Emotionally Focused Therapists in San Jose, CA
My work with couples is based on the EFT model (Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples) in which I have advanced level training.
Therapy is a wonderful opportunity for personal growth. It is also helpful in overcoming common symptoms such as anxiety and depression, for improving relationships and for changing behaviors that may hinder quality of life. It is common to experience hesitation or ambivalence when starting therapy, much like many other new beginnings. I encourage you to try. People frequently report feeling better just by taking the first step of calling and making a first appointment. I view therapy as a collaborative process in which, together, we will explore, understand and conquer the obstacles you have encountered in your journey.
My work with couples is based on the EFT model (Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples) in which I have advanced level training.
Therapy is a wonderful opportunity for personal growth. It is also helpful in overcoming common symptoms such as anxiety and depression, for improving relationships and for changing behaviors that may hinder quality of life. It is common to experience hesitation or ambivalence when starting therapy, much like many other new beginnings. I encourage you to try. People frequently report feeling better just by taking the first step of calling and making a first appointment. I view therapy as a collaborative process in which, together, we will explore, understand and conquer the obstacles you have encountered in your journey.
Vani Hariharan
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95117
I use IFS, EMDR, structural family therapy, attachment, EFT, play therapy, expressive art therapy modalities.
I believe that people are resilient and resourceful, capable of overcoming difficulties. Sometimes we get entangled in personal and relational patterns that can overwhelm our resources. I help clients identify these problematic patterns and empower them to break free from patterns that do not serve them well. I focus on my client's interpersonal relationships and relationships with larger social systems. I have experience working with children, teens, families, and couples on several issues, including family and couple distress, trauma, and various presentations of anxiety and depression through a systemic and attachment-based lens.
I use IFS, EMDR, structural family therapy, attachment, EFT, play therapy, expressive art therapy modalities.
I believe that people are resilient and resourceful, capable of overcoming difficulties. Sometimes we get entangled in personal and relational patterns that can overwhelm our resources. I help clients identify these problematic patterns and empower them to break free from patterns that do not serve them well. I focus on my client's interpersonal relationships and relationships with larger social systems. I have experience working with children, teens, families, and couples on several issues, including family and couple distress, trauma, and various presentations of anxiety and depression through a systemic and attachment-based lens.
Lauren Consul - Sex And Relationship Therapist
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, JD
Verified Verified
12 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95120 (Online Only)
I also have advanced training in Emotionally Focused therapy.
If you're facing challenges around sex, infidelity, non-monogamy, or feeling disconnected in your relationship, you're not alone. Perhaps you're constantly clashing over mismatched sex drives, or your body isn’t responding how you’d like during intimacy. Maybe you’re curious about exploring new dynamics or opening your relationship, but don’t know where to start. You might even be reeling from the pain of infidelity, unsure if healing is possible (it is). I’m here to guide you through these struggles. You don’t have to stay stuck in frustration or pain—things can change, and I can help you get there.
I also have advanced training in Emotionally Focused therapy.
If you're facing challenges around sex, infidelity, non-monogamy, or feeling disconnected in your relationship, you're not alone. Perhaps you're constantly clashing over mismatched sex drives, or your body isn’t responding how you’d like during intimacy. Maybe you’re curious about exploring new dynamics or opening your relationship, but don’t know where to start. You might even be reeling from the pain of infidelity, unsure if healing is possible (it is). I’m here to guide you through these struggles. You don’t have to stay stuck in frustration or pain—things can change, and I can help you get there.
Grace Kim- Hur
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA , LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95128 (Online Only)
I'm a licensed psychotherapist with a background specializing in severe behavioral issues and relationship issues. I work with a variety of approaches from CBT, EFT to Psychodynamic approach depending on my patient's needs and what I feel is most effective. In addition I create individual treatment plans to match my patient's goals. Together we can create a safe space and begin your journey in understanding your current issues or concerns. Explore where they may have stemmed from, and how they are currently effecting your life. I believe anyone's goal in therapy would be to heal and ignite awareness to live a more fulfilling life.
