Gestalt Therapists in Oceanside, CA

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Paul Wilcox
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92057
I have been working as a Marriage and Family Therapist and Professional Clinical Counselor since 2015. I’ve worked in a variety of settings, including Private Practice, group homes with wards of the State of CA, going into people’s homes to do therapy, and in trauma focused rehab and recovery programs. My foundation is client centered therapy which helps to create a safe, comfortable, non judgmental atmosphere. I also integrate various evidence based modalities into treatment, including CBT, Mindfulness, Solution Focused, Psychodynamic, MI, Strength Based, Gestalt, Existential, Gottman, Hypnotherapy, EMDR, and more
I have been working as a Marriage and Family Therapist and Professional Clinical Counselor since 2015. I’ve worked in a variety of settings, including Private Practice, group homes with wards of the State of CA, going into people’s homes to do therapy, and in trauma focused rehab and recovery programs. My foundation is client centered therapy which helps to create a safe, comfortable, non judgmental atmosphere. I also integrate various evidence based modalities into treatment, including CBT, Mindfulness, Solution Focused, Psychodynamic, MI, Strength Based, Gestalt, Existential, Gottman, Hypnotherapy, EMDR, and more
(442) 259-6892 View (442) 259-6892
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Dr. Roger Peter Douglas
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92057
My name is Dr. Roger Douglas, PsyD, LMFT 124878. I am a psychologist, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a USMC Veteran. I offer mental health services to Individuals and Groups using evidence-based practices. The theoretical approach I utilize will depend on your presenting problems. Some of these approaches are, Cognitive Theories, Post Modern Theories, Psychodynamic Theories, Client Centered Theories, Systems.
My name is Dr. Roger Douglas, PsyD, LMFT 124878. I am a psychologist, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a USMC Veteran. I offer mental health services to Individuals and Groups using evidence-based practices. The theoretical approach I utilize will depend on your presenting problems. Some of these approaches are, Cognitive Theories, Post Modern Theories, Psychodynamic Theories, Client Centered Theories, Systems.
(760) 254-8137 View (760) 254-8137
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Cynthia Casey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92054
Through life's journey there are times that we may feel stuck as if there is a part of you that won't allow you to reach your goals? Do you want more from your life or are you finding it hard to get through your day without feeling anxious, angry, sad or overwhelmed? Do you struggle with addictive or compulsive behaviors? Or are you having relationship issues with your loved ones or coworkers? There is hope. I can be an effective resource in helping to you identify and move toward your goals, becoming a happier and healthier you.
Through life's journey there are times that we may feel stuck as if there is a part of you that won't allow you to reach your goals? Do you want more from your life or are you finding it hard to get through your day without feeling anxious, angry, sad or overwhelmed? Do you struggle with addictive or compulsive behaviors? Or are you having relationship issues with your loved ones or coworkers? There is hope. I can be an effective resource in helping to you identify and move toward your goals, becoming a happier and healthier you.
(760) 678-4295 View (760) 678-4295
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Rashida N Black
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92054
Life seems intense, overwhelming, or stressful right now. Fear, anger, and exhaustion are familiar emotions. Your parent/boss/spouse just doesn't get it and you don't know how to explain it to them. Perhaps you're questioning your identity, coming out to your family or to your child(ren), experiencing separation/divorce, ready to transition, or coping with loss. You want a safe place to discuss and leave behind feelings of loneliness, sadness, and confusion. You want to figure out a way to get through the week (the day!) and the next. You want relief. You want to be understood. Let's talk. Your first phone consultation is free.
Life seems intense, overwhelming, or stressful right now. Fear, anger, and exhaustion are familiar emotions. Your parent/boss/spouse just doesn't get it and you don't know how to explain it to them. Perhaps you're questioning your identity, coming out to your family or to your child(ren), experiencing separation/divorce, ready to transition, or coping with loss. You want a safe place to discuss and leave behind feelings of loneliness, sadness, and confusion. You want to figure out a way to get through the week (the day!) and the next. You want relief. You want to be understood. Let's talk. Your first phone consultation is free.
(442) 777-6863 View (442) 777-6863
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Claudia Goedde
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92054  (Online Only)
Do you feel overwhelmed, not knowing how to balance your life and inner longings? Maybe you have resorted to coping skills that are no longer working or are even harming you. And maybe you are dreaming of getting your Self back by finding more meaning, purpose, and joy in your life. Sometimes a little outside guidance can shift our perspective and we can learn effective tools to help us thrive again. I love to help with: Anxiety disorders (including emetophobia), relationship solutions, women's issues, pre/postnatal concerns, women's health, peri/menopause, and parenting solutions.
Do you feel overwhelmed, not knowing how to balance your life and inner longings? Maybe you have resorted to coping skills that are no longer working or are even harming you. And maybe you are dreaming of getting your Self back by finding more meaning, purpose, and joy in your life. Sometimes a little outside guidance can shift our perspective and we can learn effective tools to help us thrive again. I love to help with: Anxiety disorders (including emetophobia), relationship solutions, women's issues, pre/postnatal concerns, women's health, peri/menopause, and parenting solutions.
(760) 383-1985 View (760) 383-1985
