Emotionally Focused Therapists in Scottsdale, AZ

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LeeAnn L Kuang
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250  (Online Only)
I have advance trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR.
As your therapist, I will help you recognize the power of your own thoughts and your ability to heal. In my sessions, I provide a spirit of genuineness, warmth, and collaboration. I value your trust in allowing me to slowly unpack your deepest feelings and concerns.
I have advance trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR.
As your therapist, I will help you recognize the power of your own thoughts and your ability to heal. In my sessions, I provide a spirit of genuineness, warmth, and collaboration. I value your trust in allowing me to slowly unpack your deepest feelings and concerns.
(480) 269-6117 View (480) 269-6117
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Aubrey Hinton
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85251
Aubrey is a trained EMDR trauma therapist and a trained EFT couples therapist.
Aubrey utilizes a holistic view while embracing each persons unique experiences and individuality. Many of us feel overwhelmed, stuck, stressed, anxious, worried, angry, hopeless, or sad at times. Sometimes we struggle with changes like moving, having a baby, starting school, starting a new job, or losing a loved one (pets included). Some of us have had distressing experiences or something traumatic happen. Or perhaps we are having difficulty in a relationship with family, friends, dating, partner, or spouse. Aubrey works with you to find the most effective techniques and skills to support in facing challenges and finding relief.
Aubrey is a trained EMDR trauma therapist and a trained EFT couples therapist.
Aubrey utilizes a holistic view while embracing each persons unique experiences and individuality. Many of us feel overwhelmed, stuck, stressed, anxious, worried, angry, hopeless, or sad at times. Sometimes we struggle with changes like moving, having a baby, starting school, starting a new job, or losing a loved one (pets included). Some of us have had distressing experiences or something traumatic happen. Or perhaps we are having difficulty in a relationship with family, friends, dating, partner, or spouse. Aubrey works with you to find the most effective techniques and skills to support in facing challenges and finding relief.
(623) 235-8809 View (623) 235-8809
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Brianna Aldrich
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85255
I specialize in working with children, teens, adults, and families. I have extensive training in psychological assessment of neurodevelopmental disorders, as well as general mental health challenges. In individual therapy, I believe in a neurodiversity affirming approach that utilizes individual strengths to support areas of challenge. I incorporate strategies from cognitive behavioral, dialectical behavioral, emotional-focused, and interpersonal therapies to help client’s reach their best potential. In family therapy, I utilize Emotionally Focused Family Therapy to help families better understand each others’ attachment needs.
I specialize in working with children, teens, adults, and families. I have extensive training in psychological assessment of neurodevelopmental disorders, as well as general mental health challenges. In individual therapy, I believe in a neurodiversity affirming approach that utilizes individual strengths to support areas of challenge. I incorporate strategies from cognitive behavioral, dialectical behavioral, emotional-focused, and interpersonal therapies to help client’s reach their best potential. In family therapy, I utilize Emotionally Focused Family Therapy to help families better understand each others’ attachment needs.
(480) 933-1562 View (480) 933-1562
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Michelle Hildt
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and am continuing to work towards certification for EFT.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart. I know that making the decision to seek therapy takes courage, and feeling safe and comfortable are the first steps in creating personal change. With this as a backdrop, I structure our sessions around mindfulness and emphasizing your strengths while collaborating together to find the answers that work for YOU. I also strive to help provide you with the tools necessary to continue growing outside the therapy session.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and am continuing to work towards certification for EFT.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart. I know that making the decision to seek therapy takes courage, and feeling safe and comfortable are the first steps in creating personal change. With this as a backdrop, I structure our sessions around mindfulness and emphasizing your strengths while collaborating together to find the answers that work for YOU. I also strive to help provide you with the tools necessary to continue growing outside the therapy session.
(480) 568-1942 View (480) 568-1942
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Karey Larsen
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I am trained in and use the trauma-informed therapy of Brainspotting (BSP), EMDR, Attachment Theory, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Life's journey is filled with twists and turns, but you don't have to face it alone. As a dedicated therapist with a Master's in Clinical Psychology and specialized training in Marriage and Family Therapy, my goal is to provide a warm and inviting space where you can find the support and guidance you need to thrive. My approach to therapy is rooted in warmth, authenticity, kindness, and open-mindedness. Whether you seek to gain insight into your past, develop emotional regulation skills, or navigate current challenges, I am here to empower you to lead a healthy, balanced life and define your own happiness.
I am trained in and use the trauma-informed therapy of Brainspotting (BSP), EMDR, Attachment Theory, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Life's journey is filled with twists and turns, but you don't have to face it alone. As a dedicated therapist with a Master's in Clinical Psychology and specialized training in Marriage and Family Therapy, my goal is to provide a warm and inviting space where you can find the support and guidance you need to thrive. My approach to therapy is rooted in warmth, authenticity, kindness, and open-mindedness. Whether you seek to gain insight into your past, develop emotional regulation skills, or navigate current challenges, I am here to empower you to lead a healthy, balanced life and define your own happiness.
