Divorce Therapists in Santa Barbara, CA

Do you ever ask yourself, "Why do I keep doing the same things but expect different outcomes?" Or "Do I look at the world differently than all my family and friends?" Life can feel stressful, overwhelming, and out of control at times. I try to help life feel a little bit more manageable and work through issues at your own pace. Psychotherapy is about an exploration of self and the world around you. As a psychotherapist, I am here to provide guidance through this exploration in a safe place and to improve interaction with those you love.

Peacemaker, grief tender & founder of Cooperative Co-parenting Solutions and TwoCan Retreats, as well as Santa Barbara Regional Director for the Waves of Grief Collective. I assist individuals, couples and families going through major life transitions, specializing in divorce, co-parenting and blended families as well as trauma, grief and loss. If you need help resolving conflict, improving communication or learning how to create healthy boundaries, I can help. I also provide compassionate support for grievers and empower clients to heal old wounds and trauma using mindfulness, self-compassion and EMDR therapy.

-- I Provide Telephone Therapy & Videoconference Sessions -- I work best with motivated adults who are committed to working on clearly identified psychological and relationship problems. My clients have tried to solve issues on their own but eventually recognize a need for professional assistance. They realize that therapists have no magical quick cures and that treatment takes courage, persistence and risk-taking. My clients learn that seeking help is a strength, not a weakness. They develop trust in the therapeutic relationship and make lasting gains. I honor each one.

My primary focus in therapy is on the problems that develop in intimate relationships. In today's world the interactions within the couple relationship are impacted by rapidly changing societal patterns and many conflicting demands and pressures. Partners also bring their own family and psychological histories that cause problems in relating that are often subtle and confusing. I use a non-judgmental, compassionate approach to help intimate partners, married, considering marriage, or contemplating separation or divorce, work through their problems and find a path forward to the happiest present, and future possible.

All are welcome here! In my office I serve a diverse range of individuals and couples moving through life transitions, anxiety, grief, uncertainty, divorce, infidelity, anger, disappointment... the list goes on. I cultivate a space that heals, orients you toward growth, makes you feel safe and allows you to reflect inwards. If you're holding guilt, shame, resentment, fear... I welcome you. This space is yours. As a couples therapist I aim to teach you how to "fight right", move from gridlock to compromise, nurture the foundation of your relationship and rekindle your friendship.

Are you feeling defeated in your life? Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, family and relationship issues? With over 22 years of experience, I offer a blend of cognitive-behavioral therapy and mind-body modalities to help you feel more empowered in your life. Together, we unwind the beliefs you hold onto that keep you stuck and limited. This allows you to make new choices in all areas of your life, enabling a state of peace, calm, and fulfillment. When you are no longer held back by a limited point of view, you are more flexible, open, and able to make positive changes.

Being human can be wild, messy, beautiful, and painful. Whatever has brought you to therapy, it has taken courage and belief in yourself to arrive here. I honor your commitment to your own healing and growth. Suffering is part of the human condition, but there is no reason to suffer alone. Whether you're dealing with anxiety or depression, loss or overwhelming change, or stress due to work, family, or intimate relationships, therapy can help shift your perspective, clarify your deepest values and life goals, identify unhelpful thought patterns, and transform your experience of life.

Feeling overwhelmed by a specific challenge or aiming to enhance your life and relationships? As your therapist, I aim to help you identify concerns and guide you toward positive transformations efficiently. My office is a sanctuary—a secure, inviting space where we embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth together. Through collaboration, we navigate obstacles and uncover tools for your thriving. I use diverse modalities, tailoring therapy to your needs.

I enjoy working with children, adults, couples and families. I hold a Life Teaching Credential in California and I am a state licensed LMFT. Treatment considers personal relationships and psychodynamic introspection. Awareness of inspiration, aspiration and spirituality informs the search to realize personal potential and authenticity. Each person brings unique experiences and issues to the therapeutic process. My goal is to identify the issues and approach treatment in collaboration with my client, with compassion, practicality, support and effectiveness.

Life can get very complicated and challenging sometimes. My commitment to you is to provide a supportive place for us to collaboratively explore the challenges you are experiencing and the areas of your life you wish to change. If you are struggling to come to terms with your past or feel as if something is preventing you from living the life you want I invite you to explore this from a place of curiosity without judgment. As a bilingual and multicultural therapist I strive to support individuals and couples who are experiencing difficult life events.

