Infidelity Therapists in Saint Helena, CA
Rebecca Bell
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Saint Helena, CA 94574 (Online Only)
It's 10 p.m. and you have 12 more emails to answer. You're so tired you can barely stay awake. You don't know what to do. You're sick of feeling stressed but you don't know how not to be. It would be great to talk to someone who gets it and gets you and can help make your life, not only easier, but richer, more fulfilled. Someone who can help free you from feeling so overwhelmed - can help you recapture your dreams.
It's 10 p.m. and you have 12 more emails to answer. You're so tired you can barely stay awake. You don't know what to do. You're sick of feeling stressed but you don't know how not to be. It would be great to talk to someone who gets it and gets you and can help make your life, not only easier, but richer, more fulfilled. Someone who can help free you from feeling so overwhelmed - can help you recapture your dreams.
Are you living with or have you recently been diagnosed with a major medical condition? Caring for someone who is ill or dying? Are you having difficulties coping with a chronic or newly diagnosed illness? Are your children struggling with the loss of a loved one? Are you dealing with the impact of illness on body image? Are you considering end of life options or dealing with issues such as loss and grief? We help patients, their loved ones, and caregivers coping with cancer, life-altering illness, chronic pain, neurological conditions, infertility, complex pregnancy, and end of life issues.
Are you living with or have you recently been diagnosed with a major medical condition? Caring for someone who is ill or dying? Are you having difficulties coping with a chronic or newly diagnosed illness? Are your children struggling with the loss of a loved one? Are you dealing with the impact of illness on body image? Are you considering end of life options or dealing with issues such as loss and grief? We help patients, their loved ones, and caregivers coping with cancer, life-altering illness, chronic pain, neurological conditions, infertility, complex pregnancy, and end of life issues.
Lynne Benatovich
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Saint Helena, CA 94574 (Online Only)
I know first hand that healing from trauma and "the dark nights of the soul" are not only possible, but hold within them a gateway to more love and joy. No one goes through life without pain. Yet how we address our pain will make all the difference in how deeply we suffer, how resilient we are and how much we grow from these experiences. I will infuse our collaboration with compassion, acceptance, curiosity, and humor--focusing on your strengths.
I know first hand that healing from trauma and "the dark nights of the soul" are not only possible, but hold within them a gateway to more love and joy. No one goes through life without pain. Yet how we address our pain will make all the difference in how deeply we suffer, how resilient we are and how much we grow from these experiences. I will infuse our collaboration with compassion, acceptance, curiosity, and humor--focusing on your strengths.
Annette Henke Psychotherapy
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, ACHP-SW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Helena, CA 94574
Many people come to me with prior experiences of therapy that were not helpful. This happens for many reasons but sometimes it's as simple as it wasn't the right fit. A wise mentor explained that "all human growth and healing takes place in the context of relationship, from infancy on". Therapy is a relationship of growth, change, healing. Many people are driven to therapy because of suffering in current or past relationship. Often the most challenging and hurtful relationship we have is the one with one's self. The "right" therapist is one that makes moving through this vulnerable process possible and bearable.
Many people come to me with prior experiences of therapy that were not helpful. This happens for many reasons but sometimes it's as simple as it wasn't the right fit. A wise mentor explained that "all human growth and healing takes place in the context of relationship, from infancy on". Therapy is a relationship of growth, change, healing. Many people are driven to therapy because of suffering in current or past relationship. Often the most challenging and hurtful relationship we have is the one with one's self. The "right" therapist is one that makes moving through this vulnerable process possible and bearable.
Being in a long-term relationship can be difficult. Job stress, parenting, chronic illness, and past trauma all add to the disruption in a relationship. When one or more of these are at play, your energy is sapped and your ability to respond to your partner or kids with patience is limited. It's hard to keep yourself from just reacting, whether that reaction is to snap out or shut down. I know - from very personal experience - how it feels to be trapped, alone, and stuck in a relationship without any idea how to make it better. But now, there's a roadmap to making these issues better, and I'd like to share it with you.
Being in a long-term relationship can be difficult. Job stress, parenting, chronic illness, and past trauma all add to the disruption in a relationship. When one or more of these are at play, your energy is sapped and your ability to respond to your partner or kids with patience is limited. It's hard to keep yourself from just reacting, whether that reaction is to snap out or shut down. I know - from very personal experience - how it feels to be trapped, alone, and stuck in a relationship without any idea how to make it better. But now, there's a roadmap to making these issues better, and I'd like to share it with you.