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Thomas Schmierer, Catholic Therapist
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92054
I am a Catholic therapist who helps INDIVIDUALS, COUPLES, and FAMILIES in pain to experience deep personal and relational healing by using the top faith- and evidence-based treatments so that they can love with more peace, holiness, and joy. I help INDIVIDUALS: (1) Restore peace through deep healing and resolve various internal problems (Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Post-traumatic stress, OCD, Bipolar disorder, & Poor concentration/organization), (2) Overcome relational challenges like: *Recovering from betrayals due to affairs, addiction, or abuse/neglect, *Overcoming co-dependent/enabling tendencies, *Making better relational choices, & *Dealing better with difficult people.
I am a Catholic therapist who helps INDIVIDUALS, COUPLES, and FAMILIES in pain to experience deep personal and relational healing by using the top faith- and evidence-based treatments so that they can love with more peace, holiness, and joy. I help INDIVIDUALS: (1) Restore peace through deep healing and resolve various internal problems (Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Post-traumatic stress, OCD, Bipolar disorder, & Poor concentration/organization), (2) Overcome relational challenges like: *Recovering from betrayals due to affairs, addiction, or abuse/neglect, *Overcoming co-dependent/enabling tendencies, *Making better relational choices, & *Dealing better with difficult people.
(760) 313-3878 View (760) 313-3878
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Jeanette Abney
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, SAP
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92058  (Online Only)
I am the owner of two out patient counseling centers providing services to adults, teen and children. Services include mental health, individual, family, couples counseling, crisis intervention, substance abuse, SAP Assessments, addictive behaviors, domestic violence, anger management, parenting, co-parenting, marital, pre-marital counseling and other court or probation approved services. I have knowledge of Military Culture. I conduct groups, workshops, educational training and family interventions. I provide services in Fullerton, Garden Grove, Huntington Beach, Murrieta and Oceanside, CA. I also provide telehealth services.
I am the owner of two out patient counseling centers providing services to adults, teen and children. Services include mental health, individual, family, couples counseling, crisis intervention, substance abuse, SAP Assessments, addictive behaviors, domestic violence, anger management, parenting, co-parenting, marital, pre-marital counseling and other court or probation approved services. I have knowledge of Military Culture. I conduct groups, workshops, educational training and family interventions. I provide services in Fullerton, Garden Grove, Huntington Beach, Murrieta and Oceanside, CA. I also provide telehealth services.
(760) 354-8559 View (760) 354-8559
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Connie Yang
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92057  (Online Only)
Couples, it's hard being in a relationship. You love each other and want to make it work, but lately, your relationship has felt more difficult. You’re not getting your points across, no one feels heard and understood, and your conflicts get in the way of truly appreciating each other. You’re not sure whether you should stay together or end the relationship. You’re thinking, “Should it be this hard?”
Couples, it's hard being in a relationship. You love each other and want to make it work, but lately, your relationship has felt more difficult. You’re not getting your points across, no one feels heard and understood, and your conflicts get in the way of truly appreciating each other. You’re not sure whether you should stay together or end the relationship. You’re thinking, “Should it be this hard?”
(760) 428-1821 View (760) 428-1821
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LaKeina Ferguson
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92058
I'm LaKeina Ferguson you can call me Keina. My approach to therapy is client centered meaning you're in charge. My areas of practice are substance abuse, depression, anxiety and for those who are suffering from low self-esteem and self-worth. I have a whole being philosophy because I truly believe that we have to take care of all of ourselves (mental, emotional, physical and spiritual) if we want to be completely whole. I typically work with clients who experience trauma as children and adults, domestic violence victims and perpetrators, substance abuse, Christian counseling, Bipolar disorders, depressive and anxiety disorders.
I'm LaKeina Ferguson you can call me Keina. My approach to therapy is client centered meaning you're in charge. My areas of practice are substance abuse, depression, anxiety and for those who are suffering from low self-esteem and self-worth. I have a whole being philosophy because I truly believe that we have to take care of all of ourselves (mental, emotional, physical and spiritual) if we want to be completely whole. I typically work with clients who experience trauma as children and adults, domestic violence victims and perpetrators, substance abuse, Christian counseling, Bipolar disorders, depressive and anxiety disorders.
(442) 219-8548 View (442) 219-8548
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Dana Marie Nielsen
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92054
You know that unshakable feeling of "it’s going to be alright" that sinks deep into your cells? Perhaps you’ve had it on vacation, or a moment with a loved one? That inner ease can be your baseline, instead of a fleeting moment. You don’t have to numb out or push through it all. It starts with learning how to regulate your energy, and evolves into a practice of finding your flow.
You know that unshakable feeling of "it’s going to be alright" that sinks deep into your cells? Perhaps you’ve had it on vacation, or a moment with a loved one? That inner ease can be your baseline, instead of a fleeting moment. You don’t have to numb out or push through it all. It starts with learning how to regulate your energy, and evolves into a practice of finding your flow.
(415) 799-4306 View (415) 799-4306
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Rebekah Taylor
