Emotionally Focused Therapists in Coconino County, AZ

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Macey Markham
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern, BA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
I am passionate about relationships and would love to be able to help anyone struggling in any relationship. I am currently an intern student completing my Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy at National University. I implement a variety of evidence-based modalities when working with clients. I appreciate how Emotionally Focused Therapy focuses on how our early experiences inform how we engage in adult relationships (our attachment styles) and how to change the negative interactional cycle that we often find ourselves in.
I am passionate about relationships and would love to be able to help anyone struggling in any relationship. I am currently an intern student completing my Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy at National University. I implement a variety of evidence-based modalities when working with clients. I appreciate how Emotionally Focused Therapy focuses on how our early experiences inform how we engage in adult relationships (our attachment styles) and how to change the negative interactional cycle that we often find ourselves in.
(928) 420-8300 View (928) 420-8300
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Jess Hedgepeth
Counselor, MS, LAC, PMHC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), Trauma Informed Yoga, and Brain-spotting (BSP) among others.
I became a licensed counselor in 2012. Prior to that I was mentored by some highly-trained LMFT’s in Utah. The spark for clinical work came in 2007 while working as a Case Manager at a Residential Treatment Center for teens in beautiful St George, Utah. I guess I was destined for the desert and never knew it. I’ve had two beautiful children since then— who are my world. I’ve worked in private practice, outpatient and inpatient at several phoenix hospitals, outpatient clinic, directed the Intake Department at Haven Behavioral Health Hospital, and managed mental health intake at the State Prison Complex in Phoenix.
I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), Trauma Informed Yoga, and Brain-spotting (BSP) among others.
I became a licensed counselor in 2012. Prior to that I was mentored by some highly-trained LMFT’s in Utah. The spark for clinical work came in 2007 while working as a Case Manager at a Residential Treatment Center for teens in beautiful St George, Utah. I guess I was destined for the desert and never knew it. I’ve had two beautiful children since then— who are my world. I’ve worked in private practice, outpatient and inpatient at several phoenix hospitals, outpatient clinic, directed the Intake Department at Haven Behavioral Health Hospital, and managed mental health intake at the State Prison Complex in Phoenix.
(480) 418-1496 View (480) 418-1496
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Keith A. Cross (Prescott Relationship Center)
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
11 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001  (Online Only)
Cross has conducted numerous marital enrichment workshops for couples and trains therapists most frequently on counseling ethics as well as the use of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
At the Prescott Relationship Center, PLLC, Dr. Cross will help you stop the pain and conflict so you can feel connected, safe, and appreciated in your relationship. Visit our website at www.prescottrelationshipcenter.com for more information. Dr. Cross is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a passion for coaching individuals and couples. Because I am now exclusively offering coaching services, if you are interested in counseling services, please feel free to contact us to get scheduled with one of our relationship counseling experts!
Cross has conducted numerous marital enrichment workshops for couples and trains therapists most frequently on counseling ethics as well as the use of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
At the Prescott Relationship Center, PLLC, Dr. Cross will help you stop the pain and conflict so you can feel connected, safe, and appreciated in your relationship. Visit our website at www.prescottrelationshipcenter.com for more information. Dr. Cross is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a passion for coaching individuals and couples. Because I am now exclusively offering coaching services, if you are interested in counseling services, please feel free to contact us to get scheduled with one of our relationship counseling experts!
(928) 420-8300 View (928) 420-8300
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Nancy Luketic Cultivate Counseling
Counselor, LAC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001  (Online Only)
Through this approach, I utilize techniques from evidence-based therapies, such as: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy.
Seeking out therapy can feel scary, but I am here to give you a safe place that is non-judgmental, empathetic, and supportive to take a courageous step in your journey to a fuller life. As a therapist, it is my pleasure to help you find peace and discover a better life with deeper insight, self-awareness, and personal growth.
Through this approach, I utilize techniques from evidence-based therapies, such as: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy.
Seeking out therapy can feel scary, but I am here to give you a safe place that is non-judgmental, empathetic, and supportive to take a courageous step in your journey to a fuller life. As a therapist, it is my pleasure to help you find peace and discover a better life with deeper insight, self-awareness, and personal growth.
