Couples Counseling Therapists in Cupertino, CA
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A Licensed Psychotherapist specializing in trauma, crisis, grief, anxiety, depression, and relationships. Veronica provides an empathetic and caring environment to work through challenges without judgment. Veronica obtained her B.A. in Psychology with a minor in Applied Developmental Psychology and Master’s in Social Welfare at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA). She is trained in CBT, DBT, and family and couples therapy. She is also certified in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and the administration of Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) and Deep-Brain Theta Stimulation.
A Licensed Psychotherapist specializing in trauma, crisis, grief, anxiety, depression, and relationships. Veronica provides an empathetic and caring environment to work through challenges without judgment. Veronica obtained her B.A. in Psychology with a minor in Applied Developmental Psychology and Master’s in Social Welfare at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA). She is trained in CBT, DBT, and family and couples therapy. She is also certified in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and the administration of Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) and Deep-Brain Theta Stimulation.
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In my practice, I treat individuals with a variety of concerns, including relationship issues, anxiety, depression, self-doubt, a sense of emptiness and lack of meaning in their lives.
Emotional pain can create an opening for change. Your decision to seek professional help is a step in this direction. I have over 38 years of experience helping individuals understand the causes of their emotional difficulties and helping them to make changes that fit their unique needs. I provide a safe environment where together we can explore the barriers preventing you from living the life you want.
In my practice, I treat individuals with a variety of concerns, including relationship issues, anxiety, depression, self-doubt, a sense of emptiness and lack of meaning in their lives.
Emotional pain can create an opening for change. Your decision to seek professional help is a step in this direction. I have over 38 years of experience helping individuals understand the causes of their emotional difficulties and helping them to make changes that fit their unique needs. I provide a safe environment where together we can explore the barriers preventing you from living the life you want.
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Hello, my name is Ashton Hart. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. My therapeutic style is warm, nonjudgmental, and friendly. My hope is to help my clients understand they are not alone and there is always hope to move forward. If you have a desire to make a positive change in your life, therapy may be the right path for you. My typical clients tend to be women facing an array of issues such as trauma, family issues, relationship issues, communication style conflics, life transitions, anxiety, depression. I have experience in many other areas such as teens, family, first responder/medical professionals, lgbtqia+.
Hello, my name is Ashton Hart. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. My therapeutic style is warm, nonjudgmental, and friendly. My hope is to help my clients understand they are not alone and there is always hope to move forward. If you have a desire to make a positive change in your life, therapy may be the right path for you. My typical clients tend to be women facing an array of issues such as trauma, family issues, relationship issues, communication style conflics, life transitions, anxiety, depression. I have experience in many other areas such as teens, family, first responder/medical professionals, lgbtqia+.
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Welcome to my psychotherapy practice for adults, offering therapy for individuals and couples. Turning to therapy is not an easy step: opening up to a stranger can understandably be difficult. I hope that the information below as well as the link to my website would help you to decide whether my therapeutic approach is right for you. Whether you're dealing with long-standing difficulties or coping with unexpected changes in your life, I invite you to call or email me if you have any questions or would like to set up a consultation.
Welcome to my psychotherapy practice for adults, offering therapy for individuals and couples. Turning to therapy is not an easy step: opening up to a stranger can understandably be difficult. I hope that the information below as well as the link to my website would help you to decide whether my therapeutic approach is right for you. Whether you're dealing with long-standing difficulties or coping with unexpected changes in your life, I invite you to call or email me if you have any questions or would like to set up a consultation.
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Anat Fein
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95014 (Online Only)
I work with individuals, couples and families on relationship issues, parenting and life challenges.
Emotional pain is as common as physical pain, and can be truely agonizing. Don't give up! You don't have to suffer alone. I come from a place of compassion, acceptance and hope. I am constantly amazed by the human spirit and by our ability to heal. I am eclectic, and use different approaches to meet each client's individual needs. I am open and honest with my clients and never judge anyone. My style is interactive and direct. I take my role seriously and am committed to helping you feel better. I'm fluent in English and Hebrew.
