Sexual Addiction Therapists in San Jose, CA

This is the last time. I can stop anytime. It's not like I'm the only one who does this. If you, your partner or child has said these words you are not alone. My clients select me because I offer practical tools to stop compulsive behaviors, have hundreds of hours of training in sexual addiction, can treat the underlying issues with scientifically validated techniques and have an approach that is compassionate and relational. I take a holistic approach that integrates addict, partner and couples therapy which is critical to lasting change. Check out my website for more info: alexlerza.com

As a therapist, I would like to create a safe place to discuss and process your feelings. The most important thing for me is building trust and rapport so that the therapeutic process can commence. I am here to provide guidance and tailor my counseling interventions to address your specific needs. I identify as a therapist of color specializing in working with communities of color.

Discouraged? Upset? Frustrated with where your life is currently? Needing support to help you go in a different direction? Feeling stuck, helpless and alone? I am here to help. I can meet you where you are and begin to plan for what you need to do when you are ready. Maybe it is starting the journey of change or keeping you on a path. I am particularly drawn to those going through any type of life transition and who want deeper personal relationships with God, themselves, and others.

Absolute sexual addiction elite level expert 27 years + 45,000 hours sexual misbehavior specialist psychotherapy provided, Together we will use evidence based research oriented methods on your Infidelity / Cheating /Affairs, Prostitution Use, "Seeking Arrangements", Sugar Daddy, Sex Apps, Strip Clubs, Massage Parlors, Sex Misconduct, Certified Specialist. I created government funded sexual misbehavior programs utilizing highly effective clinical models. You and I will use the most up to date understanding to have you change your thinking and end your self destructive actions, have you love yourself, and the great life you have.

Need someone to help you with relationship issues, anxiety, alcohol or drug abuse, or sexual addiction? I am dedicated and passionate about helping individuals and couples regain a healthier sense of self and work through relationship obstacles. My approach to healing includes the integration of psychological, biblical, and recovery principles. I work regularly with issues related to loss of self in relationships, trust and intimacy issues, difficulty setting boundaries, unresolved hurts or trauma, addictions, and spirituality.

Do you feel like you have lost trust in your partner? Has your intimacy with each other declined substantially? Are you both confused about how to move forward? I will help you and your partner restore your relationship, rebuild trust and intimacy and break free from self-destructive patterns.

I am a sex therapist and couples counselor. I provide expert care for couples’ issues, intimacy struggles, sexual struggles, infidelity, sexual compulsivity, sexual addiction and trauma. My goal is to create an intimate space where both partners can share their experience and feelings. I also work with individuals on their relationship issues. My intention is to share a journey that will allow you to unlock the whatever it is that is keeping you from having a happy, fulfilling life. The work that you do now can positively impact you and your partner for a life time. If you are serious about change deep transformation is possible.

Welcome to my practice. I have been in practice since 2007 and have been featured on ABC, NBC, and KCAL as an expert psychologist. I work primarily with men who have hit “rock bottom” and would like help getting up. These men are often in crisis when we first meet. The issues I address are typically related to unhealthy sexual behaviors, infidelity, financial recklessness, gambling, drugs/alcohol, dishonesty/lying, and relational conflicts. My therapy approach is a combination of psychoanalytic, cognitive-behavioral, and the 12-Step recovery model. I also share insight from my own painful but redemptive recovery journey.

My ideal client is motivated to engage in the change process and is willing to follow suggestions and direction that will result in real second order change that is truly life changing. I am uniquely qualified in treating various addictions including alcohol and drug abuse, sex addictions and compulsive behaviors, problem gambling and the many underlying issues involved. I am very effective in getting to and helping my clients resolve the root causes of their addictions. I am very effective in helping clients resolve addiction related issues including self-esteem, codependency, anxiety, anger and trauma using CBT, EMDR and FSAP.

Do you find yourself making excuses for your secret, compulsive sexual behaviors, thinking that you can stop at any time? You may think that watching porn is not a big deal, because "Everybody does it." The truth is you have been saying, "This is the last time" for years now, and if you are in a committed relationship, then your partner is feeling angry, betrayed and confused. Problematic sexual behaviors can leave you feeling shame and guilt fraught with fear and anxiety. For 15 years, by creating a safe and confidential environment, using specific tools, I have helped distressed people move past their damaging choices and heal.

