Emotionally Focused Therapists in Kensington, CA

Therapy is an opportunity for getting support when we recognize that the old ways of coping with challenging life situations are no longer working. You may feel that seeking professional help is the last resort. In fact, it is the most important step. In my practice, I provide a warm and collaborative environment to support clients in making positive changes to live healthier, happier, and more productive lives. I see adults, adolescents, and couples with a wide variety of issues and concerns including depression, anxiety, PTSD, childhood trauma, relationship difficulties, sexual issues, anger management, and substance abuse.

Is your relationship feeling hopeless, or stuck in conflict? You might find yourselves trapped in repeating patterns. You know communication should be improved somehow. Maybe you don’t spend enough time together. You could be avoiding each other because of past hurts you'd rather not bring up, or personal differences you've been struggling to address. You're likely not feeling as supported you could be. If any of this resonates with you, I'm a trained couples therapist here to help.

My passion is in body psychotherapy. Clients enjoy our work connecting their body/inner strengths and their mind/rational strengths to achieve growth. My clients value the kindness, compassion, and safety I create, so they feel comfortable and heard. I have success working with clients that experience trauma and PTSD, grief, stress, anxiety, depression, conflict with others, life transitions, and parenting issues. Caregivers and family members of cancer patients find working with me helpful, healing, and nurturing. Clients that are not comfortable just talking really appreciate the tools I give them.

Therapy can help you find balance, connection, and fulfillment. In order to do so, I believe it's important that we acknowledge the shadow elements of life-the challenges that cause us pain, confusion, and block us from finding a sense of harmony and well-being. I collaborate with you in navigating the shadows and the more buried aspects of your life in order to develop a deeper capacity for balance, personal growth, and healing. To find out more about who I am, how I work, and if I might be the right therapist for you, consider visiting santacruztherapy.org

Are you experiencing relationship issues with your partner or family members? I’m passionate about helping people have healthier relationships within themselves and with others. I work with couples and families who are stuck in conflict, seeking better communication, healing from past wounds, bridging cultural gaps, or adjusting to life transitions. I also provide individual therapy to support those affected by relational issues. We can work on managing anxiety, processing trauma, overcoming people-pleasing habits, improving emotional regulation, working through codependency, and embarking on a journey of healing and well-being.

I prefer to work mainly with individuals who are existentially challenged (death/grief, meaning, purpose, freedom, creativity, anguish/anxiety/depression) or individuals who are open to work on attachment/relational/trauma issues from mostly a non-directive approach: present-focused, person-centered. In addition, I work with couples who are looking to improve communication and intimacy mainly from an Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) lens and from a Mindful approach to Non-violent Communication (MNVC). Also, I utilize Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) for those looking for or open to it.

Is your family struggling? Are you and your partner having challenges? Are you concerned about your child’s or teen's behavior? At the heart of my therapeutic work is reducing parent, family or relationship stress. Relationships are an essential part of our overall wellbeing. I have training and experience in providing family systems and attachment-based family therapy, as well as attachment-based couples therapy.

Do you feel as though your anxiety and depression are unmanageable? How about feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or helplessness like you’ve hit rock bottom and are struggling to find hope for tomorrow? Once we start to unravel the details of our past and trauma we give ourselves the ability to process feelings that we have long suppressed. I aim to collaborate with you and provide tools to decrease the challenging feelings you are currently facing and achieve a more integrated and balanced sense of self, leading to emotional healing and personal growth.

Frustrated? Feel you are getting nowhere in your efforts to fix some emotional snag? Feel you are caught in a loop that has left you depressed or anxious? Maybe both? I help individuals and couples work through their rough patches. By using proven methods based on research I have helped resolve many issues without lengthy treatment. Being empathically present with clients to ensure their safety and comfort is a core value for me. All lifestyles and cultural backgrounds are welcomed in my practice. In addition to California clients, I am also licensed for televideo sessions in New Mexico and Florida.

My work has focused on repairing relationship bonds. Please view my Website at www.paultgulloryphd.com for more details. I am Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy both as a Trainer and Supervisor. This means I have successfully under taken rigorous advance training and been approved by the International Centre for Excellence in EFT. I am the author of: "Emotionally Focused Therapy with African American Couples: Love Heals. I am dedicated to helping couples address and resolve conflict, repair emotional injuries, and revitalize their bond. I also offer Masters level Training in Emotionally Focus Therapy.

I am a psychologist for sport, health, and life. I have spent 15 years studying, writing, teaching, and coaching people on how to perform at their best. I have worked with world-class performers from the arenas of sports, business, healthcare, and the United States Army. I have special expertise in Performance Psychology and train clients on how to strengthen the mental and emotional skills that underlie human performance excellence and sustainable resilience. I am a subject matter expert in the field of self-regulation techniques that promote optimism, resilience, alertness, and composure in high-pressure situations.

With a Stanford B.A./ UC Berkeley J.D., a prior career as a dating startup founder/CEO, a journey healing from a painful autoimmune disease, and most recently having become a new mother, I bring rigor, depth, and rare professional experience to the therapy room. To optimize for the best client results, I combine the use of psychodynamic therapy, DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) skills, EFT for couples, mind-body (somatic) work, meditation, breathwork, and yoga. My practice is informed by modern, evidence-based methods of therapy as well as spiritual wisdom from Zen Buddhism, Judaism, and the teachings of the yoga masters.

Struggles in your relationship can be overwhelming and confusing where you're constantly arguing over small things and feel a growing distance as a couple. "How did things get to this point and how do I fix it?" I want you to know that I understand because I have been in your shoes. I know the pain and frustration that comes with feeling disconnected in a relationship