and passion in life.
My work as a therapist revolves around creating a relationship that is safe enough to encourage honest reflection and focused enough to encourage challenge and change. Research continues to show that the most important factor in successful therapy is a good connection between the therapist and client. My passion is to establish a strong, safe alliance with you and to be your companion in finding and activating your innate wisdom and resilience. I will encourage an honest exploration of your thoughts, feelings, and passions.
I have worked in a variety of populations including toddlers and children, adolescents, adults, couples, and parents in their efforts to reclaim their joy, peace, and passion in life.
My work as a therapist revolves around creating a relationship that is safe enough to encourage honest reflection and focused enough to encourage challenge and change. Research continues to show that the most important factor in successful therapy is a good connection between the therapist and client. My passion is to establish a strong, safe alliance with you and to be your companion in finding and activating your innate wisdom and resilience. I will encourage an honest exploration of your thoughts, feelings, and passions.
(805) 316-7128 View (805) 316-7128
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Melissa Tan
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
I work with individuals (adults and adolescents), couples, and families.
Whether this is your first time seeking therapy or a continuation of your therapy journey, I want to acknowledge the time you are taking to support yourself by seeking change. I think of therapy as a commitment to making space for things that often don’t get enough space in everyday life— space settle into oneself, to take pause, to be witnessed, to be with experiences and support awareness as it emerges. I believe that awareness leads to choice, and that in therapy we can co-create a space to explore your experiences, building greater awareness of needs, boundaries, and patterns of experience.
I work with individuals (adults and adolescents), couples, and families.
Whether this is your first time seeking therapy or a continuation of your therapy journey, I want to acknowledge the time you are taking to support yourself by seeking change. I think of therapy as a commitment to making space for things that often don’t get enough space in everyday life— space settle into oneself, to take pause, to be witnessed, to be with experiences and support awareness as it emerges. I believe that awareness leads to choice, and that in therapy we can co-create a space to explore your experiences, building greater awareness of needs, boundaries, and patterns of experience.
(415) 384-5126 View (415) 384-5126
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Mealani M Smith
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
The relationship is crucial in therapy.
When provided well, therapy becomes one of the most valuable investments of your life, because it provides the foundation for creating a more peaceful and fulfilling existence. I believe we all have an innate ability to live a life of purpose. I am simply a guide to support you in arriving there. You will learn to communicate effectively and create a balanced life through shifting your engrained responses related to your experiences of trauma, relationships and biological aspects.
The relationship is crucial in therapy.
When provided well, therapy becomes one of the most valuable investments of your life, because it provides the foundation for creating a more peaceful and fulfilling existence. I believe we all have an innate ability to live a life of purpose. I am simply a guide to support you in arriving there. You will learn to communicate effectively and create a balanced life through shifting your engrained responses related to your experiences of trauma, relationships and biological aspects.
(707) 238-7159 View (707) 238-7159
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Barbara Gabriel
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
Windsor, CA 95492
I am dedicated to helping people identify and work through symptoms, problems, and obstacles to true health and vitality in personal and professional relationships. I have over thirty years experience working as a therapist, teacher, consultant, coach. I am Certified as an EFT Therapist for couple's and individuals (ICEEFT.com). I am also a Certified EFT Supervisor. Currently I am helping several therapists become certified in EFT for Couples via Zoom or in person. I am Certified in Coherence Therapy (CoherenceTherapy.com). I am Certified and a trainer in Emotional Brain Training. (EBTconnect.net) www.LoveandMarriageWorks.com
I am dedicated to helping people identify and work through symptoms, problems, and obstacles to true health and vitality in personal and professional relationships. I have over thirty years experience working as a therapist, teacher, consultant, coach. I am Certified as an EFT Therapist for couple's and individuals (ICEEFT.com). I am also a Certified EFT Supervisor. Currently I am helping several therapists become certified in EFT for Couples via Zoom or in person. I am Certified in Coherence Therapy (CoherenceTherapy.com). I am Certified and a trainer in Emotional Brain Training. (EBTconnect.net) www.LoveandMarriageWorks.com
(707) 418-8978 View (707) 418-8978
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Sonoma County Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapist
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
WE WELCOME MEDI-CAL (through Partnership Health Plan of California).
Sonoma County Counseling provides exceptional personalized counseling services for clients of all ages. Sonoma County Counseling was founded with an eye on providing supportive cutting edge therapeutic counseling services to individuals and families, in a professional, welcoming, mindful, inclusive, and enriched environment. We welcome individuals, couples, and families. Sonoma County Counseling specializes in child therapy services that help children (ages 3 - 12), teenagers, and families, as well as adults who are living with acute or chronic mental health challenges.