I'm a licensed psychotherapist with a background specializing in severe behavioral issues and relationship issues. I work with a variety of approaches from CBT, EFT to Psychodynamic approach depending on my patient's needs and what I feel is most effective. In addition I create individual treatment plans to match my patient's goals. Together we can create a safe space and begin your journey in understanding your current issues or concerns. Explore where they may have stemmed from, and how they are currently effecting your life. I believe anyone's goal in therapy would be to heal and ignite awareness to live a more fulfilling life.
In my practice, I incorporate evidence-based practices, including EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy) and attachment theory.
My practice is aimed at helping burnt-out millennials navigate the overwhelming pressures of modern life. Whether you are caught up in the anxiety & stress of just trying to get by while feeling like you constantly have to please everyone along the way or have difficulty connecting deeply in your relationships, my goal is to help you manage stress, find your voice, and maintain connections that feel genuine and fulfilling. I offer both individual and couples therapy so whatever your needs, I am here to provide the safe and supportive space you need to feel more confident in yourself and your relationships.
In my practice, I incorporate evidence-based practices, including EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy) and attachment theory.
My practice is aimed at helping burnt-out millennials navigate the overwhelming pressures of modern life. Whether you are caught up in the anxiety & stress of just trying to get by while feeling like you constantly have to please everyone along the way or have difficulty connecting deeply in your relationships, my goal is to help you manage stress, find your voice, and maintain connections that feel genuine and fulfilling. I offer both individual and couples therapy so whatever your needs, I am here to provide the safe and supportive space you need to feel more confident in yourself and your relationships.
Kristen Barragan
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95135 (Online Only)
I use person centered, attachment theory and emotionally focused individual therapy with clients to get to the heart of the matter and encourage emotional vulnerability.
My therapeutic style is authentic and interactive. I love creating a safe space for my clients to process their thoughts, feelings, and emotions without shame or judgement. I provide empathy, support, psycho-education, encouragement and validate my clients feelings and unique life experiences. I work with my clients on healing from past trauma while making connections from their past to present thoughts, feelings and behaviors. I see my clients through an attachment lens and believe we all deserve love and are wired for connection.
I use person centered, attachment theory and emotionally focused individual therapy with clients to get to the heart of the matter and encourage emotional vulnerability.
My therapeutic style is authentic and interactive. I love creating a safe space for my clients to process their thoughts, feelings, and emotions without shame or judgement. I provide empathy, support, psycho-education, encouragement and validate my clients feelings and unique life experiences. I work with my clients on healing from past trauma while making connections from their past to present thoughts, feelings and behaviors. I see my clients through an attachment lens and believe we all deserve love and are wired for connection.
Hi there, I'm Cheryl Heinla and I am a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) residing in the Bay Area. I work with adult individuals, adolescents, and couples. My key areas of interest and experience are anxiety, grief, couples dynamics, family of origin impact, life transitions, relational challenges, and trauma history. My approaches are based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Trauma-focused, short-term solution-focused; and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) with couples.
Hi there, I'm Cheryl Heinla and I am a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) residing in the Bay Area. I work with adult individuals, adolescents, and couples. My key areas of interest and experience are anxiety, grief, couples dynamics, family of origin impact, life transitions, relational challenges, and trauma history. My approaches are based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Trauma-focused, short-term solution-focused; and Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) with couples.
I use evidence-based therapy approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Emotional Focus Therapy ( EFT).
Welcome, I am offering you a safe place to explore your thoughts and feelings and learn new ways to cope with life challenges. I am a bilingual therapist providing therapy in both English and Hebrew. I provide psychotherapy to individuals, families, and couples. My approach to therapy is humanistic based on empathy, acceptance, and collaboration.
I use evidence-based therapy approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Emotional Focus Therapy ( EFT).
Welcome, I am offering you a safe place to explore your thoughts and feelings and learn new ways to cope with life challenges. I am a bilingual therapist providing therapy in both English and Hebrew. I provide psychotherapy to individuals, families, and couples. My approach to therapy is humanistic based on empathy, acceptance, and collaboration.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy to help couples and individuals achieve noticeable changes.
