Emotionally Focused Therapists in Mesa, AZ
I genuinely love people! Areas of Specialty: •Young Children 0-5 •Supporting IEP and 504 plans •Individual Counseling • EFT Couples Counseling •Working with Betrayed Partners •Parenting Groups and Workshops •Trauma Therapy.
Therapist at Red Mountain High School servicing students: I have a passion for building up and strengthening families. I believe in the power of counseling to help heal things that feel bent or broken. I believe in the human spirit, and its ability to heal and strengthen through adversity. I believe that showing love, kindness, and acceptance are key elements to facilitating change – and it all starts in the home! I take a Positive Psychology approach by teaching concepts of happiness, quality of life, and contentment. I encourage my clients to make themselves, their homes, and their communities a more meaningful place.
I genuinely love people! Areas of Specialty: •Young Children 0-5 •Supporting IEP and 504 plans •Individual Counseling • EFT Couples Counseling •Working with Betrayed Partners •Parenting Groups and Workshops •Trauma Therapy.
Therapist at Red Mountain High School servicing students: I have a passion for building up and strengthening families. I believe in the power of counseling to help heal things that feel bent or broken. I believe in the human spirit, and its ability to heal and strengthen through adversity. I believe that showing love, kindness, and acceptance are key elements to facilitating change – and it all starts in the home! I take a Positive Psychology approach by teaching concepts of happiness, quality of life, and contentment. I encourage my clients to make themselves, their homes, and their communities a more meaningful place.
I use an eclectic variety of therapeutic models like Family Systems, Attachment Theory, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.
In today's world lots of people struggle with relationship issues. Most people long to have someone to talk to about what's happening in their lives. We were created for connection with others, whether it come from a teacher, friend, coworker, spouse, or family member. My goal in therapy is to provide a safe comfortable space for YOU to process your story and its challenges, and then work together to improve your mental health and relationships.
I use an eclectic variety of therapeutic models like Family Systems, Attachment Theory, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.
In today's world lots of people struggle with relationship issues. Most people long to have someone to talk to about what's happening in their lives. We were created for connection with others, whether it come from a teacher, friend, coworker, spouse, or family member. My goal in therapy is to provide a safe comfortable space for YOU to process your story and its challenges, and then work together to improve your mental health and relationships.
I specialize in helping couples strengthen and repair their relationship utilizing attachment based, Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT, which research has shown to be highly effective in helping couples strengthen their relationship and stay together.
Connection is the most basic human need. Our survival is dependent on whether or not we have someone we can turn to when we are most vulnerable. We experience disconnection as: death, divorce, conflict, betrayal, loneliness. I can guide you on your journey of securing satisfying and nurturing relationships or strengthening and rebuilding existing relationships . I have experience working with sexual & intimacy issues, sex addiction, pornography and affair recovery. I can help you repair and reconnect with whomever matters the most in your life or find and create new lasting, healthy relationships. I help individuals and couples find greater happiness improve their lives.
I specialize in helping couples strengthen and repair their relationship utilizing attachment based, Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT, which research has shown to be highly effective in helping couples strengthen their relationship and stay together.
Connection is the most basic human need. Our survival is dependent on whether or not we have someone we can turn to when we are most vulnerable. We experience disconnection as: death, divorce, conflict, betrayal, loneliness. I can guide you on your journey of securing satisfying and nurturing relationships or strengthening and rebuilding existing relationships . I have experience working with sexual & intimacy issues, sex addiction, pornography and affair recovery. I can help you repair and reconnect with whomever matters the most in your life or find and create new lasting, healthy relationships. I help individuals and couples find greater happiness improve their lives.
Trasi Freeman
Pre-Licensed Professional, MPsych, MC, CSC, CCTS-I, Coach
Verified Verified
Mesa, AZ 85204
I am well versed in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Trauma Specialist, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Neuroplasticity.
No one can fix you because you are not broken! Unhealthy choices and patterns steming from learned behaviors can make us feel stuck. We decide how we will respond or react to life's circumstances. I believe in heroes/heroines because I look at her in the mirror daily. Like most, I've been victimized, but I've never been a victim. I chose and continue to choose not to Be.
I am well versed in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Trauma Specialist, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Neuroplasticity.
