Emotionally Focused Therapists in Del Mar, CA

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Ruthlyn Fox
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014  (Online Only)
My therapy is grounded in cognitive behavioral and emotionally focused principles.
I am a licensed clinical psychologist, and I work with adults 18 or older with substance use and co-occurring anxiety, depression, and trauma. I offer a safe, kind, and emotionally supportive environment in which to explore and understand the impact that specific events or relationships have had on you and help you navigate a path forward towards recovery and resilience.
My therapy is grounded in cognitive behavioral and emotionally focused principles.
I am a licensed clinical psychologist, and I work with adults 18 or older with substance use and co-occurring anxiety, depression, and trauma. I offer a safe, kind, and emotionally supportive environment in which to explore and understand the impact that specific events or relationships have had on you and help you navigate a path forward towards recovery and resilience.
(858) 330-5821 View (858) 330-5821
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Caleb Abrams
CSAT, CCTP, CAIMHP, CASDCS, CCATP
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014  (Online Only)
Caleb has developed unique skills and uses state of the art counseling techniques based off of the newest research, such as EMDR (Bilateral Stimulation), CBT, EFT Tapping, Mindfulness, Restoration Therapy techniques, Biblical Counseling, and the CSAT task model for recovery.
Caleb is Christian Counselor, a Certified Sex Addiction Counselor (CSAT), Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), Certified Addictions-Informed Mental Health Professional (CAIMHP), Certified Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (CASDCS), and Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP). Caleb specializes in helping men work through addiction recovery, anxiety, addictive behaviors, depression, PTSD, emotional abuse, mental abuse and trauma of various kinds. His passion is to provide a safe space for his clients and to walk hand-in-hand with them, guiding them through the healing process.
Caleb has developed unique skills and uses state of the art counseling techniques based off of the newest research, such as EMDR (Bilateral Stimulation), CBT, EFT Tapping, Mindfulness, Restoration Therapy techniques, Biblical Counseling, and the CSAT task model for recovery.
Caleb is Christian Counselor, a Certified Sex Addiction Counselor (CSAT), Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), Certified Addictions-Informed Mental Health Professional (CAIMHP), Certified Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (CASDCS), and Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP). Caleb specializes in helping men work through addiction recovery, anxiety, addictive behaviors, depression, PTSD, emotional abuse, mental abuse and trauma of various kinds. His passion is to provide a safe space for his clients and to walk hand-in-hand with them, guiding them through the healing process.
(619) 639-4614 View (619) 639-4614
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M'lissa Trent
Psychologist, M'Lissa Trent, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014
I use an integrative, systemic approach to treatment and utilize techniques from a variety of theories including: relational therapy, Emotionally focused therapy, Imago therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral therapy & EMDR.
Therapy is a wonderful collaborative relationship that can help you to identify and clarify internal conflicts and struggles, help access and find solutions to current challenging situations and lead you to a more positive state of mind and sense of well being. My passion is to work with individuals and couples through life transitions, relationship issues and to help you create your best life that is aligned with your truest self. I also work with past and current life traumas and losses and am a certified EMDR therapist.
I use an integrative, systemic approach to treatment and utilize techniques from a variety of theories including: relational therapy, Emotionally focused therapy, Imago therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral therapy & EMDR.
Therapy is a wonderful collaborative relationship that can help you to identify and clarify internal conflicts and struggles, help access and find solutions to current challenging situations and lead you to a more positive state of mind and sense of well being. My passion is to work with individuals and couples through life transitions, relationship issues and to help you create your best life that is aligned with your truest self. I also work with past and current life traumas and losses and am a certified EMDR therapist.
(858) 252-1578 View (858) 252-1578
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Caleb Abrams
CSAT, CCTP, CAIMHP, CASDCS, CCATP
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014  (Online Only)
Caleb has developed unique skills and uses state of the art counseling techniques based off of the newest research, such as EMDR (Bilateral Stimulation), CBT, EFT Tapping, Mindfulness, Restoration Therapy techniques, Biblical Counseling, and the CSAT task model for recovery.
Caleb is Christian Counselor, a Certified Sex Addiction Counselor (CSAT), Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), Certified Addictions-Informed Mental Health Professional (CAIMHP), Certified Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (CASDCS), and Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP). Caleb specializes in helping men work through addiction recovery, anxiety, addictive behaviors, depression, PTSD, emotional abuse, mental abuse and trauma of various kinds. His passion is to provide a safe space for his clients and to walk hand-in-hand with them, guiding them through the healing process.
