Open Relationships Non-Monogamy Therapists in San Diego, CA
Sara Al-Khedairy Poly+Neurodiversity Affirming Therapy
Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, APCC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92117
My areas of focus include consensual non-monogamy/ polyamory, BIPOC lived experience, gender and sexual identity, and neurodivergence (ADHD and autism).
Hi there, my name is Sara (she/her). As a child of Middle-Eastern immigrants, late-diagnosed neurodivergent (ADHD) person, polyamorous individual, and queer woman, I am honored to have the opportunity to support other members of these minoritized communities in my clinical work. I work alongside clients through a lens of social justice and anti-racism, exploring how systemic oppression and social "norms" act as barriers to wellbeing, particularly for those of us who hold multiple marginalized identities. I work with adults, including individuals, couples, polycules, and other non-traditional relationship configurations.
My areas of focus include consensual non-monogamy/ polyamory, BIPOC lived experience, gender and sexual identity, and neurodivergence (ADHD and autism).
Hi there, my name is Sara (she/her). As a child of Middle-Eastern immigrants, late-diagnosed neurodivergent (ADHD) person, polyamorous individual, and queer woman, I am honored to have the opportunity to support other members of these minoritized communities in my clinical work. I work alongside clients through a lens of social justice and anti-racism, exploring how systemic oppression and social "norms" act as barriers to wellbeing, particularly for those of us who hold multiple marginalized identities. I work with adults, including individuals, couples, polycules, and other non-traditional relationship configurations.
Allyson Byers - Couples And Relationship Therapist
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92131 (Online Only)
I work with couples and those in platonic relationships in all different stages—maybe you and your partner(s) want a dedicated space and time to connect and focus on your relationship or would like to work through challenges and issues as they arise or you’re going through a major life transition (like a new health diagnosis or moving in together) and need some additional support. Maybe you’re interested in opening up your relationship and want to explore ethical nonmonogamy or polyamory. Or you and your best friend had some recent ruptures you’d like to try and repair with the help of someone else. That’s where I come in.
I work with couples and those in platonic relationships in all different stages—maybe you and your partner(s) want a dedicated space and time to connect and focus on your relationship or would like to work through challenges and issues as they arise or you’re going through a major life transition (like a new health diagnosis or moving in together) and need some additional support. Maybe you’re interested in opening up your relationship and want to explore ethical nonmonogamy or polyamory. Or you and your best friend had some recent ruptures you’d like to try and repair with the help of someone else. That’s where I come in.
Elvina (Legal Name Vincent) Inzano
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
I practice cultural humility and strive to provide centered services including but not limited to: polyamory & kink communities.
Let’s collaborate so we can work together to support your ongoing healing and growth. I work towards engaging from a compassionate, anti-oppressive, and trauma informed positionality. One of my focuses is on collaborating to better understand yourself as an integrated mind/body/spirit/social/relational being (soma) and reprocessing what your soma holds. Some of the ways in which we can do this is through building upon the stories that empower you and learning skills for personal and/or interpersonal fulfillment. We all deserve to live our lives liberated from the reactive survival responses of trauma.
I practice cultural humility and strive to provide centered services including but not limited to: polyamory & kink communities.
Let’s collaborate so we can work together to support your ongoing healing and growth. I work towards engaging from a compassionate, anti-oppressive, and trauma informed positionality. One of my focuses is on collaborating to better understand yourself as an integrated mind/body/spirit/social/relational being (soma) and reprocessing what your soma holds. Some of the ways in which we can do this is through building upon the stories that empower you and learning skills for personal and/or interpersonal fulfillment. We all deserve to live our lives liberated from the reactive survival responses of trauma.
Hi there, welcome! My specialty areas include trauma, relationships and body image issues. As a queer and neurodivergent therapist, my passions include working with the LGBTQIA+ community, and neurodivergent clients (ADHD, autism, PDA traits). As a neurodiversity affirming provider, I see all neurotypes as equal, and not an issue that needs "treatment". Rather, it is a process of finding your way back to yourself and who you really are. Additionally, I work with the ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and kink/BDSM community. I work with individuals, teens, and couples and enjoy working with all relationship structures.
