Emotionally Focused Therapists in Chandler, AZ
Jennie Byers
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MAS-MFT, LAMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85226
I also have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples to give my clients hope that healing is possible! All these modalities are excellent for individuals and couples who are dealing with trauma, relationship injuries and addictive behaviors.
Are you struggling to feel happy or move forward in life? Have you tried a variety of things to feel better or to improve your relationships, but nothing really seems to work? I've been there and there is hope! As a marriage and family therapist I’m trained to support you through these very normal, but very challenging, difficulties in life. My goal as a therapist is to provide a safe place for you and your loved ones to communicate, heal and find hope again. I’m extensively trained in Internal Family Systems and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and have worked with individuals, couples & families to improve their relationships.
I also have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples to give my clients hope that healing is possible! All these modalities are excellent for individuals and couples who are dealing with trauma, relationship injuries and addictive behaviors.
Are you struggling to feel happy or move forward in life? Have you tried a variety of things to feel better or to improve your relationships, but nothing really seems to work? I've been there and there is hope! As a marriage and family therapist I’m trained to support you through these very normal, but very challenging, difficulties in life. My goal as a therapist is to provide a safe place for you and your loved ones to communicate, heal and find hope again. I’m extensively trained in Internal Family Systems and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and have worked with individuals, couples & families to improve their relationships.
I use a combination of EFT, DBT, CBT and play therapy to fit your specific needs.
I have a passion about helping children and teens find their voice in this midst of disconnection. As humans, we are created for connection. Often, this disconnection to self and others can create stress, exhaustion and loneliness. I desire to be a listening ear and seek to understand you to promote healing through the challenges occurring in your life. I can assist you by guiding you through physical and emotional development, family dynamics, school challenges, communication, relationship distress and trauma. I desire to walk with you on the journey for healing and together we will achieve goals for your child & family.
I use a combination of EFT, DBT, CBT and play therapy to fit your specific needs.
I have a passion about helping children and teens find their voice in this midst of disconnection. As humans, we are created for connection. Often, this disconnection to self and others can create stress, exhaustion and loneliness. I desire to be a listening ear and seek to understand you to promote healing through the challenges occurring in your life. I can assist you by guiding you through physical and emotional development, family dynamics, school challenges, communication, relationship distress and trauma. I desire to walk with you on the journey for healing and together we will achieve goals for your child & family.
Michele Mulcahy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MMFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85248
My primary theories and modalities are Structural Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy, ( EFT).
I believe people are courageous to face their individual and relationship challenges. People are amazingly resilient and capable of healing, growth and change. I believe my role as a therapist is to collaborate with my clients toward a more desirable future and provide a safe, non-judgmental, supportive environment that nurtures growth and healing. We are all a part of a greater whole and are influenced by others, including our family of origin, current relationships, society and culture; therefore, I approach therapy from an integrative holistic perspective.
My primary theories and modalities are Structural Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy, ( EFT).
I believe people are courageous to face their individual and relationship challenges. People are amazingly resilient and capable of healing, growth and change. I believe my role as a therapist is to collaborate with my clients toward a more desirable future and provide a safe, non-judgmental, supportive environment that nurtures growth and healing. We are all a part of a greater whole and are influenced by others, including our family of origin, current relationships, society and culture; therefore, I approach therapy from an integrative holistic perspective.
J. L. Redd
Licensed Professional Counselor, PhD, CMHC, LPC, NOJOS
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85286
I use C-SAT, AF-EMDR, CBT, and EFT protocols.
I work with clients who are struggling with any of the following: (1) unwanted sexual behaviors; (2) trauma caused by sexual betrayal; (3) marital quality; and (4) ancillary issues of depression/anxiety. My methods produce rapid results and are based on reliable research.
I use C-SAT, AF-EMDR, CBT, and EFT protocols.
I work with clients who are struggling with any of the following: (1) unwanted sexual behaviors; (2) trauma caused by sexual betrayal; (3) marital quality; and (4) ancillary issues of depression/anxiety. My methods produce rapid results and are based on reliable research.
Kelsey Fitzhugh Bass
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85286
I am trained in various modalities, including EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Prepare/Enrich.