"May your choices reflect your HOPES, not your fears." - Nelson Mandela - Life can be stressful and overwhelming sometimes, causing us to lose track of long-term goals and everyday pleasures. Everyday stress stemming from family/relationship conflict, parenting issues, career choices and life transitions can build up and feel impossible to escape from. Therapy can be a useful guide to help get back on track and focus on what truly makes you happy.
"May your choices reflect your HOPES, not your fears." - Nelson Mandela - Life can be stressful and overwhelming sometimes, causing us to lose track of long-term goals and everyday pleasures. Everyday stress stemming from family/relationship conflict, parenting issues, career choices and life transitions can build up and feel impossible to escape from. Therapy can be a useful guide to help get back on track and focus on what truly makes you happy.
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I specialize in Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR), an evidenced based approach to treating a variety of clinical problems, including trauma, adverse life experiences, anxiety, depression and pain. EMDR targets past/current issues, and helps clients to face the future more adaptively. I also provide a range of additional services, including psychological assessments, pre-employment evaluations, expert witness testimony, trainings to various agencies and companies on topics including trauma, resiliency, mental health awareness and communication skills. I'm also a certified psychedelic assisted therapist.
I specialize in Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR), an evidenced based approach to treating a variety of clinical problems, including trauma, adverse life experiences, anxiety, depression and pain. EMDR targets past/current issues, and helps clients to face the future more adaptively. I also provide a range of additional services, including psychological assessments, pre-employment evaluations, expert witness testimony, trainings to various agencies and companies on topics including trauma, resiliency, mental health awareness and communication skills. I'm also a certified psychedelic assisted therapist.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed with life, incongruent with who you are and who you want to be, have doubts about your ability to change that which you want to change, transition from a known place to the unknown…. Sometimes you just need someone to talk with and sort out your thoughts and feelings. Someone to help you better understand what motivates or hinders you. Someone who will teach you new skills to manage the feelings that seem unmanageable, or behavior that no longer serves you.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed with life, incongruent with who you are and who you want to be, have doubts about your ability to change that which you want to change, transition from a known place to the unknown…. Sometimes you just need someone to talk with and sort out your thoughts and feelings. Someone to help you better understand what motivates or hinders you. Someone who will teach you new skills to manage the feelings that seem unmanageable, or behavior that no longer serves you.
Dr. Cynthia Grow
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT-CA, LMFT-FL
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Santa Rosa, CA 95409 (Online Only)
Hello, and thank you for visiting my profile! I appreciate your courage in seeking therapy. This can feel like a huge step, but it's really like having skilled companionship on a safe, self-paced journey, customized specifically for you. Problems can feel overwhelming and that's when concentrated focus is important for relief. Sometimes just a "tune-up" is nice. Either way, you'll find me client-centered, compassionate, and non-judgemental. I'm a trauma recovery specialist (single incident or complex). I'm skilled in helping clients overcome depression, anxiety, grief, loss, relationship/parenting conflict, life transitions, & more.
Hello, and thank you for visiting my profile! I appreciate your courage in seeking therapy. This can feel like a huge step, but it's really like having skilled companionship on a safe, self-paced journey, customized specifically for you. Problems can feel overwhelming and that's when concentrated focus is important for relief. Sometimes just a "tune-up" is nice. Either way, you'll find me client-centered, compassionate, and non-judgemental. I'm a trauma recovery specialist (single incident or complex). I'm skilled in helping clients overcome depression, anxiety, grief, loss, relationship/parenting conflict, life transitions, & more.
Online Therapists
Donald Wallach
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Petaluma, CA 94952
I help couples talk successfully about the difficult topics: anger management, sexual problems, money issues, parenting disagreements, past hurts that never got resolved, affairs, anxiety and depression issues, communication skills, avoiding talking about the issues, too much bickering, alcohol and substance issues, and relationship with family and in-laws.
Are you feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Or are things mostly okay, but there is that one topic that you two can never really talk about in a healthy way? Find out how to stop bickering and have the happier relationship you desire. Are you feeling unloved, distant, and lonely in your marriage? Feeling tension when he/she enters the room or when that certain topic comes up in conversation. If yes, it may mean you've missed earlier warning signs that something is off track in your marriage. There is help for marriages that are losing passion, connection and love. Contact me if you want to talk about your marriage.