No one can fix you because you are not broken! Unhealthy choices and patterns steming from learned behaviors can make us feel stuck. We decide how we will respond or react to life's circumstances. I believe in heroes/heroines because I look at her in the mirror daily. Like most, I've been victimized, but I've never been a victim. I chose and continue to choose not to Be.
I primarily utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy methods as well as trauma informed care.
My career in social services has given me the rare opportunity and privilege to accompany others throughout much of life’s journey--from the miracle of birth, as an adoption advocate to helping senior populations and their families as a counsellor managing long term care and end of life issues. One of the universal truths that I have learned is that struggle and adversity is an inescapable part of the human experience. Rather than let these challenges destroy you, my role is to help you on your journey to grow and work through the hardships of life and become the healthiest and happiest version of yourself.
I primarily utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy methods as well as trauma informed care.
My career in social services has given me the rare opportunity and privilege to accompany others throughout much of life’s journey--from the miracle of birth, as an adoption advocate to helping senior populations and their families as a counsellor managing long term care and end of life issues. One of the universal truths that I have learned is that struggle and adversity is an inescapable part of the human experience. Rather than let these challenges destroy you, my role is to help you on your journey to grow and work through the hardships of life and become the healthiest and happiest version of yourself.
I use an EFT ( Emotionally Focused Therapy) approach to get to the root of the emotion you might be feeling in order to get your needs met in your relationships.
Hello! My name is Ashton Dunphy, and I am so glad you are here! Have you been struggling with a depressed mood, low motivation, and feeling stuck in life? Maybe you are having anxiety, panic attacks, difficulty calming your nerves and feeling on edge all the time? Or maybe you are struggling within your relationship, not feeling heard by your partner, continuing to have the same argument over and over again.
I use an EFT ( Emotionally Focused Therapy) approach to get to the root of the emotion you might be feeling in order to get your needs met in your relationships.
Hello! My name is Ashton Dunphy, and I am so glad you are here! Have you been struggling with a depressed mood, low motivation, and feeling stuck in life? Maybe you are having anxiety, panic attacks, difficulty calming your nerves and feeling on edge all the time? Or maybe you are struggling within your relationship, not feeling heard by your partner, continuing to have the same argument over and over again.
Esteem Therapy LLC - Eating Disorders, Anxiety
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC
Verified Verified
Mesa, AZ 85212 (Online Only)
I am skilled at Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Narrative Therapy and Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy.
Hi, my name is Tauri :) I specialize in treating eating disorders and anxiety disorders. I will work with you to determine treatment goals and will integrate a variety of therapeutic techniques to meet your individual needs. My approach is direct, compassionate, and respectful. My goal is for you to leave each therapy session with hope and feeling empowered. I want you to know that feeling better is possible for you and change can last. My intention is to help you recognize your value, learn to regulate your emotions, tolerate distress, effectively communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires and create a life worth living.
I am skilled at Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Narrative Therapy and Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy.
Hi, my name is Tauri :) I specialize in treating eating disorders and anxiety disorders. I will work with you to determine treatment goals and will integrate a variety of therapeutic techniques to meet your individual needs. My approach is direct, compassionate, and respectful. My goal is for you to leave each therapy session with hope and feeling empowered. I want you to know that feeling better is possible for you and change can last. My intention is to help you recognize your value, learn to regulate your emotions, tolerate distress, effectively communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires and create a life worth living.
I work from an attachment framework and provide Emotional Focused Therapy ( EFT), a researched effective therapy dealing with betrayals, conflict, hurt and infidelity.
“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” -Rumi When our lives feel heavy and painful, there is great opportunity for healing and growth. I believe in my client’s ability to work towards a more balanced, connected, fulfilled life with the right tools and guidance. My goal is to earn your trust through creating and providing a non-judgmental, supportive, safe space to explore where you are stuck. I am committed to helping my clients navigate and deepen their relationships with themselves and others. Are you tired of feeling stuck?
I work from an attachment framework and provide Emotional Focused Therapy ( EFT), a researched effective therapy dealing with betrayals, conflict, hurt and infidelity.
