Emotionally Focused Therapists in Venice, CA

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Daniela Schoenberg
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
Whether you’re aiming to face your traumas head-on, reignite the spark with your partner, or you simply want a space to self-reflect, you’ve come to the right place. I specialize in working with individuals and couples struggling with their relationships and a variety of mental health issues. Whether it be anxiety, depression, stress, codependency, grief, self-esteem issues, as well as sexual trauma, I am here to help you with your personal growth and can be a catalyst for self-improvement.
Whether you’re aiming to face your traumas head-on, reignite the spark with your partner, or you simply want a space to self-reflect, you’ve come to the right place. I specialize in working with individuals and couples struggling with their relationships and a variety of mental health issues. Whether it be anxiety, depression, stress, codependency, grief, self-esteem issues, as well as sexual trauma, I am here to help you with your personal growth and can be a catalyst for self-improvement.
(424) 328-6470 View (424) 328-6470
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Ciuin Doherty
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
I also practice Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) which is another evidence-based modality.
My approach is holistic, incorporating mind, body and soul. As a therapist, I'm totally committed to your growth. I don't simply sit back and listen. Rather, I'm on the journey with you, as a companion, witness and guide, holding a safe container in which your healing can unfold. I see therapy as a lively creative process that accesses the wisdom of your body and the power of your imagination to put you back in the driving seat of your life.
I also practice Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) which is another evidence-based modality.
My approach is holistic, incorporating mind, body and soul. As a therapist, I'm totally committed to your growth. I don't simply sit back and listen. Rather, I'm on the journey with you, as a companion, witness and guide, holding a safe container in which your healing can unfold. I see therapy as a lively creative process that accesses the wisdom of your body and the power of your imagination to put you back in the driving seat of your life.
(310) 504-3226 View (310) 504-3226
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Abigail Crispin
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291
With a background in community mental health and dual diagnosis treatment, I have received extensive instruction in psychodynamic therapy, EMDR, and EFT.
Meeting clients with warmth and curiosity, I work with individuals and couples seeking to break out of patterns that are no longer serving them. My collaborative approach acknowledges the unique context of the individual by tailoring treatment to specific needs. Experienced in helping clients navigate depression, anxiety, trauma, and substance abuse, I leverage client strengths while integrating mindfulness and somatic experiencing to improve coping and overall quality of life.
With a background in community mental health and dual diagnosis treatment, I have received extensive instruction in psychodynamic therapy, EMDR, and EFT.
Meeting clients with warmth and curiosity, I work with individuals and couples seeking to break out of patterns that are no longer serving them. My collaborative approach acknowledges the unique context of the individual by tailoring treatment to specific needs. Experienced in helping clients navigate depression, anxiety, trauma, and substance abuse, I leverage client strengths while integrating mindfulness and somatic experiencing to improve coping and overall quality of life.
(424) 622-8982 View (424) 622-8982
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Lindsay Garvey
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291  (Online Only)
As a therapist, I call upon a variety of practices to nurture each individual’s or couple’s personal process. With a background in movement, music, art and drama, I approach therapy as a creative pursuit rooted in clinical analysis. I have a trauma-informed approach, allowing space for the many layers of stress that our culture can bring about in an individual or within a couple. I draw on traditional psychodynamic, Gestalt, Emotionally Focused Couples therapy, and relational methodologies, while incorporating eastern philosophies, symbolism, somatics, and creative or spiritual practices.
As a therapist, I call upon a variety of practices to nurture each individual’s or couple’s personal process. With a background in movement, music, art and drama, I approach therapy as a creative pursuit rooted in clinical analysis. I have a trauma-informed approach, allowing space for the many layers of stress that our culture can bring about in an individual or within a couple. I draw on traditional psychodynamic, Gestalt, Emotionally Focused Couples therapy, and relational methodologies, while incorporating eastern philosophies, symbolism, somatics, and creative or spiritual practices.
(424) 499-4906 View (424) 499-4906
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Valerie Yarema
Pre-Licensed Professional, ACSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90292
I weave together modalities like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory, Play Therapy, and mindfulness to address the unique needs of each person.