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92057
My name is Rebekah, and over the past 10 years social work and social equality has been my focus in my career. I have been working with youth and families for my entire career and have found joy in the success of others and watching individuals grow into their most authentic selves. I have a passion for family systems and understanding the role each individual has. My experience has been in substance use, individuals who have been unhoused, victims of sexual abuse, child abuse/neglect, domestic violence, and adult children of substance users.
My name is Rebekah, and over the past 10 years social work and social equality has been my focus in my career. I have been working with youth and families for my entire career and have found joy in the success of others and watching individuals grow into their most authentic selves. I have a passion for family systems and understanding the role each individual has. My experience has been in substance use, individuals who have been unhoused, victims of sexual abuse, child abuse/neglect, domestic violence, and adult children of substance users.
(760) 349-4328 View (760) 349-4328
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Lauren Elisabeth Pichard
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92054  (Online Only)
Unresolved trauma and shame can create a variety of unwanted psychological, physical, spiritual and financial consequences. Through integration of the self and resolution of shame and trauma people often feel more energetic, less triggered by outside events, experience improved health and may see shifts in their relationships and finances. When you Heal Yourself, you can Love Your Life.
Unresolved trauma and shame can create a variety of unwanted psychological, physical, spiritual and financial consequences. Through integration of the self and resolution of shame and trauma people often feel more energetic, less triggered by outside events, experience improved health and may see shifts in their relationships and finances. When you Heal Yourself, you can Love Your Life.
(619) 733-7163 View (619) 733-7163
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Socorro Ancheta-Goodacre
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92056
My name is Socorro A. Ancheta-Goodacre and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with over 30 years of experience based in the Fresno area. I work with adolescents, adults and married couples and families. I utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotional Focus Therapy, and Internal Family Systems to provide people with the skills and knowledge to heal and cope with depression, anxiety, stress, grief, trauma and life's transition.
My name is Socorro A. Ancheta-Goodacre and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with over 30 years of experience based in the Fresno area. I work with adolescents, adults and married couples and families. I utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotional Focus Therapy, and Internal Family Systems to provide people with the skills and knowledge to heal and cope with depression, anxiety, stress, grief, trauma and life's transition.
(916) 694-1439 View (916) 694-1439
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Danielle Saliman
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92056  (Online Only)
You feel stuck. Day in and day out, the monotony of your life is so draining. You know you want to make a change, but what kind of change? A new job, new location, going to school, a different relationship... It is all so overwhelming. Where do you even start? And that's where you get stuck. Knowing you want this change but feeling paralyzed by the anxiety of the unknown. Or maybe even worse, the fear of making the WRONG decision. So you keep trudging along. Day after day. Stuck in this constant loop. You want to escape this, but you just need help!
You feel stuck. Day in and day out, the monotony of your life is so draining. You know you want to make a change, but what kind of change? A new job, new location, going to school, a different relationship... It is all so overwhelming. Where do you even start? And that's where you get stuck. Knowing you want this change but feeling paralyzed by the anxiety of the unknown. Or maybe even worse, the fear of making the WRONG decision. So you keep trudging along. Day after day. Stuck in this constant loop. You want to escape this, but you just need help!
(619) 492-4356 View (619) 492-4356
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Shaliss Padilla LMFT: Integrative Mental Health
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92054
My name is Shaliss Padilla, LMFT, founder/CEO of Mindbodyology. I integrate the best of conventional and holistic approaches, taking "talk therapy" to the next level! Seeking personal transformation? Are anxiety and/or depression, and/or bad habits holding you back? Well, we can help! We work with the whole person - mind, body and spirit. Prefer more traditional approaches? Lets try evidence based counseling such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or DBT. Like holistic approaches? Let's explore Reiki Treatments, Mindfulness, Energy Psychology, EFT/tapping, Sound Therapy, Hypnotherapy or other integrative modalities.
My name is Shaliss Padilla, LMFT, founder/CEO of Mindbodyology. I integrate the best of conventional and holistic approaches, taking "talk therapy" to the next level! Seeking personal transformation? Are anxiety and/or depression, and/or bad habits holding you back? Well, we can help! We work with the whole person - mind, body and spirit. Prefer more traditional approaches? Lets try evidence based counseling such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or DBT. Like holistic approaches? Let's explore Reiki Treatments, Mindfulness, Energy Psychology, EFT/tapping, Sound Therapy, Hypnotherapy or other integrative modalities.
(855) 976-9486 View (855) 976-9486
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Mark Brewer
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT, LPCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92054
