Emotionally Focused Therapists in Bella Vista, AR

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Robyn Nelson
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, EdS, LPC, TA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72714
I also have advanced training in EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples).
My goal is to create a safe space that is accepting and empowering. I am understanding and provide honesty and hope for my clients. I believe it takes a tremendous amount of courage to begin a journey of personal growth. I see my role as a process facilitator. I utilize my experience, skills, and training to help my clients resolve problems, improve relationships and gain useful life tools. I believe that we are all capable of change, growth, and healing. I hold a Masters of Science in Counseling and an Ed.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Harding University.
I also have advanced training in EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples).
My goal is to create a safe space that is accepting and empowering. I am understanding and provide honesty and hope for my clients. I believe it takes a tremendous amount of courage to begin a journey of personal growth. I see my role as a process facilitator. I utilize my experience, skills, and training to help my clients resolve problems, improve relationships and gain useful life tools. I believe that we are all capable of change, growth, and healing. I hold a Masters of Science in Counseling and an Ed.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Harding University.
(479) 777-8273 View (479) 777-8273
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Chloe Zahn
Counselor, LAC, NCC
Verified Verified
Bella Vista, AR 72714
Chloe’s practice focuses on healing a client’s attachment and relationship wounds, providing a safe and secure presence for the client(s), and reframing or challenging a client’s inner critic. As a Certified Trauma Professional, Chloe has vast understanding of how past trauma impacts today’s well-being. She utilizes her studies as a CPT therapist and EFT techniques, along other techniques. Chloe, like all Wellness & Courage clinicians, is LGBTQIA+ friendly and affirming.
Chloe’s practice focuses on healing a client’s attachment and relationship wounds, providing a safe and secure presence for the client(s), and reframing or challenging a client’s inner critic. As a Certified Trauma Professional, Chloe has vast understanding of how past trauma impacts today’s well-being. She utilizes her studies as a CPT therapist and EFT techniques, along other techniques. Chloe, like all Wellness & Courage clinicians, is LGBTQIA+ friendly and affirming.
(479) 345-5164 View (479) 345-5164
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Elinor Nygren Szapiro
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Bella Vista, AR 72714
I can help you get to the 'heart' of the challenges and issues you're dealing with and make the lasting changes you’re longing for. Having been in practice over 40 years, I'm a seasoned therapist and have the tools and experience to resolve whatever is 'up' for you. I've found that 'talk therapy' is often not enough to resolve many difficulties, so I use a variety of effective approaches, uniquely adjusted to match each client's needs. In addition to talk therapy, I utilize Brainspotting; EMDR; Body Centered therapy; Meditative approaches and Hypnotherapy.
I can help you get to the 'heart' of the challenges and issues you're dealing with and make the lasting changes you’re longing for. Having been in practice over 40 years, I'm a seasoned therapist and have the tools and experience to resolve whatever is 'up' for you. I've found that 'talk therapy' is often not enough to resolve many difficulties, so I use a variety of effective approaches, uniquely adjusted to match each client's needs. In addition to talk therapy, I utilize Brainspotting; EMDR; Body Centered therapy; Meditative approaches and Hypnotherapy.
(479) 239-8707 View (479) 239-8707
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Kelly Dundon
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72715  (Online Only)
A cornerstone of my approach is trauma-informed care, where I create a safe and supportive environment for clients to explore and address past traumas. Whether it's navigating PTSD, anxiety, depression, or working through challenges related to personality disorders, I'm dedicated to helping clients reclaim their agency and resilience. I enjoy working with neurodivergent individuals, LGBTQAI+ -identifying folks, and women or femme-identifying individuals. My approach is grounded in authenticity, empathy, and empowerment. Together with my clients, we embark on a collaborative journey towards self-awareness, growth, and resilience.
A cornerstone of my approach is trauma-informed care, where I create a safe and supportive environment for clients to explore and address past traumas. Whether it's navigating PTSD, anxiety, depression, or working through challenges related to personality disorders, I'm dedicated to helping clients reclaim their agency and resilience. I enjoy working with neurodivergent individuals, LGBTQAI+ -identifying folks, and women or femme-identifying individuals. My approach is grounded in authenticity, empathy, and empowerment. Together with my clients, we embark on a collaborative journey towards self-awareness, growth, and resilience.
(479) 239-8759 View (479) 239-8759
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Sarah Heard
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LMFT, MS
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72715
I am passionate about working with couples, families, and individuals who are looking to make changes in their lives. I am honored when I am invited to come alongside someone to hear their story and move with them toward a positive change and balance.
I am passionate about working with couples, families, and individuals who are looking to make changes in their lives. I am honored when I am invited to come alongside someone to hear their story and move with them toward a positive change and balance.