I help couples talk successfully about the difficult topics: anger management, sexual problems, money issues, parenting disagreements, past hurts that never got resolved, affairs, anxiety and depression issues, communication skills, avoiding talking about the issues, too much bickering, alcohol and substance issues, and relationship with family and in-laws.
Are you feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Or are things mostly okay, but there is that one topic that you two can never really talk about in a healthy way? Find out how to stop bickering and have the happier relationship you desire. Are you feeling unloved, distant, and lonely in your marriage? Feeling tension when he/she enters the room or when that certain topic comes up in conversation. If yes, it may mean you've missed earlier warning signs that something is off track in your marriage. There is help for marriages that are losing passion, connection and love. Contact me if you want to talk about your marriage.
The emotional toll and mental energy spent on trying to understand and deal with the aftermath of discovery - of online multiple affairs, lying, porn use, etc.
Anger, Rage, Intense emotions can affect you and the people around you. When your anger turns to constant irritability and you start to 'act out' in unhealthy ways, it's time to get support. When ones sadness or loss becomes deeper and darker it could be depression. Most of these emotions are felt with such intensity that it's overwhelming. Sex and Porn Addiction along with Partner Trauma Betrayal is going to feel very intense and working with someone who has additional expertise in this area is going to be so important for your healing. Couples work with me because they feel safe and supported.
The emotional toll and mental energy spent on trying to understand and deal with the aftermath of discovery - of online multiple affairs, lying, porn use, etc.
Anger, Rage, Intense emotions can affect you and the people around you. When your anger turns to constant irritability and you start to 'act out' in unhealthy ways, it's time to get support. When ones sadness or loss becomes deeper and darker it could be depression. Most of these emotions are felt with such intensity that it's overwhelming. Sex and Porn Addiction along with Partner Trauma Betrayal is going to feel very intense and working with someone who has additional expertise in this area is going to be so important for your healing. Couples work with me because they feel safe and supported.
Jose E Trejo
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, Jose E , Trejo, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94110 (Online Only)
I specialize in sex therapy incl: erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low desire, desire discrepancy, difficulty with arousal/orgasm, painful sex and improving the sex and connection in your relationships. I work with couples and individuals struggling in relationships, infidelity work, having conflict, not connecting, wanting to improve their relationship, wanting to or preparing to be in a relationship and working through the end of a relationship. I work with couples in general (communication, discord, struggling or wanting to improve). I work with general life stress (work, transitions, purpose in life, lost, etc)
I specialize in sex therapy incl: erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low desire, desire discrepancy, difficulty with arousal/orgasm, painful sex and improving the sex and connection in your relationships. I work with couples and individuals struggling in relationships, infidelity work, having conflict, not connecting, wanting to improve their relationship, wanting to or preparing to be in a relationship and working through the end of a relationship. I work with couples in general (communication, discord, struggling or wanting to improve). I work with general life stress (work, transitions, purpose in life, lost, etc)
Daniel Fulton
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
Sacramento, CA 95816 (Online Only)
Welcome. Are you struggling in your relationship? Do you feel alone, frustrated, or overwhelmed? Perhaps distance, criticism, or conflict have taken over and you no longer feel connected to yourself or your partner(s). You may worry that confusion, anger, grief, and loneliness are the new normal in your life. Perhaps you feel something special has been lost, and you want to find it again. Whether you are going through a major change like having a baby, recovering from a betrayal or loss, or simply facing the challenges of everyday life, you may find yourself longing for a feeling of wholehearted connection and belonging.
Welcome. Are you struggling in your relationship? Do you feel alone, frustrated, or overwhelmed? Perhaps distance, criticism, or conflict have taken over and you no longer feel connected to yourself or your partner(s). You may worry that confusion, anger, grief, and loneliness are the new normal in your life. Perhaps you feel something special has been lost, and you want to find it again. Whether you are going through a major change like having a baby, recovering from a betrayal or loss, or simply facing the challenges of everyday life, you may find yourself longing for a feeling of wholehearted connection and belonging.
I typically work with adults who are struggling with a sexual addiction such as pornography or other acting out behaviors, couples who have had infidelity in their relationship, and those who are suffering from the effects of trauma whether it be childhood trauma or events that have happened in their adult years.