I work with individuals, couples and families on relationship issues, parenting and life challenges.
Emotional pain is as common as physical pain, and can be truely agonizing. Don't give up! You don't have to suffer alone. I come from a place of compassion, acceptance and hope. I am constantly amazed by the human spirit and by our ability to heal. I am eclectic, and use different approaches to meet each client's individual needs. I am open and honest with my clients and never judge anyone. My style is interactive and direct. I take my role seriously and am committed to helping you feel better. I'm fluent in English and Hebrew.
![Photo of Janet E Akyol, MA, LMFT, CSAT, CPTT, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/49d1ede8-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/3/320x400.jpeg)
Janet E Akyol
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CSAT, CPTT
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95014 (Online Only)
Telehealth appointments via confidential, HIPAA-compliant system. Experienced therapist helping clients with intimacy disorders, betrayal trauma, behavioral addictions, trauma and couples therapy. Therapy can help you to make the changes you want, support you toward becoming the person you strive to be, and encourage you to live the life you choose. There is hope, there is help, there are options.
Telehealth appointments via confidential, HIPAA-compliant system. Experienced therapist helping clients with intimacy disorders, betrayal trauma, behavioral addictions, trauma and couples therapy. Therapy can help you to make the changes you want, support you toward becoming the person you strive to be, and encourage you to live the life you choose. There is hope, there is help, there are options.
![Photo of Dana Helman, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/40a45ef8-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/2/320x400.jpeg)
I want to congratulate you on taking the first step towards making a meaningful and important change in your life. Asking for help and wanting to make a change in your life is not easy and takes a lot of courage. Often we do not have the right coping skills to manage our emotions and relationships, causing life to get complicated. Whether it's a new or recurrent problem, if you feel anxious, overwhelmed, depressed or experiencing relationship problems, I am here for you. I offer psychotherapy for individuals, couples and adolescents.
I want to congratulate you on taking the first step towards making a meaningful and important change in your life. Asking for help and wanting to make a change in your life is not easy and takes a lot of courage. Often we do not have the right coping skills to manage our emotions and relationships, causing life to get complicated. Whether it's a new or recurrent problem, if you feel anxious, overwhelmed, depressed or experiencing relationship problems, I am here for you. I offer psychotherapy for individuals, couples and adolescents.
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Trauma and relationship healing isn't just our profession; it's our passion and mission at THT.
Do you feel disconnected from yourself after experiencing challenging or traumatic events, including medical traumas like cancer, pregnancy loss/traumatic birth, NICU stay, or infertility? Do you grapple with overwhelming feelings of anxiety, isolation, fear, or persistent sadness every day? Are your relationships with peers and romantic partners strained by unresolved childhood trauma and emotional challenges? Do you sense that your trauma and relationship issues are preventing you from living a healthy life? If you often wonder if there's a way to improve your situation, you're not alone.
Trauma and relationship healing isn't just our profession; it's our passion and mission at THT.
Do you feel disconnected from yourself after experiencing challenging or traumatic events, including medical traumas like cancer, pregnancy loss/traumatic birth, NICU stay, or infertility? Do you grapple with overwhelming feelings of anxiety, isolation, fear, or persistent sadness every day? Are your relationships with peers and romantic partners strained by unresolved childhood trauma and emotional challenges? Do you sense that your trauma and relationship issues are preventing you from living a healthy life? If you often wonder if there's a way to improve your situation, you're not alone.
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Wen Fan
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95014 (Online Only)
Do you feel like you can’t live your life to the fullest because of the “What ifs”? Is your anxiety holding you back from taking the actions needed to advance your career and/or relationship? Worse yet, do you feel like you should somehow just get over it because everyone else seems to be doing just that? I know those feelings well, but I won’t sit here and pretend that I know exactly how YOU are feeling. So, let’s work together to start decoding the complexity of your emotions to not just simply control it, but learn to accept it as an intricate part of yourself.
