Emotionally Focused Therapists in Santa Barbara, CA

As a bilingual and bicultural licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), I provide teletherapy services aimed at strengthening family relationships and overcoming emotional and behavioral challenges. I follow attachment-based and somatic-based approaches to give individuals, couples, families and children developmentally appropriate and effective healing interventions to teach, support and treat a wide range of mental health difficulties. I recently hired 3 wonderful Associate Marriage and Family Therapists and Associate Clinical Socila Workers.

Do you feel life is restricting you from who you really want to be for yourself, your partner and/or your family? My primary goal in therapy is to help enhance your ability to make choices. Our ability to notice our cycles of interaction in our relationships can help us build trust in ourselves and enhance our commitments to ourselves and our loved ones. This, in turn, allows our choices to become "building blocks" toward lasting joy for each relationship creation of our choice.

Your relationship is really important, but, because of communication breakdowns and tension you have started to question whether staying is right. You want to get clarity on what is going on so that you find a way back to feeling trust, safety, empathy, and passion. You have the sense that you could work through it together if only there was the chance of really being heard and understood by your partner. Through therapy you gain clarity and insight on your own (and your partners) needs, boundaries, and values. Therapy is effective for couples, families, business partners, and teams.

If you are having problems in your primary relationship you are probably feeling a bit lonely and misunderstood. I believe that each of us need love and close intimate relationships to reach our highest evolution as a human being. I create a safe, loving environment for individuals or couples to do their work to reach their highest potential. My focus is on helping you experience your feelings, physical sensations, thoughts and images, in the moment. As you claim new parts to yourself, you gradually come to accept and love a fuller and more actualized self and a deeper relationship with your loved ones.

Let’s work together to move your life forward. There are things that get in the way of living a full and happy life. These obstacles often come from things in our past, current relationship challenges or other circumstances that seem to be out of our control. Therapy can help people deal with these issues and can be your first step towards a happier and more fulfilling life. I bring compassion, understanding and hope to my therapeutic work. I truly listen to your concerns and understand the issues that you are trying to resolve. I seek to develop a therapeutic approach that meets your unique needs.

Today you are one step closer to a new you, where you feel encouraged and strengthened as you make your way on a positive path to growth and well-being. I focus on counseling and therapies that produce long-term health by helping clients identify and resolve the emotional, mental, spiritual, relational, and physical root causes of the pain in their lives, while attending to their immediate concerns. It is my hope that we create a safe environment for honest sharing to gain perspective and growth.

Whether you are stuck in self-defeating patterns, struggling with stress, anxiety or depression, or having difficulty getting your needs met in your relationships, I am ready to listen and give you the tools you need to make meaningful changes and live a more peaceful, joyful, and satisfying life.

Are you and your partner fighting more? Do you feel distant and disconnected, lonely and truly concerned about the state of your partnership? Has infidelity got you feeling angry, depressed or anxious and is this getting in the way of your daily life, depriving you of any joy and happiness? It's time to reach out and get some professional help because trying to figure out these kinds of difficulties can be a daunting task when undertaken alone or when trying to clear out the cobwebs that make resolving partnership issues feel insurmountable. Get the help you need...now!

I work with adolescents (12-17), young adults (18-25), and families facing anxiety, depression, trauma, substance use, and relationship challenges. We can feel motivated to take those first steps toward healing but struggle to maintain progress. Trauma and challenging life events can leave our inner resources and authenticity untouched, discouraging our growth. 'I'm aware of my patterns and habits, what's next? Are there actual skills that can help me with this?'. Together, we'll answer this question and build a treatment plan that matches your unique vision for change.

Jack May's ideal client faces challenges like sex addiction, financial disorders, anger management, or relationship struggles, including couples work. They feel overwhelmed and seek a non-judgmental space to explore their difficulties. They need compassionate guidance and accountability to break unhealthy patterns, manage emotions, and improve relationships. Their goals include gaining control, achieving financial stability, and fostering deeper connections. Driven by a desire for growth, they seek a fulfilling, balanced life.