(479) 802-4258 View (479) 802-4258
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NWA Marriage & Family Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT-S, LPC-S, EMDR, TA
Verified Verified
Bella Vista, AR 72715
As a licensed Marriage & Family Therapists, I offer Individual Counseling as well. Make your relationship authentic, loving and dynamic. Experience in overcoming infidelity, emotional trauma, intimacy, blended families, premarital, dating, cohabitation and divorce issues. Depression, anxiety, trauma, PTSD, self esteem, compulsions. The two best predictors of client's success are a client's motivation and the relationship you and your therapist create, regardless of theory used. Might I be the right counselor for you? Deciding to participate in counseling is a journey of self discovery and a sign of courage and strength.
As a licensed Marriage & Family Therapists, I offer Individual Counseling as well. Make your relationship authentic, loving and dynamic. Experience in overcoming infidelity, emotional trauma, intimacy, blended families, premarital, dating, cohabitation and divorce issues. Depression, anxiety, trauma, PTSD, self esteem, compulsions. The two best predictors of client's success are a client's motivation and the relationship you and your therapist create, regardless of theory used. Might I be the right counselor for you? Deciding to participate in counseling is a journey of self discovery and a sign of courage and strength.
(479) 202-6587 View (479) 202-6587
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Matthew J Sweetser
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72714
My goal is to create a safe, relaxed, and fun environment to partner with clients on their life journeys, explore new goals, and cope with difficult life situations. I am a comfortable working with a wide variety of issues including depression, anxiety, anger, trauma, social skills, grief, family conflict, life-changes, and relationship issues. I especially enjoy working with adolescents and their families, and individual adults.
My goal is to create a safe, relaxed, and fun environment to partner with clients on their life journeys, explore new goals, and cope with difficult life situations. I am a comfortable working with a wide variety of issues including depression, anxiety, anger, trauma, social skills, grief, family conflict, life-changes, and relationship issues. I especially enjoy working with adolescents and their families, and individual adults.
(479) 755-4795 View (479) 755-4795
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Mollie Sweetser
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MS
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72714
I am passionate about seeing clients grow through working through and understanding their story and how it has affected them in order to experience personal growth, better self awareness and self compassion, and ability to live more fully in the present. I work with clients on anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, and other stressors. Often these issues in the present are tied to wounds in the past that can cause us to get stuck in unhelpful ways about thinking about ourselves. I believe that working on these issues from a trauma-focused lens can lead to a deeper and more lasting result than focusing on symptoms alone.
I am passionate about seeing clients grow through working through and understanding their story and how it has affected them in order to experience personal growth, better self awareness and self compassion, and ability to live more fully in the present. I work with clients on anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, and other stressors. Often these issues in the present are tied to wounds in the past that can cause us to get stuck in unhelpful ways about thinking about ourselves. I believe that working on these issues from a trauma-focused lens can lead to a deeper and more lasting result than focusing on symptoms alone.
(501) 708-4901 View (501) 708-4901
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Sara King
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72715
Waitlist for new clients
I am passionate about helping people learn practical tools to develop self-awareness and self-acceptance. I am person-centered and relational in my approach. I communicate the value I see in you! Through collaboration, we will create and monitor treatment goals that reflect your needs. I hold space for you to acknowledge your hardest moments and empathize about these inevitable struggles; while maintaining awareness of the possibility that lighter emotions, like humor, curiosity, and creativity, can be present at the same time. I strive to support you in accepting and enjoying your multifaceted and meaningful life.
I am passionate about helping people learn practical tools to develop self-awareness and self-acceptance. I am person-centered and relational in my approach. I communicate the value I see in you! Through collaboration, we will create and monitor treatment goals that reflect your needs. I hold space for you to acknowledge your hardest moments and empathize about these inevitable struggles; while maintaining awareness of the possibility that lighter emotions, like humor, curiosity, and creativity, can be present at the same time. I strive to support you in accepting and enjoying your multifaceted and meaningful life.
(479) 342-2217 View (479) 342-2217
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Deborah Ann Pinkston
Counselor, PhD, LPC
Verified Verified
Bella Vista, AR 72714
I want my clients to feel that they are safe and cared for as we work together to find solutions to the situations they face, and to find peace and joy in their relationships. I have experience working with Chronic health issues and medical trauma, as well as helping parents of adult children navigate their relationships and boundaries.
I want my clients to feel that they are safe and cared for as we work together to find solutions to the situations they face, and to find peace and joy in their relationships. I have experience working with Chronic health issues and medical trauma, as well as helping parents of adult children navigate their relationships and boundaries.
(479) 275-4766 View (479) 275-4766
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Katherine Rogers Counseling, LLC
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, EdS, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72714
Sometimes, in our lives we hold onto unresolved issues from the past, which can resurface in many different forms. Anxiety, sadness, depression, and anger usually have "roots" digging deep into our pasts. Choosing to suppress or push disturbing feelings aside may work for a period of time, but will not resolve the underlying issue. As a result, ineffective, and often destructive coping patterns develop. Talking with me can break this pattern and lead to a more fulfilling life.