Hi there, welcome! My specialty areas include trauma, relationships and body image issues. As a queer and neurodivergent therapist, my passions include working with the LGBTQIA+ community, and neurodivergent clients (ADHD, autism, PDA traits). As a neurodiversity affirming provider, I see all neurotypes as equal, and not an issue that needs "treatment". Rather, it is a process of finding your way back to yourself and who you really are. Additionally, I work with the ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and kink/BDSM community. I work with individuals, teens, and couples and enjoy working with all relationship structures.
Miranda Millican, Couples Therapist
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92102
Welcome! I work with communication issues, trust issues, infidelity, intimacy issues, LGBTQIA+ couples and couples practicing ENM/ polyamory. I also work with couples practicing kink/BDSM. I am a queer and neurodivergent therapist, and I have specialized experience working with ADHD and autism in the context of relationships and mixed-neurotype couples. I love to see my couples walking out of my office holding hands, looking at each other with more gratitude, with a new hope for the future. I have a trauma informed approach that helps my couples understand the origins of their thoughts and behavior within the relationship.
Welcome! I work with communication issues, trust issues, infidelity, intimacy issues, LGBTQIA+ couples and couples practicing ENM/ polyamory. I also work with couples practicing kink/BDSM. I am a queer and neurodivergent therapist, and I have specialized experience working with ADHD and autism in the context of relationships and mixed-neurotype couples. I love to see my couples walking out of my office holding hands, looking at each other with more gratitude, with a new hope for the future. I have a trauma informed approach that helps my couples understand the origins of their thoughts and behavior within the relationship.
Jaina Sarkisyan
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92126
We may not be responsible for the world that created our mind, but we may take responsibility for the mind which we create our world as Dr Gabor Mate states. Let me help you heal through this journey. Jaina is an experienced licensed clinician with 18 years of experience providing exceptional clinical care to adults, adolescents, couples and families. Jaina has experience working with all individuals & military, law enforcement and their families. Jaina sees people from all backgrounds. Issues addressed but not limited to polyamory, anxiety, depression, addiction, emotional disturbances, trauma, addiction and codependency.
We may not be responsible for the world that created our mind, but we may take responsibility for the mind which we create our world as Dr Gabor Mate states. Let me help you heal through this journey. Jaina is an experienced licensed clinician with 18 years of experience providing exceptional clinical care to adults, adolescents, couples and families. Jaina has experience working with all individuals & military, law enforcement and their families. Jaina sees people from all backgrounds. Issues addressed but not limited to polyamory, anxiety, depression, addiction, emotional disturbances, trauma, addiction and codependency.
, polyamory or consensual non-monogamy).
All couples experience challenges and can get stuck in harmful patterns. However, we can work together to identify those patterns, increase understanding and empathy, and utilize skills to shift communication and improve satisfaction, intimacy, and fun. Your relationship is unique and I will work with you to identify your relationship values and build a relationship that feels safe, supportive, and authentic. Let's create the relationship that works for you and your partner(s).
, polyamory or consensual non-monogamy).
All couples experience challenges and can get stuck in harmful patterns. However, we can work together to identify those patterns, increase understanding and empathy, and utilize skills to shift communication and improve satisfaction, intimacy, and fun. Your relationship is unique and I will work with you to identify your relationship values and build a relationship that feels safe, supportive, and authentic. Let's create the relationship that works for you and your partner(s).
Some special areas of focus for our work together can include: Personal and Spiritual Growth, Life Transitions and Adjustments, Relationship Issues Consensual Non-Monogamy– Polyamory, Open Relationships/Swinging Alternative Sexuality Issues–Leather/Fetish/Kink, Power Exchange Relationships.
Our personal journey is both joyous and challenging. Life brings us things where sometimes we become lost and struggle. During these times, we may need to reach out to someone who is caring and nurturing - someone who will listen and is knowledgeable. These are just some of the things that you may find challenging and cause us to suffer: Life Transitions Relationships Issues Depression, Anxiety, & Loneliness Low Self-Esteem Lack of Clear Purpose Grief & Bereavement LGBTQ & Coming Out Issues Issues of Sex, Sexuality, & Alternative Sexuality Trauma Related Issues.
Some special areas of focus for our work together can include: Personal and Spiritual Growth, Life Transitions and Adjustments, Relationship Issues Consensual Non-Monogamy– Polyamory, Open Relationships/Swinging Alternative Sexuality Issues–Leather/Fetish/Kink, Power Exchange Relationships.