Do you feel like you can’t live your life to the fullest because of the “What ifs”? Is your anxiety holding you back from taking the actions needed to advance your career and/or relationship? Worse yet, do you feel like you should somehow just get over it because everyone else seems to be doing just that? I know those feelings well, but I won’t sit here and pretend that I know exactly how YOU are feeling. So, let’s work together to start decoding the complexity of your emotions to not just simply control it, but learn to accept it as an intricate part of yourself.
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You are ready to make a big change finally and this may be your best year ever. Paradoxically, in the midst of greatest stress and suffering you reach out to therapy. After 33 years as a clinical psychologist, I have great confidence that I can partner with you to manage overwhelming pain, loss and fear. More than that, you can reawaken resilience and wisdom, and find your way to great meaning and purpose once again in your life.
You are ready to make a big change finally and this may be your best year ever. Paradoxically, in the midst of greatest stress and suffering you reach out to therapy. After 33 years as a clinical psychologist, I have great confidence that I can partner with you to manage overwhelming pain, loss and fear. More than that, you can reawaken resilience and wisdom, and find your way to great meaning and purpose once again in your life.
![Photo of Martina Glenn, MA, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/0fcea54d-7067-408a-a4d4-661da43e9c94/3/320x400.jpeg)
I enjoy working with couples.
I love working with creative people. My passion is to bring healing to those who have often felt limited by the burdens of their anxiety, depression, or trauma. If your desire is to find new freedom in living without hesitation and being supported in living your life with fierce and unapologetic authenticity then you’ve come to the right place. I create welcoming and affirming environment and provide a safe space where you can feel appreciated for your individuality and your rebelling soul. I am not going to repeat cliché phrases that you’ve heard million times already, but I will challenge you to find your authentic Self.
I enjoy working with couples.
I love working with creative people. My passion is to bring healing to those who have often felt limited by the burdens of their anxiety, depression, or trauma. If your desire is to find new freedom in living without hesitation and being supported in living your life with fierce and unapologetic authenticity then you’ve come to the right place. I create welcoming and affirming environment and provide a safe space where you can feel appreciated for your individuality and your rebelling soul. I am not going to repeat cliché phrases that you’ve heard million times already, but I will challenge you to find your authentic Self.
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Gayathri Ram Mohan
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA , LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95014
I have more than a decade of experience of working with adults, couples, children, families.
Welcome to Whole Hearted Therapy ! Some life experiences create open wounds that can have a paralyzing impact in the way we see the world, interact or make meaning of it. Does this lead you to shy away from intimate relationships and struggle with boundaries with friends and family ? I provide a safe and compassionate space where you can be fully seen and heard, explore with curiosity and support you in your journey to well being. I am EMDR trained clinician and bring a trauma informed approach to my practice.
I have more than a decade of experience of working with adults, couples, children, families.
Welcome to Whole Hearted Therapy ! Some life experiences create open wounds that can have a paralyzing impact in the way we see the world, interact or make meaning of it. Does this lead you to shy away from intimate relationships and struggle with boundaries with friends and family ? I provide a safe and compassionate space where you can be fully seen and heard, explore with curiosity and support you in your journey to well being. I am EMDR trained clinician and bring a trauma informed approach to my practice.
![Photo of Deborah Whiting, MSW, MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/27d77901-9d67-4d0e-9742-26fe5add521e/2/320x400.jpeg)
I have over 30 years of experience, working with both adolescents and adults. I am dedicated to supporting you in finding clarity and direction, so that you can thrive in the life you want. As a licensed psychotherapist and professional coach, you may come in to see me for problems with your relationship, work, family, mood, health or addictive behavior. I can help you get back on track, creating and achieving your goals!