I believe growth happens best in the context of supportive relationships. Consequently, my style is dedicated to fostering trust and rapport between us, establishing a therapeutic space where you can cultivate self-acceptance and self-compassion. My approach to therapy is nurturing, warm, and open, and my aim is to guide you towards discovering more moments of joy, hope, and peace in your everyday life. In our collaborative journey, we will reflect together, explore patterns, and unearth core beliefs. I use a strengths-based approach, building upon the strengths you already possess.
I weave together modalities like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory, Play Therapy, and mindfulness to address the unique needs of each person.
I believe growth happens best in the context of supportive relationships. Consequently, my style is dedicated to fostering trust and rapport between us, establishing a therapeutic space where you can cultivate self-acceptance and self-compassion. My approach to therapy is nurturing, warm, and open, and my aim is to guide you towards discovering more moments of joy, hope, and peace in your everyday life. In our collaborative journey, we will reflect together, explore patterns, and unearth core beliefs. I use a strengths-based approach, building upon the strengths you already possess.
(424) 544-8897 View (424) 544-8897
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Libby Muney
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT, JD
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method—two direct, evidence-based approaches.
I work with individuals and couples. With my background in law and my passion for mental health, I help lawyers and busy professionals navigate relationship issues, overcome burnout, and tackle work-related stress head-on. Maybe it’s the pressure-cooker environment at work, where deadlines loom like storm clouds. Or perhaps it’s the all-too-familiar dance of miscommunication and misunderstandings in your relationship, leaving you both feeling like you're stuck in a tango with two left feet. I can help you tap into your inner strength, set boundaries, and confidently navigate life’s twists and turns.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method—two direct, evidence-based approaches.
I work with individuals and couples. With my background in law and my passion for mental health, I help lawyers and busy professionals navigate relationship issues, overcome burnout, and tackle work-related stress head-on. Maybe it’s the pressure-cooker environment at work, where deadlines loom like storm clouds. Or perhaps it’s the all-too-familiar dance of miscommunication and misunderstandings in your relationship, leaving you both feeling like you're stuck in a tango with two left feet. I can help you tap into your inner strength, set boundaries, and confidently navigate life’s twists and turns.
(310) 742-0650 View (310) 742-0650
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Isabella Rose Alonzo-Gatti
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, PhD(c), AMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
I'm an EFT, IFS, and EMR Therapist, blending my therapeutic training with personalized care by tailoring sessions that address your unique needs.
Has your relationship flatlined? Do you often wonder, “When did the thrill vanish?” or “Why is World War 3 happening in my living room?” Is your partner dismissive, cold, or indifferent? Maybe intimacy has become a distant memory. Is sex even still on the table? Perhaps you’re terrified that the best has come and gone. The fixes you’ve tried have turned into a cycle of rejection, resentment, and amplified hurt. You’ve probably started seeing or looking for the spark from someone else.
I'm an EFT, IFS, and EMR Therapist, blending my therapeutic training with personalized care by tailoring sessions that address your unique needs.
Has your relationship flatlined? Do you often wonder, “When did the thrill vanish?” or “Why is World War 3 happening in my living room?” Is your partner dismissive, cold, or indifferent? Maybe intimacy has become a distant memory. Is sex even still on the table? Perhaps you’re terrified that the best has come and gone. The fixes you’ve tried have turned into a cycle of rejection, resentment, and amplified hurt. You’ve probably started seeing or looking for the spark from someone else.
(310) 561-1431 View (310) 561-1431
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Mariya Mykhaylova
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
My approach integrates psychodynamic theory/depth therapy, attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), The Gottman Method, narrative therapy, and mindfulness.
The people who come to me are curious to get to know themselves in a deeper way. I support my clients with improving connection and managing conflict in their relationships, embracing authenticity, mitigating perfectionism, setting healthy boundaries, interrupting unhelpful patterns, mindfully reducing anxiety, and healing from trauma. Together, we can work toward both short-term and long-term change.
My approach integrates psychodynamic theory/depth therapy, attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), The Gottman Method, narrative therapy, and mindfulness.