(928) 833-5617 View (928) 833-5617
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Davina Morris
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001  (Online Only)
I believe in a trauma informed perspective and have been trained in TF-CBT, Community Resiliency Model (CRM) and often use DBT skills, parts of CBT and components of EFT to guide a person in sharing their story.
Yá'át'ééh Hi Shí éí (I am) Davina Morris. My clans are Todích'íí'nii (Bitter Water), born for Mexican American, my maternal grandparents are (Tsi'naajinii). I’ve worked primarily with adolescents providing individual therapy, family therapy, and psychoeducational groups. Adolescents are the population that resonates with me the most because they have unheard voices. I’ve found that listening to our youth is not only a teaching from my Diné culture, but I believe that we all have our own cultures that have similar insights. I know we can return to a culturally holistic approach to listening to teens and listening to one another.
I believe in a trauma informed perspective and have been trained in TF-CBT, Community Resiliency Model (CRM) and often use DBT skills, parts of CBT and components of EFT to guide a person in sharing their story.
Yá'át'ééh Hi Shí éí (I am) Davina Morris. My clans are Todích'íí'nii (Bitter Water), born for Mexican American, my maternal grandparents are (Tsi'naajinii). I’ve worked primarily with adolescents providing individual therapy, family therapy, and psychoeducational groups. Adolescents are the population that resonates with me the most because they have unheard voices. I’ve found that listening to our youth is not only a teaching from my Diné culture, but I believe that we all have our own cultures that have similar insights. I know we can return to a culturally holistic approach to listening to teens and listening to one another.
(520) 727-3313 View (520) 727-3313
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Alicja B Stewart
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
in Psychology from Northern Arizona University; having been extensively trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy with Sue Johnson and Developmental Model equipped me to effectively help couples.
Life with its transitions can be stressful and overwhelming. Even positive changes trigger distress. On this challenging path I offer my extensive training and experience to provide guidance helping you overcome obstacles to feeling better, to increase your curiosity and exploration of your self-growth, to understand yourself deeply, your relationship concerns; to make possible your working through the difficult situation. I have been successfully working with adolescents, adults, couples, and families. Together we identify long or short-term life difficulties such as helplessness, low self-esteem, relationship problems; we work them through, and increase satisfaction and meaning of life.
in Psychology from Northern Arizona University; having been extensively trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy with Sue Johnson and Developmental Model equipped me to effectively help couples.
Life with its transitions can be stressful and overwhelming. Even positive changes trigger distress. On this challenging path I offer my extensive training and experience to provide guidance helping you overcome obstacles to feeling better, to increase your curiosity and exploration of your self-growth, to understand yourself deeply, your relationship concerns; to make possible your working through the difficult situation. I have been successfully working with adolescents, adults, couples, and families. Together we identify long or short-term life difficulties such as helplessness, low self-esteem, relationship problems; we work them through, and increase satisfaction and meaning of life.
(928) 298-4912 View (928) 298-4912
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Shelby E Miller
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist, I help strengthen and rebuild relational bonds that have weakened over the course of relationships.
There are times when stress, worry or sadness fill too much of your life. Relationships may be disappointing or confusing. You may feel stuck, wishing you could feel and act differently in your life, but you feel held back. I see the therapeutic process as a relationship and place to safely practice how you would like to be and feel in the world. When we express ourselves to family or friends, they can often react personally or minimize our experience. The neutral, nonjudgmental environment of therapy allows space to fully explore our experiences without upsetting or worrying others.
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist, I help strengthen and rebuild relational bonds that have weakened over the course of relationships.
There are times when stress, worry or sadness fill too much of your life. Relationships may be disappointing or confusing. You may feel stuck, wishing you could feel and act differently in your life, but you feel held back. I see the therapeutic process as a relationship and place to safely practice how you would like to be and feel in the world. When we express ourselves to family or friends, they can often react personally or minimize our experience. The neutral, nonjudgmental environment of therapy allows space to fully explore our experiences without upsetting or worrying others.