I am currently accepting new clients. I specialize in working with couples, teens, and adults. I believe that attachment and connection is the most powerful emotion in humans, which makes me passionate about working with all types of relationships. I specialize in assisting couples navigate challenges including: communication, conflict resolution, trust and infidelity, resentments & premarital therapy. I also have an understanding of the developmental challenges faced by teenagers. In my work with adults and teens, I specialize in addressing: trauma, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship difficulties, and life transitions.
I am trained in various modalities, including EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Prepare/Enrich.
I am currently accepting new clients. I specialize in working with couples, teens, and adults. I believe that attachment and connection is the most powerful emotion in humans, which makes me passionate about working with all types of relationships. I specialize in assisting couples navigate challenges including: communication, conflict resolution, trust and infidelity, resentments & premarital therapy. I also have an understanding of the developmental challenges faced by teenagers. In my work with adults and teens, I specialize in addressing: trauma, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship difficulties, and life transitions.
Lisa M. Clark
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MS, MPA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85224
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method, and CBT.
Infidelity, conflict, communication problems, lack of intimacy? I can help. I am devoted to strengthening couples through helping restore connections, create new healthy interactions, and develop safe and secure bonds. I create a safe, non-judgmental place to work through many of life's challenges. My approach to the struggles within a couples relationships is to identify the negative cycle that keeps couples from connecting, understanding their attachment needs, and expressing their emotions. I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method to improve relationships, develop stronger connections and meaningful communication.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method, and CBT.
Infidelity, conflict, communication problems, lack of intimacy? I can help. I am devoted to strengthening couples through helping restore connections, create new healthy interactions, and develop safe and secure bonds. I create a safe, non-judgmental place to work through many of life's challenges. My approach to the struggles within a couples relationships is to identify the negative cycle that keeps couples from connecting, understanding their attachment needs, and expressing their emotions. I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method to improve relationships, develop stronger connections and meaningful communication.
EFT is an evidenced based treatment with a 73% success rate! There's hope for your life, your relationships and your future.
Are you looking at life and wondering how you got here? Maybe your hopes, dreams and goals aren't panning out the way you had envisioned. May be you find yourself working so hard in life and every time you turn around, another curveball is thrown your way. Possibly you are tired of feeling like "roommates" with your partner and can't remember the last time you felt true intimacy and love. Whether you're dealing with relationship concerns, work/life stressors, self-doubt, or irrational beliefs, our work together can help you heal, grow and create a different path in life.
EFT is an evidenced based treatment with a 73% success rate! There's hope for your life, your relationships and your future.
Are you looking at life and wondering how you got here? Maybe your hopes, dreams and goals aren't panning out the way you had envisioned. May be you find yourself working so hard in life and every time you turn around, another curveball is thrown your way. Possibly you are tired of feeling like "roommates" with your partner and can't remember the last time you felt true intimacy and love. Whether you're dealing with relationship concerns, work/life stressors, self-doubt, or irrational beliefs, our work together can help you heal, grow and create a different path in life.
Michael Hutt
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, LAMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85226
I am trained in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT).
Feeling stressed and confused about your inability to connect with your partner? Tired of the constant fighting? Maybe your relationship is going well, but you are overwhelmed by difficult mental health symptoms. Therapy is a process that can bring a sense of peace to your life. It can be a perilous journey from guiding you from chaos and despair to order and hope. As your experienced guide, we'll face challenges and emotions together moving toward our destination. For couples, we'll transform disconnection and conflict into connection and intimacy. For individuals, we'll move from being controlled by symptoms to mastering them.
I am trained in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT).
Feeling stressed and confused about your inability to connect with your partner? Tired of the constant fighting? Maybe your relationship is going well, but you are overwhelmed by difficult mental health symptoms. Therapy is a process that can bring a sense of peace to your life. It can be a perilous journey from guiding you from chaos and despair to order and hope. As your experienced guide, we'll face challenges and emotions together moving toward our destination. For couples, we'll transform disconnection and conflict into connection and intimacy. For individuals, we'll move from being controlled by symptoms to mastering them.
Arizona Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
Chandler, AZ 85226
I have completed an externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy( EFT), and am a leader in the intensive therapeutic services within the clinic.