Sometimes, in our lives we hold onto unresolved issues from the past, which can resurface in many different forms. Anxiety, sadness, depression, and anger usually have "roots" digging deep into our pasts. Choosing to suppress or push disturbing feelings aside may work for a period of time, but will not resolve the underlying issue. As a result, ineffective, and often destructive coping patterns develop. Talking with me can break this pattern and lead to a more fulfilling life.
(479) 802-3558 View (479) 802-3558
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Whitney Ghassani
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bella Vista, AR 72714
I believe that we are all equipped with an inner guidance system that pushes us to grow anytime we are out of alignment with our highest selves. Oftentimes, this guidance comes in the form of pain or emotional discomfort. Many of us may identify this pain as depression or anxiety symptoms, feelings of inadequacy, low-self-esteem, grief, anger, fear, or hopelessness. The ways in which we respond to our pain has tremendous implications for future healing and overall quality of life. Action is necessary in order to create change. If you have arrived at this page then you have already begun taking action to improve your circumstances.
I believe that we are all equipped with an inner guidance system that pushes us to grow anytime we are out of alignment with our highest selves. Oftentimes, this guidance comes in the form of pain or emotional discomfort. Many of us may identify this pain as depression or anxiety symptoms, feelings of inadequacy, low-self-esteem, grief, anger, fear, or hopelessness. The ways in which we respond to our pain has tremendous implications for future healing and overall quality of life. Action is necessary in order to create change. If you have arrived at this page then you have already begun taking action to improve your circumstances.
(479) 888-5546 View (479) 888-5546

More Therapists Nearby

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Kristin Temple
Licensed Professional Counselor, MEd, LPC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
I specialize in working with individuals, couples and families who have experienced trauma and loss, offering therapeutic modalities such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
Are you navigating the aftermath of a traumatic experience, feeling paralyzed and overwhelmed by pain? Has your life been shattered by unexpected circumstances? Do you find yourself forever marked by a defining event, which has created a sense of disconnection from those closest to you, leaving you uncertain about how to find your way back to one another? The impact of trauma and loss can leave one feeling paralyzed and disconnected from oneself and others. On one hand, you yearn for comfort and connection from others; yet, on the other hand, your best efforts to seek connection tend to only amplify your pain.
I specialize in working with individuals, couples and families who have experienced trauma and loss, offering therapeutic modalities such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
Are you navigating the aftermath of a traumatic experience, feeling paralyzed and overwhelmed by pain? Has your life been shattered by unexpected circumstances? Do you find yourself forever marked by a defining event, which has created a sense of disconnection from those closest to you, leaving you uncertain about how to find your way back to one another? The impact of trauma and loss can leave one feeling paralyzed and disconnected from oneself and others. On one hand, you yearn for comfort and connection from others; yet, on the other hand, your best efforts to seek connection tend to only amplify your pain.
(479) 397-4376 View (479) 397-4376
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Dan Luttrell
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LPC, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) as well as a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). He earned a dual Master of Science at John Brown University, emphasizing both Marriage & Family Therapy and Community Counseling. He is an Advanced Trained Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, and is a certified Anger Management Specialist.
Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) as well as a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). He earned a dual Master of Science at John Brown University, emphasizing both Marriage & Family Therapy and Community Counseling. He is an Advanced Trained Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, and is a certified Anger Management Specialist.
(479) 250-3048 View (479) 250-3048
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Janie Crow
Counselor, MS, LAC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
If you have experienced spiritual abuse, church hurt, or other forms of trauma that have left you disconnected- you are not alone. Your experience is real and your story deserves to be heard. I am passionate about providing a safe space for you to process your pain without judgment and helping you discover what healing can look like for you. I am trained in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy and I regularly work with first responders and those in front-line helping roles. I also frequently work with teenagers and young adults. I currently have openings and offer sliding-scale rates.
If you have experienced spiritual abuse, church hurt, or other forms of trauma that have left you disconnected- you are not alone. Your experience is real and your story deserves to be heard. I am passionate about providing a safe space for you to process your pain without judgment and helping you discover what healing can look like for you. I am trained in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy and I regularly work with first responders and those in front-line helping roles. I also frequently work with teenagers and young adults. I currently have openings and offer sliding-scale rates.
(479) 346-4852 View (479) 346-4852
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Shelley E Simmons
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LMSW
Verified Verified
Bentonville, AR 72712
I utilize Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Radical Self Acceptance, Mindfulness and Internal Family Systems (IFS) techniques.