WE WELCOME MEDI-CAL (through Partnership Health Plan of California).
Sonoma County Counseling provides exceptional personalized counseling services for clients of all ages. Sonoma County Counseling was founded with an eye on providing supportive cutting edge therapeutic counseling services to individuals and families, in a professional, welcoming, mindful, inclusive, and enriched environment. We welcome individuals, couples, and families. Sonoma County Counseling specializes in child therapy services that help children (ages 3 - 12), teenagers, and families, as well as adults who are living with acute or chronic mental health challenges.
(707) 993-4474 View (707) 993-4474
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Tim Stein
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CSAT-S, CCPS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
Willow Tree Counseling’s therapists are trained in sex addiction and betrayal partner trauma.
Sex addiction impacts the addict and their partner. Sex addicts may experience preoccupation with sexual thoughts, hide sexual behaviors or activity from others, have sought help for problematic sexual behaviors, feel controlled by their sexual desire, feel depressed after sexual behavior, or notice others have suffered due to their sexual behavior? Partners of sex addicts may experience shock, intense anger, fear, and/or pain about their partner’s sexual behaviors, experience unexpected drops in sexual interest, feel like they are on an emotional roller coaster, or notice that past trauma keeps coming back and impacting them.
Willow Tree Counseling’s therapists are trained in sex addiction and betrayal partner trauma.
Sex addiction impacts the addict and their partner. Sex addicts may experience preoccupation with sexual thoughts, hide sexual behaviors or activity from others, have sought help for problematic sexual behaviors, feel controlled by their sexual desire, feel depressed after sexual behavior, or notice others have suffered due to their sexual behavior? Partners of sex addicts may experience shock, intense anger, fear, and/or pain about their partner’s sexual behaviors, experience unexpected drops in sexual interest, feel like they are on an emotional roller coaster, or notice that past trauma keeps coming back and impacting them.
(707) 200-2332 View (707) 200-2332
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Alicia Wolf
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
I specialize in working with couples, teenagers, and individual adults.
As an uncritical witness to my clients’ lives, I offer the necessary support, reflection and guidance for clients to access the parts within themselves that are needed for change. Having someone truly witness your life can mean the difference between just feeling bogged down and stuck, and actually experiencing growth and seeing change take place in your life. I have been providing psychotherapy to teens, adults, couples and families for 25 years, and in private practice for the last 15 years. And, in that time, I have seen the collaboration between therapist and client create remarkable change.
I specialize in working with couples, teenagers, and individual adults.
As an uncritical witness to my clients’ lives, I offer the necessary support, reflection and guidance for clients to access the parts within themselves that are needed for change. Having someone truly witness your life can mean the difference between just feeling bogged down and stuck, and actually experiencing growth and seeing change take place in your life. I have been providing psychotherapy to teens, adults, couples and families for 25 years, and in private practice for the last 15 years. And, in that time, I have seen the collaboration between therapist and client create remarkable change.
(707) 385-8771 View (707) 385-8771
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Barbara Young
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
Windsor, CA 95492
I work with individuals, couples, and families, ages ranging from high school through elder years. I welcome clients who are struggling with their daily lives, unsure what changes to make to feel an improvement in their mental health. They might face trauma, grief or loss, anxiety, or even relationship issues that keep them from feeling like they’re at their best. Couples who would like to improve their communication patterns or resolve difficult conflicts also work well in my practice, as do people who experience low self-esteem or excessive worry.
I work with individuals, couples, and families, ages ranging from high school through elder years. I welcome clients who are struggling with their daily lives, unsure what changes to make to feel an improvement in their mental health. They might face trauma, grief or loss, anxiety, or even relationship issues that keep them from feeling like they’re at their best. Couples who would like to improve their communication patterns or resolve difficult conflicts also work well in my practice, as do people who experience low self-esteem or excessive worry.
(707) 998-5838 View (707) 998-5838
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Eric Ryan
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
Anxious? Depressed? Stuck? Relationship Problems? Loss of life meaning, purpose or direction? Welcome to my practice! In looking to address important problems, you are taking a crucial step. Finding the right therapist is essential. I am a certified Jungian Analyst and trained psychologist. If you have questions, call for a 15 minute phone consultation at no charge. I am here to help! In a confidential, caring and supportive environment, I aim to restore the whole person to health - mind, body, and spirit.
Anxious? Depressed? Stuck? Relationship Problems? Loss of life meaning, purpose or direction? Welcome to my practice! In looking to address important problems, you are taking a crucial step. Finding the right therapist is essential. I am a certified Jungian Analyst and trained psychologist. If you have questions, call for a 15 minute phone consultation at no charge. I am here to help! In a confidential, caring and supportive environment, I aim to restore the whole person to health - mind, body, and spirit.