Our personal journey is both joyous and challenging. Life brings us things where sometimes we become lost and struggle. During these times, we may need to reach out to someone who is caring and nurturing - someone who will listen and is knowledgeable. These are just some of the things that you may find challenging and cause us to suffer: Life Transitions Relationships Issues Depression, Anxiety, & Loneliness Low Self-Esteem Lack of Clear Purpose Grief & Bereavement LGBTQ & Coming Out Issues Issues of Sex, Sexuality, & Alternative Sexuality Trauma Related Issues.
My niches include trauma work, identity work, depression, anxiety, psychosis and paranoia, shame, guilt, non-traditional relationship styles and non-monogamy/ polyamory, and the LGBTQIA+ community.
You might be in survival-mode, and that makes sense. Together, we can explore ways to cultivate safety and recovery in your life. My approach centers genuine curiosity, self-compassion, and non-judgment to empower your journey towards healing. Whether you're seeking support for trauma, self-esteem challenges, negative self-talk, anxiety, depression, shame, or difficulties in your relationships, I can help.
My niches include trauma work, identity work, depression, anxiety, psychosis and paranoia, shame, guilt, non-traditional relationship styles and non-monogamy/ polyamory, and the LGBTQIA+ community.
You might be in survival-mode, and that makes sense. Together, we can explore ways to cultivate safety and recovery in your life. My approach centers genuine curiosity, self-compassion, and non-judgment to empower your journey towards healing. Whether you're seeking support for trauma, self-esteem challenges, negative self-talk, anxiety, depression, shame, or difficulties in your relationships, I can help.
I believe in the importance of honoring individual experiences, I work collaboratively with clients to provide individualized mental health care to support authentic living and healing. I ensure that my therapy space is a safe, sex-positive, LGBTIA+, ENM/ Polyamory, and Kink affirming.
I believe in the importance of honoring individual experiences, I work collaboratively with clients to provide individualized mental health care to support authentic living and healing. I ensure that my therapy space is a safe, sex-positive, LGBTIA+, ENM/ Polyamory, and Kink affirming.
I am also great with polyamory, ENM/CNM, kink and BDSM, neurodivergence, couples or polycule therapy, religious trauma and the effects of discrimination.
All humans are wired for connection – we need it on the most basic level from the moment we are born and throughout our lifetime. But humans are the worst! And the best! Humans are complicated. We need each other, we love each other, we hurt each other – we develop ways of reaching out for connection that might not be working anymore. This is where I come in. I work with people who are experiencing distress within themselves and in their relationships. We will identify the unhelpful beliefs and patterns that keep you stuck, and then learning new ways of relating to yourself and others that make you feel…..dare I say it?… happy!
I am also great with polyamory, ENM/CNM, kink and BDSM, neurodivergence, couples or polycule therapy, religious trauma and the effects of discrimination.
All humans are wired for connection – we need it on the most basic level from the moment we are born and throughout our lifetime. But humans are the worst! And the best! Humans are complicated. We need each other, we love each other, we hurt each other – we develop ways of reaching out for connection that might not be working anymore. This is where I come in. I work with people who are experiencing distress within themselves and in their relationships. We will identify the unhelpful beliefs and patterns that keep you stuck, and then learning new ways of relating to yourself and others that make you feel…..dare I say it?… happy!
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Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108 (Online Only)
For couples, I support in improving intimacy and exploring other lifestyles that you both may want to incorporate, things like kink, BDSM, polyamory or open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy.
I specialize in sex, BDSM, kink, and ethical non-monogamy. Taking the first step toward transformation is the hardest part, and you just did it! I use an integrative and holistic approach to help you pull out the weeds from the roots. I work from a foundation of attachment theory and I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I am trained in Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and also incorporate the body, yoga, mindfulness, meditation, and music all as tools to expand and explore what is happening in your life.
For couples, I support in improving intimacy and exploring other lifestyles that you both may want to incorporate, things like kink, BDSM, polyamory or open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy.
I specialize in sex, BDSM, kink, and ethical non-monogamy. Taking the first step toward transformation is the hardest part, and you just did it! I use an integrative and holistic approach to help you pull out the weeds from the roots. I work from a foundation of attachment theory and I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I am trained in Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and also incorporate the body, yoga, mindfulness, meditation, and music all as tools to expand and explore what is happening in your life.