Caleb has developed unique skills and uses state of the art counseling techniques based off of the newest research, such as EMDR (Bilateral Stimulation), CBT, EFT Tapping, Mindfulness, Restoration Therapy techniques, Biblical Counseling, and the CSAT task model for recovery.
Caleb is Christian Counselor, a Certified Sex Addiction Counselor (CSAT), Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), Certified Addictions-Informed Mental Health Professional (CAIMHP), Certified Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (CASDCS), and Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP). Caleb specializes in helping men work through addiction recovery, anxiety, addictive behaviors, depression, PTSD, emotional abuse, mental abuse and trauma of various kinds. His passion is to provide a safe space for his clients and to walk hand-in-hand with them, guiding them through the healing process.
(507) 216-9367 View (507) 216-9367
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Katie Erreca
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT)- an evidence-based approach, grounded in attachment, and known to be the the most effective couple therapy.
The decision to seek therapy takes courage. I believe therapy is most helpful when done in an accepting and comfortable environment. I work collaboratively with you to assist you in attaining your personal goals, explore avenues for growth, and achieve emotional well-being. I understand that every individual and couple is unique and I approach treatment with this in mind. I know that each client enters therapy with specific strengths and I do my best to help you pull from those strengths. My approach to therapy can be described as compassionate, active, warm, and gently challenging.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT)- an evidence-based approach, grounded in attachment, and known to be the the most effective couple therapy.
The decision to seek therapy takes courage. I believe therapy is most helpful when done in an accepting and comfortable environment. I work collaboratively with you to assist you in attaining your personal goals, explore avenues for growth, and achieve emotional well-being. I understand that every individual and couple is unique and I approach treatment with this in mind. I know that each client enters therapy with specific strengths and I do my best to help you pull from those strengths. My approach to therapy can be described as compassionate, active, warm, and gently challenging.
(858) 375-1449 View (858) 375-1449
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Susannah Muller
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, JD
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014
EFT (Tapping) is a research-validated mind-body technique that works more rapidly and effectively than talk therapy alone (see https://WWW.
You seem fine on the outside, but inside you feel you are not good enough, a failure, never enough. You want to be able to go through the day without feeling anxious, overwhelmed, depressed or all on your own. You're your own worst critic. You don't want to need alcohol or pot or comfort food to cope. You want to be able to handle your emotions better. You're wondering if life will ever get better, or if this is as good as it gets. Deep down, you feel guilty or ashamed. Social events may be difficult for you. Maybe you've been through a trauma (abuse, car accident, relationship breakup, etc.) and are having trouble moving on.
EFT (Tapping) is a research-validated mind-body technique that works more rapidly and effectively than talk therapy alone (see https://WWW.
You seem fine on the outside, but inside you feel you are not good enough, a failure, never enough. You want to be able to go through the day without feeling anxious, overwhelmed, depressed or all on your own. You're your own worst critic. You don't want to need alcohol or pot or comfort food to cope. You want to be able to handle your emotions better. You're wondering if life will ever get better, or if this is as good as it gets. Deep down, you feel guilty or ashamed. Social events may be difficult for you. Maybe you've been through a trauma (abuse, car accident, relationship breakup, etc.) and are having trouble moving on.
(619) 324-3957 View (619) 324-3957
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Aimee Vadnais
Psychologist, PsyD, LMFT
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014
I have advanced couples training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), certificates in Levels 1-3 of Gottman Method Couples Therapy, EMDR, and PREPARE ENRICH.
Stop and envision what your best self, relationship, job, life look like. Are you currently where you want to be? If not, what is standing in your way? Is it fear? Lack of time? Feel stuck? Don’t know where to start? Change can be hard and scary. But better days are ahead and I want to help you get there. You are not alone on this journey. If you are ready to get started in LIVING the life you envision for yourself, let’s get started. Call me today for a free consultation.
I have advanced couples training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), certificates in Levels 1-3 of Gottman Method Couples Therapy, EMDR, and PREPARE ENRICH.
Stop and envision what your best self, relationship, job, life look like. Are you currently where you want to be? If not, what is standing in your way? Is it fear? Lack of time? Feel stuck? Don’t know where to start? Change can be hard and scary. But better days are ahead and I want to help you get there. You are not alone on this journey. If you are ready to get started in LIVING the life you envision for yourself, let’s get started. Call me today for a free consultation.