(707) 901-7918 View (707) 901-7918
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Christy Lynn Shea
Marriage & Family Therapist
Verified Verified
Windsor, CA 95492
I teach individuals & couples, what research has shown, to create healthy, strong relationships.
Hello. I invite you to take a look at my website to get more information about the work that I offer. Life is hard. You do not need to navigate it alone! I offer a straight forward, research based approach to dealing with life and relationship struggles. Sometimes we just need a little extra support. Reaching out takes courage! Good for you. :)
I teach individuals & couples, what research has shown, to create healthy, strong relationships.
Hello. I invite you to take a look at my website to get more information about the work that I offer. Life is hard. You do not need to navigate it alone! I offer a straight forward, research based approach to dealing with life and relationship struggles. Sometimes we just need a little extra support. Reaching out takes courage! Good for you. :)
(707) 986-8965 View (707) 986-8965
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Bridges to Understanding Family Therapy Services
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, RPT-S
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
Children, Families, Adults, no matter what path you took, you are welcome here. We are a group practice in Healdsburg, offering individual, group, couples, and parenting services, niche focused in play therapy and neurodiverse-affirming care. Our team provides comprehensive care to support the emotional health & well-being of clients of all ages. Searching for help can be a difficult task, & finding someone whom you feel comfortable with can be even harder. We offer a safe place, listening ear, & confidential atmosphere. We guide you through healing from the past, grounding in present, & setting goals for the future.
Children, Families, Adults, no matter what path you took, you are welcome here. We are a group practice in Healdsburg, offering individual, group, couples, and parenting services, niche focused in play therapy and neurodiverse-affirming care. Our team provides comprehensive care to support the emotional health & well-being of clients of all ages. Searching for help can be a difficult task, & finding someone whom you feel comfortable with can be even harder. We offer a safe place, listening ear, & confidential atmosphere. We guide you through healing from the past, grounding in present, & setting goals for the future.
(707) 395-7550 View (707) 395-7550
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Kevin Russell
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Windsor, CA 95492
I work with couples.
I see my work as that of a consultant to your life situation. The primary task is to understand how our emotions, & the emotions of those we love & interact with, informs the quality of our relational life. In other words, to gain greater emotional intelligence. And what does that mean? To gain a greater understanding of ourselves, & those we love, by learning about inner life and how best to express what we feel, need and want from each other. Better communication makes for better partnering, parenting & family membership.
I work with couples.
I see my work as that of a consultant to your life situation. The primary task is to understand how our emotions, & the emotions of those we love & interact with, informs the quality of our relational life. In other words, to gain greater emotional intelligence. And what does that mean? To gain a greater understanding of ourselves, & those we love, by learning about inner life and how best to express what we feel, need and want from each other. Better communication makes for better partnering, parenting & family membership.
(707) 820-7905 View (707) 820-7905
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Diana Mendelson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
Windsor, CA 95492  (Online Only)
I enjoy working with individuals, couples and familes, and I bring warmth, honesty and over 20 years of experience to our time together.
Who stole the road sign to a happy life? Have you tried everything to make things better, but nothing is working? If a good life is eluding you, let's talk. We'll look at what is getting in your way and--as we discover your strengths--map out a plan that works for you. You can expect to feel understood, supported, and gently challenged to make shifts that move you forward. Whether your focus is on strengthening your relationships, navigating difficult life transitions, or "unsticking" yourself from depression, anxiety, or trauma, our work together will empower you and help you to make wise choices.
I enjoy working with individuals, couples and familes, and I bring warmth, honesty and over 20 years of experience to our time together.
Who stole the road sign to a happy life? Have you tried everything to make things better, but nothing is working? If a good life is eluding you, let's talk. We'll look at what is getting in your way and--as we discover your strengths--map out a plan that works for you. You can expect to feel understood, supported, and gently challenged to make shifts that move you forward. Whether your focus is on strengthening your relationships, navigating difficult life transitions, or "unsticking" yourself from depression, anxiety, or trauma, our work together will empower you and help you to make wise choices.
(707) 595-9316 View (707) 595-9316
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Couples Counseling Therapists

Does couples counseling work?

Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.

When should a couple seek counseling?

Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.

How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?

The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.

How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?

The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.