I'm a huge psychology nerd who works with a wide variety of topics, like attachment issues, alcohol addiction, weed addiction, sex/porn addiction, issues with fetishes and sexual orientation, anger, domestic violence, narcissism, and polyamory.
Accepting new clients. Political stress and need to talk about the future? Burned out at work? Feel like you're failing at your relationships? Do you smoke too much, drink too much, isolate, or do you have trouble talking about feelings? I am a direct therapist that works well with people who have troubles opening up. Send me an email so that we can start to fix things in your life. I identify as a gay male Hispanic liberal and military veteran, open minded and welcoming, who is a huge fan of dark humor.
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Accepting new clients. Political stress and need to talk about the future? Burned out at work? Feel like you're failing at your relationships? Do you smoke too much, drink too much, isolate, or do you have trouble talking about feelings? I am a direct therapist that works well with people who have troubles opening up. Send me an email so that we can start to fix things in your life. I identify as a gay male Hispanic liberal and military veteran, open minded and welcoming, who is a huge fan of dark humor.
Non-diagnosable concerns that I have worked with in the past include relationship difficulties, sexuality exploration and coming out, transitioning and gender exploration, and open relationships/ polyamory.
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Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92101 (Online Only)
Additionally, I work with partners/couples/triads in non-conforming/non-traditional relationships, whether that's polyamory, open relationship, swinging, or something else.
Being part of the LGBTQIA+ community can be a challenging path to walk. As a gay man, I have been walking that path all my life and I understand the challenge. As a therapist I am here to help you with many of the challenges of it. Whether you are struggling with gender identity, sexuality, or something related - I'm here to support you. Maybe you are a family member of someone who identifies as LGBTQIA+ and are struggling to understand how to support your loved one? Whatever the circumstance - I'm here for you. I provide Telehealth for anyone living in California and can offer a sliding scale to those in need.
Additionally, I work with partners/couples/triads in non-conforming/non-traditional relationships, whether that's polyamory, open relationship, swinging, or something else.
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Alissa Benporat
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92101 (Online Only)
I believe that healing happens in relationship, and offer warmth and curiosity to help you explore and name the truth of your experience in order to heal from anxiety, relational trauma, and embrace life's challenges. I work with individuals & couples who want to improve boundaries and communication, create meaningful connection, and align their choices with their values. I support you through circumstances life throws at you - affairs, loss, aging, marriage, divorce, raising kids, job stress. I am keen to explore issues related to gender, culture, health, spirituality, sexuality, monogamy, polyamory, and psychedelic integration.
I believe that healing happens in relationship, and offer warmth and curiosity to help you explore and name the truth of your experience in order to heal from anxiety, relational trauma, and embrace life's challenges. I work with individuals & couples who want to improve boundaries and communication, create meaningful connection, and align their choices with their values. I support you through circumstances life throws at you - affairs, loss, aging, marriage, divorce, raising kids, job stress. I am keen to explore issues related to gender, culture, health, spirituality, sexuality, monogamy, polyamory, and psychedelic integration.
Natalie Alderson┃trauma & codependency healing
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92101
I support adults and couples with navigating addiction recovery, trauma, anxiety, LGBTQ+, neurodivergence, infidelity, codependency, monogamy, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and healthy communication.
Do you notice that unresolved trauma and codependency is draining you and your relationships? You're feeling exhausted by hyper-awareness. You are ready to end the people pleasing, heal trust issues, and stop obsessing over other people’s opinions. You notice yourself disconnecting, only to be lost in a painful memory. You see this clearly, have been in talk therapy before, yet you still feel stuck. You want to reconnect, but don't know where to start. I specialize in helping neurodivergent and queer people heal from trauma and codependency through a unique somatic approach that brings your mind, body, and spirit into your healing.
I support adults and couples with navigating addiction recovery, trauma, anxiety, LGBTQ+, neurodivergence, infidelity, codependency, monogamy, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and healthy communication.
Do you notice that unresolved trauma and codependency is draining you and your relationships? You're feeling exhausted by hyper-awareness. You are ready to end the people pleasing, heal trust issues, and stop obsessing over other people’s opinions. You notice yourself disconnecting, only to be lost in a painful memory. You see this clearly, have been in talk therapy before, yet you still feel stuck. You want to reconnect, but don't know where to start. I specialize in helping neurodivergent and queer people heal from trauma and codependency through a unique somatic approach that brings your mind, body, and spirit into your healing.