(619) 344-8416 View (619) 344-8416
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Jeanine Bengtson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001  (Online Only)
We can explore using DBT, ACT, EFT, Internal Family Systems, somatic experiencing, and phase oriented therapy, as well as many other well known approaches.
Do you feel lost and overwhelmed? Is there never enough time and space for self care? We can work together in a safe space that allows you to process, explore and discover your capacity to manage your symptoms and develop coping skills that helps you find the state of mind that resonates with you. I can assist you with boundary improvement, and feelings of low self worth. Socratic method can be utilized to enhance self reflection and growth. Specializing in struggles intersecting in: Trauma, neurodivergency; as well as those who identify as nontraditional in their relationships and indentity. i.e. asexual, demisexual, or similar.
We can explore using DBT, ACT, EFT, Internal Family Systems, somatic experiencing, and phase oriented therapy, as well as many other well known approaches.
Do you feel lost and overwhelmed? Is there never enough time and space for self care? We can work together in a safe space that allows you to process, explore and discover your capacity to manage your symptoms and develop coping skills that helps you find the state of mind that resonates with you. I can assist you with boundary improvement, and feelings of low self worth. Socratic method can be utilized to enhance self reflection and growth. Specializing in struggles intersecting in: Trauma, neurodivergency; as well as those who identify as nontraditional in their relationships and indentity. i.e. asexual, demisexual, or similar.
(479) 431-6117 View (479) 431-6117
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Anne Crile
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86004  (Online Only)
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — a research-validated approach to healing & strengthening couples’ relationships — and have Level III Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) training — a model of individual therapy that integrates what research tells us about human connection, emotion & the relationship between the two.
I am a California, Arizona & Iowa licensed marriage and family therapist (CA 86294, AZ 15639, IA: 126195). I specialize in working with couples & individuals navigating life-altering medical conditions; women overwhelmed in the face of work, family & personal pressure; and couples struggling to create or restore fulfilling connection.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — a research-validated approach to healing & strengthening couples’ relationships — and have Level III Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) training — a model of individual therapy that integrates what research tells us about human connection, emotion & the relationship between the two.
I am a California, Arizona & Iowa licensed marriage and family therapist (CA 86294, AZ 15639, IA: 126195). I specialize in working with couples & individuals navigating life-altering medical conditions; women overwhelmed in the face of work, family & personal pressure; and couples struggling to create or restore fulfilling connection.
(626) 269-2114 View (626) 269-2114
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Linda Schwartz
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001  (Online Only)
I firmly believe there is a definite quality difference between a marriage-counseling specialist and a therapist who "also" works with couples. My singular focus enables me to meet you where you are in your struggles and to work with you without judgment and never favoring either partner. I use the most-effective approach of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. This science-based method is a "brief" model, which means you may experience relief in the early phase of our work together. You'll learn about a "negative cycle" of arguing or distancing and how that cycle is your enemy, not each other!
I firmly believe there is a definite quality difference between a marriage-counseling specialist and a therapist who "also" works with couples. My singular focus enables me to meet you where you are in your struggles and to work with you without judgment and never favoring either partner. I use the most-effective approach of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. This science-based method is a "brief" model, which means you may experience relief in the early phase of our work together. You'll learn about a "negative cycle" of arguing or distancing and how that cycle is your enemy, not each other!
(480) 568-2770 View (480) 568-2770
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Corey Harper
Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001  (Online Only)
Welcome! I primarily specialize in treating OCD, picking/pulling disorders, body dysmorphia and anxiety disorders and also enjoy treating depression, trauma, couples, and spirituality struggles. I take a wholistic and trauma-informed approach. My techniques are founded in ERP and ACT for OCD, IFS and psychomotor for trauma, and EFT for couples. I believe in helping clients look much deeper into their childhood, past experiences, attachments, spirituality, physical health, connection to nature, and core beliefs. I would love to be on your team, helping you create a more meaningful life, less burdened by your OCD or other struggles.