Now offering telehealth services for Oregon! I've been a therapist and clinical supervisor for over 15 years; I know how to help, and I have the experience. I work with many engineers, tech, and business professionals to help them express and process hard emotions in a supportive, non-intimidating way. I'm married to an engineer, and I know the pressures. I specialize in working with couples, and successful, high achieving women and men struggling with depression, anxiety, and relationship concerns. If you're a therapist yourself and struggling with compassion fatigue, burn out and stress, I speak your language, and I've been there.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy to help couples and individuals achieve noticeable changes.
Now offering telehealth services for Oregon! I've been a therapist and clinical supervisor for over 15 years; I know how to help, and I have the experience. I work with many engineers, tech, and business professionals to help them express and process hard emotions in a supportive, non-intimidating way. I'm married to an engineer, and I know the pressures. I specialize in working with couples, and successful, high achieving women and men struggling with depression, anxiety, and relationship concerns. If you're a therapist yourself and struggling with compassion fatigue, burn out and stress, I speak your language, and I've been there.
Kyoko Robinson
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT, APCC, MA, BE
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95124
My eclectic therapeutic style incorporates Attachment-Based Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, Person-Centered Therapy, Play Therapy, Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships, and Trauma-Focused Therapy practices depending on your unique individual/family needs.
My utmost passion lies in empowering individuals to embrace their inner strength and to find their true potential. Through my therapeutic approach, I strive to create a safe and supportive space where clients can embark on a transformative journey toward personal growth and well-being. I like to focus on interpersonal relationships, such as family, friends, life partners, professionals, and even with oneself.
My eclectic therapeutic style incorporates Attachment-Based Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, Person-Centered Therapy, Play Therapy, Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships, and Trauma-Focused Therapy practices depending on your unique individual/family needs.
My utmost passion lies in empowering individuals to embrace their inner strength and to find their true potential. Through my therapeutic approach, I strive to create a safe and supportive space where clients can embark on a transformative journey toward personal growth and well-being. I like to focus on interpersonal relationships, such as family, friends, life partners, professionals, and even with oneself.
Anita Zoroghlian
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95128 (Online Only)
I like to help clients find their way to themselves, during times that are difficult, or life transitions. I work by collaborating with the client. We set goals together and we check in during each session to see if we are heading in the direction we set. We will focus on solutions, self-care, mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, as well as the Somatic Experiencing approach, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. In addition, I like working with clients who may be in the sports world or who have a sports mentality and may seem stuck or on a plateau. I will help you move forward.
I like to help clients find their way to themselves, during times that are difficult, or life transitions. I work by collaborating with the client. We set goals together and we check in during each session to see if we are heading in the direction we set. We will focus on solutions, self-care, mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, as well as the Somatic Experiencing approach, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. In addition, I like working with clients who may be in the sports world or who have a sports mentality and may seem stuck or on a plateau. I will help you move forward.
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In Emotionally Focused Therapy, I target the areas of negative patterns of behaviors and cycle in the relationship that couples get cut in and with my help they can access to their emotional needs and bond that they once had and desire.
LIfe is challenging for anyone living on earth, emotional chaos, wanting to have a safe place to connect with each other and people around us, deal with partners, children, extended families, how to learn and hold on to enjoyment in life even with experiencing trauma, anxiety, depression or other illnesses.
In Emotionally Focused Therapy, I target the areas of negative patterns of behaviors and cycle in the relationship that couples get cut in and with my help they can access to their emotional needs and bond that they once had and desire.
LIfe is challenging for anyone living on earth, emotional chaos, wanting to have a safe place to connect with each other and people around us, deal with partners, children, extended families, how to learn and hold on to enjoyment in life even with experiencing trauma, anxiety, depression or other illnesses.
Warm welcome! While I bring a diverse work background to my role, my current focus involves pursuing certification in emotionally, focused therapy ( EFT). My dedication lies in offering assistance to individuals and couples grappling with attachment issues within their present relationships. The aim is to collaborate in cultivating a deeper understanding of how you engage in relationships, ultimately transforming that awareness into a more profound connection. My approach focuses on fostering lasting emotional bonds and enhancing how you feel about yourself and in relationship with others.