The people who come to me are curious to get to know themselves in a deeper way. I support my clients with improving connection and managing conflict in their relationships, embracing authenticity, mitigating perfectionism, setting healthy boundaries, interrupting unhelpful patterns, mindfully reducing anxiety, and healing from trauma. Together, we can work toward both short-term and long-term change.
(415) 527-3458 View (415) 527-3458
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Danielle Birrittella
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA, MFA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
My role as a psychotherapist is to accompany people on their courageous journeys of healing, discovery, and self-expression. I enjoy working with individuals who are curious and inspired to take their inner work seriously. I believe that the narratives we tell about ourselves hold tremendous power and that, through our work together, we can become more conscious of how these stories shape our lives in order to find opportunities for new understanding and meaning making. As a depth psychotherapist, I have reverence for the wisdom of psyche, the unconscious, to help guide us to explore parts of ourselves in order to become more whole.
My role as a psychotherapist is to accompany people on their courageous journeys of healing, discovery, and self-expression. I enjoy working with individuals who are curious and inspired to take their inner work seriously. I believe that the narratives we tell about ourselves hold tremendous power and that, through our work together, we can become more conscious of how these stories shape our lives in order to find opportunities for new understanding and meaning making. As a depth psychotherapist, I have reverence for the wisdom of psyche, the unconscious, to help guide us to explore parts of ourselves in order to become more whole.
(424) 233-1239 View (424) 233-1239
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Judith Bin-Nun
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT, LPCC, MAPsych, MA Ed
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
My website www.drjudybin-nun describes my practice and offers endorsements and photos of art-maker therapy and Animal Assisted Therapy. I offer a warm,supportive and creative approach to individual growth and having faith to live in the present tense. I have worked with children and teens my entire life and offer parent guidance and family sessions. I treat individuals and couples as well. Working from a place of warmth and dedication, I help my patient to leave behind self limiting beliefs and learn positivity to enhance growth.
My website www.drjudybin-nun describes my practice and offers endorsements and photos of art-maker therapy and Animal Assisted Therapy. I offer a warm,supportive and creative approach to individual growth and having faith to live in the present tense. I have worked with children and teens my entire life and offer parent guidance and family sessions. I treat individuals and couples as well. Working from a place of warmth and dedication, I help my patient to leave behind self limiting beliefs and learn positivity to enhance growth.
(310) 301-9992 View (310) 301-9992
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Eric E Paulson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90294
Eric Paulson is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and EMDR practitioner located in Venice/Santa Monica, CA. For over 25 years, Eric has immersed himself in the helping profession exploring both traditional and non-traditional approaches to healing. Throughout his career, he has worked with adolescents, adults, couples, families and groups in the treatment of attachment and developmental trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, dissociative disorders, spiritual emergencies, and psychedelic experience preparation and integration.
Eric Paulson is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and EMDR practitioner located in Venice/Santa Monica, CA. For over 25 years, Eric has immersed himself in the helping profession exploring both traditional and non-traditional approaches to healing. Throughout his career, he has worked with adolescents, adults, couples, families and groups in the treatment of attachment and developmental trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, dissociative disorders, spiritual emergencies, and psychedelic experience preparation and integration.
(424) 334-6852 View (424) 334-6852
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Erica Nabatkhorian
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT, APCC
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
Life is filled with inevitable change–some of which is more manageable than others. Youth, especially, undergo rapid transitions – in the development of the mind and body, within relationships, and with their emotions, identity, attitudes, and beliefs. Navigating these transitions on their own can be overwhelming, leading to incongruent living and problematic behaviors including withdrawing from peers or family, exhibiting defiance, or struggling at school. Children and adolescents also struggle with self-confidence leading to excessive worrying about the opinions of others, increased dysregulation, and a lack of calm and composure.
Life is filled with inevitable change–some of which is more manageable than others. Youth, especially, undergo rapid transitions – in the development of the mind and body, within relationships, and with their emotions, identity, attitudes, and beliefs. Navigating these transitions on their own can be overwhelming, leading to incongruent living and problematic behaviors including withdrawing from peers or family, exhibiting defiance, or struggling at school. Children and adolescents also struggle with self-confidence leading to excessive worrying about the opinions of others, increased dysregulation, and a lack of calm and composure.
