Emotionally Focused Therapists in Bentonville, AR
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I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and utilize this methodology to help individuals and couples.
As a counselor, I want to help people search tenaciously for emotionally safe and healthy connections. I want to help people connect with themselves and others. I lean strongly toward attachment theory and want to help people discover and process their deep-rooted attachments and sense of belonging. I am passionate about assisting people to heal and mend the connection that has been broken or disrupted within themselves or with a loved one. For some, this means walking through the grief process, while for others, it might mean working to heal an attachment wound. Whatever it might be, I want to help my clients find what they need.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and utilize this methodology to help individuals and couples.
As a counselor, I want to help people search tenaciously for emotionally safe and healthy connections. I want to help people connect with themselves and others. I lean strongly toward attachment theory and want to help people discover and process their deep-rooted attachments and sense of belonging. I am passionate about assisting people to heal and mend the connection that has been broken or disrupted within themselves or with a loved one. For some, this means walking through the grief process, while for others, it might mean working to heal an attachment wound. Whatever it might be, I want to help my clients find what they need.
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Thriveworks Counseling & Psychiatry Bentonville
Licensed Professional Counselor
Verified Verified
Bentonville, AR 72712
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
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Aaron Levy
Licensed Professional Counselor, MSMFT, LPC, TA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a Model I was trained in to help couples hold onto each other through life's many ups and downs.
Love and Connection in life should not be confusing. But there is always a risk when it comes to getting those two critical human relational needs. Many times relationships feel like a dance, and feeling lost with no road map. It can often turn into division or discomfort, but does it always have to be that way? Emotionally Focused Therapy is a proven, evidence-based method that enhances couples' ability to gain Love and Connection through safety and security. And I would love to be that resource, coach, advocate to help partners sustain longevity in their relationship without leading to isolation or further hurt.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a Model I was trained in to help couples hold onto each other through life's many ups and downs.
Love and Connection in life should not be confusing. But there is always a risk when it comes to getting those two critical human relational needs. Many times relationships feel like a dance, and feeling lost with no road map. It can often turn into division or discomfort, but does it always have to be that way? Emotionally Focused Therapy is a proven, evidence-based method that enhances couples' ability to gain Love and Connection through safety and security. And I would love to be that resource, coach, advocate to help partners sustain longevity in their relationship without leading to isolation or further hurt.
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Robyn Nelson
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, EdS, LPC, TA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
I also have advanced training in EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples).
My goal is to create a safe space that is accepting and empowering. I am understanding and provide honesty and hope for my clients. I believe it takes a tremendous amount of courage to begin a journey of personal growth. I see my role as a process facilitator. I utilize my experience, skills, and training to help my clients resolve problems, improve relationships and gain useful life tools. I believe that we are all capable of change, growth, and healing. I hold a Masters of Science in Counseling and an Ed.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Harding University.
I also have advanced training in EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples).
My goal is to create a safe space that is accepting and empowering. I am understanding and provide honesty and hope for my clients. I believe it takes a tremendous amount of courage to begin a journey of personal growth. I see my role as a process facilitator. I utilize my experience, skills, and training to help my clients resolve problems, improve relationships and gain useful life tools. I believe that we are all capable of change, growth, and healing. I hold a Masters of Science in Counseling and an Ed.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Harding University.
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Chloe’s practice focuses on healing a client’s attachment and relationship wounds, providing a safe and secure presence for the client(s), and reframing or challenging a client’s inner critic. As a Certified Trauma Professional, Chloe has vast understanding of how past trauma impacts today’s well-being. She utilizes her studies as a CPT therapist and EFT techniques, along other techniques. Chloe, like all Wellness & Courage clinicians, is LGBTQIA+ friendly and affirming.
Chloe’s practice focuses on healing a client’s attachment and relationship wounds, providing a safe and secure presence for the client(s), and reframing or challenging a client’s inner critic. As a Certified Trauma Professional, Chloe has vast understanding of how past trauma impacts today’s well-being. She utilizes her studies as a CPT therapist and EFT techniques, along other techniques. Chloe, like all Wellness & Courage clinicians, is LGBTQIA+ friendly and affirming.
Elemental Counseling
Licensed Professional Counselor, EdD, LPC, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
Not accepting new clients
Trained in EFT 2013.