(480) 696-5440 View (480) 696-5440
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Allison O'Leary
Counselor, MA, MS, LAC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85257
I am also trained in EMDR, Gottman, EFT, and more.
Do you feel stuck, believing you're not good enough, or struggle with conflict in your relationships? With over 10 years of experience in the mental health field, I specialize in helping people make sense of conflict, strengthen their communication skills, and overcome the obstacles that life throws at us. I use evidence-based approaches to guide you towards repair and true healing for both couples and individuals.
I am also trained in EMDR, Gottman, EFT, and more.
Do you feel stuck, believing you're not good enough, or struggle with conflict in your relationships? With over 10 years of experience in the mental health field, I specialize in helping people make sense of conflict, strengthen their communication skills, and overcome the obstacles that life throws at us. I use evidence-based approaches to guide you towards repair and true healing for both couples and individuals.
(623) 462-2661 View (623) 462-2661
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Rachel Amanda Freidus
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85251  (Online Only)
I am certified in IFS, I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and basic training in IFIO (IFS couples therapy) and EMDR.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist (Level 3), who cares deeply about helping people heal, become their best selves, achieve their goals and improve their relationships. I provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space, where you will feel heard, seen and accepted. As your therapist, I will collaborate with you in the work that we do together.
I am certified in IFS, I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and basic training in IFIO (IFS couples therapy) and EMDR.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist (Level 3), who cares deeply about helping people heal, become their best selves, achieve their goals and improve their relationships. I provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space, where you will feel heard, seen and accepted. As your therapist, I will collaborate with you in the work that we do together.
(480) 666-8539 View (480) 666-8539
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Cara Havens
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, LAMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I am passionate about coming alongside others in a compassionate and collaborative way. I work from an attachment-based, trauma informed, mindfulness framework. I have training in EFT, a therapeutic modality that helps couples create safe and secure connection. I also utilize nervous system regulation and Internal Family Systems (IFS). I believe that it takes strength and courage to share our stories, and that transformation happens when we are seen and heard from a compassionate place. I consider it an honor to walk alongside others on that journey and provide that space where healing can occur.
I am passionate about coming alongside others in a compassionate and collaborative way. I work from an attachment-based, trauma informed, mindfulness framework. I have training in EFT, a therapeutic modality that helps couples create safe and secure connection. I also utilize nervous system regulation and Internal Family Systems (IFS). I believe that it takes strength and courage to share our stories, and that transformation happens when we are seen and heard from a compassionate place. I consider it an honor to walk alongside others on that journey and provide that space where healing can occur.
(480) 906-2875 x2 View (480) 906-2875 x2
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Amanda Loback
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250
" I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy, the gold standard of couple's therapy.
The decision to seek therapy can feel difficult and intimidating. Many hesitate to reach out for fear of judgment and shame. I welcome all parts of you and want for you a space where you can feel less guarded and more open to explore. Through compassionate guidance and exploration, we strive to restore broken bonds with self and others. My approach is casual, compassionate and non judgmental. I love rooting for people and all people in all bodies are welcome here.
" I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy, the gold standard of couple's therapy.
The decision to seek therapy can feel difficult and intimidating. Many hesitate to reach out for fear of judgment and shame. I welcome all parts of you and want for you a space where you can feel less guarded and more open to explore. Through compassionate guidance and exploration, we strive to restore broken bonds with self and others. My approach is casual, compassionate and non judgmental. I love rooting for people and all people in all bodies are welcome here.
(480) 771-2134 View (480) 771-2134
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Kelly Ontiveros
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor, which allows me to help couples recover from affairs, address losses of intimacy and connection, strengthen attachment, and adjust to life stressors.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I understand the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space for you to find your best self. I specialize in treating issues in marital connection and intimacy, affair recovery, trauma, anxiety, depression, grief and loss. After completing my master's work, I gained extensive training in psychodynamic therapy, which addresses family of origin issues, wounding messages from childhood, and attachment styles expressed in relationships.
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor, which allows me to help couples recover from affairs, address losses of intimacy and connection, strengthen attachment, and adjust to life stressors.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I understand the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space for you to find your best self. I specialize in treating issues in marital connection and intimacy, affair recovery, trauma, anxiety, depression, grief and loss. After completing my master's work, I gained extensive training in psychodynamic therapy, which addresses family of origin issues, wounding messages from childhood, and attachment styles expressed in relationships.
(602) 544-6044 View (602) 544-6044
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Minon Maier
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
I have completed advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples and families to increased connection in relationships.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I provide a safe space from the initial contact so you feel comfortable to work on your goals. I want to make this process as comfortable as possible so clients can reach their goals quickly. My approach is collaborative with all clients and all presenting concerns. I believe that each client has their own unique story and I want to validate this story and healing. I work with clients ages 13 years old and up, focusing on individual and relationship issues. My email is minongmaier@gmail.com.