Warm welcome! While I bring a diverse work background to my role, my current focus involves pursuing certification in emotionally, focused therapy ( EFT). My dedication lies in offering assistance to individuals and couples grappling with attachment issues within their present relationships. The aim is to collaborate in cultivating a deeper understanding of how you engage in relationships, ultimately transforming that awareness into a more profound connection. My approach focuses on fostering lasting emotional bonds and enhancing how you feel about yourself and in relationship with others.
Inna Kuchmenko
Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95124 (Online Only)
My clinical approach to psychotherapy is an eclectic mix of Humanistic/Existential, Solutions-Focused, Psychodynamic/Relational, Emotionally Focused, Family Systems, Cognitive-Behavioral theories and many more.
Carl Jung said: “It is what you are that heals, not what you know”. The journey of self-discovery is exactly that – getting to know and deeply appreciating your true and authentic self, even when that essence may be covered by trauma, hardship and suffering. It is this uncovering that many who experience psychotherapy to be transformative and healing refer to as a “re-birth”, a coming home to and an unfolding of who you truly are. Engaging in the process of self-inquiry can be a rewarding and even a life-changing experience, especially in the presence of an empathic and compassionate other.
My clinical approach to psychotherapy is an eclectic mix of Humanistic/Existential, Solutions-Focused, Psychodynamic/Relational, Emotionally Focused, Family Systems, Cognitive-Behavioral theories and many more.
Carl Jung said: “It is what you are that heals, not what you know”. The journey of self-discovery is exactly that – getting to know and deeply appreciating your true and authentic self, even when that essence may be covered by trauma, hardship and suffering. It is this uncovering that many who experience psychotherapy to be transformative and healing refer to as a “re-birth”, a coming home to and an unfolding of who you truly are. Engaging in the process of self-inquiry can be a rewarding and even a life-changing experience, especially in the presence of an empathic and compassionate other.
Christina Carter
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT, APCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95125
As a faith-based, trauma-focused therapist, I embrace an eclectic approach, knowing that one size does not fit all. Have you ever felt stuck & alone, as if life didn’t go as planned? Overwhelmed by challenges others don’t understand? Or like your mind and body are out of sync, hiding behind a facade? Frustrated that no one sees you’re not okay? Angry? I combine research-based practices with psychological insights, drawing from psychodynamics, trauma research, emotionally-focused therapy, developmental neuroscience, multicultural perspectives, and more. My approach is to offering you the truth you need, even when it's tough to hear.
As a faith-based, trauma-focused therapist, I embrace an eclectic approach, knowing that one size does not fit all. Have you ever felt stuck & alone, as if life didn’t go as planned? Overwhelmed by challenges others don’t understand? Or like your mind and body are out of sync, hiding behind a facade? Frustrated that no one sees you’re not okay? Angry? I combine research-based practices with psychological insights, drawing from psychodynamics, trauma research, emotionally-focused therapy, developmental neuroscience, multicultural perspectives, and more. My approach is to offering you the truth you need, even when it's tough to hear.
Deborah Auran
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, APCC, NCC
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95136 (Online Only)
I have experience in multiple different treatment options, some of which include: EMDR, trauma-focused CBT, EFT, co-parenting and others.
Life can be hard and everyone needs a little help sometimes. I offer a safe, supportive and non-judgmental environment in which you can be guided and supported on your journey towards regular management of life’s stressors and challenges. I have experience with depression, anxiety, and trauma. I have extensive experience working with first responders of all types and I am a LGBTQIA+ ally.
I have experience in multiple different treatment options, some of which include: EMDR, trauma-focused CBT, EFT, co-parenting and others.
Life can be hard and everyone needs a little help sometimes. I offer a safe, supportive and non-judgmental environment in which you can be guided and supported on your journey towards regular management of life’s stressors and challenges. I have experience with depression, anxiety, and trauma. I have extensive experience working with first responders of all types and I am a LGBTQIA+ ally.
Martina Glenn
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95128 (Online Only)
I use person-centered theories, existential principles, attachment-based theories, and I frequently use EFT ( Emotionally Focused Therapy).