My clients all have unique histories. What they share is a motivated determination to be free of past trauma, grief, depression, anger, PTSD symptoms, reoccurring thoughts, and life patterns. I have worked with clients suffering with bulimia, OCD, attachment trauma, hoarding, cutting, suicidal tendencies; adverse childhood experiences, complicated grief, and a whole host of relational dysfunctions. My clients come from all points of faith and walks of life. I work with adults, seniors, individuals, therapists, and groups.
Trained in EFT 2013.
My clients all have unique histories. What they share is a motivated determination to be free of past trauma, grief, depression, anger, PTSD symptoms, reoccurring thoughts, and life patterns. I have worked with clients suffering with bulimia, OCD, attachment trauma, hoarding, cutting, suicidal tendencies; adverse childhood experiences, complicated grief, and a whole host of relational dysfunctions. My clients come from all points of faith and walks of life. I work with adults, seniors, individuals, therapists, and groups.
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Dan Luttrell
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LPC, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) as well as a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). He earned a dual Master of Science at John Brown University, emphasizing both Marriage & Family Therapy and Community Counseling. He is an Advanced Trained Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, and is a certified Anger Management Specialist.
Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) as well as a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). He earned a dual Master of Science at John Brown University, emphasizing both Marriage & Family Therapy and Community Counseling. He is an Advanced Trained Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, and is a certified Anger Management Specialist.
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If you have experienced spiritual abuse, church hurt, or other forms of trauma that have left you disconnected- you are not alone. Your experience is real and your story deserves to be heard. I am passionate about providing a safe space for you to process your pain without judgment and helping you discover what healing can look like for you. I am trained in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy and I regularly work with first responders and those in front-line helping roles. I currently have openings and offer sliding-scale rates.
If you have experienced spiritual abuse, church hurt, or other forms of trauma that have left you disconnected- you are not alone. Your experience is real and your story deserves to be heard. I am passionate about providing a safe space for you to process your pain without judgment and helping you discover what healing can look like for you. I am trained in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy and I regularly work with first responders and those in front-line helping roles. I currently have openings and offer sliding-scale rates.
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Nathan Harriman
Counselor, MS, LAC
Verified Verified
Bentonville, AR 72712
Not accepting new clients
I have trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Technology Assisted Counseling.
The world we inhabit is one of incredible beauty and goodness, yet also deep hurt, pain, suffering and loss. None are immune to struggle along the way. I believe this collision of experience can, at times, become wrapped, hidden, in emotional, mental, physical and relational distress. I am privileged to work with clients that come carrying a great deal of experience and challenge in navigating their lives. It is my honor to join with you as we seek to unwrap your story together, look toward safer, more secure and deeper connection with self and others, and aim to reduce the impact of the pain and brokenness you encounter.
I have trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Technology Assisted Counseling.
The world we inhabit is one of incredible beauty and goodness, yet also deep hurt, pain, suffering and loss. None are immune to struggle along the way. I believe this collision of experience can, at times, become wrapped, hidden, in emotional, mental, physical and relational distress. I am privileged to work with clients that come carrying a great deal of experience and challenge in navigating their lives. It is my honor to join with you as we seek to unwrap your story together, look toward safer, more secure and deeper connection with self and others, and aim to reduce the impact of the pain and brokenness you encounter.
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I utilize Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Radical Self Acceptance, Mindfulness and Internal Family Systems (IFS) techniques.
My style is client-centered, authentic and strengths-based. I will be a catalyst for helping you to see and understand yourself, so that you can live your life at your highest potential. Through active listening, empathy, and validation of experience, we will uncover the courage and skills you have within you in order to achieve positive, lasting change.
I utilize Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Radical Self Acceptance, Mindfulness and Internal Family Systems (IFS) techniques.
My style is client-centered, authentic and strengths-based. I will be a catalyst for helping you to see and understand yourself, so that you can live your life at your highest potential. Through active listening, empathy, and validation of experience, we will uncover the courage and skills you have within you in order to achieve positive, lasting change.
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As a Certified EMDR Clinician, trained in Brainspotting, and EFT, I use a unique blend of attachment, brain based and somatic approaches to help people untangle trauma, restore relationships, and learn to love and care for themselves.
As an attachment therapist, I specialize in helping individuals and couples heal from past trauma and improve their relationships. My approach is rooted in empathy, as I believe that creating a safe and nonjudgmental space is crucial for healing and growth. Drawing from the Polyvagal theory and attachment theory, I use a variety of of techniques to tailor treatment to your personal experience.