I have completed advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples and families to increased connection in relationships.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I provide a safe space from the initial contact so you feel comfortable to work on your goals. I want to make this process as comfortable as possible so clients can reach their goals quickly. My approach is collaborative with all clients and all presenting concerns. I believe that each client has their own unique story and I want to validate this story and healing. I work with clients ages 13 years old and up, focusing on individual and relationship issues. My email is minongmaier@gmail.com.
(480) 351-0326 View (480) 351-0326
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Maya Fawley
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MS, LAMFT, PMH-C
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I believe that aspects unique to each family system (i.e., attachment, multigenerational processes, cultural/spiritual beliefs) are some of the key indicators of an individual’s personal life experience and the development of their identity. All of these things contribute to the way that we interact and connect with others, which makes relationships complex, and sometimes difficult to navigate. My areas of focus include perinatal mental health related issues, attachment injury repair, and navigating phase of life transitions.
I believe that aspects unique to each family system (i.e., attachment, multigenerational processes, cultural/spiritual beliefs) are some of the key indicators of an individual’s personal life experience and the development of their identity. All of these things contribute to the way that we interact and connect with others, which makes relationships complex, and sometimes difficult to navigate. My areas of focus include perinatal mental health related issues, attachment injury repair, and navigating phase of life transitions.
(480) 660-3964 x5 View (480) 660-3964 x5
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Alexa Yassi
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85251
I have advanced training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) and Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), which are evidence-based models that help uncover the root of the issue.
Are you feeling stuck in your dating life or relationships, constantly disappointed, and losing hope? Do you find yourself repeating toxic patterns and longing for a deeper, more fulfilling connection? I specialize in helping individuals and couples transform their relationships, break free from negative cycles and create the love they truly desire. If you’re ready to make a change and build a healthier, more loving relationship, let’s work together to achieve the connected, fulfilling love life you deserve!
I have advanced training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) and Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), which are evidence-based models that help uncover the root of the issue.
Are you feeling stuck in your dating life or relationships, constantly disappointed, and losing hope? Do you find yourself repeating toxic patterns and longing for a deeper, more fulfilling connection? I specialize in helping individuals and couples transform their relationships, break free from negative cycles and create the love they truly desire. If you’re ready to make a change and build a healthier, more loving relationship, let’s work together to achieve the connected, fulfilling love life you deserve!
(602) 497-1989 View (602) 497-1989
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Naomi Berry
Licensed Professional Counselor, MC, LPC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
I have training in EFT, EMDR, CBT, MBSR and Solution Focused therapy.
I believe we all have the capacity to learn, grow, heal and create long-lasting change. We hold the innate ability to discover and realize our true potential and live an authentic life in line with our deepest values. I view therapy as a shared, supportive, compassionate journey that can help you tune into your authentic self, develop attainable goals and work toward sustainable, meaningful change. By holistically addressing and integrating mind, body and spirit, all kinds of challenges-depression, anxiety, divorce, stress, relationship issues, grief-can be better understood and overcome.
I have training in EFT, EMDR, CBT, MBSR and Solution Focused therapy.
I believe we all have the capacity to learn, grow, heal and create long-lasting change. We hold the innate ability to discover and realize our true potential and live an authentic life in line with our deepest values. I view therapy as a shared, supportive, compassionate journey that can help you tune into your authentic self, develop attainable goals and work toward sustainable, meaningful change. By holistically addressing and integrating mind, body and spirit, all kinds of challenges-depression, anxiety, divorce, stress, relationship issues, grief-can be better understood and overcome.
(480) 725-2242 View (480) 725-2242
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Kim Glenn
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, CST
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85253  (Online Only)
Does anxiety get in the way of your performance sexually, or otherwise? Have past experiences left you feeling guarded, fearful or confused? Is being vulnerable difficult for you? Unresolved grief or trauma can make us feel stuck, misunderstood, and unable to move forward. It can leave us feeling depressed, and anxious. Perhaps you desire enhanced connection with others but this has been elusive to you and you feel physically or emotionally blocked in some way. You want to reach your full potential in all areas of your life and you just need some support to unlock it.
Does anxiety get in the way of your performance sexually, or otherwise? Have past experiences left you feeling guarded, fearful or confused? Is being vulnerable difficult for you? Unresolved grief or trauma can make us feel stuck, misunderstood, and unable to move forward. It can leave us feeling depressed, and anxious. Perhaps you desire enhanced connection with others but this has been elusive to you and you feel physically or emotionally blocked in some way. You want to reach your full potential in all areas of your life and you just need some support to unlock it.