I have over 30 years of experience, working with both adolescents and adults. I am dedicated to supporting you in finding clarity and direction, so that you can thrive in the life you want. As a licensed psychotherapist and professional coach, you may come in to see me for problems with your relationship, work, family, mood, health or addictive behavior. I can help you get back on track, creating and achieving your goals!
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You want to be listened to--really heard. You are sick and tired of conflict that creates lonely distance between you and your partner. You would like fewer angry moments and more times when you feel close and connected to your partner. You want the tools and skills to have RESPECTFUL conflict conversations that bring you closer. You are ready to grow, if only someone really understood you and had the expertise to coach both of you each step of the way. You may be feeling discouraged: "We've tried everything." So you want couples therapy rooted in solid research and a therapist who tailors it to your unique situation.
You want to be listened to--really heard. You are sick and tired of conflict that creates lonely distance between you and your partner. You would like fewer angry moments and more times when you feel close and connected to your partner. You want the tools and skills to have RESPECTFUL conflict conversations that bring you closer. You are ready to grow, if only someone really understood you and had the expertise to coach both of you each step of the way. You may be feeling discouraged: "We've tried everything." So you want couples therapy rooted in solid research and a therapist who tailors it to your unique situation.
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Therapy for Asians, LGBTQ, POC, High Performers
Marriage & Family Therapist, IFS, EFT, BSP, MPH, PhD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95014 (Online Only)
Feeling like you have to hide parts of yourself at work, or with your romantic partner or family? These pressures can make us lose touch with who we are and what makes us feel alive. Are you feeling lonely or not good enough, and longing to be fully accepted? Together, we can explore what matters most to you, so you can move towards the life you want. I can support you in transforming patterns that make you feel stuck or overwhelmed. I offer Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Somatic Therapy, Hypnotherapy, and Brainspotting, which are all proven approaches for healing trauma and reducing anxiety and depression.
Feeling like you have to hide parts of yourself at work, or with your romantic partner or family? These pressures can make us lose touch with who we are and what makes us feel alive. Are you feeling lonely or not good enough, and longing to be fully accepted? Together, we can explore what matters most to you, so you can move towards the life you want. I can support you in transforming patterns that make you feel stuck or overwhelmed. I offer Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Somatic Therapy, Hypnotherapy, and Brainspotting, which are all proven approaches for healing trauma and reducing anxiety and depression.
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Rashmi Nayak
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPCC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95014 (Online Only)
I specialize in therapy for adults and couples, with expertise in trauma, relationship issues, women's issues and challenges faced by first and second generation immigrants.
As a relationship-focused therapist, I understand the complexities of human connections. Are you feeling isolated, longing for deeper connections? Are past experiences replaying in your mind, leaving you wondering what could have been different? Do you yearn to reconnect with your true self and foster meaningful relationships? Your journey of self-discovery begins by acknowledging these feelings. How can I support you in exploring them? In a safe accepting environment, we'll explore your strengths and resilience, and together, we will identify patterns that are elusive and hard to see by yourself.
I specialize in therapy for adults and couples, with expertise in trauma, relationship issues, women's issues and challenges faced by first and second generation immigrants.
As a relationship-focused therapist, I understand the complexities of human connections. Are you feeling isolated, longing for deeper connections? Are past experiences replaying in your mind, leaving you wondering what could have been different? Do you yearn to reconnect with your true self and foster meaningful relationships? Your journey of self-discovery begins by acknowledging these feelings. How can I support you in exploring them? In a safe accepting environment, we'll explore your strengths and resilience, and together, we will identify patterns that are elusive and hard to see by yourself.
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I also enjoy working with couples who are experiencing marital conflict and stressors.
Hello! My name is Rachel Gren and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. My approach to therapy is person-centered. My focus is to fully understand your experience, interactions, and interpretations to lead us to uncover opportunities for healing and resolve. I am certified in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, in addition to using an eclectic approach to treating symptoms stemming from Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, Grief and Loss, and other sources of emotional distress.