My specialization is in relational concerns and intensive client care; I have years of experience working with individuals, couples, family dynamics and intensive cases addressing a wide variety of issues. I know that making the decision to come to therapy is a difficult one and I work to provide a safe and neutral environment within the therapy office for clients to share vulnerabilities, and take the desired steps toward change. I begin each client relationship with a comprehensive assessment to thoroughly understand the challenges, and will work collaboratively in setting goals to provide measurable structure to the process.
I have completed an externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy( EFT), and am a leader in the intensive therapeutic services within the clinic.
My specialization is in relational concerns and intensive client care; I have years of experience working with individuals, couples, family dynamics and intensive cases addressing a wide variety of issues. I know that making the decision to come to therapy is a difficult one and I work to provide a safe and neutral environment within the therapy office for clients to share vulnerabilities, and take the desired steps toward change. I begin each client relationship with a comprehensive assessment to thoroughly understand the challenges, and will work collaboratively in setting goals to provide measurable structure to the process.
I have additional training within Emotionally Focused Therapy and particularly enjoy working with couples experiencing disconnection or sexual concerns and individuals experiencing life transitions.
Do you feel stuck in the same patterns in your relationships or daily life? Have you just experienced a major life change and are unsure how to proceed moving forward? Do you experience feelings that seem out of your control or lead to other life challenges? I am here to guide you in navigating all of life’s difficulties. To best assist you, we will identify patterns and areas of growth to establish your goals for therapy. I take pride in getting to assist my clients in transforming their relationships with themselves and others by identifying unhelpful thought and behavioral patterns keeping you stuck.
I have additional training within Emotionally Focused Therapy and particularly enjoy working with couples experiencing disconnection or sexual concerns and individuals experiencing life transitions.
Do you feel stuck in the same patterns in your relationships or daily life? Have you just experienced a major life change and are unsure how to proceed moving forward? Do you experience feelings that seem out of your control or lead to other life challenges? I am here to guide you in navigating all of life’s difficulties. To best assist you, we will identify patterns and areas of growth to establish your goals for therapy. I take pride in getting to assist my clients in transforming their relationships with themselves and others by identifying unhelpful thought and behavioral patterns keeping you stuck.
My theoretical approach is integrative drawing on DBT, ACT, CBT, EFt, and many more approaches to find the strategies that work best for the client.
Hi, my name is Beth G. Valdez and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 20 years experience working with adolescents, families, and adults in the mental health field. My approach to therapy is holistic, working with both the body and the mind to improve mental health and help clients engage in life fully. My theoretical approach is integrative drawing on DBT, ACT, CBT, EFt, and many more approaches to find the strategies that work best for the client. I am also certified in EMDR to help clients who have experienced traumatic experiences in their lives.
My theoretical approach is integrative drawing on DBT, ACT, CBT, EFt, and many more approaches to find the strategies that work best for the client.
Hi, my name is Beth G. Valdez and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 20 years experience working with adolescents, families, and adults in the mental health field. My approach to therapy is holistic, working with both the body and the mind to improve mental health and help clients engage in life fully. My theoretical approach is integrative drawing on DBT, ACT, CBT, EFt, and many more approaches to find the strategies that work best for the client. I am also certified in EMDR to help clients who have experienced traumatic experiences in their lives.
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Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
Chandler, AZ 85226
I have completed training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Level 1, Gottman Trauma and Affairs, and EMDR.
My name is Danielle Corrales and I make every effort to create a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental environment to those who seek growth. I am passionate and dedicated to helping individuals, couples, and families in their journeys to heal and thrive in all areas of their lives. I utilize the most effective, evidence based, therapy approaches when addressing relationship challenges, life transitions, pre-marital preparation, communication and conflict resolution issues, and mental health stressors.
I have completed training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Level 1, Gottman Trauma and Affairs, and EMDR.
My name is Danielle Corrales and I make every effort to create a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental environment to those who seek growth. I am passionate and dedicated to helping individuals, couples, and families in their journeys to heal and thrive in all areas of their lives. I utilize the most effective, evidence based, therapy approaches when addressing relationship challenges, life transitions, pre-marital preparation, communication and conflict resolution issues, and mental health stressors.