Welcome. My name is Joseph Martinez, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Pasadena, California, and seeing people by Telehealth and in person. I work with teens, adults, and couples primarily focusing on trauma, sexual addictions, betrayal trauma, and grief. I use cognitive behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and EMDR to help you work through these difficult times and hopefully feel better. Therapy is not a one-size-fits-all approach and after working with you to determine your needs and what works best for you, we go from there.
I typically work with adults who are struggling with a sexual addiction such as pornography or other acting out behaviors, couples who have had infidelity in their relationship, and those who are suffering from the effects of trauma whether it be childhood trauma or events that have happened in their adult years.
Welcome. My name is Joseph Martinez, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Pasadena, California, and seeing people by Telehealth and in person. I work with teens, adults, and couples primarily focusing on trauma, sexual addictions, betrayal trauma, and grief. I use cognitive behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and EMDR to help you work through these difficult times and hopefully feel better. Therapy is not a one-size-fits-all approach and after working with you to determine your needs and what works best for you, we go from there.
David Clark
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Sacramento, CA 95866 (Online Only)
Not accepting new clients. Rebuild or reclaim your relationship and happiness. I help couples and individuals overcome the emotional upheaval of past trauma, stress, and communication issues that often result in infidelity, addiction, sexual issues, shame and guilt. I'm confident you will find my friendly interactive style sets the stage you will want in a safe and nonjudgmental space. LGBT and friends of Bill W. welcomed. Your peace of mind, happiness, and success is my goal.
Not accepting new clients. Rebuild or reclaim your relationship and happiness. I help couples and individuals overcome the emotional upheaval of past trauma, stress, and communication issues that often result in infidelity, addiction, sexual issues, shame and guilt. I'm confident you will find my friendly interactive style sets the stage you will want in a safe and nonjudgmental space. LGBT and friends of Bill W. welcomed. Your peace of mind, happiness, and success is my goal.
Ashley Morgan
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Roseville, CA 95661
I utilize emotionally focused therapy to steer couples who are wanting premarital counseling, help with improving communication and/or rebuilding trust after infidelity toward a new understanding of one another that promotes loving connection.
I admire those who have made it to this point and are ready to take a step towards meaningful change! Our close relationships, with family, friends or romantic partners, play a major role in shaping every individual. I have seen how these relationships, especially those with romantic partners, can impact many of our life aspects such as, self-esteem, what we value, and the roles we play in everyday life. These relationships can feel impossible to navigate at times, causing stress and tension to overflow and impact family, work, friendships and personal well-being.
I utilize emotionally focused therapy to steer couples who are wanting premarital counseling, help with improving communication and/or rebuilding trust after infidelity toward a new understanding of one another that promotes loving connection.
I admire those who have made it to this point and are ready to take a step towards meaningful change! Our close relationships, with family, friends or romantic partners, play a major role in shaping every individual. I have seen how these relationships, especially those with romantic partners, can impact many of our life aspects such as, self-esteem, what we value, and the roles we play in everyday life. These relationships can feel impossible to navigate at times, causing stress and tension to overflow and impact family, work, friendships and personal well-being.
Lucia Grauman
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Oakland, CA 94618
Awarded Oakland Magazine's "Best Therapist" 2018 & 2020, my specialties include: relationship issues (such as conflict resolution, dating, pre-marital counseling, divorce, blended families, infidelity); grief & loss; addiction, recovery & codependence; anxiety & depression. My approach is both warm and direct-- my clients experience me as accepting and empathic, while also feeling challenged the right amount to grow and change. I am an integrative therapist, meaning I integrate more than one way/theory/model to view and treat psychological and/or relational concerns. See my website for education, experience and credentials.
Awarded Oakland Magazine's "Best Therapist" 2018 & 2020, my specialties include: relationship issues (such as conflict resolution, dating, pre-marital counseling, divorce, blended families, infidelity); grief & loss; addiction, recovery & codependence; anxiety & depression. My approach is both warm and direct-- my clients experience me as accepting and empathic, while also feeling challenged the right amount to grow and change. I am an integrative therapist, meaning I integrate more than one way/theory/model to view and treat psychological and/or relational concerns. See my website for education, experience and credentials.
Is your heart broken, hurting or closed off because of grief? Do you feel numb, have trouble concentrating? Do you feel like you are on a roller coaster of emotional energy? You may feel like your heart has closed due to marital distress or separation. You may feel resentment, disconnect, anger, anxiety, a loss of trust and a sense of betrayal in your relationship. You may find yourself facing questions you have never faced before. I can be the therapist there with you as you work through all these painful feelings.