“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” -Rumi When our lives feel heavy and painful, there is great opportunity for healing and growth. I believe in my client’s ability to work towards a more balanced, connected, fulfilled life with the right tools and guidance. My goal is to earn your trust through creating and providing a non-judgmental, supportive, safe space to explore where you are stuck. I am committed to helping my clients navigate and deepen their relationships with themselves and others. Are you tired of feeling stuck?
Debbie S. McRae
Licensed Professional Counselor, MAPC, LPC, CSAT, EMDR-C, BSP
Verified Verified
Mesa, AZ 85209
I am a certified EMDR therapist, an IITAP Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy, EFT (couples) and hypnotherapy.
FYI Online Betrayal Trauma group begins Oct. 14th. My first goal as a therapist is to help my clients understand what is happening to them and give them tools to make them feel better as soon as possible. I specialize in working with clients who are dealing with the Trauma of Betrayal, Unwanted Sexual Addictions, Narcissistic Abuse, Childhood Trauma and Marital Relationship Issues. I compassionately guide my clients in understanding and changing their unhealthy thinking patterns, reframing their self-limiting, shame-based beliefs and in reprocessing the trauma held in their body. I use a variety of therapeutic modalities
I am a certified EMDR therapist, an IITAP Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy, EFT (couples) and hypnotherapy.
FYI Online Betrayal Trauma group begins Oct. 14th. My first goal as a therapist is to help my clients understand what is happening to them and give them tools to make them feel better as soon as possible. I specialize in working with clients who are dealing with the Trauma of Betrayal, Unwanted Sexual Addictions, Narcissistic Abuse, Childhood Trauma and Marital Relationship Issues. I compassionately guide my clients in understanding and changing their unhealthy thinking patterns, reframing their self-limiting, shame-based beliefs and in reprocessing the trauma held in their body. I use a variety of therapeutic modalities
I have confidence in a holistic, client centered approach within the modalities of Person Centered, Experiential, Cognitive Behavioral, EMDR and EFT.
Are you looking for a way to improve your overall well-being? I provide a safe and neutral counseling space for individuals, couples and families to work towards an overall improvement within their relationships, everyday life and mindset. One's choice to begin counseling is a positive decision towards self-care, improved relationships and a proactive way to handle life's hardships. Counseling provides an opportunity to learn ways to gain control over one's life, whether that be through trauma healing, relationship repair or one's own self awareness. I believe that the power of empathy within counseling can be life changing.
I have confidence in a holistic, client centered approach within the modalities of Person Centered, Experiential, Cognitive Behavioral, EMDR and EFT.
Are you looking for a way to improve your overall well-being? I provide a safe and neutral counseling space for individuals, couples and families to work towards an overall improvement within their relationships, everyday life and mindset. One's choice to begin counseling is a positive decision towards self-care, improved relationships and a proactive way to handle life's hardships. Counseling provides an opportunity to learn ways to gain control over one's life, whether that be through trauma healing, relationship repair or one's own self awareness. I believe that the power of empathy within counseling can be life changing.
There are multiple ways we can go about finding this answer, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EFT (TAPPING) EMDR, Mindfulness-based modalities, Motivational Interviewing and, more.
I have been supporting individuals just like you for over 12 years. I am committed to helping people learn how to live their! My practice focuses on targeting anythin that stands in your way of functioning as your best self. I believe in taking a holistic and collaborative approach. This means we work together, as a team to improve your whole life-not just your mental or emotional health. I am a seeker, so I am ALWAYS looking for new ways through research, evidence-based practices, and new educational opportunities to be of service to those looking for support. The face of someone who looks for support looks like mine
There are multiple ways we can go about finding this answer, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EFT (TAPPING) EMDR, Mindfulness-based modalities, Motivational Interviewing and, more.
I have been supporting individuals just like you for over 12 years. I am committed to helping people learn how to live their! My practice focuses on targeting anythin that stands in your way of functioning as your best self. I believe in taking a holistic and collaborative approach. This means we work together, as a team to improve your whole life-not just your mental or emotional health. I am a seeker, so I am ALWAYS looking for new ways through research, evidence-based practices, and new educational opportunities to be of service to those looking for support. The face of someone who looks for support looks like mine
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I have training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) for couples.
Making the decision to see a counselor is not an easy one! I feel privileged to work with each of my clients and walk with them on their path to wholeness.