(619) 330-8237 View (619) 330-8237
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Sherry Kalish
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014
I am dedicated to helping couples overcome these obstacles through the lens of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
At my practice, I take a holistic and collaborative approach to therapy, working in partnership with you to provide the support and tools you need to feel empowered and in control of your life. I offer guidance on managing stressors, navigating work-life balance, boosting self-esteem, addressing perfectionism, combating burnout, and enhancing relationships in both personal and professional spheres. I am also dedicated to working with women on a diverse range of issues, including infertility, pregnancy, postpartum, body image, and the challenges of motherhood.
I am dedicated to helping couples overcome these obstacles through the lens of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
At my practice, I take a holistic and collaborative approach to therapy, working in partnership with you to provide the support and tools you need to feel empowered and in control of your life. I offer guidance on managing stressors, navigating work-life balance, boosting self-esteem, addressing perfectionism, combating burnout, and enhancing relationships in both personal and professional spheres. I am also dedicated to working with women on a diverse range of issues, including infertility, pregnancy, postpartum, body image, and the challenges of motherhood.
(858) 732-9219 View (858) 732-9219
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Angeline Baucom
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT, SUDCC, APCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014
I use various research-based modalities including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Motivational Interviewing, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Family Systems.
Clients that have experienced trauma, substance abuse and family issues. Struggling with depression and anxiety.
I use various research-based modalities including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Motivational Interviewing, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Family Systems.
Clients that have experienced trauma, substance abuse and family issues. Struggling with depression and anxiety.
(760) 227-5274 View (760) 227-5274
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Natalie Steele
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014
My therapeutic approach integrates a strength-based philosophy with emotionally focused therapy and mindfulness training.
I help clients mend their broken hearts and calm their overactive minds by joining them in their journey towards deeper self-awareness through kindness and compassion. I whole-heartedly believe in the beauty of each person's unique perspective, and at the same time, gently encourage clients to be mindful of the universal human experiences of love and loss. Thus, providing comfort while helping clients explore issues that are difficult or painful. My creative and empathetic approach can assist clients in breaking a repetitive mindset by allowing them to gain new perspective through fresh insights, support and empowerment.
My therapeutic approach integrates a strength-based philosophy with emotionally focused therapy and mindfulness training.
I help clients mend their broken hearts and calm their overactive minds by joining them in their journey towards deeper self-awareness through kindness and compassion. I whole-heartedly believe in the beauty of each person's unique perspective, and at the same time, gently encourage clients to be mindful of the universal human experiences of love and loss. Thus, providing comfort while helping clients explore issues that are difficult or painful. My creative and empathetic approach can assist clients in breaking a repetitive mindset by allowing them to gain new perspective through fresh insights, support and empowerment.
(858) 295-7251 View (858) 295-7251
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Nancy Cha
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014  (Online Only)
I employ an Emotionally Focused ( EFT) conceptualization to help couple's move from distress to trust and closeness.
I am a licensed psychologist who provides individual, couples, and group therapy. My primary theoretical approach is insight oriented psychotherapy for individuals working through relationship issues, anxiety, depression, grief/loss, and adjustment to transition through life's challenges. I believe healthy people seek therapy for a variety reasons throughout life, and psychotherapy can help you find a more genuine and integrated way of living and relating to others. I work collaboratively to recognize patterns and become aware of unconscious habits and choices that impact one's life and functioning.
I employ an Emotionally Focused ( EFT) conceptualization to help couple's move from distress to trust and closeness.
I am a licensed psychologist who provides individual, couples, and group therapy. My primary theoretical approach is insight oriented psychotherapy for individuals working through relationship issues, anxiety, depression, grief/loss, and adjustment to transition through life's challenges. I believe healthy people seek therapy for a variety reasons throughout life, and psychotherapy can help you find a more genuine and integrated way of living and relating to others. I work collaboratively to recognize patterns and become aware of unconscious habits and choices that impact one's life and functioning.
(858) 842-5254 View (858) 842-5254
Caitlin E. Mikulicich
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CCTP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014  (Online Only)
It’s been found that the most important factor for creating change in therapy is the therapeutic relationship. I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to process emotions and transmute pain into growth. I consider all aspects of an individual and implement a biopsychosocial-spiritual, culturally-sensitive and client-centered approach with individuals, couples, families and groups. I’ve used various research-based modalities including DBT, EFT, Internal Family Systems/parts work, EMDR, and art therapy. Additionally, I am now offering KAP (Ketamine-assisted psychotherapy) remotely.