Valerie Southwick
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85248
I specialize in helping couples strengthen and repair their relationship utilizing attachment based, Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT, which research has shown to be highly effective in helping couples strengthen their relationship and stay together.
Connection is the most basic human need. Our survival is dependent on whether or not we have someone we can turn to when we are most vulnerable. We experience disconnection as: death, divorce, conflict, betrayal, loneliness. I can guide you on your journey of securing satisfying and nurturing relationships or strengthening and rebuilding existing relationships . I have experience working with sexual & intimacy issues, sex addiction, pornography and affair recovery. I can help you repair and reconnect with whomever matters the most in your life or find and create new lasting, healthy relationships. I help individuals and couples find greater happiness improve their lives.
I specialize in helping couples strengthen and repair their relationship utilizing attachment based, Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT, which research has shown to be highly effective in helping couples strengthen their relationship and stay together.
Connection is the most basic human need. Our survival is dependent on whether or not we have someone we can turn to when we are most vulnerable. We experience disconnection as: death, divorce, conflict, betrayal, loneliness. I can guide you on your journey of securing satisfying and nurturing relationships or strengthening and rebuilding existing relationships . I have experience working with sexual & intimacy issues, sex addiction, pornography and affair recovery. I can help you repair and reconnect with whomever matters the most in your life or find and create new lasting, healthy relationships. I help individuals and couples find greater happiness improve their lives.
Carol C Ramsay-Scott
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85225
EFT as a protocol is a powerful weapon against the woes of life, and helps create security within and between my clients and their significant others.
My therapeutic approach, developed over 27 years, is for someone who struggles being stuck but is tired of past failures, events, etc., and feels like they really want to fix the problems in their individual life and/or in their relationships. Emotionally Focused Therapy training allows for a deep resolution to individual, couple and family issues. I am one of 8 EFT Therapist/Supervisors in the state of Arizona. I am passionate about helping people resolve the ROOT of their issues not only the symptoms. EFT is incredible at really resolving relationship challenges like affairs, children challenges, and just being disconnected.
EFT as a protocol is a powerful weapon against the woes of life, and helps create security within and between my clients and their significant others.
My therapeutic approach, developed over 27 years, is for someone who struggles being stuck but is tired of past failures, events, etc., and feels like they really want to fix the problems in their individual life and/or in their relationships. Emotionally Focused Therapy training allows for a deep resolution to individual, couple and family issues. I am one of 8 EFT Therapist/Supervisors in the state of Arizona. I am passionate about helping people resolve the ROOT of their issues not only the symptoms. EFT is incredible at really resolving relationship challenges like affairs, children challenges, and just being disconnected.
Charise Schwertfeger
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS, LMFT
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85224
I have extensive training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), which research has identified as the most effective approach to success within couple's therapy.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I have been working with individuals and families in the community since 2005. I offer individual adult therapy for people wanting to change their life for the better. I believe that having a strong therapeutic relationship with your therapist exponentially increases your likelihood for change.
I have extensive training in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), which research has identified as the most effective approach to success within couple's therapy.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I have been working with individuals and families in the community since 2005. I offer individual adult therapy for people wanting to change their life for the better. I believe that having a strong therapeutic relationship with your therapist exponentially increases your likelihood for change.
My training includes certificates in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and the Prepare/Enrich Marital Assessment.
I am passionate about supporting individuals as they make sense of their own unique story and its impact on them. For those who desire a faith based perspective, I enjoy helping people find healing within the context of their relationship with God. Since it is within healthy, connected relationships that growth takes place, my approach with clients includes collaboratively building a strong, therapeutic relationship that will create a foundation for change.
My training includes certificates in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and the Prepare/Enrich Marital Assessment.
I am passionate about supporting individuals as they make sense of their own unique story and its impact on them. For those who desire a faith based perspective, I enjoy helping people find healing within the context of their relationship with God. Since it is within healthy, connected relationships that growth takes place, my approach with clients includes collaboratively building a strong, therapeutic relationship that will create a foundation for change.