I love working with creative people. My passion is to bring healing to those who have often felt limited by the burdens of their anxiety, depression, or trauma. If your desire is to find new freedom in living without hesitation and being supported in living your life with fierce and unapologetic authenticity then you’ve come to the right place. I create welcoming and affirming environment and provide a safe space where you can feel appreciated for your individuality and your rebelling soul. I am not going to repeat cliché phrases that you’ve heard million times already, but I will challenge you to find your authentic Self.
I use person-centered theories, existential principles, attachment-based theories, and I frequently use EFT ( Emotionally Focused Therapy).
I love working with creative people. My passion is to bring healing to those who have often felt limited by the burdens of their anxiety, depression, or trauma. If your desire is to find new freedom in living without hesitation and being supported in living your life with fierce and unapologetic authenticity then you’ve come to the right place. I create welcoming and affirming environment and provide a safe space where you can feel appreciated for your individuality and your rebelling soul. I am not going to repeat cliché phrases that you’ve heard million times already, but I will challenge you to find your authentic Self.
Bryan Cafferky
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, MDiv, CFLE
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95113
I use an eclectic approach, employing several modalities (TRM, Bowen, EFT, IFS, etc.
Here you will find a compassionate & authentic space in which you learn to more deeply connect with yourself (and others), so you can finally discover what's behind your typical “knee-jerk reactions” & why your “go to” coping strategies seem to cause more distress than the original problems! Then we'll make meaningful shifts to uncover new and healthier ways to approach life and relationships. Clients often come to me for help with a broad range of concerns, like: trauma, anxiety, depression, pain, existential malaise, creative blocks, infertility challenges, grief, & family/relationship drama and communication difficulties.
I use an eclectic approach, employing several modalities (TRM, Bowen, EFT, IFS, etc.
Here you will find a compassionate & authentic space in which you learn to more deeply connect with yourself (and others), so you can finally discover what's behind your typical “knee-jerk reactions” & why your “go to” coping strategies seem to cause more distress than the original problems! Then we'll make meaningful shifts to uncover new and healthier ways to approach life and relationships. Clients often come to me for help with a broad range of concerns, like: trauma, anxiety, depression, pain, existential malaise, creative blocks, infertility challenges, grief, & family/relationship drama and communication difficulties.
I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method to resolve interpersonal conflicts, untangle the root of distressing emotions, and develop healthy communication patterns and boundaries.
Do you feel as though your anxiety and depression are unmanageable? How about feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or helplessness like you’ve hit rock bottom and are struggling to find hope for tomorrow? Once we start to unravel the details of our past and trauma we give ourselves the ability to process feelings that we have long suppressed. I aim to collaborate with you and provide tools to decrease the challenging feelings you are currently facing and achieve a more integrated and balanced sense of self, leading to emotional healing and personal growth.
I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method to resolve interpersonal conflicts, untangle the root of distressing emotions, and develop healthy communication patterns and boundaries.
Do you feel as though your anxiety and depression are unmanageable? How about feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or helplessness like you’ve hit rock bottom and are struggling to find hope for tomorrow? Once we start to unravel the details of our past and trauma we give ourselves the ability to process feelings that we have long suppressed. I aim to collaborate with you and provide tools to decrease the challenging feelings you are currently facing and achieve a more integrated and balanced sense of self, leading to emotional healing and personal growth.
Marcela Avila
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95128 (Online Only)
My approach to psychotherapy is eclectic. I believe in working and creating an individual treatment approach unique to each of my clients. I am a person centered but also psychodynamic, in that I believe that the unconscious is an important door to change where we can uncover the root of patterns of behavior. I also have a passion for working with couples and helping them break free from difficult communication patterns using Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT), which focuses on the attachment or strength of the bond a couple has and emotions that are getting in the way of safety, connection, and love. etc.
My approach to psychotherapy is eclectic. I believe in working and creating an individual treatment approach unique to each of my clients. I am a person centered but also psychodynamic, in that I believe that the unconscious is an important door to change where we can uncover the root of patterns of behavior. I also have a passion for working with couples and helping them break free from difficult communication patterns using Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT), which focuses on the attachment or strength of the bond a couple has and emotions that are getting in the way of safety, connection, and love. etc.
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Emotionally Focused Therapists
Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.