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Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MSW, WGS
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92120
I also offer group workshops for polyamory & ENM as well as a support group for parents that is positive-discipline focused and inclusive of all family orientations.
Sex and intimacy struggles? Are you questioning or exploring your gender and/or sexuality? Communication challenges in your relationships? I am here to support you and to collaborate with you. I provide a safe space to explore who you are becoming and to discern old thought patterns that are no longer of service. I provide a healing space free of judgement and offer tools that you can immediately integrate into your current experience. I will collaborate with you and work with the intersections of your unique experience.
I also offer group workshops for polyamory & ENM as well as a support group for parents that is positive-discipline focused and inclusive of all family orientations.
Sex and intimacy struggles? Are you questioning or exploring your gender and/or sexuality? Communication challenges in your relationships? I am here to support you and to collaborate with you. I provide a safe space to explore who you are becoming and to discern old thought patterns that are no longer of service. I provide a healing space free of judgement and offer tools that you can immediately integrate into your current experience. I will collaborate with you and work with the intersections of your unique experience.
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Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92126 (Online Only)
Pacific MFT Network is a group of highly skilled, diverse, and well-trained therapists. Our mission is to empower you to live the life you want. We do so by creating supportive, caring, and non-judgmental relationships with our clients. We work to provide you with the best care possible and reduce obstacles to participation. Additional benefits to working with us include a unique concierge billing service and a wide range of scheduling options (all weekdays, weekends, day and evening appointments are available). We work with children, teens, and adults of all ages.
Pacific MFT Network is a group of highly skilled, diverse, and well-trained therapists. Our mission is to empower you to live the life you want. We do so by creating supportive, caring, and non-judgmental relationships with our clients. We work to provide you with the best care possible and reduce obstacles to participation. Additional benefits to working with us include a unique concierge billing service and a wide range of scheduling options (all weekdays, weekends, day and evening appointments are available). We work with children, teens, and adults of all ages.
As a sex therapist, my mission is to empower women to reclaim their sexuality. By taking ownership of your body and your pleasure, you can refresh your zest for life. I utilize cognitive behavioral, narrative, and solution- focused techniques to enable you to identify what is holding you back from living the life you are meant to live let me help you live and love authentically. Book with me at www.beauthenticallyyou.net.
As a sex therapist, my mission is to empower women to reclaim their sexuality. By taking ownership of your body and your pleasure, you can refresh your zest for life. I utilize cognitive behavioral, narrative, and solution- focused techniques to enable you to identify what is holding you back from living the life you are meant to live let me help you live and love authentically. Book with me at www.beauthenticallyyou.net.
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Open Relationships Non-Monogamy Therapists
Why might an individual want to see a therapist specializing in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
A client seeking help with an open or consensually non-monogamous relationship will prefer to talk with a professional whom they can count on to be nonjudgmental. Talking with a supportive therapist may on its own help relieve some of the stigma and challenges partners face. That said, the most important factor in the success of any type of therapy is the ability of the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond. For this reason, an individual or couple could find success with a therapist who does not specialize in non-monogamous relationships but with whom they can build trust.
When should open or consensually non-monogamous partners seek counseling?
Like other couples, polyamorous partners typically seek counseling when they face relationship challenges they can’t solve themselves. In non-monogamous relationships, this could include breaches of trust, including infidelity; unclear rules or violations of boundaries; jealousy of outside partners; the stress of juggling the needs of multiple partners; or the effect of high partner turnover on children. Like those of other couples, polyamorous bonds can be threatened by increasingly frequent arguments, poor or dysfunctional communication, diminished emotional or physical intimacy, or the feeling that something is wrong, even if they don’t know what it is.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
No, but individuals seeking help with non-monogamous relationships would most likely consult a licensed professional with specific training in couples counseling or couples therapy. Couples counseling and couples therapy both involve teaching concrete strategies to navigate conflict in relationships. A good therapist can engage both partners as they explain these approaches but can also work with a single partner.
How long does therapy for consensually non-monogamous couples typically last?
Couples therapy for any type of couple, tends to be relatively time-limited, lasting around 12 weeks on average. A good therapist will tailor sessions to the individual partners’ emotions and sometimes their past, along with patterns found to be repeating in the relationship. In many cases, clients should expect their therapist to assign “homework” between weekly sessions.