I work with individuals and couples in the areas of sex, relationships, sex addiction, and life transitions (divorce, empty nest, retirement). Relationships with others (partner, employer, siblings, friends, clients) are a central source of meaning and sometimes difficulty for us. I can work with you around relationship issues, including commitment, communication, sexuality, infidelity and healthy conflict. I'm also offering groups for women and couples wanting to unlock their sexual satisfaction.

As a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner I assist in finding lasting resolution of body, mind and relational distress. It's really not all in your head! Sometimes talk therapy alone is unable to address somatic memory or fixed cognitions. Together we will explore your experiences, identify patterns and resolve the symptom so that trauma can become history. Behaviors & beliefs may be symptoms not character. Life events addressed but not limited to, include: trauma, anxiety, depression, car accidents, PTSD. co-occurring disorders, substance use disorders, relationship, grief, employment issues, perfectionism, divorce and life purpose.

It can be very challenging to see things clearly in life. I help individuals re-adjust their way of looking at themselves, their relationships, and the world. Through psycho-dynamic exploration, I come alongside a patient in the discovery of what is possible, as it is my belief that the most crucial part of therapy is the relationship that builds between patient and therapist. It is often easier to shine a light into uncertain areas of one's heart and mind when someone else is holding the light.

Are you seeking to create a more meaningful life for yourself? Are you overwhelmed or struggling? This may be a particularly challenging time in your life, but it is also a wonderful opportunity to heal and grow as a person. I will listen, encourage, guide, and support you in connecting to your own innate wisdom and power. Personally, I'm warm, down-to-earth, and compassionate; skillful in creating safe space, active enough to maintain momentum, and can offer you new perspectives on old problems.

My passion is helping children, adolescents and families overcome trauma, divorce, depression, anxiety, self-doubt and addiction. I welcome individuals and families to a safe nonjudgmental space with the goal of providing each client long lasting healing, personal growth and happiness. My therapeutic approach incorporates traditional talk therapy techniques complemented by therapeutic activities such as art, play, mindfulness exercises and music. I offer a holistic approach, this puts the client and their individual needs at the center of their treatment plan, while honoring the whole body; physically, emotionally and mentally.

As a psychotherapist and credentialed schoolteacher, I have worked with children of all ages and their families for the past 27 years. This unique background--combining family therapy, human development, attachment, neuroscience, and education provides a strong foundation for meeting client needs and fostering long-term happiness and success. In general, I help clients work with issues of adolescent, child, and infant development. Individuals and families may be facing such challenges as the arrival of a newborn, anxiety, or depression, academic concerns, and life transitions including blended families, divorce, and loss.

As your therapist, I strive to empower you to overcome personal challenges, activate your inner resources, develop a deeper level of trust in your self and your inherent potential, and reclaim ownership of your life and purpose. I have an affinity for working with clients seeking to transform their lives and enhance their relationships with themselves, others, and the natural world. Improved emotional intelligence, mindful self-awareness, communication skills, trauma and grief processing---will support you in developing self-compassion, eliminating personal obstacles, coping with your daily life, and finding a more balanced, attuned, and connected way of being.

Hello, I'm Tonya Bauhofer, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I believe every person has the strength within them to solve their problems and improve their wellness, therapy provides a safe place to explore and leverage those strengths. I am a partner and encouraging coach on your journey to creating your definition of a happy, healthy lifestyle. My passion is working with adolescents, young adults, adults, couples, and families. Anyone struggling with depression, anxiety, emotional regulation, anxieties with life transitions, loss, grief, divorce.

Feeling stuck, lonely, depressed, anxious, fearful, unfulfilled, or going through a life transition? You're not alone...we all have to face life's challenges! I believe true change & growth require a willingness to take risks. Resiliency & self-trust are strengthened by facing & moving through adversity. Together, we can explore & map out a plan so you can take that leap of faith, try something new, face your fear, or learn to accept the things outside your control. Life can be hard at times...with insight, the right tools, supportive relationships, & a little courage you can get through almost anything & live a fulfilled life!