Is your heart broken, hurting or closed off because of grief? Do you feel numb, have trouble concentrating? Do you feel like you are on a roller coaster of emotional energy? You may feel like your heart has closed due to marital distress or separation. You may feel resentment, disconnect, anger, anxiety, a loss of trust and a sense of betrayal in your relationship. You may find yourself facing questions you have never faced before. I can be the therapist there with you as you work through all these painful feelings.
If you’re struggling with betrayal, I’ll be here to help you process and heal.
The violation of trust in a relationship is one of the most devastating things you can experience. Infidelity leaves you feeling confused, alone, and hopeless. Affairs are often a symptom of other struggles in a relationship, where one or both partners feel a lack of being seen and a loss of connection. Believe it or not, this can be an opportunity to strengthen your relationship. Infidelity can be the worst or best thing that happened to you. The next steps are up to you. With determination, hard work, and the right support, you can use it to heal.
If you’re struggling with betrayal, I’ll be here to help you process and heal.
The violation of trust in a relationship is one of the most devastating things you can experience. Infidelity leaves you feeling confused, alone, and hopeless. Affairs are often a symptom of other struggles in a relationship, where one or both partners feel a lack of being seen and a loss of connection. Believe it or not, this can be an opportunity to strengthen your relationship. Infidelity can be the worst or best thing that happened to you. The next steps are up to you. With determination, hard work, and the right support, you can use it to heal.
Deborah Lefferts
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Fremont, CA 94538 (Online Only)
My expertise in working with couples includes teaching communication and conflict resolution skills, divorce recovery, and methods to heal from extramarital affairs, rebuilding trust, intimacy and marital enrichment.
With over 32 years experience, I help clients overcome the pain of past and current relationships and experience the pleasure in life they deserve. My approach is solution and goal oriented while utilizing knowledge of life history as appropriate to deepen the understanding of emotional problems and to empower change. My personality is warm yet active and engaged in the therapeutic process. I work most effectively with clients experiencing depression, anxiety, relationship problems, grief/loss, trauma, parenting issues and divorce recovery. I primarily utilize Psychodynamic and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy approaches in my work.
My expertise in working with couples includes teaching communication and conflict resolution skills, divorce recovery, and methods to heal from extramarital affairs, rebuilding trust, intimacy and marital enrichment.
With over 32 years experience, I help clients overcome the pain of past and current relationships and experience the pleasure in life they deserve. My approach is solution and goal oriented while utilizing knowledge of life history as appropriate to deepen the understanding of emotional problems and to empower change. My personality is warm yet active and engaged in the therapeutic process. I work most effectively with clients experiencing depression, anxiety, relationship problems, grief/loss, trauma, parenting issues and divorce recovery. I primarily utilize Psychodynamic and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy approaches in my work.
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Infidelity Therapists
How does therapy for infidelity work?
A skilled infidelity therapist will provide a safe space for clients to communicate their feelings and concerns. The goal is to be completely honest about what led to the cheating and how it has affected the entire family to prevent it from recurring in the future. The therapist will help the clients work on rebuilding mutual trust and respect and developing better communication and conflict-resolution skills. If the goal is to remain a couple, clients will learn the “danger signs” for their specific relationship, and they will make a renewed commitment to be faithful.
How long does therapy for infidelity take?
Recovery from infidelity can take time, and it can vary from person to person. Generally, a therapist will want to see the clients at least once a week for around six months. Then the sessions can be arranged as needed, depending on the clients’ individual needs. While therapy may end or shift to an as-needed basis, it can take up to two years or more for some clients to fully recover from infidelity.
How does therapy help the partner who was cheated on?
When a client discovers their partner’s infidelity, their trust in the relationship and in the life they had together may be shattered. They often experience mental health symptoms, such as anxiety, depression, grief, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They don’t always want to stay in the relationship; they may feel ambivalent or may even want to leave. Therapy gives these clients a safe and healthy way to communicate all of their complicated emotions and concerns.
How does therapy help the partner who committed infidelity?
Infidelity often occurs when one or both partners’ emotional needs are not being met in the relationship. Therapy can help this client understand why they cheated and figure out how to address those unmet needs without resorting to infidelity in the future. This can lessen (but not entirely eliminate) the risk of repeated infidelity. Clients who cheat may also feel intense guilt about deceiving their partners, a sentiment that they can work through in therapy.