I have training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) for couples.
Making the decision to see a counselor is not an easy one! I feel privileged to work with each of my clients and walk with them on their path to wholeness.
Arizona Connection Counseling
Licensed Professional Counselor
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Mesa, AZ 85204
Currently accepting new clients. Arizona Connection Counseling is a licensed counseling agency providing Emotionally Focused therapy ( EFT) and EMDR to individuals, couples, families, and groups. We have a team of specialists who focus on treating relational distress within couples and families, infidelity, trauma, and sexual difficulties. We also offer mindfulness and client centered therapy for individuals seeking personal growth.
Currently accepting new clients. Arizona Connection Counseling is a licensed counseling agency providing Emotionally Focused therapy ( EFT) and EMDR to individuals, couples, families, and groups. We have a team of specialists who focus on treating relational distress within couples and families, infidelity, trauma, and sexual difficulties. We also offer mindfulness and client centered therapy for individuals seeking personal growth.
I'm trained in CBT, DBT, EFT, EMDR, and am currently completing my certification to become a licensed CSAT.
I believe that everyone is full of innate goodness and has the capacity to change. We are all valuable and deserve love, compassion, and acceptance. I believe we have the power to take hold of our lives. We can’t always change our circumstances, but we can change the way we view ourselves and our environment. I believe in the whole person, and through empathy and unconditional self-regard, I treat my clients with compassion and respect. I provide a safe, loving, non-judgmental environment so that we can explore ways to overcome obstacles and challenges. Sometimes, we just need to know we have someone in our corner rooting for us.
I'm trained in CBT, DBT, EFT, EMDR, and am currently completing my certification to become a licensed CSAT.
I believe that everyone is full of innate goodness and has the capacity to change. We are all valuable and deserve love, compassion, and acceptance. I believe we have the power to take hold of our lives. We can’t always change our circumstances, but we can change the way we view ourselves and our environment. I believe in the whole person, and through empathy and unconditional self-regard, I treat my clients with compassion and respect. I provide a safe, loving, non-judgmental environment so that we can explore ways to overcome obstacles and challenges. Sometimes, we just need to know we have someone in our corner rooting for us.
My certifications include: Trauma Specialist, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Neuroplasticity.
I cannot fix you, because you are not broken! Sometimes when we are repeating the same destructive cycles and patterns of unhealthy behaviors, it can feel like a "broken" record, but you're not. You are stuck in a pattern of learned behaviors, which is not conducive to your overall health. I can help you identify those patterns by rewiring the brain and instilling healthier habits. I have worked with the Seriously Mentally Ill to General Mental Health.
My certifications include: Trauma Specialist, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Neuroplasticity.
I cannot fix you, because you are not broken! Sometimes when we are repeating the same destructive cycles and patterns of unhealthy behaviors, it can feel like a "broken" record, but you're not. You are stuck in a pattern of learned behaviors, which is not conducive to your overall health. I can help you identify those patterns by rewiring the brain and instilling healthier habits. I have worked with the Seriously Mentally Ill to General Mental Health.
Additionally, I have been trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), the Gottman Method, Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and Mindfulness to help you achieve your therapy goals.
As an individual and couples counselor, I believe that therapy is teamwork. Each client is the expert of their lives and holds the power within to change. As we partner together, I will guide you to explore your challenges and the unhealthy ways of being that hold you back in your life. I will also guide you to tap into your inner strength and resiliency so that you can own your power to change your life. Whether you are looking to improve your relationship with yourself of others, I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental environment where you can explore your life, learn new skills and practice healthier ways of being.
Additionally, I have been trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), the Gottman Method, Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and Mindfulness to help you achieve your therapy goals.
As an individual and couples counselor, I believe that therapy is teamwork. Each client is the expert of their lives and holds the power within to change. As we partner together, I will guide you to explore your challenges and the unhealthy ways of being that hold you back in your life. I will also guide you to tap into your inner strength and resiliency so that you can own your power to change your life. Whether you are looking to improve your relationship with yourself of others, I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental environment where you can explore your life, learn new skills and practice healthier ways of being.