My style is client-centered, authentic and strengths-based. I will be a catalyst for helping you to see and understand yourself, so that you can live your life at your highest potential. Through active listening, empathy, and validation of experience, we will uncover the courage and skills you have within you in order to achieve positive, lasting change.
I utilize Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Radical Self Acceptance, Mindfulness and Internal Family Systems (IFS) techniques.
My style is client-centered, authentic and strengths-based. I will be a catalyst for helping you to see and understand yourself, so that you can live your life at your highest potential. Through active listening, empathy, and validation of experience, we will uncover the courage and skills you have within you in order to achieve positive, lasting change.
(479) 364-6375 View (479) 364-6375
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Aaron Levy
Licensed Professional Counselor, MSMFT, LPC, TA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a Model I was trained in to help couples hold onto each other through life's many ups and downs.
Love and Connection in life should not be confusing. But there is always a risk when it comes to getting those two critical human relational needs. Many times relationships feel like a dance, and feeling lost with no road map. It can often turn into division or discomfort, but does it always have to be that way? Emotionally Focused Therapy is a proven, evidence-based method that enhances couples' ability to gain Love and Connection through safety and security. And I would love to be that resource, coach, advocate to help partners sustain longevity in their relationship without leading to isolation or further hurt.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a Model I was trained in to help couples hold onto each other through life's many ups and downs.
Love and Connection in life should not be confusing. But there is always a risk when it comes to getting those two critical human relational needs. Many times relationships feel like a dance, and feeling lost with no road map. It can often turn into division or discomfort, but does it always have to be that way? Emotionally Focused Therapy is a proven, evidence-based method that enhances couples' ability to gain Love and Connection through safety and security. And I would love to be that resource, coach, advocate to help partners sustain longevity in their relationship without leading to isolation or further hurt.
(479) 777-2921 View (479) 777-2921
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Thriveworks Counseling & Psychiatry Bentonville
Licensed Professional Counselor
Verified Verified
Bentonville, AR 72712
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
Popular approaches include CBT, DBT, EMDR, Christian Counseling, PCT, Motivational Interviewing, EFT, Positive Psychology, Psychodynamic therapy, Relational therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.
At Thriveworks, we're dedicated to providing top-tier mental health services that are easily accessible to everyone. With over 340 locations nationwide and flexible online therapy options, our professional therapists are equipped to assist you through any stress, life transitions, or ongoing mental health concerns. We prioritize your convenience and needs by offering flexible scheduling, including evening and weekend appointments, ensuring that you can start your therapy journey as early as this week. Plus, we accept most major insurance plans, making your path to mental health support smoother and more affordable.
(479) 346-2934 View (479) 346-2934
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Barbara Dern
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Bentonville, AR 72712
Barbara uses her deep expertise in emotionally focused therapy to aid cognitive restructuring.
Are you struggling with emotional challenges and seeking personal growth? Meet Barbara Dern, a compassionate counselor devoted to your emotional wellness journey. Barbara integrates emotionally focused therapy with cognitive-behavioral techniques, resulting in a supportive and holistic therapeutic experience. By promoting emotional regulation and fostering self-awareness, she creates an environment where you can uncover patterns, heal attachment wounds, and develop healthier ways of relating.
Barbara uses her deep expertise in emotionally focused therapy to aid cognitive restructuring.
Are you struggling with emotional challenges and seeking personal growth? Meet Barbara Dern, a compassionate counselor devoted to your emotional wellness journey. Barbara integrates emotionally focused therapy with cognitive-behavioral techniques, resulting in a supportive and holistic therapeutic experience. By promoting emotional regulation and fostering self-awareness, she creates an environment where you can uncover patterns, heal attachment wounds, and develop healthier ways of relating.
(479) 349-0850 View (479) 349-0850
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Shelby Levy
Counselor, MEd, MS, LAC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bentonville, AR 72712
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and utilize this methodology to help individuals and couples.
As a counselor, I want to help people search tenaciously for emotionally safe and healthy connections. I want to help people connect with themselves and others. I lean strongly toward attachment theory and want to help people discover and process their deep-rooted attachments and sense of belonging. I am passionate about assisting people to heal and mend the connection that has been broken or disrupted within themselves or with a loved one. For some, this means walking through the grief process, while for others, it might mean working to heal an attachment wound. Whatever it might be, I want to help my clients find what they need.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and utilize this methodology to help individuals and couples.
As a counselor, I want to help people search tenaciously for emotionally safe and healthy connections. I want to help people connect with themselves and others. I lean strongly toward attachment theory and want to help people discover and process their deep-rooted attachments and sense of belonging. I am passionate about assisting people to heal and mend the connection that has been broken or disrupted within themselves or with a loved one. For some, this means walking through the grief process, while for others, it might mean working to heal an attachment wound. Whatever it might be, I want to help my clients find what they need.
(479) 446-6671 View (479) 446-6671

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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.