As a Certified EMDR Clinician, trained in Brainspotting, and EFT, I use a unique blend of attachment, brain based and somatic approaches to help people untangle trauma, restore relationships, and learn to love and care for themselves.
As an attachment therapist, I specialize in helping individuals and couples heal from past trauma and improve their relationships. My approach is rooted in empathy, as I believe that creating a safe and nonjudgmental space is crucial for healing and growth. Drawing from the Polyvagal theory and attachment theory, I use a variety of of techniques to tailor treatment to your personal experience.
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Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
Waitlist for new clients
I specialize in working with individuals, couples and families who have experienced trauma and loss, offering therapeutic modalities such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
Are you navigating the aftermath of a traumatic experience, feeling paralyzed and overwhelmed by pain? Has your life been shattered by unexpected circumstances? Do you find yourself forever marked by a defining event, which has created a sense of disconnection from those closest to you, leaving you uncertain about how to find your way back to one another? The impact of trauma and loss can leave one feeling paralyzed and disconnected from oneself and others. On one hand, you yearn for comfort and connection from others; yet, on the other hand, your best efforts to seek connection tend to only amplify your pain.
I specialize in working with individuals, couples and families who have experienced trauma and loss, offering therapeutic modalities such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
Are you navigating the aftermath of a traumatic experience, feeling paralyzed and overwhelmed by pain? Has your life been shattered by unexpected circumstances? Do you find yourself forever marked by a defining event, which has created a sense of disconnection from those closest to you, leaving you uncertain about how to find your way back to one another? The impact of trauma and loss can leave one feeling paralyzed and disconnected from oneself and others. On one hand, you yearn for comfort and connection from others; yet, on the other hand, your best efforts to seek connection tend to only amplify your pain.
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I work with couples and individuals using models like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT & EFIT), without judgement, who are ready to look closely at these stuck places.
Have you reached the point where something HAS to change in your relationship? Do you find yourself fading into the background of your own life, feeling less and less in control of where your life is going? Maybe fear of failing, or fear of being alone, is beginning to run your life. Do you keep trying to figure out why things just don’t feel right but any “fix” just ends up being temporary? One way or another, what you’ve been doing isn’t working…you feel stuck. This is not a fun place to be. Maybe things aren’t that bad, right…or maybe you are just worn out from holding it all together.
I work with couples and individuals using models like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT & EFIT), without judgement, who are ready to look closely at these stuck places.
Have you reached the point where something HAS to change in your relationship? Do you find yourself fading into the background of your own life, feeling less and less in control of where your life is going? Maybe fear of failing, or fear of being alone, is beginning to run your life. Do you keep trying to figure out why things just don’t feel right but any “fix” just ends up being temporary? One way or another, what you’ve been doing isn’t working…you feel stuck. This is not a fun place to be. Maybe things aren’t that bad, right…or maybe you are just worn out from holding it all together.
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Charlene Lucille Fields
Counselor, LPC, LADAC, CRC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
Leaning on my own experiences, knowledge, and ability to empathize, I walk alongside my clients on their path to recovery. Therapeutic practices I utilize on this path are CBT, DBT, REBT and MI.
Leaning on my own experiences, knowledge, and ability to empathize, I walk alongside my clients on their path to recovery. Therapeutic practices I utilize on this path are CBT, DBT, REBT and MI.
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Dr. Alexandra Forsyth
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712 (Online Only)
Hello and welcome! During various seasons in our lives, strength, meaning, hope, joy, empowerment, compassion, and connection can be hard to find within ourselves and with others. My role as a licensed clinical psychologist is to help you on your journey towards healing, self-reflection, understanding, and positive change. Life throws all sorts of challenges our way, and as humans it is necessary, normal, and natural to need help. I am committed to fostering a safe space where your journey is honored, and your identity is celebrated. I value collaboration, flexibility, authenticity, and being human with you in the therapeutic space.
Hello and welcome! During various seasons in our lives, strength, meaning, hope, joy, empowerment, compassion, and connection can be hard to find within ourselves and with others. My role as a licensed clinical psychologist is to help you on your journey towards healing, self-reflection, understanding, and positive change. Life throws all sorts of challenges our way, and as humans it is necessary, normal, and natural to need help. I am committed to fostering a safe space where your journey is honored, and your identity is celebrated. I value collaboration, flexibility, authenticity, and being human with you in the therapeutic space.