(480) 418-2945 View (480) 418-2945
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Jadi Gray
Counselor, MA, LAC, EMDR
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
My work with clients is centered in resolving what is missing, or has been left unmet, for whatever reason. Unmet relational and emotional needs can interfere with a loving relationship with oneself, and with those we care about. Both EFT and EMDR provide wonderful tools for this work of emotional and relational repair. Your story matters to me, and so does the pace that feels best for you. Together we will explore and repair what has been missing so you can enjoy your relationships more deeply. Whether you are new to therapy or coming back to it for a deeper layer of work, I would love to meet you and hear your story.
My work with clients is centered in resolving what is missing, or has been left unmet, for whatever reason. Unmet relational and emotional needs can interfere with a loving relationship with oneself, and with those we care about. Both EFT and EMDR provide wonderful tools for this work of emotional and relational repair. Your story matters to me, and so does the pace that feels best for you. Together we will explore and repair what has been missing so you can enjoy your relationships more deeply. Whether you are new to therapy or coming back to it for a deeper layer of work, I would love to meet you and hear your story.
(480) 906-4298 View (480) 906-4298
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Beverly Valentine
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85251
In addition to traditional therapies, such as EFT and CBT, Dr.
Struggle with anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD, or life stressors? Dr. Valentine may be able to help. Dr. V helps to alleviate symptoms by teaching a sense of meaning, well-being, and mindfulness to each patient. She teaches you the tools you need to achieve your peace of mind.
In addition to traditional therapies, such as EFT and CBT, Dr.
Struggle with anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD, or life stressors? Dr. Valentine may be able to help. Dr. V helps to alleviate symptoms by teaching a sense of meaning, well-being, and mindfulness to each patient. She teaches you the tools you need to achieve your peace of mind.
(480) 780-3218 View (480) 780-3218
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Melissa Thornburg
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, ASAT, RYT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250
I've trained with the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists and am EFT, EMDR and Somatically trained.
As a Therapist in long term recovery from both substance and process addictions, I've received support from some very special humans who've lit the way for me to peer into the areas of my path that were either blind spots or I just couldn't see from an objective perspective (yet). After a career in corporate development, I'm grateful to have transitioned to providing the work that's helped me come to terms with life and my place in it; work that feeds my soul and shines the light on those dark places so many of us are challenged to venture into alone. Together, we can explore and make meaning of what's happened to you.
I've trained with the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists and am EFT, EMDR and Somatically trained.
As a Therapist in long term recovery from both substance and process addictions, I've received support from some very special humans who've lit the way for me to peer into the areas of my path that were either blind spots or I just couldn't see from an objective perspective (yet). After a career in corporate development, I'm grateful to have transitioned to providing the work that's helped me come to terms with life and my place in it; work that feeds my soul and shines the light on those dark places so many of us are challenged to venture into alone. Together, we can explore and make meaning of what's happened to you.
(480) 470-7167 View (480) 470-7167
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Shannon Worle
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, LAMFT
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
Additionally, I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, focusing on improving connection.
I am a Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart in Scottsdale, AZ. My goal is to provide a safe, welcoming, and supportive environment for each and every couple, family, or individual I have the privilege of working with. Life can feel overwhelming at times, but I also know how much relief can come with having someone listen to you in a way that genuinely makes you feel heard. I believe that every person deserves to feel seen and understood, and when those needs are met, we can truly feel loved by others. Together, we can work to restore secure connection within your relationships and within yourself.
Additionally, I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, focusing on improving connection.
I am a Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart in Scottsdale, AZ. My goal is to provide a safe, welcoming, and supportive environment for each and every couple, family, or individual I have the privilege of working with. Life can feel overwhelming at times, but I also know how much relief can come with having someone listen to you in a way that genuinely makes you feel heard. I believe that every person deserves to feel seen and understood, and when those needs are met, we can truly feel loved by others. Together, we can work to restore secure connection within your relationships and within yourself.
(928) 267-6704 View (928) 267-6704
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Marianne Turley
Marriage & Family Therapist, MC, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250
I am trained in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), Sensorimotor Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
"Healing comes when we choose to walk away from darkness and move towards a brighter light." Dieter F. Uchtdorf's words echo the message I try to share with each of my clients. I work from a strengths-based perspective and believe each individual possesses unique skills and abilities to overcome struggles. I strive to create an environment of safety, allowing individuals to explore difficult issues by shining light on the situation and helping each person connect with their truth.
I am trained in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), Sensorimotor Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
"Healing comes when we choose to walk away from darkness and move towards a brighter light." Dieter F. Uchtdorf's words echo the message I try to share with each of my clients. I work from a strengths-based perspective and believe each individual possesses unique skills and abilities to overcome struggles. I strive to create an environment of safety, allowing individuals to explore difficult issues by shining light on the situation and helping each person connect with their truth.
(480) 405-5154 View (480) 405-5154
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.