Welcome! I primarily specialize in treating OCD, picking/pulling disorders, body dysmorphia and anxiety disorders and also enjoy treating depression, trauma, couples, and spirituality struggles. I take a wholistic and trauma-informed approach. My techniques are founded in ERP and ACT for OCD, IFS and psychomotor for trauma, and EFT for couples. I believe in helping clients look much deeper into their childhood, past experiences, attachments, spirituality, physical health, connection to nature, and core beliefs. I would love to be on your team, helping you create a more meaningful life, less burdened by your OCD or other struggles.
(480) 648-4571 View (480) 648-4571
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Lindsey Acocella
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86005  (Online Only)
My passion is serving couples, families and women. I find I have the most success in supporting women (emphasis on ages 18- 30's), and the unique challenges we face. If you are struggling with negative self talk, difficulty putting yourself first and saying "no" to others, or other difficulties creating anxiety.. I'm here to listen & support. Regarding success in serving couples and families (LGBTQIA+ affirming), I take an emotionally focused approach and ground in communication skills. I will work with you to find the emotional root of the issues you see resurfacing, so cycles are put to an end & you feel at ease.
My passion is serving couples, families and women. I find I have the most success in supporting women (emphasis on ages 18- 30's), and the unique challenges we face. If you are struggling with negative self talk, difficulty putting yourself first and saying "no" to others, or other difficulties creating anxiety.. I'm here to listen & support. Regarding success in serving couples and families (LGBTQIA+ affirming), I take an emotionally focused approach and ground in communication skills. I will work with you to find the emotional root of the issues you see resurfacing, so cycles are put to an end & you feel at ease.
(480) 745-2412 View (480) 745-2412
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Andy Bixler
Counselor, MA, LAC
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
Are you tired of feeling like you’re pushing a boulder up a hill? Is worry controlling your life? Unhappy with your habits? When we find ourselves in these spaces, sometimes we need an unbiased set of ears to help us sort things out.
Are you tired of feeling like you’re pushing a boulder up a hill? Is worry controlling your life? Unhappy with your habits? When we find ourselves in these spaces, sometimes we need an unbiased set of ears to help us sort things out.
(928) 938-8050 x5 View (928) 938-8050 x5
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Sheila Babendir- -Abundant Hope Integrated Solutions
Licensed Professional Counselor, EdD, LPC
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
At Abundant Hope Integrated Solutions we work with individuals, couples and families who struggle with life transitions, stress at home, work or school, depression, anxiety, PTSD and relationship issues. We know that everyone has a time in life when they need assistance in their journey. We are here to travel that path with you and support you as you navigate through the rough spots in life.
At Abundant Hope Integrated Solutions we work with individuals, couples and families who struggle with life transitions, stress at home, work or school, depression, anxiety, PTSD and relationship issues. We know that everyone has a time in life when they need assistance in their journey. We are here to travel that path with you and support you as you navigate through the rough spots in life.
(928) 585-6215 View (928) 585-6215
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Courtney Carver Cultivate Counseling
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
Waitlist for new clients
Each one of us has a unique and important story to tell. I am honored to give my clients a safe, accepting, and comfortable environment to share theirs. Although our personal narratives inevitably include difficulty, loss, and grief, it is my privilege to help clients discover the truth, resilience, and healing at the center of their story. It is my goal to help support clients on the path to healing.
Each one of us has a unique and important story to tell. I am honored to give my clients a safe, accepting, and comfortable environment to share theirs. Although our personal narratives inevitably include difficulty, loss, and grief, it is my privilege to help clients discover the truth, resilience, and healing at the center of their story. It is my goal to help support clients on the path to healing.
(928) 770-8654 View (928) 770-8654
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Mel Tucker Counseling...With a Touch of Magic
Counselor, LAC, MA, MEd, CGC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
”Knowing and expecting that there is an end in sight, your inner healing process will make it work out. “Re-writing the past and Re-righting your present and future. “Look forward to the days when you can look back and feel happy and enjoy.” "You know a lot more than you think you know". Empowering your inner strengths in gaining new and greater perspectives. My goal is connecting you with your higher and wiser self, jumpstarting your personal wellness with a tuneup through healing and personal transformation. Enhancing and impacting a healthier positive self-concept offers optimism and possibilities for greater personal growth.