I also enjoy working with couples who are experiencing marital conflict and stressors.
Hello! My name is Rachel Gren and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. My approach to therapy is person-centered. My focus is to fully understand your experience, interactions, and interpretations to lead us to uncover opportunities for healing and resolve. I am certified in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, in addition to using an eclectic approach to treating symptoms stemming from Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, Grief and Loss, and other sources of emotional distress.
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Sairah Abbasi
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95014 (Online Only)
At times it can be tough to put ourselves first, however it is never too late to start! I work with clients from adolescence through adulthood, and couples.
: : Currently Accepting New Clients : : Seeking support for your current hardships or past experiences takes courage and strength. Therapy is an excellent way to process life's hardships through establishing personalized tools for change and empowerment of the self. My goal is to support you within your healing journey through a safe, comfortable and open space to explore such hardships. I use a collaborative approach to establish goals for change and personal growth. Whether that may be improving your self-worth, managing stress, regulating emotions, improving your relationships or finding respite, this is your space.
At times it can be tough to put ourselves first, however it is never too late to start! I work with clients from adolescence through adulthood, and couples.
: : Currently Accepting New Clients : : Seeking support for your current hardships or past experiences takes courage and strength. Therapy is an excellent way to process life's hardships through establishing personalized tools for change and empowerment of the self. My goal is to support you within your healing journey through a safe, comfortable and open space to explore such hardships. I use a collaborative approach to establish goals for change and personal growth. Whether that may be improving your self-worth, managing stress, regulating emotions, improving your relationships or finding respite, this is your space.
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Dr. Beate Klein
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, PsyD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Cupertino, CA 95015
In my practice, I work with teenagers, individual adults, families and couples in short term and longer term psychotherapy and in psychoanalysis.
Talking with one another can help you finding a more quiet space within yourself. If you are struggling with depression, anxieties, high sensitivity and insecurities, or seeking to belong, psychotherapy can be a place from where you can travel, explore, and listen to the sound between the lines. I invite you to embark on this voyage. Find your style of leadership that takes you to new places in love and work. Therapy can help you develop understanding and acceptance of overwhelming life events. Finding your way through life's maze can finally be one of your most wonderful achievements.
In my practice, I work with teenagers, individual adults, families and couples in short term and longer term psychotherapy and in psychoanalysis.
Talking with one another can help you finding a more quiet space within yourself. If you are struggling with depression, anxieties, high sensitivity and insecurities, or seeking to belong, psychotherapy can be a place from where you can travel, explore, and listen to the sound between the lines. I invite you to embark on this voyage. Find your style of leadership that takes you to new places in love and work. Therapy can help you develop understanding and acceptance of overwhelming life events. Finding your way through life's maze can finally be one of your most wonderful achievements.
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Michelle S. Myers
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Cupertino, CA 95014 (Online Only)
As your therapist, I'm a working partner with you in the pursuit of truth in healing and eliminating debilitating anxiousness and depressive feelings. I will meet you where you are and follow your lead on your goals. The fact that you're seeking support lets me know that you value your life and you have a wealth of strength within. I hope to be a lantern on your path, shining light on places that might be passed over, painful, or forgotten. We will pace ourselves safely on this journey towards self-knowledge and self-acceptance.
As your therapist, I'm a working partner with you in the pursuit of truth in healing and eliminating debilitating anxiousness and depressive feelings. I will meet you where you are and follow your lead on your goals. The fact that you're seeking support lets me know that you value your life and you have a wealth of strength within. I hope to be a lantern on your path, shining light on places that might be passed over, painful, or forgotten. We will pace ourselves safely on this journey towards self-knowledge and self-acceptance.
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Couples Counseling Therapists
Does couples counseling work?
Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.
When should a couple seek counseling?
Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.
How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?
The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.
How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?
The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.