It’s been found that the most important factor for creating change in therapy is the therapeutic relationship. I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to process emotions and transmute pain into growth. I consider all aspects of an individual and implement a biopsychosocial-spiritual, culturally-sensitive and client-centered approach with individuals, couples, families and groups. I’ve used various research-based modalities including DBT, EFT, Internal Family Systems/parts work, EMDR, and art therapy. Additionally, I am now offering KAP (Ketamine-assisted psychotherapy) remotely.
(619) 363-0325 View (619) 363-0325
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Meiken Shupe Alexander
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014
Waitlist for new clients
With training in perinatal and postpartum support, emotionally focused, and psychodynamic therapy, she is dedicated to helping teens, adults, couples, and families uncover their strengths and challenge beliefs that hold them back.
Meiken is dedicated to supporting clients in discovering ways to navigate their challenges. With a deep commitment to helping individuals, couples, and families, she provides a compassionate space for exploration and growth. Meiken has extensive experience collaborating with an integrated medical team to support clients facing issues like trauma, substance abuse, anxiety, and depression.
With training in perinatal and postpartum support, emotionally focused, and psychodynamic therapy, she is dedicated to helping teens, adults, couples, and families uncover their strengths and challenge beliefs that hold them back.
Meiken is dedicated to supporting clients in discovering ways to navigate their challenges. With a deep commitment to helping individuals, couples, and families, she provides a compassionate space for exploration and growth. Meiken has extensive experience collaborating with an integrated medical team to support clients facing issues like trauma, substance abuse, anxiety, and depression.
(760) 823-0373 View (760) 823-0373
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Jenny Palmiotto
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014
My advanced trainings ( EFT, RDI, Daring Way, etc) move relationships towards better connections.
What is important in your life? You and those you love are the start and end of this list. When we struggle internally and within our relationships, every part of our life is affected. Our work together gets to the real stuff, where you get to live and love by your values. Together, your concerns and heartaches lessen and you are able to show up as the best version of yourself. It's not to big of an ask to want to live a fulfilling and meaningful life. We can get you there.
My advanced trainings ( EFT, RDI, Daring Way, etc) move relationships towards better connections.
What is important in your life? You and those you love are the start and end of this list. When we struggle internally and within our relationships, every part of our life is affected. Our work together gets to the real stuff, where you get to live and love by your values. Together, your concerns and heartaches lessen and you are able to show up as the best version of yourself. It's not to big of an ask to want to live a fulfilling and meaningful life. We can get you there.
(619) 848-1636 View (619) 848-1636
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Savanah Harvey
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014  (Online Only)
Through EMDR & Emotionally Focused Therapy, I guide clients in understanding their attachment styles and how they influence relationships.
I thrive working with clients who are ready to dive deep into the challenging internal work. I believe the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, and I connect best with those who embrace this mindset. My ideal clients take ownership of their emotions, behaviors, and thoughts, and are willing to be vulnerable both with themselves and in our sessions. They are committed to personal growth, understanding that real change comes from within.
Through EMDR & Emotionally Focused Therapy, I guide clients in understanding their attachment styles and how they influence relationships.
I thrive working with clients who are ready to dive deep into the challenging internal work. I believe the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, and I connect best with those who embrace this mindset. My ideal clients take ownership of their emotions, behaviors, and thoughts, and are willing to be vulnerable both with themselves and in our sessions. They are committed to personal growth, understanding that real change comes from within.
(323) 897-8358 View (323) 897-8358
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Dana Pasculescu
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014
Dana holds a Master's Degree in Counseling from SDSU and has received training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
It can be tough to navigate life's challenges, but you don't have to go through them alone. Dana is a highly experienced Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has helped clients from diverse backgrounds deal with a wide range of issues. She understands that anxiety, communication problems, conflicts, infidelity, infertility, and life transitions such as grief, divorce, or career change can be overwhelming and impact your emotional health, relationships, and overall well-being.
Dana holds a Master's Degree in Counseling from SDSU and has received training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
It can be tough to navigate life's challenges, but you don't have to go through them alone. Dana is a highly experienced Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has helped clients from diverse backgrounds deal with a wide range of issues. She understands that anxiety, communication problems, conflicts, infidelity, infertility, and life transitions such as grief, divorce, or career change can be overwhelming and impact your emotional health, relationships, and overall well-being.