Darya McClure Lmft
Marriage & Family Therapist, MAS-MFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85226 (Online Only)
You're probably reading this because you are hurting in some way and struggling to know how to make things better. You don't have to struggle alone. I work with individuals and couples as a collaborative yet directive ally to help them move from heartbreak to healing using evidence based practices such as Emotionally Focused Couples and Individual Therapy ( EFT, EFIT) and EMDR. I bring warmth, humor, direction, and accountability to some of the hardest issues such as Infidelity, infertility, sexual trauma, crisis, grief, parenting children of disability, chronic illness, or relationships where Neurodiversity is present. (ADHD, ASD)
You're probably reading this because you are hurting in some way and struggling to know how to make things better. You don't have to struggle alone. I work with individuals and couples as a collaborative yet directive ally to help them move from heartbreak to healing using evidence based practices such as Emotionally Focused Couples and Individual Therapy ( EFT, EFIT) and EMDR. I bring warmth, humor, direction, and accountability to some of the hardest issues such as Infidelity, infertility, sexual trauma, crisis, grief, parenting children of disability, chronic illness, or relationships where Neurodiversity is present. (ADHD, ASD)
In my work with couples, I like to incorporate both the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy to help them achieve healthier relationships.
Hola and Welcome! My name is Madelaine Ford (Maddy) and I am a counselor at Optimal Connections Counseling. I am a bilingual (English-Spanish) therapist, passionate about helping individuals and couples navigate life’s challenges and build stronger relationships. Seeking therapy can be overwhelming and it takes a lot of courage, so I celebrate your decision to start your healing journey. My personal journey and professional dedication make me particularly skilled in addressing intergenerational trauma, helping clients break the cycle of pain and build healthier futures.
In my work with couples, I like to incorporate both the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy to help them achieve healthier relationships.
Hola and Welcome! My name is Madelaine Ford (Maddy) and I am a counselor at Optimal Connections Counseling. I am a bilingual (English-Spanish) therapist, passionate about helping individuals and couples navigate life’s challenges and build stronger relationships. Seeking therapy can be overwhelming and it takes a lot of courage, so I celebrate your decision to start your healing journey. My personal journey and professional dedication make me particularly skilled in addressing intergenerational trauma, helping clients break the cycle of pain and build healthier futures.
Amy Wesson
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MAS, LAMFT, CCLS
Verified Verified
Chandler, AZ 85225
I am trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) and EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy) for couples.
I create a safe and comfortable environment where children, teens, couples and individuals can feel supported in their sharing, growth, and healing. As a Certified Child Life Specialist for Phoenix Children’s Hospital, I gained extensive experience supporting children and parents through in trauma, loss, diagnosis and life changes. I have worked with families, teens, couples, parents, and children in many capacities over the last 20 years and look forward to supporting you. I believe my clients are the experts of their lives and I am here to aid in the processing of their story, to provide positive change and hope.
I am trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) and EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy) for couples.
I create a safe and comfortable environment where children, teens, couples and individuals can feel supported in their sharing, growth, and healing. As a Certified Child Life Specialist for Phoenix Children’s Hospital, I gained extensive experience supporting children and parents through in trauma, loss, diagnosis and life changes. I have worked with families, teens, couples, parents, and children in many capacities over the last 20 years and look forward to supporting you. I believe my clients are the experts of their lives and I am here to aid in the processing of their story, to provide positive change and hope.
Rebecca Bermudez
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Chandler, AZ 85225
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy which is based on attachment theory and the idea that our emotions can be used to guide us to lead healthy and meaningful lives.
X Currently Accepting new clients X- I have a passion for helping people work through life’s challenges. It is my belief that our physical and mental health are improved when we have close, healthy, and supportive relationships in our lives. I love to laugh and feel humor is a great tool to deal with life's challenges. I genuinely enjoy connecting with people and feel honored to walk along them in their process of transforming their challenges into resilience.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy which is based on attachment theory and the idea that our emotions can be used to guide us to lead healthy and meaningful lives.
X Currently Accepting new clients X- I have a passion for helping people work through life’s challenges. It is my belief that our physical and mental health are improved when we have close, healthy, and supportive relationships in our lives. I love to laugh and feel humor is a great tool to deal with life's challenges. I genuinely enjoy connecting with people and feel honored to walk along them in their process of transforming their challenges into resilience.
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.