”Knowing and expecting that there is an end in sight, your inner healing process will make it work out. “Re-writing the past and Re-righting your present and future. “Look forward to the days when you can look back and feel happy and enjoy.” "You know a lot more than you think you know". Empowering your inner strengths in gaining new and greater perspectives. My goal is connecting you with your higher and wiser self, jumpstarting your personal wellness with a tuneup through healing and personal transformation. Enhancing and impacting a healthier positive self-concept offers optimism and possibilities for greater personal growth.
(928) 543-5292 View (928) 543-5292
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Carol O'Saben, PhD
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Flagstaff, AZ 86005  (Online Only)
You have accomplished everything you were always told you were supposed to--so why do you feel so miserable? Why is it, despite all these accomplishments, you still feel like a failure? You may not have even noticed your dissatisfaction because you've been so busy taking care of others and "looking good on the outside." But lately you've begun to realize that somewhere amongst all the work and responsibilities, you've never really been happy, not deep down. What's worse, you feel as though no one understands your pain because all they see is someone whose life looks perfect. Someone who has accomplished all they're supposed to.
You have accomplished everything you were always told you were supposed to--so why do you feel so miserable? Why is it, despite all these accomplishments, you still feel like a failure? You may not have even noticed your dissatisfaction because you've been so busy taking care of others and "looking good on the outside." But lately you've begun to realize that somewhere amongst all the work and responsibilities, you've never really been happy, not deep down. What's worse, you feel as though no one understands your pain because all they see is someone whose life looks perfect. Someone who has accomplished all they're supposed to.
(828) 705-3394 View (828) 705-3394
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Alex Rankin
Counselor, MA, LAC
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
My mission revolves around helping individuals find a comfortable sense of contentment and identity. This could include overcoming trauma, personal hardships, and mental blocks; or safely exploring who you are in the world. Whatever your journey entails, I'm here to be a facilitator of support.
My mission revolves around helping individuals find a comfortable sense of contentment and identity. This could include overcoming trauma, personal hardships, and mental blocks; or safely exploring who you are in the world. Whatever your journey entails, I'm here to be a facilitator of support.
(520) 492-0451 View (520) 492-0451
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Moyer Counseling Services
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
Are you or a family member struggling with a partner, parent, child, or with your relationship with your self? Is anxiety, depression, uncertainty, overwhelm or balancing all of life's commitments presenting challenges for your everyday functioning? Managing everything life throws our way can be frustrating, frightening, depressing and anxiety producing. Relationships are one of the most rewarding parts of our lives and they can also be one of the most challenging endeavors we pursue. It is a sign of strength to ask for help! Including a licensed professional can provide insight to improve your relationships.
Are you or a family member struggling with a partner, parent, child, or with your relationship with your self? Is anxiety, depression, uncertainty, overwhelm or balancing all of life's commitments presenting challenges for your everyday functioning? Managing everything life throws our way can be frustrating, frightening, depressing and anxiety producing. Relationships are one of the most rewarding parts of our lives and they can also be one of the most challenging endeavors we pursue. It is a sign of strength to ask for help! Including a licensed professional can provide insight to improve your relationships.
(928) 236-5439 View (928) 236-5439
Susan Patrick
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Flagstaff, AZ 86001
Not accepting new clients
Dr. Susan Patrick earned her MA from CIIS, her Psy.D from UNC. She runs MBSR classes for couples, meditation and Realization Process classes. Dr. P enjoys working with individuals experiencing emotional blocks, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, that impede their personal and spiritual growth. Many of us "leave" our body to some degree when we experience stress or trauma. Dr Patrick uses a variety of body centered/somatic practices, to more fully inhabit our body, heal and embody our full potential as a human and spiritual being.
Dr. Susan Patrick earned her MA from CIIS, her Psy.D from UNC. She runs MBSR classes for couples, meditation and Realization Process classes. Dr. P enjoys working with individuals experiencing emotional blocks, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, that impede their personal and spiritual growth. Many of us "leave" our body to some degree when we experience stress or trauma. Dr Patrick uses a variety of body centered/somatic practices, to more fully inhabit our body, heal and embody our full potential as a human and spiritual being.
(928) 550-6179 View (928) 550-6179
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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.