WAVE THERAPY (Wisdom-Action-Vision-Encouragement) will help you get the support for which you are looking. We offer therapy. Call Now!! We will help you discover your inner resources, build self-esteem and develop new healthy patterns and solutions to life's challenges. INSURANCES Accepted!! WAVE specializes in EMDR for Depression, Anxiety & Trauma as well as EFT for couples and Solution Focused to help you achieve your goals. Low Self Esteem,Intense Anger or Rage, Unsatisfying relationships,Depression,Anxiety, Fears, Obsessing or ruminating over an idea or someone, social fears or phobias. WEBSITE-www.wavetherapist.com
WAVE THERAPY (Wisdom-Action-Vision-Encouragement) will help you get the support for which you are looking. We offer therapy. Call Now!! We will help you discover your inner resources, build self-esteem and develop new healthy patterns and solutions to life's challenges. INSURANCES Accepted!! WAVE specializes in EMDR for Depression, Anxiety & Trauma as well as EFT for couples and Solution Focused to help you achieve your goals. Low Self Esteem,Intense Anger or Rage, Unsatisfying relationships,Depression,Anxiety, Fears, Obsessing or ruminating over an idea or someone, social fears or phobias. WEBSITE-www.wavetherapist.com
(760) 354-9910 View (760) 354-9910
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Kimberly Mears
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92054
Challenges and obstacles are a natural part of life. I believe, clients can draw from their strengths in combination with self awareness, stress management and therapeutic tools, to overcome most hurdles in their lives. My therapeutic approach depends on the individual or the couples needs. After a thorough assessment, I will then establish a treatment plan designed to meet my clients needs. My individualized treatment plans are based on 20 years of experience and constructed with input from my client. We will work together to identify; understand and resolve difficulties which undermine daily functioning and well being.
Challenges and obstacles are a natural part of life. I believe, clients can draw from their strengths in combination with self awareness, stress management and therapeutic tools, to overcome most hurdles in their lives. My therapeutic approach depends on the individual or the couples needs. After a thorough assessment, I will then establish a treatment plan designed to meet my clients needs. My individualized treatment plans are based on 20 years of experience and constructed with input from my client. We will work together to identify; understand and resolve difficulties which undermine daily functioning and well being.
(760) 385-6283 View (760) 385-6283
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Eddie A Quintana
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MS
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92051  (Online Only)
My Philosophy is simple, start where you are at in the process. My approach is to work with you and together we would develop goals and expectations on what you want to work on. It is a collaborative effort in order to help you make progress and sustain change once progress is made. Even though I'm seen as the professional, to me your're the professional of you're life and its my job to help guide you into a place where you feel comfortable. For further info please check out my website at quintanacounseling.com.
My Philosophy is simple, start where you are at in the process. My approach is to work with you and together we would develop goals and expectations on what you want to work on. It is a collaborative effort in order to help you make progress and sustain change once progress is made. Even though I'm seen as the professional, to me your're the professional of you're life and its my job to help guide you into a place where you feel comfortable. For further info please check out my website at quintanacounseling.com.
(858) 956-7836 View (858) 956-7836
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Cheryl Eve Silverstein
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
Oceanside, CA 92054
I approach psychotherapy with the belief that our experience and behavior are held in the body and spirit as well as in the mind. I work on an emotional and spiritual level where healing comes energetically demonstrated by significant positive changes in the client's attitudes and behaviors. My professional strengths include an empathetic quality joined with over thirty years of experience treating adults, teens and children in individual as well as couple and family therapy sessions helping to effect the desired results of a healthy and happier well being.
I approach psychotherapy with the belief that our experience and behavior are held in the body and spirit as well as in the mind. I work on an emotional and spiritual level where healing comes energetically demonstrated by significant positive changes in the client's attitudes and behaviors. My professional strengths include an empathetic quality joined with over thirty years of experience treating adults, teens and children in individual as well as couple and family therapy sessions helping to effect the desired results of a healthy and happier well being.
(949) 391-3748 View (949) 391-3748
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Allison Arkfeld
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Oceanside, CA 92054
Waitlist for new clients
I specialize in anxiety, depression, trauma, and adult adhd. I take an integrative and strength-based approach to healing that attends to the mind, body, and spirit. I believe that humans are inherently resilient and what may have worked to help you cope in the past, may not be working for you in the present. This can show up through behaviors such as isolating from others, internalizing other people's behavior as your fault, scanning for threat, addictions, risk taking, over working, perfectionism, etc. I want to help you rediscover your strengths and deepen your sense of hope so you can lead a more vital, exuberant life.
I specialize in anxiety, depression, trauma, and adult adhd. I take an integrative and strength-based approach to healing that attends to the mind, body, and spirit. I believe that humans are inherently resilient and what may have worked to help you cope in the past, may not be working for you in the present. This can show up through behaviors such as isolating from others, internalizing other people's behavior as your fault, scanning for threat, addictions, risk taking, over working, perfectionism, etc. I want to help you rediscover your strengths and deepen your sense of hope so you can lead a more vital, exuberant life.
(760) 334-7716 View (760) 334-7716
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Gestalt Therapists