(619) 273-0182 View (619) 273-0182
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Cristina Catherine Trette
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, PMH-C
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I specialize in couples therapy and guide couples to strengthen communication, connection and intimacy. Many of my clients struggle with arguments, tension, or "feeling like roommates". Others face difficulties related to division of household duties, parenting, and sex. Some couples begin therapy for support with one partner's alcohol use, anxiety or depression. Many couples come to me in a state of crisis as they contemplate divorce or grapple with the pain of infidelity. I am well versed in helping couples come together to talk through the challenges they are facing, learn relationship skills, bond, heal and grow.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I specialize in couples therapy and guide couples to strengthen communication, connection and intimacy. Many of my clients struggle with arguments, tension, or "feeling like roommates". Others face difficulties related to division of household duties, parenting, and sex. Some couples begin therapy for support with one partner's alcohol use, anxiety or depression. Many couples come to me in a state of crisis as they contemplate divorce or grapple with the pain of infidelity. I am well versed in helping couples come together to talk through the challenges they are facing, learn relationship skills, bond, heal and grow.
(760) 359-9501 View (760) 359-9501
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Jaina Sarkisyan
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Del Mar, CA 92014
Jaina practices by using diff theoretical orientations including CBT, DBT, EFT, trauma focused therapies.
We may not be responsible for the world that created our mind, but we may take responsibility for the mind which we create our world as Dr Gabor Mate states. Let me help you heal through this journey. Jaina is an experienced licensed clinician with 18 years of experience providing exceptional clinical care to adults, adolescents, couples and families. Jaina has experience working with all individuals & military, law enforcement, veterans and their families. Jaina sees people from all backgrounds. Issues addressed but not limited to polyamory, anxiety, depression, addiction, emotional disturbances, trauma, addiction and codependency.
Jaina practices by using diff theoretical orientations including CBT, DBT, EFT, trauma focused therapies.
We may not be responsible for the world that created our mind, but we may take responsibility for the mind which we create our world as Dr Gabor Mate states. Let me help you heal through this journey. Jaina is an experienced licensed clinician with 18 years of experience providing exceptional clinical care to adults, adolescents, couples and families. Jaina has experience working with all individuals & military, law enforcement, veterans and their families. Jaina sees people from all backgrounds. Issues addressed but not limited to polyamory, anxiety, depression, addiction, emotional disturbances, trauma, addiction and codependency.
(858) 227-6212 View (858) 227-6212
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Dr. Sophia Chang-Caffaro
Psychologist, PsyD, CGP
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014
It hurts every day- despite you doing the best you can to distract yourself, the minute you stop pre-occupying yourself with distractions, you connect immediately with that emotional pain inside and the emptiness and alienation. The emotional pain comes from disconnection. You don’t feel your partner is responsive and present with you. You don’t feel wanted and needed or important. When you try to address this, it doesn't go anywhere, or you end up having a fight, which makes you feel even more devastated and distant from each other. You work so hard and give so much, you are still feeling not good enough and get no acknowledgement.
It hurts every day- despite you doing the best you can to distract yourself, the minute you stop pre-occupying yourself with distractions, you connect immediately with that emotional pain inside and the emptiness and alienation. The emotional pain comes from disconnection. You don’t feel your partner is responsive and present with you. You don’t feel wanted and needed or important. When you try to address this, it doesn't go anywhere, or you end up having a fight, which makes you feel even more devastated and distant from each other. You work so hard and give so much, you are still feeling not good enough and get no acknowledgement.
(626) 427-0151 View (626) 427-0151
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Carrie Jaffe
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Del Mar, CA 92014
Do you have the same painful relationship, job, or family problems over and over? Have you been unable to figure out why, or how to do it differently? I can help you learn how and why, and help you change these patterns. If you are unhappy, insecure, stuck in self-defeating patterns, have repeated relationship conflicts, addiction issues, or have stopped progressing in life, I can help you gain insight, change negative patterns, modify personality issues, achieve consistent Recovery from addictions, and live a happier life. I also have expertise in helping people cope with, and recover from relationships with narcissistic people.
Do you have the same painful relationship, job, or family problems over and over? Have you been unable to figure out why, or how to do it differently? I can help you learn how and why, and help you change these patterns. If you are unhappy, insecure, stuck in self-defeating patterns, have repeated relationship conflicts, addiction issues, or have stopped progressing in life, I can help you gain insight, change negative patterns, modify personality issues, achieve consistent Recovery from addictions, and live a happier life. I also have expertise in helping people cope with, and recover from relationships with narcissistic people.
(858) 375-4733 View (858) 375-4733
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.