Along with my university education I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) and mindfulness practices.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I work with couples, families and individuals who are seeking help to understand and deal with life's challenges. Whether you are seeking solutions for marital difficulties, repair parent/child relationships, aid your child in seeking help, or work through other trials and struggles, I will work intentionally to create a safe and inviting environment. I will collaborate with you in learning coping strategies, understanding perspectives and discovering ways to thrive in life and relationships.
Along with my university education I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) and mindfulness practices.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I work with couples, families and individuals who are seeking help to understand and deal with life's challenges. Whether you are seeking solutions for marital difficulties, repair parent/child relationships, aid your child in seeking help, or work through other trials and struggles, I will work intentionally to create a safe and inviting environment. I will collaborate with you in learning coping strategies, understanding perspectives and discovering ways to thrive in life and relationships.
Starting a journey of self-reflection and growth can be overwhelming when facing life's challenges. Jennefer is here to listen and understand your battles and fears, helping you move to a feeling of being in control. She uses a strength-based, emotionally focused approach to empower you to engage actively in your growth journey. She will help you discover how to build confidence in overcoming obstacles, improving your well-being, and enhancing your relationships and interactions with others. She works with clients of all ages and especially enjoys working with teens dealing with anxiety and self-esteem issues.
Starting a journey of self-reflection and growth can be overwhelming when facing life's challenges. Jennefer is here to listen and understand your battles and fears, helping you move to a feeling of being in control. She uses a strength-based, emotionally focused approach to empower you to engage actively in your growth journey. She will help you discover how to build confidence in overcoming obstacles, improving your well-being, and enhancing your relationships and interactions with others. She works with clients of all ages and especially enjoys working with teens dealing with anxiety and self-esteem issues.
As a Trauma specialist, I'm trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) to reprocess trauma memories and sensations, Internal Family Systems (IFS) to explore the multifaceted parts of self impacted by trauma, Sensorimotor psychotherapy for mind/body connection, along with extensive knowledge in attachment therapy and emotionally focused therapy ( EFT).
I'm a Licensed Therapist and a Certified Family Trauma Professional, and I'm here to offer you a safe haven for your journey towards well-being. My passion lies in guiding individuals through complex trauma, including relational trauma, developmental/attachment trauma, sexual trauma, and religious trauma. I employ a trauma-informed lens and a holistic approach, nurturing the interconnectedness of mind, body, and spirit. My core mission is to empower those who have endured childhood trauma to break free from the cycles and embark on a journey of self-discovery, resilience, reshaping your path toward a brighter future.
As a Trauma specialist, I'm trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) to reprocess trauma memories and sensations, Internal Family Systems (IFS) to explore the multifaceted parts of self impacted by trauma, Sensorimotor psychotherapy for mind/body connection, along with extensive knowledge in attachment therapy and emotionally focused therapy ( EFT).
I'm a Licensed Therapist and a Certified Family Trauma Professional, and I'm here to offer you a safe haven for your journey towards well-being. My passion lies in guiding individuals through complex trauma, including relational trauma, developmental/attachment trauma, sexual trauma, and religious trauma. I employ a trauma-informed lens and a holistic approach, nurturing the interconnectedness of mind, body, and spirit. My core mission is to empower those who have endured childhood trauma to break free from the cycles and embark on a journey of self-discovery, resilience, reshaping your path toward a brighter future.
Accepting new clients! (Self-pay only, not in network with any insurance.) I work with adolescents, couples, families, young adults, and women! Family relationships can be the most rewarding and long-lasting. Sometimes additional support is needed to help relationships flourish. I work with teens to develop coping skills and help families increase resilience. Growing up can be so tough! My specialties include gender dysphoria and resolving faith crises. In couples therapy, I utilize EFT to help couples repair bonds strained from miscommunication, disengagement, or unmet needs.
Accepting new clients! (Self-pay only, not in network with any insurance.) I work with adolescents, couples, families, young adults, and women! Family relationships can be the most rewarding and long-lasting. Sometimes additional support is needed to help relationships flourish. I work with teens to develop coping skills and help families increase resilience. Growing up can be so tough! My specialties include gender dysphoria and resolving faith crises. In couples therapy, I utilize EFT to help couples repair bonds strained from miscommunication, disengagement, or unmet needs.
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Emotionally Focused Therapists
Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.