What is gestalt therapy?

Gestalt therapy is based on the idea that to address unresolved negative feelings, emotions must be not only discussed but also actively expressed in the present moment. The term is from a German word meaning “whole,” and gestalt therapists believe that people should be considered whole entities made up of mind, body, and emotions. Gestalt sessions are rooted in the notion that a client’s total self must be discovered, explored, and confronted, so that they can take greater responsibility for themselves and their behavior, learn to satisfy their own needs while still respecting the needs of others, and reconnect with feelings they might otherwise deny.

How does gestalt therapy work?

Gestalt therapy sessions do not just involve talking with a therapist. Clients may take part in role-playing, re-enactment, or artistic exercises like drawing and painting, with the goal of becoming more aware of negative thought patterns that limit happiness. One common gestalt exercise is “the empty chair,” in which a client sits across from an empty chair representing a partner, relative, boss, or a part of themselves—and, with the therapist’s encouragement, improvises a dialog with it. The intention is to bring the emotions raised by past conflicts into the present and work through them in the moment.

How long does gestalt therapy last?

As with most forms of talk therapy, there is no set duration or end point for gestalt therapy; people who believe that they are making progress typically continue until they feel they’ve addressed the issues that had been holding them back. New patients should understand that it may take some time to become comfortable with gestalt exercises but once they do, they should expect sessions to extend for a number of months, typically spanning at least 12 sessions.

Does gestalt therapy work?

Gestalt therapy has generally been found to be as effective as other forms of talk therapy in helping people living with anxiety, depression, phobias, bipolar disorder, and substance use disorders, as well as helping individuals reduce conflict in relationships. Gestalt techniques, on their own or in combination with other therapies, can also be effective in managing physical ailments including ulcerative colitis, migraines, and back spasms. It should be noted that some people may have trouble adapting to gestalt therapy’s lack of formal structure or to a therapist’s close observations of their body language and emotions; others may struggle to commit to techniques that feel unnatural, like the empty chair exercise.