(818) 812-5878 View (818) 812-5878
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Caron Post
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291
The work you can expect that we will engage in together is based on the healing power of a safe and confidential therapeutic relationship, a dynamic interaction between two people in which exploring and understanding your internal and interpersonal landscapes in the here and the now, can help you release old pain and negative patterns. The goals of this work are to come to know yourself more deeply; to live with more compassion, connectedness, satisfaction, joy and freedom. AN integrated one, primarily influenced by attachment theory, contemporary relational psychoanalysis, emotional regulation, mind-body integration, mindfulness.
The work you can expect that we will engage in together is based on the healing power of a safe and confidential therapeutic relationship, a dynamic interaction between two people in which exploring and understanding your internal and interpersonal landscapes in the here and the now, can help you release old pain and negative patterns. The goals of this work are to come to know yourself more deeply; to live with more compassion, connectedness, satisfaction, joy and freedom. AN integrated one, primarily influenced by attachment theory, contemporary relational psychoanalysis, emotional regulation, mind-body integration, mindfulness.
(424) 488-0909 View (424) 488-0909
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Hyim J Ross
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291
Struggling with emotion disregulation? Anxious or depressed? Self medicating? You will have to create new patterns of behavior and thought to deal with the old destructive behaviors and thoughts. Self-compassion through self awareness. I can help you thrive and cultivate emotional sobriety. I work with adults and adolescents who struggle with emotional disregulation and/or dealing with addiction-be that drugs, alcohol, sex, gaming, smart phones, intensity, pills, marijuana, etc. With over a decade of experience in helping people, you will learn skills to deal with your challenges as well as address the roots of your suffering.
Struggling with emotion disregulation? Anxious or depressed? Self medicating? You will have to create new patterns of behavior and thought to deal with the old destructive behaviors and thoughts. Self-compassion through self awareness. I can help you thrive and cultivate emotional sobriety. I work with adults and adolescents who struggle with emotional disregulation and/or dealing with addiction-be that drugs, alcohol, sex, gaming, smart phones, intensity, pills, marijuana, etc. With over a decade of experience in helping people, you will learn skills to deal with your challenges as well as address the roots of your suffering.
(510) 491-9284 View (510) 491-9284
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Michele LoBosco - Somatic And Ifs Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
I would love to support you on your healing journey. Whether you are suffering with chronic depression or anxiety, seeking to release long held trauma, or looking to heal attachment wounds so you can experience deeper intimacy and authenticity in your relationships, I would be honored to walk with you on your path. Whatever your struggles may be, I will offer you a safe space to deeply self-attune, to explore all parts of yourself, and carve out new ways of being and interacting with the circumstances and people in your life. I am also accepting adult clients for Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy in Los Angeles, California.
I would love to support you on your healing journey. Whether you are suffering with chronic depression or anxiety, seeking to release long held trauma, or looking to heal attachment wounds so you can experience deeper intimacy and authenticity in your relationships, I would be honored to walk with you on your path. Whatever your struggles may be, I will offer you a safe space to deeply self-attune, to explore all parts of yourself, and carve out new ways of being and interacting with the circumstances and people in your life. I am also accepting adult clients for Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy in Los Angeles, California.
(310) 928-2369 View (310) 928-2369
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Liam Kalin McAuliffe
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MTS, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
Are you looking for an embodied, creative, collaborative, and deeply transformative approach to navigating your life's challenges? My clients are soulful individuals and couples who are serious about healing the root causes of pain and conflict. This journey means connecting with the deep wisdom of your psyche and becoming more courageous, vulnerable, empathic, and accountable in all areas of your life. Many of my clients describe themselves as people for whom talk therapy "hit a wall," and who are looking for a therapist who can help integrate the spiritual process of "waking up" with the emotional process of "growing up."