Do you want to be happier, more satisfied, or feel better? As a therapist with over 25 years experience, I have supported clients in healing through change and personal growth. I offer a safe, confidential environment to explore emotional patterns that may be preventing clients from living up to their fullest potential. CERTIFIED FIRST RESPONDER COUNSELOR-Critical Incident Stress Management (CISM). CERTIFIED GOTTMAN COUPLES THERAPIST. Experienced Rover Therapist at the Art & Science of Love Workshops facilitated by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. COMPREHENSIVE COUPLES ASSESSMENTS - ONLINE THERAPY AVAILABLE.

Do you feel distant and disconnected from your partner? Have you been fighting more? Is your relationship missing warmth, trust, compassion, and intimacy? Are you getting stuck in the same frustrating pattern? Do you long to find and establish a loving relationship and secure connection? Have you been anxious, sad, and overwhelmed a lot lately? If you answered yes to these questions it's time to get help. Life brings us many challenges that are sometimes too much to handle alone. You don't have to struggle on your own. Get the help you need to overcome these difficulties and turn them into opportunities for healing and happiness.

Therapy is not something I "do" to you; it is a collaboration and conversation we have together. I look forward to walking beside you as you access a place within that feels more like home. There is no one way to move toward healing. I use an emotionally-focused (EFT), humanistic and somatic understanding while keeping the very human need for attachment and relationship at the heart of our work together. Many clients feel and notice a shift toward increased authenticity, flow, ease and joy in their lives after working together. (Now accepting COUPLES).

Welcome! As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I am committed to supporting individuals and couples on their journey towards healing, growth, and fulfillment. My practice is dedicated to the idea that the human spirit prevails in the midst of our deepest sufferings. As human beings, we all possess the innate capacity, courage, and wisdom to overcome adversities in life. With a compassionate and nonjudgmental approach, I provide a safe space for clients to realize their own potentials and empower them to prevail over obstacles, cultivate resilience, and live authentically.

Personal counseling can be very helpful during a challenging season of life. I offer the opportunity to bring fresh insight and clarity into your situation in a way that is often difficult to achieve on your own. My counseling model draws from some excellent and highly regarded systems of therapy. In addition to a fundamental base in Cognitive Therapy concepts, I am an EMDR Therapist (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, and am trained and experienced in Trauma Recovery. I also practice Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT).

I am a warm & interactive systemic therapist who is interested in your heart & soul, focusing on strengths in an atmosphere of mutual respect & discovery. I join you or your family in a collaborative journey to explore barriers to change, discover inner resources, develop coping skills, reduce stress & experience authentic communication with the people closest in your life. My integrative and evidence-based approach aims to reduce stress, heal trauma & include family systems interventions to break through to greater purpose and joy.

Welcome. I have a passion for helping people connect to deeper parts of themselves and access their innate ability to shift, heal and grow. I create a safe, curious, collaborative and compassionate space. In working with clients my approach is to be a skilled and kind mirror and facilitator of change. I believe being in therapy takes courage. I would be honored to walk beside you on your journey. My hope is that we can work together to support you in being your best self.

Conflict is a part of every vital relationship. If you are suffering in your relationship, it’s not because you have differences. In most cases, it’s because the way couples automatically protect themselves from being hurt - with silence, defensiveness or harsh words – builds walls between them, in an escalating cycle of frustration and misunderstanding. When even your best efforts at reconnecting just seem to exacerbate your mutual feelings of disconnection, it may be time to shine a healing light on these interactions and the hurt places that fuel them. This is the path of Emotionally Focused Therapy.

I am a California, Arizona & Iowa licensed marriage and family therapist (CA 86294, AZ 15639, IA: 126195). I specialize in working with couples & individuals navigating life-altering medical conditions; women overwhelmed in the face of work, family & personal pressure; and couples struggling to create or restore fulfilling connection.