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Priscilla Fincher
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MSW
Verified Verified
Bentonville, AR 72712
Waitlist for new clients
I have a few openings for summer with limited Friday/Saturday availability! Are you living the life you want? Did you know you are the main character in your life? The counseling I do is centered around your needs and goals to live your authentic journey! I work with teens and adults who struggle with depression and anxiety with a specialization helping neurodivergent individuals. I like to help people realize their own authentic self and sometimes that is using expressive art therapy when words can not describe the emotional pain or pattern of thoughts.
I have a few openings for summer with limited Friday/Saturday availability! Are you living the life you want? Did you know you are the main character in your life? The counseling I do is centered around your needs and goals to live your authentic journey! I work with teens and adults who struggle with depression and anxiety with a specialization helping neurodivergent individuals. I like to help people realize their own authentic self and sometimes that is using expressive art therapy when words can not describe the emotional pain or pattern of thoughts.
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Kathy Lynne Reynolds
Licensed Professional Counselor, BA, MS, LPC, TA, NCC
Verified Verified
Bentonville, AR 72712
I am so excited to announce that I have a beautiful new office space. I attended Harding University and graduated with my B.A. in Psychology and my M.S. in Counseling. I have 28 years of experience in the mental health field. I primarily treat adults who are suffering from depression, anxiety, trauma, PTSD, relationship issues, grief, bipolar disorder, and personality disorder. I also have a certification in grief therapy. I believe that every client I treat deserves respect and has the ability to empower themselves to meet their individual life goals. I love what I do and I appreciate every client who walks through my door.
I am so excited to announce that I have a beautiful new office space. I attended Harding University and graduated with my B.A. in Psychology and my M.S. in Counseling. I have 28 years of experience in the mental health field. I primarily treat adults who are suffering from depression, anxiety, trauma, PTSD, relationship issues, grief, bipolar disorder, and personality disorder. I also have a certification in grief therapy. I believe that every client I treat deserves respect and has the ability to empower themselves to meet their individual life goals. I love what I do and I appreciate every client who walks through my door.
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You've been in an office all day, and probably the last thing you want to do is go to another office and talk about problems. My goal is to do therapy differently when possible, whether that means going outdoors and taking a walk or meeting from the comfort of your own home via secured telehealth. Either way, you'll experience evidence-based treatment in a new way. Check out my website for more about what to expect. If you need one-on-one care, we can do that. If you're on a budget, check out my Jaunts, which incorporate hiking and groups at a lower rate.
You've been in an office all day, and probably the last thing you want to do is go to another office and talk about problems. My goal is to do therapy differently when possible, whether that means going outdoors and taking a walk or meeting from the comfort of your own home via secured telehealth. Either way, you'll experience evidence-based treatment in a new way. Check out my website for more about what to expect. If you need one-on-one care, we can do that. If you're on a budget, check out my Jaunts, which incorporate hiking and groups at a lower rate.
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Carol L Fowler
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, BHSP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712 (Online Only)
Are you feeling depressed? Anxious? Having difficulty knowing where to turn for help? Or, maybe you are tired of being pulled in different directions and not knowing what you want in life? Are you looking for deeper connections in life? Learn how to connect to the core of who you are and find true peace. You don't have to walk this path alone. . .
Are you feeling depressed? Anxious? Having difficulty knowing where to turn for help? Or, maybe you are tired of being pulled in different directions and not knowing what you want in life? Are you looking for deeper connections in life? Learn how to connect to the core of who you are and find true peace. You don't have to walk this path alone. . .
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I work with adults, seniors, children and families. If you (or a loved one) are feeling depressed, anxious, or have sleep disturbances, low self-esteem, relationship issues or are in crisis, I provide a safe, nonjudgmental environment in which to explore self-defeating patterns or incoherent beliefs to help you to restore harmony to your life. Frequently small changes can have a big impact
I work with adults, seniors, children and families. If you (or a loved one) are feeling depressed, anxious, or have sleep disturbances, low self-esteem, relationship issues or are in crisis, I provide a safe, nonjudgmental environment in which to explore self-defeating patterns or incoherent beliefs to help you to restore harmony to your life. Frequently small changes can have a big impact
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.