Are you looking for an embodied, creative, collaborative, and deeply transformative approach to navigating your life's challenges? My clients are soulful individuals and couples who are serious about healing the root causes of pain and conflict. This journey means connecting with the deep wisdom of your psyche and becoming more courageous, vulnerable, empathic, and accountable in all areas of your life. Many of my clients describe themselves as people for whom talk therapy "hit a wall," and who are looking for a therapist who can help integrate the spiritual process of "waking up" with the emotional process of "growing up."
(424) 577-5634 View (424) 577-5634
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Dr. Shannon Magnis - Group Therapy
Psychologist, PhD, CGP
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291
I have 20 years experience helping individuals, couples and groups find deeper meaning, satisfaction and inspiration in their unique experience of life. Individuals are often led to therapy by symptoms - anxiety, depression, panic attacks, failed relationships, compulsions and addictions, phobias, post-traumatic reactions and self-destructive behavior. Although symptoms can seem random and be destructive, they are important messengers guiding us toward introspection and growth. In psychotherapy we discover what lies beneath the surface of symptoms; we uncover that which has previously been unconscious.
I have 20 years experience helping individuals, couples and groups find deeper meaning, satisfaction and inspiration in their unique experience of life. Individuals are often led to therapy by symptoms - anxiety, depression, panic attacks, failed relationships, compulsions and addictions, phobias, post-traumatic reactions and self-destructive behavior. Although symptoms can seem random and be destructive, they are important messengers guiding us toward introspection and growth. In psychotherapy we discover what lies beneath the surface of symptoms; we uncover that which has previously been unconscious.
(310) 340-0978 View (310) 340-0978
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Saman Khazani
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Venice, CA 90291
We are in uncertain times, and I understand how intense and traumatic this can be for you. Each of us are personally grieving, as well as grieving for humanity in some sense. I work with humans of all ages, including young children, which holds a special place in his heart (I work with Individuals, couples, and families as a whole) I am curious to learn more about what hurts, where you feel stuck, and create a safe space for you to process and grow from these experiences. Please keep reading to get a better understanding of how I work with you.
We are in uncertain times, and I understand how intense and traumatic this can be for you. Each of us are personally grieving, as well as grieving for humanity in some sense. I work with humans of all ages, including young children, which holds a special place in his heart (I work with Individuals, couples, and families as a whole) I am curious to learn more about what hurts, where you feel stuck, and create a safe space for you to process and grow from these experiences. Please keep reading to get a better understanding of how I work with you.
(424) 321-6872 View (424) 321-6872
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Cynthia Fox
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291
Specializing in burnout, self-esteem, and life transitions, I offer individualized care to support your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. With a focus on holistic healing, my approach combines evidence-based techniques with a deep understanding of the mind-body-spirit connection. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, struggling with self-esteem issues, or navigating significant life changes, I'm here to provide guidance, support, and tools for personal growth. Step into a nurturing environment where you can explore your challenges, gain clarity, and cultivate resilience.
Specializing in burnout, self-esteem, and life transitions, I offer individualized care to support your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. With a focus on holistic healing, my approach combines evidence-based techniques with a deep understanding of the mind-body-spirit connection. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, struggling with self-esteem issues, or navigating significant life changes, I'm here to provide guidance, support, and tools for personal growth. Step into a nurturing environment where you can explore your challenges, gain clarity, and cultivate resilience.
(424) 655-3295 View (424) 655-3295
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Erin Falconer
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Venice, CA 90291
‘It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.’ - e. e. cummings Whether you are routed in a past of trauma or pain, stuck in a present with no sense of meaning or motivation, or anxious about an uncertain future, often it is easier to stay in the security - or what’s known - of the pain or mediocrity, than face the uncertainty or fear of the unknown of change, despite it’s infinite possibilities for a better life. That you are here, bravely scratching that curiosity, deserves recognition.
‘It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.’ - e. e. cummings Whether you are routed in a past of trauma or pain, stuck in a present with no sense of meaning or motivation, or anxious about an uncertain future, often it is easier to stay in the security - or what’s known - of the pain or mediocrity, than face the uncertainty or fear of the unknown of change, despite it’s infinite possibilities for a better life. That you are here, bravely scratching that curiosity, deserves recognition.
(424) 500-3309 View (424) 500-3309
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.