Are you struggling with porn, sex, or chem/sex addiction, and telling yourself that you can stop whenever you want to? Would you rather spend time on your device than be with friends, family, and loved ones? Have you tried to stop but become overwhelmed with anxiety or other negative emotions? There is help. Maybe your partner is looking at porn or acting out sexually? Are you constantly checking your partner's internet history, email accounts, and text message history? You might even be feeling crazy! Maybe your partner has said, "it's just porn. Why are you so upset?" or they are trying to shift the blame to you? There is help!

Welcome to my practice. I have been in practice since 2007 and have been featured on ABC, NBC, and KCAL as an expert psychologist. I work primarily with men who have hit “rock bottom” and would like help getting up. These men are often in crisis when we first meet. The issues I address are typically related to unhealthy sexual behaviors, infidelity, financial recklessness, gambling, drugs/alcohol, dishonesty/lying, and relational conflicts. My therapy approach is a combination of psychoanalytic, cognitive-behavioral, and the 12-Step recovery model. I also share insight from my own painful but redemptive recovery journey.

You deserve to live 'la bella vida:' a beautiful life. But sometimes life doesn’t always feel beautiful. If it's hard to get close to people, you have been shockingly betrayed, or you feel you have an unhealthy relationship with sex, I can help you. You are not alone. I will be your advocate and guide. I currently can hold teletherapy sessions in California and Vermont. I'm sex positive, trauma-informed and try to offer a safe, supportive place for processing so my clients can move forward in their lives with grace and self-respect.

Dealing with life’s challenges sometimes feels like being trapped in quicksand—the harder you fight to get out of it, the deeper you sink. Exhausting, right? When stress, hopelessness, painful incidents, or risky habits prevail, enjoying the present becomes quite difficult. Your past wounds and current hardship may take over, clouding the road to your future. You crave clarity, meaning, and validation. You want to get out of this rut to find fulfillment and happiness but are unsure how. The good news is: you can figure it out, understand yourself better, and reach your dream goals— and I’m here to guide you on that path.

My passion is supporting clients in moving beyond merely surviving, towards freedom and joy, in order to truly LIVE. My practice centers around working with people of color, marginalized communities, and allies to find healing and growth from depression, trauma, racism-based stress, anxiety and burnout. I bring an anti-racist, anti-oppressive, and social justice lens to my work. I have spent my career helping young adults feel safe, empowered, seen, and understood.

Welcome! You probably came across my profile because you are dealing with persistent negative thoughts, emotions, behaviors, addictions/habits, stressors, pain, or relational issues that don't seem to improve. You are tired and want change. Fortunately, we have many techniques that can help you feel better or improve your current situation so that you can get back to living and enjoying the life you want. If you are looking for more in depth work, I enjoy helping individuals heal from their attachment wounds and traumas, overcome their shame, develop a positive relationship with themselves, and become their best self.

I am trauma-focused and honor the part of you who would like to discover more about yourself, and the part of you who doesn't want to come to therapy and may resist. Is there a part that is curious? Is there a part that is scared? Let's find out who you really are inside. The part that no body else knows, maybe even parts you don't know. Discovering who you are in the present moment happens by learning how to be present. Also searching through art making, writing, dancing, movement and discovering the process happening in the moment can help you find the part in you that shines. All parts of you are welcome.

Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Are you struggling with sexual intimacy? Are you wondering if you can actually heal from infidelity or past hurts? Are you curious about non-monogamy or expanding your sexual horizons? You’re not alone. You deserve to feel seen and heard in your relationships. You deserve a sex life in alignment with your desires. Navigating the complexities of relationships and sexuality can feel overwhelming, as we carry the weight of past experiences and personal narratives. You don’t have to stay stuck. You can break free from unhelpful patterns and blocks that are holding you back.

Are you feeling stressed? Do you wake up moody? Is your anger affecting your loved ones? Has your addiction isolated you? Is your relationship suffering? You can feel better and enjoy your life. Sometimes you just need a bit of guidance to find tools and techniques that help you. I shine a light on your toolbox so that you can find the right tools to take charge of your life.